8 Best Pegging Positions For Beginners!

For the longest time, pegging was a sex act we only saw in pornographic videos. It was considered a niche fetish, and many individuals, especially straight men, were appalled by the idea of role-switching. However, this is beginning to change as more couples are discovering how fun and pleasurable anal penetration is.

Whether submissive-dominant dynamic is your thing or you just want to try something new, this article will help you enhance your sex life and increase sexual pleasure. Are you ready to explore the best pegging positions? Strap on and start reading!

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1. Doggy Style: Best Position Overall

I’m sure doggy is the first thing that comes to mind when you think about pegging. Also known as the ‘First Timer,’ it screams dominance, which makes the sex act so appealing. As a vagina owner, you get to be in charge and enjoy the thrill of controlling a partner that’s more likely bigger and stronger than you.

That said, you must focus on their needs and communicate well during the session. Since straight men are typically viewed as dominant, this pegging position leaves them vulnerable and at their mercy. If you’re a man, giving up control can be the most freeing experience you’ve ever had.

Pro Tip: Try include some dirty talk. Sex isn’t just about the physical act but about building that special connection. Go wild or go home!

Pro Tip 2: The giver can play with the partner’s anus to prepare them for penetrative sex. You can also include prostate massage to maximize the pleasure and help them achieve a p-spot orgasm. The receiver can also stroke his penis while being penetrated.

How To Do It

1. The receiver kneels on a stable, flat surface, like a bed or the floor. Remember to use plenty of lube.
2. Then, the giver kneels behind their partner and slowly enters their anus.
3. The key here is to check on the receiving partner to ensure they are comfortable with the speed and depth. Being in charge is both about dominance and ensuring your partner’s safety.

 

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2. Lying Doggy (Prone): For Deep Penetration

Lying Doggy is a variant of the Doggy Style position that allows for deeper penetration. Once you and your partner become more comfortable with strap-ons (I am sure you will!), this anal sex position will help you explore the submission-dominance dynamic in more depth.

Apart from swapping gender roles, pegging has a big perk for penis owners – prostate orgasm. In this position, you’re on the way to experience your first intense butt orgasm. All you have to do is play with different speeds and angles, and allow your partner to do the work.

But remember, the key is good verbal communication. You can’t see the receiver’s face in the prone doggy position, and you might get carried away if discomfort isn’t expressed verbally. Safety first!

Pro Tip: A good foreplay is fingering your partner’s anus. You can also use a sex toy, such as a vibrator or a butt plug, to play with sensations.

How To Do It

1. The receiver lies flat on the bed facing down, keeping his legs slightly apart.
2. The giver squats or kneels over their partner and enters from behind. Add plenty of lube before penetration.
3. Once this position becomes comfortable, the receiver can place a pillow under their pelvis for even deeper thrusting.

 

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3. Cowboy: Great For Novelty

Did you know that novelty is why we like trying new things? That’s right; this phenomenon is called the Coolidge Effect. Researchers who investigated arousal in rats found that even when exhausted, they experienced arousal after meeting new female rats. [2] Like animals, novelty is what we subconsciously seek, no matter how much we love our partners.

This is where the Cowboy position comes into play because it gives you a novelty dose. The giver can relax and enjoy the receiver’s reaction while they sit in their lap and rides the dildo. Include spanking, and you have a recipe for something you never tried!

How To Do It

1. The giver wears a strap-on dildo, adds lubrication, lies down on their back, and props themselves up with the elbows.
2. The receiver straddles their partner and slowly slides into the position.
3. Givers can place their hands on the partner’s hips to guide the movement.

 

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4. Reverse Cowboy: Novelty With A Twist

The Reverse Cowboy position is similar to the cowboy position, except the receiver faces away from the penetrating partner. Penis people can experiment with different depths to find the right angle that leads to a prostate orgasm. Additionally, this position lets them play with their penis to achieve a more intense climax.

Since strap-on is a hallmark of dominatrixes, not exploring that dynamic would be a shame. Once trust between partners has been established, it’s time to spice things up with role-playing. The female partner can have their male partner engage in a submissive task and receive punishment whenever he makes a mistake. While it’s not for everyone, giving up all the control can be highly arousing.

 Pro Tip: Don’t forget to wear a leather outfit to heat things even more.

How To Do It

1. The giver lies on their back wearing a lubricated strap-on dildo.
2. The receiver straddles on top, facing away from their partner.
3. They can stimulate their penis while being penetrated.

 

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5. Missionary: Most Beginner-Friendly

Missionary is a good beginner position to ensure maximum safety and develop trust to make the receiver comfortable with this sex act. It’s a classic that favors slow penetration and allows you to spot any signs of discomfort on your partner’s face.

The giver enjoys her partner’s moans while maintaining eye contact and playing with his balls simultaneously – it doesn’t get sexier than that!

 Pro Tip: Include sex toys to help your partner get used to butt play.

