Do you ever feel like ripping your partner’s clothes off? Do you ever wish you could be in charge? Now is your chance to fulfill these fantasies. Our clinical sexologist Rachel Sommer, Ph.D., has prepared a list of the best female dominant positions. And here’s why you should give them a go:
- You’ll learn more about your sexuality and body – expect better orgasms and more confidence.
- Experimenting with sex positions is the fastest way to bring back the honeymoon phase and enjoy better sex. Don’t believe me? Studies link novelty to increased desire and sexual satisfaction in romantic relationships. [1]
- You’ll improve your relationship with your partner. Nothing strengthens the bond more than communication. However, you should always discuss boundaries and consent beforehand.
- If you realize you don’t enjoy being dominant, at least you’ll have another thing to cross off your bucket list.
Are you ready to take on the bedroom challenge?
Pro Tip: All dominant female positions come with pictures and illustrations, so it’s easy to try them yourself in the bedroom.
Table Of Contents
1. Squatting Cowgirl
The squatting cowgirl is one of the best sex positions for women with a kinky femdom side (more kinky sex positions here). It’s similar to the classic cowgirl position as it allows you to control the action and focus on your pleasure instead of your partner’s.
Don’t get me wrong, pleasing your man is great, but you need to be selfish once in a while. When you’re in a squatting position, you can either move back and forth and rub your clitoris against your partner’s pubic bone or add a vibrator for extra stimulation.
You can be sure that your partner will thank you, too. He’ll watch you please yourself and have a great view of your body, a huge turn-on!
How To Do It
- The penetrating partner lies on the bed.
- The receiving partner positions herself in a squatting position over her partner’s hips.
- You can grind back and forth for more stimulations.
2. Amazon
The Amazons were fearless female warriors who knew what they wanted and how to get it. You can easily imagine you’re one of them as this dominant position requires you to squat as if you were riding a horse. Hopefully, your riding skills are as good as theirs.
And if you’re really getting into the whole Amazonian concept, why not invest in some fancy costumes? You can easily find some inspiration online and take roleplaying with your partner to the next level. It won’t only give you more confidence but also spice up your sex life!
How To Do It
- Have your partner lie on his back and bring his knees to his chest in a submissive position.
- Stand between his knees and sit on his thighs.
- Grab onto his shins for more control.
You can read more about the Amazon sex position in this guide.
3. Facesitting
What’s a better way to assert dominance than to deprive someone of oxygen? Okay, you should probably dial back on the oxygen part but don’t be afraid to cherish the moment when your partner is at your mercy.
Have him perform oral sex and make this position extra exciting by engaging in dirty talk. If you’re into being dominant and a little sadistic, even better. Facesitting can be a great way to discipline your submissive and show him who the queen is.
One reason many guys enjoy face sitting is because it’s humiliating. Humiliation allows them to temporarily be out of control which can be freeing.
Obviously, not everyone is the same, and your partner might not be comfortable with everything you want to try, so make sure to discuss it beforehand. And try not to put too much weight on his head and mouth – it will be quite a thigh workout but so worth it.
Pro Tip: The best way to keep safe is to come up with a safe word!
How To Do It
- Order your partner to lie on his back.
- Position yourself over his face, typically facing the opposite direction.
4. The Bridge
The bridge is one of the best female dominant positions if you’re after a powerful orgasm. The angle allows your man to hit your G spot and stimulate your cervix at the same time that can help you achieve shivers all over your body. Move your hips in a rhythm that fills you with the most pleasure and experiment with different sensations.
Unfortunately, clitoral stimulation isn’t possible with the Bridge, but since it’s a face-to-face sex position, you can take advantage of eye contact. Having your partner watch your climax can feel empowering and help you become more comfortable with your body.
How To Do It
- Have your partner get into a reversed plank bridge pose with his knees bent.
- They should keep their hands and feet flat on the floor for support.
- Carefully sit on top of his penis, place your legs on his chest and hold onto his neck.
5. Lapdance
Wait, a lapdance?! You might wonder if it’s a mistake. Indeed strip clubs and lap dances have little to do with female empowerment? Wrong.
A lap dance is restricted by the performer’s boundaries. And the receiver is not allowed to touch no matter how much they want to (and trust me, they always want). Obviously, the lapdance position involves vaginal penetration, but the control element is still there.
In addition, when you’re on top, your partner gets to admire your complete body, but it’s up to you what happens next. You have total control over the speed and depth of the penetration and might tell your partner he’s not allowed to touch you.
