While sexual pleasure is best when shared, self-love is an excellent tool for learning about your body. Of course, I’m talking about masturbation. If you don’t know where to start, our clinical sexologist Rachel Sommer, Ph.D., has prepared a list of female masturbation positions, making you appreciate single life.
Here’s why it can be better than partnered sex:
- Your partner won’t know how to touch you unless you can please yourself. Learn what makes you orgasm and get to know your body.
- Without the pressure to orgasm, you might discover other sensations you might enjoy. For example, a nipple orgasm takes patience, and let’s face it, most of our partners aren’t great at foreplay.
- Solo sex allows you to focus entirely on an imaginary scenario that turns you on the most. You can even warm up with an erotic novel or watch porn, and no one will judge you for it.
- You can be selfish and prioritize your pleasure. While your partner might not be ready for round two straight away, masturbation allows you to have as many orgasms as possible, even without a break. Isn’t it great being a woman?
- Whether you’re single or your partner isn’t in the mood, you don’t have to give up on an orgasm. You can masturbate whenever you feel like it!
Here are some hot solo sex positions you can try to upgrade your sex life starting today:
Table Of Contents
1. Doggy With Pillow
If you look back on your early masturbation days, you might remember doggy with a pillow was most likely your go-to position. It helped you explore your body and perhaps gave you your first orgasm. While rubbing your clitoris against a pillow might not give you the strongest sensations anymore, it can be excellent foreplay before you move on to penetration or sex toys.
Additionally, the position gives you direct access to your erogenous zones. While you’re moving your hips back and forth, you can focus on using your fingers to stimulate your vagina and other sensitive areas.
This position also makes it easy to imagine that you’re having sex as you’d be facing away from your partner. You can also watch porn to add to the fantasy and let your imagination run wild.
Pro Tip: To get more friction, lean forward and rest your body on a pillow
How To Do It
- Place a pillow on the bed and position yourself over it.
- Lean forward and rest your body weight on your forearms or wrists.
2. Chair Masturbation
Chair masturbation is one of the best female masturbation positions because of its versatility. While most women choose to sit in a chair with legs spread, you can experiment and find a position that feels best for you.
For example, you can put one foot on each armrest and focus on stimulating your vagina and surrounding areas. Use a slow circular motion and learn to appreciate gentle sensations. You can also start by gently rubbing your inner thighs and then moving onto your clitoris.
To take this seated position to the next level, try masturbating in front of the mirror. Watching how you react to touch will allow you to get to know your body and become more comfortable with self-pleasure.
How To Do It
- Sit in a chair, preferably one that allows you to lean backward.
- From there, the options are endless. You can spread your legs like in a missionary position, squat, or kneel.
3. The Leg Shaver (Shower Ballet Dancer)
As much as we love our shaved genitals, shaving is an activity most of us would rather avoid. But why not combine the inevitable with pleasure? The leg shaver position is the best aftercare, allowing you to relax and fully enjoy your shower time.
If you don’t have a waterproof sex toy, don’t worry. A removable shower head is detachable for a reason, and it might be an even better fit than traditional vibrators. Point the stream towards your clitoris and move it up and down or circular motions. Experiment and find whatever feels best.
Another benefit of shower sex positions is you can play with different temperatures. Start with the warm temperature and decrease or increase it if necessary. Just remember to use a non-slip shower mat to prevent accidents, and you’re good to go.
Pro Tip: If you have a bath, even better. Take advantage of the tub faucet and enjoy powerful sensations.
How To Do It
- Lift one leg and place it on the wall in front of you.
- You can lean slightly forward for better balance.
- Hold onto a handrail if possible.
4. Solo Cowgirl With Pillow
Cowgirl with a pillow is one of the best masturbation positions for women, especially if you plan to have a long session. While masturbation is a great option if you want to finish fast, once you’ve realized how pleasurable it is, you might want to make it last as long as possible.
