If you’re new to sex toys, you might be wondering how to orgasm with a vibrator. No sweat! Rachel Sommer, our clinical sexologist and experienced sex toy tester has all the answers in this comprehensive guide! She also included some advanced tips she learned in her decade’s worth of sex toy reviewing. Let’s start with a summary and then dive into the details below:
- Step 1: Choosing What Vibrator and Lube To Use. Not all vibrators are the same, thus choose a vibrating toy that suits your preferences and needs, such as a bullet vibrator or rabbit vibrator. Use a lube to reduce friction and increase sensitivity, such as water-based or silicone-based lubes.
- Step 2: Understanding Your Vulva. Know the different parts of your vulva, including the clitoris, labia majora, labia minora, and vaginal opening, and how each part responds to stimulation.
- Step 3: Get Aroused and Comfortable. Take time and explore what feels good. Get comfortable in a position that allows you to relax and enjoy the experience.
- Step 4: Stimulating The Clit. Apply lube to your clitoris and vibe. Turn on the vibe and experiment with different vibration patterns and intensities.
- Step 5: Playing Around Different Intensities. Start with the minimum setting and progressively increase the level of intensity. Experiment with different vibration patterns and intensities to find what feels best for you.
- Step 6: Incorporating Penetration. Find your G-spot and use your vibrating toy to stimulate it. Combine clitoral and G-spot stimulation or fingering for a better experience.
- Step 7: Try Different Masturbating Positions. Experiment with various positions such as lying on your back, on your stomach, sitting up, or standing. Find a comfortable position that allows you to fully enjoy the sensations.
Table Of Contents
- Step 1. Choosing What Vibrator and Lube To Use
- Step 2. Understanding Your Vulva
- Step 3. Get Aroused and Comfortable
- Step 4. Stimulating The Clit
- Step 5. Try Different Intensities
- Step 6. Add Penetration
- Step 7. Try Different Masturbating Positions
- Advanced PRO TIP: Practice Edging
- Benefits Of Using A Vibrator
- Adding Vibrator To Partnered Sex
- Debunking Vibrator Myths
- Sounds Great! But Where Can I Buy Vibrators?
Step 1. Choosing What Vibrator and Lube To Use
Choosing the right vibrator and lube makes all the difference when you want to achieve your first orgasm. With so many sex toys and lubes available, it can be overwhelming to know where to start.
When it comes to vibes, there are many different types to choose from. Clitoral stimulation is key for many women, so a bullet vibrator or rabbit vibrator can be a great choice. The Hitachi Magic Wand (image below) is also a popular choice for its strong vibrations. If you’re looking for something for anal penetration, be sure to choose a toy specifically designed for that purpose.
It’s important to know that most vibrators have varying factors like size, shape, and material. Some prefer a smaller toy that’s easy to maneuver, while others prefer a larger toy for more intense, rumbly vibrations. Silicone and other body-safe materials are great choices for their ease of cleaning and non-porous nature.
Lube can also make a big difference in your sexual pleasure. Using a lube can help reduce friction and increase sensitivity, making it easier to reach a vibrator climax. Water-based lubes are a great choice for most sex toys, as they won’t damage the material. If you’re looking for something longer-lasting, silicone-based lubes can be a good option.
When using a new vibrator, it’s important to ensure that you have new batteries or that it’s fully charged. If you’re using a toy that needs to be plugged in, be sure to position it near a wall outlet. It’s also a good idea to have more ideas in mind for how you want to use the vibrator.
Step 2. Understanding Your Vulva
To have a pleasurable vibrator orgasm, it’s important to understand your vulva. This includes knowing the different parts and how they respond to stimulation.
Let’s start with the exterior portion of the female genitalia which is called the vulva. It includes the clitoral hood, labia majora, labia minora, and vaginal opening. The clitoris is the most sensitive part of the vulva and has over 8,000 nerve endings. It’s located at the top of the vulva and can vary in size and shape. Using a vibrator on the clitoris can provide intense pleasure and help in reaching orgasm.
The labia majora and labia minora are the folds of skin that surround the clitoris and vaginal opening. These areas can also be sensitive to touch and can pleasure many vulva owners when stimulated. Using a vibrator on these areas can provide a different sensation.
In case you start to feel pain in your clit while using your vibrator, you can try some of the tips we listed in our separate guide.
Step 3. Get Aroused and Comfortable
Now that you have chosen your vibrator and found the right spot, it’s time to get aroused and comfortable. This step is crucial because it will help you have a pleasure fest and achieve the orgasm you desire. Here are a few tips to help you get there:
- Take your time: Don’t rush through the process. Take your time to explore your body and find what feels good. Use your vibrator to stimulate your clitoris and other erogenous zones.
- Get comfortable: For many women, finding a comfortable position allows them to relax and enjoy the experience. You can lie down, sit up, or even stand up, depending on what feels most comfortable for you. Use pillows or other props as support if needed.
- Use lube: If you’re having trouble getting aroused, try using a water-based lubricant. This will help reduce friction and make the experience more pleasurable. Apply the water-based lube to your vibrator and genitals, and reapply as needed.
