We can all agree that being comfortable and safe with your partner makes sex a million times more enjoyable. One way this happens is to introduce specific tools to help you reach your peak comfort level. And the other thing to achieve pleasure and comfort is introducing more comfortable sex positions.
First, let’s start with some tools to make sex work in your and your partner’s favor.
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How To Make Sex More Comfortable?
Lubricants
Pain from dryness is not the good kind of pain you want to experience while having sex. Adding lube is a surefire way to make your sexual experience more satisfying. It enhances the physical sensations while lessening the friction of your bodies.
Just be sure to use the appropriate type of lube for the kind of sex you’ll be having (For example, water-based lube is for vaginal sex, and silicone-based lube works best for anal sex)
Sex toys
Another holy grail that makes sex all the more comfortable is sex toys. They help you reach an arousal state in a short amount of time and are perfect for bringing in for foreplay or during sex.
At the very least, most sex therapists recommend starting with beginner-friendly toys like vibrators. “Vibrators work even better when coupled with other sources of arousal,” says Stephen Snyder, an NYC-based sex therapist.
Masturbation
If toys aren’t in the cards for you, your trusty little fingers are always there to help stimulate your genitals. Try mutual masturbation with your partner. It allows you both to have a head start at excitement and pleasure.
You already know what you like and what you enjoy the most sexually, and so does your partner when it comes to their own body. So go ahead and masturbate to get yourself turned on before penetrative sex.
Pillows
Sex or regular pillows make certain sexual positions more comfortable and long-lasting. The main difference between a sex pillow and a regular pillow is they’re designed to be shaped like a wedge to support your body at a right angle for receiving. They support your lower back, hips, knees, and shoulders instead of using your whole body weight to keep yourself up. You can find many sex pillow positions in this extensive guide.
Music
Nothing soothes the nerves better than playing relaxing music. It’s a great way to take out any awkwardness that comes with being in a silent room. Create a sexy time playlist to help you create an inviting atmosphere or even to make you get in the rhythm of things.
Now that you have the tools to enhance your sexual health experience, you can go ahead with 6 of the most comfortable sex positions for women and men. They target the right spots, help ease any tension that comes with a certain sex position, and they’ll make you orgasm the way you deserve to.
Missionary Position With a Pillow
Missionary is a perennial comfortable sex position that works well for both partners. One partner lies at the bottom while the other partner faces them on top. This position alone is, without a doubt, one of the most gentle sex positions you can do to strengthen closeness.
How To Do It
- The receiving partner lies down on the bed. Place your sex pillow underneath the receiver’s lower back to prop it up. The pillow helps lift your hips at an angle for your partner to hit all the sweet spots.
- Next, the penetrating partner faces the receiver with arms stretched above your partner’s shoulders.
- Slowly begin penetrating and thrusting your hips front and back. Remember, this is a great position to maximize clitoral stimulation – use your hips to make a “scooping” motion to enhance your partner’s pleasure.
Doggy Style With Pillow
Being on your hands and knees for a long time can be strenuous on your upper body, but skipping out on doggy style is non-negotiable. Doggy style is a classic position that targets the g-spot of the receiver while giving control to the penetrating partner.
In this sex position, you run the reigns over the depth and speed of the vaginal penetration. This easily helps you gain control over the comfort and pleasure your partner receives.
How To Do It
- Get down to doggy style by having your partner kneel on all fours. Lower down to your forearms to make this position last longer.
- Place a sex pillow underneath the receiver’s stomach. Using a wedge pillow is recommended to help lift the receiver’s hips in the air.
- Place a second pillow underneath the receiver’s head to support their neck. This trick makes it comfier to rest on one cheek on the bed.
- The other partner stands behind you and penetrates from here.
- Hold onto your partner’s hips and use them to thrust in and out, finding the best rhythm for you both.
Cowgirl (Leaning Forward)
In Cowgirl, the woman or receiver climbs on top and gets a good look over your partner’s face. One way to take this position up a notch is by doing the lean forward technique. This trick amplifies deep penetration while making it easier to bounce your hips up and down your partner’s penis or strap-on.
The leaning forward technique works just as well in reverse cowgirl but more later.
How To Do It
- One partner lies on their back with their knees bent in front of them.
- Next, straddle your partner and sit on your partner’s legs.
- Lean forward and hover over your partner’s head. Place both your arms over your partner’s shoulders.
- Use your hand and reach behind you to insert their penis. Begin bouncing up and down the length of your partner’s penis.
- Find the rhythm and pace that feels best for you, and remember to take advantage of eye contact while in this position. Sex therapists always recommend staring into your partner’s eyes to increase intimacy.
Spooning
The next comfortable position for both partners to do is spooning. Compared to the other positions listed in this article, spooning does not focus on deep penetration. Instead, it has a lot of skin-to-skin contact, allowing you to focus on the movement and take it slow. So, when you want to feel every inch of your partner go in and out of you – try spooning.
Being in this position limits any roughness or pain that comes with one partner on top, making it perfect for some couples who experience chronic pain like vaginismus. It’s also one of the most comfortable anal sex positions.
How To Do It
- Both partners lie down on their sides. Choose the side you’re both comfortable in.
- The receiving partner lies in front while the penetrating partner lies behind.
- Next, the receiver bends their top leg in front of them to create a better opening.
- The penetrating partner slides in slowly.
- Begin thrusting your hips up and down repeatedly. Continue the motion that feels the most pleasurable and last as long as you both want.
Sideways 69
Receiving oral sex can be done at a comfortable angle rather than looking for overtly creative ways that get you all twisted. In sideways 69, it helps keep the top partner’s weight off the lying down partner, making it one of the most comfortable oral sex positions.
It’s an excellent position to receive oral sex as opposed to standard 69 because both of you lie comfortably. Your heads are resting on the bed instead of having your neck strain to give oral. You can read more about the 69 position in this article.
How To Do It
- Both partners lie on opposite sides of their bodies. Face each other and adjust your bodies to reach your partner’s genitals.
- One partner lies on their right side while the other is on their left.
- Inch your bodies closer to one another and begin performing head.
- You’re both simultaneously giving each other oral. Lick, suck, or finger your partner and listen to their body cues.
- Bring a sex toy if you have one on hand to make this position even more satisfying.
Reverse Cowgirl
Last up on our list; we have Reverse Cowgirl. For some women, it’s the better variation to cowgirl, especially if eye contact or intense eye gazing isn’t your thing.
A simple technique such as turning the other way can make a difference. You can enjoy all the yummy benefits of being in cowgirl without feeling too self-conscious about how you look from being on top.
How To Do It
- Your partner lies on their back with their legs stretched out.
- Have your receiving partner sit facing the other way.
- Use your hand to guide your penis inside and begin bouncing up and down.
- Try the leaning forward technique by placing your hands on your partner’s thighs.
- Continue bouncing up and down until you reach orgasm.
Wrapping Up
There’s not only one secret to making one sex position great, but the combination of things helps. Often, it’s the most straightforward technique and valuable tool to help make your sexual experience a whole lot better. Use the tools designed to make sex more comfortable, and try the positions that make both partners feel good.
Pro Tip: Buy a memory foam mattress or an adjustable bed for even more comfort. You can read more about adjustable bed sex positions in this guide.
Thanks for reading my guide to the most comfortable positions!
Sandra
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