Anal sex is becoming more popular, not just for the thrill but also for the intimacy it can add to a relationship [1]. To enjoy it safely and comfortably, it’s important for partners to really trust each other and communicate openly. Whether you’re trying it for the first time or looking to spice things up, knowing the right to do it is key.
The article explores several anal positions like the intense “Doggy Style” and the empowering “Reverse Cowgirl.” Each one offers different benefits and experiences suitable for every experience level. It’s important to start slowly, use plenty of lubricant, and communicate with your partner to ensure everyone is comfortable and enjoying the experience. This kind of care and communication can make anal sex a deeply satisfying part of your intimate life.
Table Of Contents
1. Doggy Style
In my opinion, the Doggy Style is the best position for anal sex. It won’t disappoint you, and it checks all the boxes that make sex great; deep penetration, rawness, and the perfect view of your partner’s curves (it’s all about the butt cheeks).
It’s the rear entry position we all love, and anal sex makes it more exciting.
If you’re just starting your anal sex journey, the quality of communication with your partner is what can make or break doggy for you. However, this is why it’s more appealing. You strengthen the connection with your partner while exploring new sensations, so it’s a win-win.
Pro Tip: If you’re the receiver, remember to stay relaxed. If you’re the giver, remember to keep checking on your partner.
How To Do It
- The receiver is on all fours while the giver kneels behind them.
- The giving partner slowly enters the receiver’s anus. Whether you have a penis or penetrating your partner with a strap-on, remember to use lube to avoid any accidents.
- Once you become a bit more comfortable, why not add some foreplay? The giver can tease their partner in various ways; try butt play, sex toys. Be imaginative!
- If you’re both women, instead of only relying on a strap-on, give the double-ended dildo a try. The best sensations are always shared, and being both a giver and receiver keeps things interesting.
2. Lying Doggy (Prone)
Lying Doggie is another rear entry position similar to the classic Doggy Style. But compared to traditional doggy it’s easier to perform. Here’s why:
First, it lets the receiver feel more comfortable and relaxed, lying flat on their stomach. This setup reduces physical strain and helps manage the penetration depth and pace more comfortably.
Another benefit is that prone requires less effort from the receiver, who can remain passive while their partner controls the action. This can particularly appeal to people who enjoy letting their partner take the lead.
The prone position is also good for those who are already familiar with each other’s preferences and boundaries in anal play. With the partners not facing each other, verbal communication can be minimal. Therefore, having a good understanding of each other’s signals and comfort levels is crucial. This familiarity allows both partners to focus fully on the physical sensations, enhancing the overall experience of intimacy and pleasure.
How To Do It
- One partner lies flat while keeping their knees close.
- The giving partner positions themselves over the receiver, either kneeling or squatting.
- The bottom partner can lift their pelvis for easier entry and deeper penetration.
- If you’re the giver, make sure you please your partner sufficiently before attempting penetration. Try anal play; finger and lick your partner’s anus, and have them beg for more.
- If you’re a beginner, remember to start slowly and use lubrication.
3. Cowgirl
Did you know many women have anal sex just to please their partners?
In a recent study, nearly 30% of interviewed women said they had anal intercourse because their partner asked them to. Only 49% of the participants engaged in anal sex to fulfill their own desire. [2] Unfortunately, men are still seen as the dominant in bed, often at the expense of their partner’s pleasure.
However, the cowgirl position allows you to swap roles and have a female partner dominate the male partner. In this position, the receiver has total control. There’s nothing better than rebelling against gender standards. Plus, something is empowering about looking your partner in the eyes while riding them.
How To Do It
- One partner lies on the bed.
- The receiving partner rests their hands on the giver’s chest.
- Alternatively, the giver can put their hands on the receiver’s hips to guide the movement.
- Finally, the receiver positions their hips over the partner’s penis and slowly slides into the position.
- If I haven’t stressed it out enough – remember to use lube!
4. Reverse Cowgirl
Reverse Cowgirl adds a twist to the classic Cowgirl position by having the receiving partner face away from the giver. This setup allows the receiver to take the lead while the giver enjoys a great view. The fact that the receiver can’t see the giver’s actions adds an element of surprise and excitement, making it both thrilling and liberating.
Reverse Cowgirl is also great for clitoral stimulation. You can easily use a vibrator or dildo to enhance your pleasure, or if you prefer something simpler, try stimulating your nipples for a more intense orgasm. This position also offers a great opportunity for men to have their prostate stimulated, which can lead to powerful orgasms.
How To Do It
- The giver lies on their back.
- Next, the receiver positions themselves on top, facing away from their partner.
- The receiver can place their hands on their partner’s thighs for support and more control.
- The giver can stimulate his penis, and a receiver can play with different erogenous zones.
- Whether you’re using a strap-on or sitting on a penis, don’t forget to use lubrication.
5. Missionary
This twist on the classic Missionary position turns it into one of the best options for anal sex. Why is it so effective?
First, it’s very intimate. You maintain eye contact which strengthens your connection and enhances communication. Being face-to-face allows the giver to closely watch their partner’s reactions, making it easier to adjust the pace and depth to ensure comfort. Remember, anal is intense and requires constant attention to boundaries to keep it enjoyable and safe.
Second, the beauty of Missionary lies in its versatility. While it may look simple and boring, it offers plenty of opportunities to spice things up. You can do nipple play, share deep kisses, or introduce sex toys into the mix. Indeed, Missionary’s popularity stems from its flexibility; the only mistake here is not letting your imagination run wild.
Pro Tip: If you’re a receiving woman, feel free to add a dildo for G-spot stimulation.
Pro Tip 2: The receiver can put one leg on the partner’s shoulder for deeper penetration and a more pleasurable experience. Alternatively, they can have both legs up – any body position works.
