Are you looking for the best women on top sex positions for more variety in your sex life? Then this guide from clinical sexologist Rachel Sommer, Ph.D., will help!
How great it is to be a woman! We tend to live longer than men and can grow humans inside of our bodies. And don’t forget the female orgasm: there are so many ways to achieve pleasure when you’re a woman – from multiple orgasms to nipple orgasms.
Unfortunately, we rarely make pleasure our priority. If you haven’t made it your goal to honor being a woman on a regular basis yet, you totally should. And what’s a better way to do this than celebrating your body and its needs?
Therefore, I prepared a list of the best cowgirl positions that will teach you to express your sexuality and help you become a more confident and sexually satisfied version of yourself. Your well-being and partner will thank you.
Let’s cut to the chase. Are you ready to be transformed?
Pro Tip: All cowgirl variations come with pictures and illustrations, so it’s easy to try them yourself in the bedroom.
Table Of Contents
1. Cowgirl
Cowgirl is a classic position that combines deep penetration with intimate eye contact. You can lean forward, give your partner a passionate kiss, and then arch your back and enjoy G-spot stimulation.
But the benefits don’t end there; being on top means being in charge, which is highly empowering and a significant confidence boost. You can control the speed and the depth of the penetration and even lightly choke your partner. In addition, it’s a great sex position for anal sex.
Pro Tip: Having your partner watch you might feel uncomfortable at first, but you’ll soon realize how much of a turn-on it is. Seeing your partner orgasm is the hottest thing ever; take it from me!
How To Do It
- Have your partner lie down.
- Climb on top and slide into the position.
- Move up and down or back and forth to explore different sensations.
- You can lean forward to try a different angle.
2. Squatting Cowgirl
Squatting cowgirl puts a spin on the classic cowgirl, and just like with the other girl on top sex positions, benefits go hand-in-hand with more effort. Unfortunately, this one is quite a leg killer, and you might not last long. But at least it will give you an excuse to skip the cardio class. Either way, it’s a great way to combine fitness with pleasure.
Another benefit is it’s an extremely hot position as it allows your partner to see your entire body and his penis (or strap-on) moving in and out of you. Plus, you get to be in charge. If you’ve ever wanted to explore your dominatrix side with one of the best dominant female sex positions, now is the time to do it. Don’t be afraid to try talking dirty and show your partner who’s the boss. You can also progress to facesitting, which I’ll discuss later in this guide.
Pro Tip: Use one hand to rub your clitoris or stroke your breast for additional stimulation.
How To Do It
- Have your partner lie down.
- Get into a squatting position and put your hands behind your partner’s legs for support.
3. Reverse Cowgirl
If being on display is out of your comfort zone, you can achieve the same pleasure with a reverse cowgirl position. Facing away from your partner will give you the illusion of not being watched while you can focus on the sensations.
Plus, your partner can still enjoy the view of the action – it’s a win-win. The only thing missing is eye contact but sometimes having animalistic and raw sex is more enjoyable than strengthening the emotional connection.
In addition, reverse cowgirl is one of the best riding sex positions because it provides extra deep thrusting. You can also hit your G spot easily and use a vibrator to stimulate your clitoris. Make sure you try nipple play – just set your vibrator to a low setting.
Pro Tip: Reverse cowgirl is one of the best sexual positions for fat people.
How To Do It
- The position is the same as the classic cowgirl, except facing away from your partner.
- Rest your hands on your partner’s legs while leaning forward to achieve deeper penetration.
4. Chair Cowgirl
Picture this: your partner arrives home after a long day at work and sits in front of the TV. Then you suddenly emerge from the bedroom wearing your best dress and lean over him.
As cheesy as it sounds, we’ve all had a fantasy where we are the seducers. Unfortunately, penis owners are usually expected to seduce, so not many vagina owners have the confidence to make the first move. But thanks to this chair sex position, you get to be in charge and initiate the intercourse just by sitting in your partner’s lap. (It’s also excellent for couch sex.)
In this riding sexual position, all you have to do is move your hips to let him know how much you want him. Try it – it will drive him crazy!
Pro Tip: Grind on your partner’s penis before you get to the point and have him kiss your neck to maximize the pleasure
How To Do It
- Sit on your partner’s lap with your legs resting on the floor.
- Alternatively, you can sit on them with your knees bent.
5. Lapdance
Receiving a lap dance might be the ultimate fantasy for many penis havers, but this sex position is mainly for your benefit.
It’s one of the best top sex positions for a very simple reason: it allows you to express your sexuality and feel empowered. Have you ever been to a strip club? These women show their bodies to strangers and still exude incredible confidence, and you can do it too.