In solo cowgirl, you can gently stimulate your clitoris and warm yourself up for the next step. You can make it extra special by setting the right kind of atmosphere. For example, you can dim lights and play sensual music that will allow you to get lost in the sensations.
If you prefer something more visual, you can play porn or an erotic movie to spice things up. Don’t forget that this position is also hands-free, so you can touch your breast and explore all other erogenous zones that you’d previously neglected. Use lube to stimulate your nipples and trace your fingers along your neck.
Pro Tip: While moving your hips, squeeze and release your pelvic floor muscles. This can help you achieve more pleasure and strengthen your pelvis—killing two birds with one stone!
How To Do It
- Place a pillow on the bed and straddle it.
- For extra friction, you can fold the pillow in half and enjoy direct clitoris stimulation.
5. Solo Missionary
Solo missionary is a recipe for powerful vaginal and clitoral orgasms. When lying on your back, you have direct access to your genitals, allowing you to warm up with gentle external stimulation and then move on to internal stimulation.
To make this position the most enjoyable, focus on clitoral stimulation first. You can use water-based lube to heighten the sensations and experiment with different motions. Some women prefer moving their fingers in tiny circles, while others prefer a tapping motion – there’s no right and wrong way, but with enough practice, you’ll find your perfect combination. From there, you can add a dildo and try to achieve a blended orgasm.
If you want to explore double penetration, you can start by inserting a butt plug and then moving on to a small dildo. To make things extra hot, position yourself in front of the mirror. There’s something extremely arousing about watching how you stimulate yourself.
Pro Tip: To hit your G-spot, put a pillow under your pelvis and find an angle that feels good.
Pro Tip 2: A vibrating butt plug might be even more fun than a dildo. Give it a try!
How To Do It
- Lie on the bed in a comfortable position with your legs spread.
6. Dildo Squatting
Thanks to the increasing popularity of sex toys, you no longer have to rely just on your fingers. In fact, you might even achieve more pleasure alone than you would with a partner.
If vaginal penetration is your priority, you should look into getting a suction cup dildo that stays attached to a flat surface. The best thing is it comes in a shape specially designed to hit all the right spots. For example, dildos for beginners are slightly tilted and covered in veins that ensure maximum pleasure and G-spot stimulation.
While the squatting position might seem intimidating (it does require leg strength, after all), you might experiment with other positions and gradually build up to it.
Pro Tip: If you have carpeted floors, you can attach the dildo to your door and do it doggy style. You can find many more suction cup dildo positions in this article.
How To Do It
- Make sure the dildo is securely attached to the floor.
- Squat over it and slowly slide it inside.
- You can place a chair in front of you to hold onto it and avoid losing balance.
7. Solo Spooning
If you’re still not entirely comfortable with the idea of self-pleasure, the spooning position is a great place to start. You can lie comfortably, hide under the covers, and fully focus on stimulating your erogenous zones.
This masturbation position is perfect for gently rubbing your clitoris and discovering how you like being touched. Once you’ve familiarized yourself with your body, you can incorporate vibrating sex toys into the play.
If you’re keen on exploring anal play but want to start small, consider getting a butt plug that will help you get used to the sensation and teach you how to relax. (See our female anal masturbation guide for more information).
How To Do It
- Lie on your side.
- Lift one leg to access your erogenous zones.
- Use one hand to stimulate your clitoris and the other hand to stimulate your anus.
The Takeaway
The masturbation positions mentioned in this article are suitable for both beginners and more experienced girls.
A masturbation session is a lot more than just an option for singles. Exploring self-pleasure will allow you to connect with your body and achieve a good orgasm.
You can easily make these masturbation positions more exciting by using everyday items such as a removable detachable showerhead or a pillow and then upgrading with sex toys to induce even more sensations in your vaginal canal and nerve endings. Start the new year right and give solo sex a go. Let me know in the comments which positions hit the spot.
Rachel
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