 Pro Tip 2: The receiver can stroke their  partner’s breast while being penetrated.

How To Do It

1. The bottom lies on their back with legs slightly raised.
2. The top kneels in front, wearing a strap-on dildo, and then leans forward.
3. The bottom can put their hands on the partner’s chest to have more control over the penetration depth and angle.

 

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6. Spooning: Most Intimate

Spooning is more akin to lovemaking than wild thrusting, but that’s why we love it. It’s an intimate position that allows for skin-to-skin contact and a bonus: a bit of cuddling.

When you snuggle with your partner, your body releases oxytocin [3] that allows for bonding and a deeper emotional connection, helping the receiving partner relax and get the most out of pegging play. Additionally, Spooning gives the giver excellent access to the penis, giving them a more intense climax. More sensations equal more fun!

 Pro Tip for the giver: Whisper something dirty in their ear to make everything a little naughtier.

 Pro Tip for the receiver: Turning your head and kissing your partner is very sexy!

 How To Do It

1. Both partners lie on their sides.
2. The giver lies behind their partner with a strap-on ready.
3. The receiver lifts their leg and arches the back to allow easy access.

 

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7. Standing: For The More Experienced

A standing sex position might seem like a recipe for disaster. Chances are, the receiver is much taller than the giver, and the angle makes thrusting a lot more complicated than it needs to be. But hear me out. There are a few reasons this one still deserves a spot on this list:

Firstly, the height difference problem is easy to solve. The female partner can wear high heels, adding a layer of hotness to your play. If that’s not your thing, you can always use a stool or book.

Secondly, if the height difference is the problem, you’re lucky because there’s nothing more empowering than dominating a big man. Have him lean against the wall and enjoy how the tables turned.

Thirdly, it’s the perfect excuse for hot shower sex. One of the biggest concerns is the fear of having an accident, but steamy sex allows you to kiss your worries goodbye and focus on physical sensations. Just remember to check if your strap-on is waterproof and use a non-slip shower mat, which is a must for shower sex.

How To Do It

1. The receiver stands before the giver, who’s wearing a strap-on.
2. If you decide to try shower sex, remember that you still have to use lube.
3. The receiver can lean on the wall for a better balance and slightly arch their back.
4. The penetrating partner then enters them from behind.

 

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8. Lap Dance: Best For Role-Playing

Introduce role-playing to make your pegging session more exciting. You know what I’m talking about if you have seen Magic Mike. Male stripping might not be a common bedroom fantasy, but many vagina owners will find it arousing.

As for the male partner, a bit of objectification never hurt anyone. He can enjoy the novelty of existing only to please his partner. Knowing you can turn someone on by dancing over their lap is empowering.

Lap Dance is a seated position with another benefit: maintaining eye contact. After you’re done with a bit of grinding role play, it’s time to stare deep into your partner’s eyes to amplify this intimate moment and fully enjoy anal sex. You can find more sitting sexual positions in this article.

How To Do It

1. The female partner sits on the edge of the bed (or a chair) while wearing a strap-on dildo.
2. The male partner sits over her legs (although some people prefer facing away from each other).
3. Male partners can receive prostate stimulation before they slide into the position.
4. The giver can either place her hands on her partner’s hips and control the movement or let him do all the work, whatever works best.

 

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Preparation & Safety Tips

Exploring pegging can bring up emotions for both partners, ranging from excitement to vulnerability. To make everyone feel more comfortable, I recommend approaching the topic with openness and empathy, recognizing that shifting traditional roles might require adjustment and reassurance. Take time to discuss feelings and desires before and after the pegging session. This communication strengthens trust, deepens your connection, and ensures all partners feel valued and respected.

Most importantly, all partners must give explicit consent to all sexual activities. It also helps to establish a safe word (like red for stop, yellow for pause) or a sign (like dropping an object) to make the sex act even safer.

It’s also important to be flexible and open to adjustments. Everyone’s body is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Pay attention to your partner’s signals, and don’t hesitate to modify angles, depths, and speeds as needed. Sometimes, a small position shift or additional cushioning under the hips can enhance the experience. Pause and adjust improves physical comfort and demonstrates care and attentiveness to your partner’s needs, making the experience safer and more enjoyable for everyone.

Did you know: A study examining the effects of consuming submission and dominance-themed erotica found that both men and women preferred reading about the opposite gender’s acting dominant. [1] Could it be that many women have a dominant side and many men desire to be dominated?

I also recommend verifying that all pegging toys are made from body-safe materials like medical-grade silicone, glass, or stainless steel. Always clean them before and after the session according to the manufacturer’s guidelines. You should also use a lubricant compatible with the material (no silicone-based lube with silicone toys) and not cause an allergic reaction (do a skin patch test on the forearm). Water-based lube is typically the best.

Strap on and enjoy the ride!

Rachel

References:

[1] https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00224499.2015.1131227

[2] https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0003347274800096

[3] https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/oxytocin-the-love-hormone