- Focus on your breathing: Deep breathing can help you relax and increase blood flow to your genitals. Take slow, deep breaths as you use your sex toy, and focus on the sensations you’re feeling.
- Think sexy thoughts: Use your imagination to help you get in the mood. Think about a sexy fantasy or a great sex escapade that turned you on. You can also try reading erotica or watching porn if that helps you get aroused. Remember, everyone is different, so what works for someone else may not work for you.
Here’s our guide on what a vibrator feels like to give you an idea on what are the ranges of sensation it brings.
Step 4. Stimulating The Clit
Now that you have found the perfect vibe for you, it’s time to start exploring. The clitoris is one of the most sensitive parts of our female anatomy, and it’s the key to achieving an orgasm with a new sex toy. Here’s how to stimulate your clit with a vibe:
- Start by applying some water-based lube to your clitoris and the vibe. This will make the vibrations feel more comfortable and pleasurable.
- Turn on your toy and hold it against your clitoris. Start with the lowest setting and gradually increase the speed as you become more aroused.
- Experiment with different vibration patterns and intensities. Some vibrators come with multiple settings, so take the time to explore what feels best.
- Try different angles and positions. You can hold the vibrator directly against your clitoris, or you can try using it on the sides or top of your clitoris. You can also experiment with using the vibrator on other erogenous areas, such as your inner thighs and nipples.
Don’t be afraid to take breaks or switch things up. If you start to feel numb or uncomfortable, take a break and try again later. You can also switch to a different vibe or try using hands or fingers instead.
Step 5. Try Different Intensities
Now that you have found the right spot, it’s time to experiment with what vibration pattern works best for you. Start with the minimum setting and progressively increase the level of intensity. Pay attention to how your body responds to each level of intensity. You may find that you prefer gentle vibrations rather than intense vibrations.
Note: If you think the vibrator you’re using right now has limited vibration settings, you might want to consider getting a new toy. You can start your search with the best clitoral vibrators (image above) we tested in this roundup review.
If you’re using a vibrator with multiple settings, try cycling through them to see which one feels the best. Some vibes even have patterns, so you can try those as well. If you find that the vibe is too intense, you can try using it over your clothes or with a towel in between. This will help to lessen the intensity and make it more comfortable for you. On the other hand, if you find that the vibrator isn’t intense enough, you can try using it directly on your skin or applying more pressure.
Step 6. Add Penetration
Now that you’ve become comfortable with using a vibe to stimulate your clitoris, it’s time to explore penetration. Incorporating penetration can take your orgasm to a whole new level. Here are a few ideas to help you get started:
1. Find Your G-Spot: This is usually located about 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the front wall. When stimulated, it can lead to intense orgasms. To locate your most intimate spot, insert one or two fingers inside your vagina and curl them toward your belly button. You should feel a slightly rougher area that’s about the size of a walnut. Once you’ve found it, use your vibe to stimulate it directly.
2. Combine Clitoral and G-Spot Stimulation: Use your vibrator to stimulate your clitoris while also using your fingers or a G-spot vibrator to achieve blended orgasms. Fingering can be a great way to incorporate penetration into your masturbation routine. Start by inserting one or two fingers inside your vagina and using a motion the same way you perform the “come-hither” to stimulate your erogenous zone. You can also use your other hand to stimulate your clitoris with your vibe.
3. Experiment with Different Positions: Different positions can provide different sensations when using a vibe for penetration. Try lying on your back with your legs spread apart (missionary), or try kneeling on all fours (doggy). You can also try propping a positioning pillow under your hips to change the angle of penetration.
Incorporating penetration can take some practice, but it’s worth it. You can try some of the tips in our how to hit the G-spot guide.
Step 7. Try Different Masturbating Positions
Experimenting with different positions is key. There are several positions you can try, including lying on your back with your legs spread wide and your knees bent. In this position, you can place the vibrator on your clitoris and move it in a circular motion, up and down, side to side, or use a combination of motions. Alternatively, you can lie on your stomach with your legs closed and the vibrator between your legs. You can place it on your clitoris or use it to stimulate the area around your anus.
Another position to try is sitting up with your legs spread wide and the vibrator on your clitoris. You can move it in circular motions or up and down. You can also lean back against a wall or headboard for added support. Additionally, you can stand with your legs spread wide and the vibrator on your clitoris. You can move it in circular motions or up and down, and you can also lean against a wall or use a chair for support.
Advanced PRO TIP: Practice Edging
If you want to take your vibrator orgasms to the next level, consider practicing edging. Edging is a technique where you bring yourself to the brink of orgasm and then back off before you climax. By doing this, you can increase arousal, build up the intensity of your orgasm, and make it last longer. Here are a few tips to get started:
1. Start Slow
If you’re new to edging, start slow. Don’t try to hold yourself back for too long at first. Instead, try edging for just a few seconds before allowing yourself to orgasm. As you get more comfortable with the technique, you can gradually increase the amount of time you spend edging.
