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Wand vibrators are lots of fun. Partnered sex is lots of fun. Using wand vibrators during partnered sex is lots and lots of fun!
There’s no wrong way to do this, but we’re going to share seven ways that our sex educators, testers, and reviewers highly recommend. Read on to learn more!
1. Scissors
The scissor position is a favorite for women-loving-women couples because they can enjoy each other mutually, but it works for people of all gender orientations and genital styles. You’ll benefit from intimate contact with your partner, plenty of friction, and the powerful vibrations that a wand offers.
What We’re Doing
- Both partners lie on their sides, facing each other, legs spread.
- Partner 1 places one leg over Partner 2’s leg. Then Partner 2 places their other leg over Partner 1’s free leg. Legs should be intertwined like scissors.
- Partners move closer together and grind their pelvises against each other. Either partner can use the wand vibrator to add extra sensation.
2. Doggy-Style
Several surveys have concluded that doggy is the most popular sex position, and for good reason. It’s comfortable and satisfying for both partners, and it works well when there is a size difference between partners. If you’re ready, you can even take it up a notch by introducing a wand vibrator.
What We’re Doing
- The receiving partner kneels on all fours with their butt up in the air. They can put a pillow under their hips for support or a better angle.
- The penetrating partner kneels behind the receiving partner, between their legs.
- The penetrating partner uses their hand to guide the penis in.
- Either partner can use the wand vibrator on the receiving partner’s clitoris (the penetrating partner may be able to feel the vibrations if the toy is rumbly enough), or on the penetrating partner’s testicles and perineum.
3. Missionary
Missionary is a well-loved position because it offers full-body contact and face-to-face intimacy. It’s familiar to most of us and comfortable, but if we add a wand vibrator, it becomes electric (no pun intended) for both partners. Putting a pillow under the hips of the receiving partner helps position them so that the wand can reach where it needs to.
What We’re Doing
- The receiving partner lies on their back with knees slightly bent and legs spread.
- The penetrating partner lies on top, face-to-face, between the receiving partner’s legs.
- The penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.
- Either partner can position the wand vibrator between their bodies, targeting the receiving partner’s clitoris (the penetrating partner will also feel the vibrations.
4. Oral Sex
If you want to blow your partner’s mind as well as their body, use a wand vibrator while you are performing oral sex. Warm up by using the vibrator to tease around their genital area before you use your mouth.
If you are performing oral sex on a person with a vulva, hold the head of the wand against the clitoris while you pleasure them with your mouth. If you are performing oral sex on a person with a penis, use the wand on their testicles and perineum while you use your mouth on their penis. We recommend using one of the lowest settings, because too much of a good thing can be too much.
What We’re Doing
- The receiving partner can sit, stand, lie down, or recline in whatever position is most comfortable for them.
- The giving partner will then position themself so they can reach their partner’s genitals, and start performing oral sex.
- The giving partner will also use the wand vibrator as described above.
Pro tip: for an interesting change of pace, the giving partner can use the wand vibrator on themself while they are performing oral sex.
5. Cowgirl
One of the reasons why people love cowgirl is because it leaves both partners’ hands free to caress and stimulate each other. And as if that wasn’t enough fun, you can use a wand vibrator for additional stimulation. This position is perfectly suited for this little extra because it’s easy to reach everyone’s goodies with the wand! The receiving partner can also adjust positions and angles to improve access if desired.
What We’re Doing
- The penetrating partner lies on his back, legs together. They can put a pillow under their hips to change the angle if desired.
- The receiving partner kneels, straddles, or squats over the penetrating partner.
- The penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.
- Either partner can use the wand to stimulate the receiving partner’s clitoris (the penetrating partner will likely feel the vibrations as well) or the penetrating partner’s testicles and perineum.
6. Spooning
Spooning is comfortable low-demand sex. It’s a lovely way to share sensuality and intimacy, and it can be improved with the addition of a wand vibrator. This position offers easy access to the receiving partner’s clitoris, and the penetrating partner will be able to feel the vibrations through the receiving partner’s body.
What We’re Doing
- The receiving partner lies on their side.
- The penetrating partner lies on the same side with their front against the receiving partner’s back, like two spoons in a drawer.
- The receiving partner arches their back and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.
- Either partner can use the wand vibrator to stimulate the receiving partner’s clitoris.
7. Queening (Face-Sitting)
Yes, we already mentioned oral sex, but this kind of oral sex gets a special mention because it’s ideal for incorporating a wand vibrator.
Queening is when the receiving partner takes control by sitting on their partner’s face as if they were sitting on a throne. And since they are in control, they can use the wand to enhance their pleasure.
What We’re Doing
- The giving partner lies on their back. They can use a pillow under their head to support their neck and angle their head (we recommend this).
- The receiving partner straddles, kneels, or squats over the giving partner so that the giving partner has good access to the receiving partner’s genitals.
- The giving partner performs oral sex. The receiving partner uses the wand as desired.
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