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When you think of pillows in the bedroom, you’re probably thinking of soft fluffy clouds that are great to sleep on but honestly don’t add much to a sexual experience. Sex pillows are the exact opposite! They feel a little bit like rocks under your head, but they are great under your hips when you’re having sex.
We know that you’ll find your favorite ways to enjoy your sex pillow, but here are eight suggestions to get you started.
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1. Missionary
Missionary is high on many of our “best” lists, and it’s not because we don’t know many other positions. It’s very versatile, just like the best vanilla ice cream. Missionary is an intimate and connected position, which is great when you’re trying a new sex toy or sex pillow and you want to gauge your partner’s responses.
What We’re Doing
- The receiving partner lies on their back with their legs spread and knees bent. They raise their hips and position the sex pillow under their lower back.
- The penetrating partner lies on top of the receiving partner, face-to-face.
- The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.
2. Lazy Doggy
Doggy-style is another surprisingly versatile position. It can be energetic and vigorous when you’re up for that, but you can also prop yourselves up with a sex wedge and do it the lazy way. The cushion supports the receiving partner, and this allows the receiving partner to support the penetrating partner.
You’ll enjoy full-body contact and a sensual connection, even if you don’t manage the deep penetration that classic doggy-style is known for. If the receiving partner keeps their legs together (loosely), you’ll both enjoy the feeling of tightness.
What We’re Doing
- Place the sex pillow in the center of the bed.
- The receiving partner lies face-down with the pillow positioned under their belly and hips so that their bottom is elevated.
- The penetrating partner lies face-down on top of the receiving partner.
- The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.
3. Cowgirl
The cowgirl position is where the receiving partner rides the penetrating partner. The receiving partner gets to control the angle, depth, and pace of penetration while the penetrating partner gets to lie back and enjoy the ride (and the view). This woman-on-top position is often a bit of role reversal, and it can be a very nice change. It also gives both partners a little insight into what the other one typically experiences, which can lead to better sex and even a better relationship — so ride away, cowgirl!
When the penetrating partner has a wedge under their lower back and their knees bent, the receiving partner can lean back against the penetrating partner’s knees for support. This can either be a little breather (cowgirl works the core!) or it can be a way to open up for manual clitoral stimulation.
What We’re Doing
- The penetrating partner lies on their back on the bed. They raise their hips and position the wedge under their bottom.
- The receiving partner squats, straddles, or kneels over the receiving partner’s body.
- The penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.
4. Solo Grinding (For People With Vulvas)
Sex pillows are great for partnered play, but they also work well for single-player action –some of our favorites even have mounts to hold your favorite dildo or vibrator.
Good sex pillows offer a fair amount of resistance, so they are a lot of fun to grind against. This is where you lie on your stomach with the pillow under you, and rock back and forth against the pillow. You can add a sex toy for additional stimulation if your pillow has a mount, or you can place a grinder toy on the pillow.
What We’re Doing
- Lie on your stomach on the bed or other comfortable, supportive surface. Spread your legs slightly and position the sex pillow under your pelvis to angle your hips upwards.
- Grind your hips and mound against the cushion. You can use a toy or your fingers on your clitoris.
5. Oral Sex
Sex pillows raise the hips and open up the pelvis, which can make giving oral sex (to any gender) a little more comfortable for the giving partner. This likely translates to longer and possibly better oral sex for the receiving partner. What’s not to love about this?! Any good, firm sex pillow works here, but we recommend a wedge for the best results.
What We’re Doing
- The receiving partner lies on their back on the bed with legs spread and knees slightly bent. They position a sex pillow under their bottom so that their hips are elevated. If they are using a wedge pillow, the narrow part should point towards the head.
- The giving partner lies or kneels between the receiving partner’s legs and performs oral sex.
6. Deep Plunge
This is exactly what it sounds like — maximum depth and G-spot stimulation with the assistance of a sex pillow, which provides support and positioning assistance. This position also opens the receiving partner up for clitoral stimulation, and there is plenty of opportunity for eye contact and other non-verbal communication.
What We’re Doing
- The receiving partner lies on their back on the bed with legs spread. They position a sex pillow under their bottom so that their hips are elevated. If they are using a wedge pillow, the narrow part should point towards the head.
- The receiving partner bends their knees close to their chest. The penetrating partner stands between the receiving partner’s legs.
- The receiving partner rests their feet on the penetrating partner’s chest or puts their legs over the penetrating partner’s shoulders.
- The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.
7. 69 (Mutual Oral Sex)
We explained how a sex wedge can make oral sex better for both partners, and that goes double for the 69 position. Lots of folks love the idea of 69 but find it a bit challenging physically. Sex pillows can help with that!
You will need either two sex wedges for this position or a uniquely constructed cushion like the Liberator Hipster. Make sure that you’re using high-quality pillows that are rated to support your combined body weights.
What We’re Doing
- Set up the pillows in the center of the bed. The wedges should be facing each other, with the narrow points touching in the center and the tall ends on either side.
- Partner #1 (usually the smaller/lighter partner) positions themself on the pillows on the back, with one wedge supporting their head and one supporting their knees. Legs should be slightly spread.
- Partner #2 (usually the larger partner) lies on their stomach on top of Partner #1, facing the opposite direction.
- Partners align so that their mouths are aligned with each other’s genitals, and they perform oral sex on each other.
8. Standing Ovation
You could say that this is the advanced version of the deep plunge position we wrote about above. It’s probably the most physically challenging position on this list, but if you can make it work, it’s worth it. This standing sex position offers very deep penetration and a good angle for G-spot stimulation.
We’re going to write about sex on a bed here, but this position can also work on a very sturdy countertop or table as long as it’s the right height. We strongly recommend trying it out on a bed first, though.
What We’re Doing
- The receiving partner lies on their back at the edge of the bed with legs spread. They position a sex pillow under their bottom so that their hips are elevated. If they are using a wedge pillow, the narrow part should point towards the head.
- The penetrating partner stands between the receiving partner’s legs.
- The receiving partner (possibly with the penetrating partner’s help) lifts their legs at a 90-degree angle. The penetrating partner supports the receiving partner’s ankles, or the receiving partner props their legs against the penetrating partner’s shoulders.
- The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.
Care and Cleanup
The companies that make sex pillows know what they are going to be used for. The better pillows are produced with both an inner and outer cover, and the inner cover is usually waterproof. Remove the outer cover and wash it (most are machine-washable), and wipe down the inner cover with gentle soap. If your sex pillow does not have this dual cover set, consider contacting the manufacturer for a second cover.
And if you find that you enjoy the support and flexibility of a sex pillow, you’ll probably love sex on an adjustable bed — read more here!
Maggie
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