In other words, he’s not the one fucking you in this scenario!
How To Do It
- Have your male partner sit on a chair or couch with legs spread.
- Face away from him and sit on his lap.
6. Spider
This Kamasutra variation of the spider position will test your stamina and sense of balance. The penis owner carries most weight as the vagina owner stays on top, but both partners move their hips simultaneously (mote Kama Sutra sex positions here).
There are a lot of other sex positions that allow you to achieve the same angle as the spider without physical exertion, so if your partner agrees to try it, it means they value your pleasure a lot. Show him appreciation by completely giving in to it.
Allow yourself to focus entirely on the sensations you’re experiencing and adjust the hip movement to match your partner. You can even draw inspiration from some of the tantra’s techniques that require you to synchronize your breathing and stay in the present.
How To Do It
- The penis haver sits with their legs spread and knees bent, leaning backward.
- The vulva owner sits on top in the same position, facing the penetrating partner and their butt resting on the partner’s thighs.
- They both raise gradually and keep their hands flat on the floor for balance.
7. Reverse Missionary
This female dominant sex position can make you feel like a man as it reverses the roles entirely. Reverse missionary is nothing like the traditional missionary position you already know too well – it’s bold, offers new sensations, and might feel uncomfortable at first.
Let’s face it, men aren’t used to spreading their legs, so this might be a bit out of your partner’s comfort zone, and you’ll have to communicate during the act to make sure he’s okay. Still, feeling in charge like this can be pretty hot so give it a go.
How To Do It
- Have your partner lie on his back with his legs spread.
- Sit in a straddle position in front of him and slide his penis inside.
- You can hold onto your partner’s legs to control the movement.
8. Sideways Saddle
Sideways saddle resembles a reverse cowgirl, except you’re positioned sideways. It allows you to enjoy an entirely different sensation you’re used to and allows you to explore your body.
Additionally, you’re in charge of the speed and depth of the penetration here, which makes it one of the best sex positions for dominant females.
Apart from allowing you to be in charge, the sideways saddle has an element of degradation to it as there’s no eye contact and all your partner does is lie flat. It’s almost as if you were using him as a human dildo!
Pro Tip: Lean forward for a better angle and deep penetration.
How To Do It
- Have your partner lie flat on the bed with his knees together and legs straight.
- Position yourself sideways and squat over your partner’s penis. You can place one hand on your partner’s chest for better balance.
- The dominating partner slide into the position.
9. The Lock and Key
The lock and key is one of the top sex positions, especially for women who enjoy being in charge but don’t feel confident enough to be on top just yet. It’s very similar to missionary, except you get to control the thrusting speed. It might be quite a sexual workout, but the angle and the eye contact make it worthwhile.
In addition, the lock and key is a perfect position to incorporate sex toys since you have space to stimulate your clitoris. You can also try one of the couple vibrators that allow you and your partner to experience heightened pleasure at the same time.
How To Do It
- Lie on your back.
- Have your partner position himself over you on all fours.
- Wrap your legs around his waist.
10. Doggy With Strap-On
Another great way to dominate your partner is to make him get out of his comfort zone. For most men, receiving anal sex can seem vulnerable and sometimes even degrading. Of course, some enjoy feeling this way, and if you and your partner are on the same page, there’s no reason you shouldn’t try male anal penetration.
Doggy style with a strap-on is a great sex position as it can help you explore your dominant side and potentially allow you to enjoy sex more than you used to. Women are often taught that being penetrated equals having something taken away from them, so swapping the roles can be a big confidence boost.
You can find many more pegging sex positions in this article.
Pro Tip: Get a hands-free strap-on to enjoy vaginal stimulation while penetrating your partner.
How To Do It
- Have your partner kneel on all fours on the edge of the bed.
- As a general rule, you should put plenty of lube on the dildo and then slide into the position slowly.
- Make sure to check in with your partner once in a while.
The Takeaway
Dominant female sex positions are a great way to take your sex life to the next level. You and your partner can play with different scenarios and discover what you like in bed. Plus, you get to learn how powerful a female orgasm can be.
If you aren’t sure how your partner will feel about being dominated, have some real talk and discuss what you can do to explore your fantasies. Trust me. You’ll both benefit from getting a bit out of your comfort zone!
Let me know your favorite female dominant sex positions in the comments.
Rachel
References:
[1] https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2018-47337-001PS, I also have an article about the best sex positions for men.
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