2. Experiment with Different Methods
There are different ways to practice edging with a vibrator. Some people like to use a hierarchical approach, where they bring themselves close to multiple orgasms before finally allowing themselves to climax. Others prefer to use a stop-and-start approach, where they bring themselves close to orgasm and then stop completely before starting again. Experiment with different techniques to find what works best for you.
3. Pay Attention to Your Body
Notice how your arousal levels change as you edge, and pay attention to any sensations you experience as you approach orgasm. This will help you learn to control your orgasm and build up the intensity of your pleasure.
4. Use Your Breath
Your breath can be a powerful tool when practicing edging. Try taking slow, deep breaths as you edge, and then hold your breath for a few seconds before exhaling. This can help you stay in control and build up the intensity of your orgasm.
Edging can take time and practice to master, so be patient with yourself. Don’t get discouraged if you’re not able to hold yourself back for very long at first. With practice, you’ll be able to build up your control and experience more intense, longer-lasting orgasms.
Related: How to Make Orgasm Last Longer with a Clit Vibrator?
Benefits Of Using A Vibrator
Using a vibrator can enhance your sexual adventure in many ways and provide several benefits, such as stronger vibrations that can stimulate your erogenous zones and lead to more pleasure. Additionally, different types of vibrators have varying vibration patterns, so you can experiment and find the one that works best for you. Using a vibrator can also introduce new sensations that you may not have experienced before!
Many vibrators, such as G-spot vibrators, are designed to stimulate specific areas of your body. By using a vibrator that targets your sweetest spot, you can experience a blended orgasm that combines clitoral and vaginal stimulation.
Using a vibrator during sex can also add an extra level of ecstasy for both partners. You can use it to stimulate your own body or use it on your partner’s erogenous zones. Experiment with various positions to find the one that works best for you. If you have difficulty reaching orgasm, using a vibrator can help.
Adding Vibrator To Partnered Sex
It’s time to stop the stigma that vibes are antagonists in the bedroom, contrary to what others believe, sex toys help in achieving self-pleasure and enhance sex life in general. You can use them to stimulate the clitoris, penis, or other erogenous zones and improve oral sex or even penetration.
One way to use a vibrator during intercourse is to hold it against your partner’s clitoris while you penetrate them. This can provide extra stimulation and increase the chances of your partner having a better orgasm. You can also try running the vibrator along your partner’s labia and clitoris while you use your own hands to stimulate their vagina.
Another technique is to use a penis ring with a vibrator attached. This can provide additional stimulation to the penis and clitoris during penetration, leading to a more intense and pleasurable experience for both partners. If you’re in a doggy-style position, you can use a vibrator on your clitoris while your partner penetrates you from behind. This can provide a dual sensation that can lead to a big O.
It’s important to communicate with your partner and make sure they are comfortable with using a vibrator during sex. Some people may feel intimidated or uncomfortable at first, but with open communication and experimentation, you can both reach orgasm the best way possible.
Debunking Vibrator Myths
When it comes to using a vibrator, there are plenty of myths and misconceptions out there. Here are a few common ones debunked:
Vibrators are only for people who can’t orgasm without them. This is simply not true. Vibrators can enhance sexual pleasure and make it easier to achieve orgasm, but they’re not necessary for everyone. Some people prefer manual stimulation or other types of sex toys. It’s all about what feels good for you.
Using a vibrator will desensitize your clit. While it’s true that using a vibrator on the highest setting for an extended period can cause temporary numbness or tingling, this does not mean that your clit will become permanently desensitized. If you’re interested in learning more, we talked about it in-depth in this guide.
Vibrators are only for solo sex. While vibrators can certainly be used for solo masturbation, they can also be a great addition to partnered sex. Many married couples enjoy incorporating vibrators into their sexual experiences to enhance pleasure and explore new sensations.
Vibrators are only for people with a lot of sexual experience. Vibrators can be enjoyed by people of all levels of sexual experience. Whether you’re a beginner or an experienced sex toy user, there’s a vibrator out there that can work for you. Don’t be afraid to experiment and try new things.
By debunking these common vibrator myths, we hope to encourage you to explore your sexuality and enhance your sexual adventure in a safe and enjoyable way.
Sounds Great! But Where Can I Buy Vibrators?
Trusted online retailers like Lovehoney and Shevibe offer a wide variety of vibrators to choose from including wand, rabbit, and bullet vibrators. You can read reviews from other customers to help you make an informed decision. Plus, many online retailers offer discreet shipping, so you can shop with confidence.
If you prefer to shop in person, walk-in sex toy stores are a great option. Many stores have knowledgeable staff who can help you find the perfect vibrator for your needs. Plus, you can see and touch the vibrators before you buy them.
While we only recommend buying professionally-made female sex toys, we understand that sometimes it’s just not possible for some people due to their laws or location, thus we have some semi-safe ideas on how to make your own DIY female sex toy. Just make sure to practice caution and don’t push yourself too hard to make it work.
Thanks for reading my guide on how to cum with a vibrator!
Rachel
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