How To Do It
- The receiving partner lies on their back with their legs up. They might put a small pillow under their butt to raise their pelvis to make penetration easier.
- The penetrating partner kneels in front of them and leans forward.
- The receiving partner might put their hands on their partner’s chest to control the penetration depth.
- As the giver enters the receiver’s anus, they should watch their partner’s reaction to ensure the penetration isn’t too deep.
6. Spooning
Anal sex might seem adventurous, but it’s also very intimate. It requires a lot of trust because a quick, wrong move could lead to discomfort (trust me on this one).
That’s why it’s so important to talk openly with your partner when trying anal sex. You must communicate clearly to ensure both of you feel safe and enjoy the experience.
Spooning is a sex position that helps with all that. It nurtures a connection with your partner, and if it’s someone you see frequently, it’s likely you already snuggle in the same position. This familiar skin contact can put you at ease which makes
Spooning is also an excellent choice for first-timers since it’s one of the most comfortable positions on this list. It’s comforting and promotes slow movement—it’s unlikely either of you will get carried away with spooning. To make it even more intimate, the penetrating partner might kiss the other partner’s neck and embrace them.
Pro Tip: If your partner is a woman, stimulate her nipples to increase the sensation or play with her clitoris. If your partner is a man, stimulate his penis.
Pro Tip: Dirty talk can make spooning more sexual than intimate. Give it a try!
How To Do It
- Both partners lie on their sides. And the giver positions himself behind the receiver.
- The receiving partner can arch their back slightly and lift their upper leg for easier access.
- Once both partners are ready and the lube has been applied, the giving partner slowly enters the receiving partner’s anus.
7. Lap Dance
We just have to include Lap Dance on any anal sex position list. Lap Dance isn’t just the best for anal penetration but has a fantasy element to it, making it even more appealing.
Even if strip clubs aren’t your thing, there’s nothing hotter than a combination of penetration and grinding. Whether you’re a woman or a man, those slow hips movements will make your partner go crazy with desire. Pair it with a bit of striptease, and they’ll never want to have sex any other way.
To make the atmosphere even more sensual, dim the lights and play a slow song. You’re all set to go.
Pro Tip: The receiving person can use grinding movement to tease their partner before the penetration. Instead of going all in, the receiver can experiment with shallow penetration. It will be both an incredible tease and a warm-up before deep thrusting,
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How To Do It
- One of the partners sits on the edge of the bed or a chair.
- The other partner faces away, places their hands on their partner’s legs, and slowly slides into the position.
- The receiver can easily control the depth and the speed of the penetration. Even if you don’t want to go all crazy straight away, remember to use lubrication for easier entry.
8. The Caboose
You probably never heard of the Caboose but it’s actually one of the best anal sex positions. Thanks to the skin-to-skin contact, you and your partner combine both intimacy and naughtiness. The receiving partner can turn around to maintain eye contact and enjoy the novelty of anal at the same time.
To add to the excitement, the giver can stroke their partner’s nipples or stimulate their genitals. The sky is really the limit!
My favorite thing about The Caboose? When you snuggle in public in the very same position, you’ll be reminded of the fun times you had in the bedroom. It will help you build sexual tension and make you even more excited at the prospect of more kinky sex explorations.
How To Do It
- The Caboose is similar to spooning. Both partners are facing the same direction while keeping complete body contact.
- The receiver sits in front of the giver and slowly slides into their lap.
- The giver props themselves up on their hands while the receiver can slightly lean backward to maximize the closeness.
9. Back It Up
The “Back It Up” is great for beginners because it gives better access to the partner’s anus. This position makes it easier for the person in control to go slowly and adjust how deep they go, which can make a big difference when you’re starting with anal. It’s a gentle way to get used to the new sensations together, allowing both partners to feel more comfortable and secure.
Like traditional Doggy Style, this position is great for introducing a power dynamic. If the receiving partner is submissive, there are many ways to speed up their pulse: teasing, spanking, hair pulling, and biting. Let your imagination run wild.
If you want some pro tip from me, I advise you to try back It Up in front of the mirror. It will let you see all the action and allow you to keep eye contact. Who doesn’t like a bit of exhibitionism?
How To Do It
- A receiving partner kneels on the edge of the bed while the giving partner stands behind them
- The giver slowly slides into the position
- To make things easier and painless, remember to use lube
10. Pile Driver
Meet Pile Driver, your new yoga substitute. But I’m not going to lie. This one isn’t easy, and few sex positions require bending this much. But if you’ve ever wanted to add a double challenge to your lovemaking session, Pile Driver goes exceptionally well with anal sex.
It’s also the best anal position for deep penetration. So, if you’re an anal sex veteran, you’ll love it for the sensation and the playfulness. For the same reason, the Pile Driver tests the trust between you and your partner. While it might seem the receiver’s discomfort won’t go unnoticed because you have sex face to face, the giving partner might be too distracted by the great penetration view.
Verbal communication is the key to making it work. It’s best if you can both discuss your boundaries before attempting this position.
Lastly, it requires stamina. Have you ever tried doing squats at high speed? As entertaining as it is, the Pile Driver can wear you off fast. However, the good news is you can always mix it up with other sexual activities. Be creative!
How To Do It
- The receiver lies on the back and lifts their legs towards their head (think of the plow pose in sex yoga).
- Depending on the level of flexibility, their legs might touch the floor. Alternatively, they can spread and bend their legs.
- The giver squats over them and slides into a position.
- Alternatively, the giver can turn around and penetrate their partner while kneeling.
- The lube will make this position very easy to get into, so make sure the giver does it slowly.
References:
[1] http://storyboard.cz/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/McBride_2010.pdf [2] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4379393/
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