Tease your partner with a bit of grinding and maintain eye contact. If you’re not good at dancing, remember that a sexy outfit goes a long way. You can also play sensual music to help you get into the mood. They’ll appreciate the treat, I promise!
How To Do It
- Have your partner sit in a chair.
- Sit in his lap while facing away – just like in the reverse cowgirl but on a chair.
- Have him stroke your breast and kiss your back.
6. Face-Off
While the woman on top sex positions are usually all about rough thrusting, this cowgirl sex position is a bit different.
If you’re looking for an intimate position that provides extreme physical closeness and still allows you to control the penetration, the face-off position is your best bet. Embrace your partner while having him deep inside of you while simultaneously making out – it doesn’t get more passionate than that.
How To Do It
- Your partner sits in a chair or on the edge of the bed with their legs spread.
- The vulva owner climbs onto their lap and takes on a squatting position with your feet flat on the surface.
- Squeeze your partner’s body with your thighs and put your hands around the neck. They can embrace you to bring you closer or bury their head in your breasts.
7. Lotus
If you’re a fan of yoga sex, this woman on top sex position will be right up your alley.
It might not provide super deep penetration, but it’s another very intimate position that works exceptionally well in a serious relationship. Being face-to-face with your partner during sex and staring into his eyes releases oxytocin, which increases bonding. [1]
As the honeymoon phase wears off and you settle into a relationship, you might lose interest in rougher sex, which is totally ok. On the contrary, it opens the door to other possibilities, such as tantra sex.
Tantra sex promises deeper levels of connection between partners and aims to explore each other’s bodies rather than help achieve an orgasm. Ironically, your orgasm is more likely to be stronger and more satisfying if you take things slow. Give it a try!
How To Do It
- Your partner sits in a chair with his legs crossed
- Sit in his lap and wrap your legs around his waist
- Embrace each other and start moving your hips at the same time
8. The Lazy Man
As the name suggests, the lazy man is a woman on top sexual position that requires you to do all the work. If you’ve read this far because you’re looking for a great position that will reignite the desire in your man, try this position first.
Your partner’s loss of interest in sex might come from tiredness or a more severe issue. However, if he’s still willing to please you, it’s better to take over and let him have a breather. All he has to do is direct your hips and listen to your breath quicken.
Pro Tip: Have your partner massage your butt or scratch your back to heighten the sensations
How To Do It
- Your partner sits with his legs straight.
- Sit on top of him in a squatting position with your feet on the surface.
- Hold onto your partner’s neck for better balance.
9. Facesitting
Face sitting is the holy grail of dominant sex positions for her as it combines oral sex and woman on top penetration – call it a female version of blowjob if you like.
There’s something arousing about using your partner’s mouth to receive pleasure – he is at your mercy as he can’t say a word (but do make sure you pay attention to his body language in case he gets uncomfortable).
Additionally, it’s one of the top sex positions that will help you explore body sensations and teach you to prioritize your pleasure which we, women, sometimes forget about. Make sure your partner stimulates your clitoris and the inside of your vagina for extra stimulation.
If you want to learn more about facesitting, I have a complete guide about sitting on his face.
How To Do It
- Your partner lies flat on the bed.
- Position yourself over his mouth and gently lower down.
- Remember not to put weight on his face. The best way to do this is to face away and put your hands on your partner’s chest.
10. The Octopus
The octopus is one of the top sex positions because it’s intimate and provides super deep penetration. Plus, it’s so much easier than it sounds. All you have to do is put your legs on your partner’s shoulders and lean backward.
Thanks to the back and forth motion, you can benefit from direct G-spot stimulation and get a view of the action. It also leaves lots of room to play with your clitoris and gives something for your partner to fantasize about long after your lovemaking session.
How To Do It
- The penetrating partner sits with his knees bent and arms resting on the surface behind his back.
- The receiver gets into the same position in front of him but puts her leg on his shoulders.
- She then slides onto his penis and moves back and forth.
- Alternatively, go for the variation with the right leg (or left) on the shoulder.
The Takeaway
I hope you enjoyed my list of the best woman on top positions.
Trying out these positions is a great way to spice things up, especially if that’s not your usual dynamic. Even if you discover it’s not something you’d want to do regularly, it will be an excellent way to learn more about your body and your likes and dislikes.
Remember, you should celebrate your body as much as your partner does. It will make your pleasure more powerful and improve your overall confidence.
Rachel
References:
[1] https://labs.la.utexas.edu/mestonlab/files/2014/10/2000-1-Meston-Frohlich.pdf
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