Is your usual sexy routine getting a bit boring? You’re not alone with this issue. It’s easy to fall into the same old habits, which can make sex and masturbation feel less exciting.
But here’s where dildos can shake things up. They come in all shapes and sizes and add a fun twist to your routine. Whether flying solo or with a partner, a dildo can really spice things up and make things more enjoyable.
To help you get started, our clinical sexologist Rachel Sommer presents the best dildo positions to try, whether you’re looking to enhance your solo sessions or add extra spark to partner play. Get ready to discover exciting new ways to maximize pleasure with our top picks for getting the most out of your dildo.
Table Of Contents
1. Missionary
If you read other relationship articles, you’ll likely find the missionary position described as dull and possibly one of the reasons things aren’t going well. But don’t let that advice fool you. Missionary works just as well as any other sex position and can be very exciting if performed correctly.
For starters, it’s one of those positions that allow you to lie down in a comfortable position with easy access to your clit. To prolong the play, you can start the session by applying lube and massaging your vagina for more pleasure. Choose the least sensitive area and gradually move onto the clitoris. It will help you build up the excitement and maximize the enjoyment.
Introducing a dildo can make things more comfortable and give you more intense sensations, especially if you go for a vibrating model. Lift your hips as you masturbate so it can directly stimulate your G-spot.
If you’re thinking of incorporating a dildo in a play with a partner, you can easily divide duties by putting them in charge of the dildo, focusing on bringing yourself to orgasm with a vibrator. You can also stroke your breasts or nipples and enjoy having all your erogenous zones stimulated.
How To Do It
- Lie on your back with your legs spread.
- Apply lube to the dildo and insert it gently.
- You can put a pillow under your pelvis to ensure deeper penetration.
2. Doggy Style
A suction cup dildo does a great job mimicking doggy style sex while you enjoy deep thrusting on your terms. As you’re moving your hips back and forth, focus on stimulating your clitoris with a vibrator and feel all your muscles tighten as you achieve climax. Other sex toys you can use are vibrating nipple clamps to make you feel more submissive.
Pro Tip: To add to the excitement, you can watch a porn video. Choose one that features an angle that makes it easy to imagine you’re being penetrated from behind by a partner.
If you want to involve your partner in the play, you can have them stimulate your anus and help you explore a blended orgasm.
How To Do It
- Attach the suction cup dildo to the wall.
- Cover the suction cup dildo with plenty of lube.
- Get on all fours and gently slide the suction cup dildo inside.
- Don’t forget to protect your knees with a pillow.
- Alternatively, you can penetrate yourself with a regular dildo while resting your chest on the bed.
3. Squatting Cowgirl
Suction dildos are also great for squatting. As you squat, try to combine up and down movement with hip circles and sway back and forth. Mix these sensations up and then make them more intense by adding clitoral stimulation. A suction cup dildo gives you a lot more freedom than a regular dildo.
As it’s a hands-free position, you can use your hands to rub your genitals or focus on your upper body and play with your breasts.
If you want to add sex toys to partnered intercourse, squatting is a good opportunity to help your partner learn more about your body. They can watch how you move your hips while stimulating other sensitive areas.
For example, if you like slow and more intimate intercourse, you can have your partner massage or kiss your back. If you’re into something rougher, have them pull your hair or give you a spank here and there.
How To Do It
- Attach the suction cup dildo to a smooth surface. Nudge it to check if it stays in the same place.
- Get into a squatting position and slowly slide the suction cup dildo inside.
- Make sure there’s something you can lean on if you lose balance. You can keep a chair next to you.
4. Spooning
Since spooning is a cuddling position, it brings a feeling of safety, making it a good option for beginners who aren’t yet comfortable with their bodies. As you lie down under the covers, you can relax fully and stimulate your G spot.
For those vulva owners who want to explore dildo play with a partner, spooning is perfect for double penetration. Your partner can penetrate you anally while you slide the dildo in and out of your vagina. They can massage your breasts or stimulate your clitoris to help you experience maximum pleasure.
It’s also the perfect position to engage all your senses. You can set the mood by playing relaxing music and lighting candles, then have your partner spice things up with dirty talk. Combining slow and intimate movement with dirty talk can act like edging and help you achieve a more intense orgasm.
How To Do It
- Lie on your side.
- Lift your leg and gently insert the dildo inside.
5. Standing Doggy
Doggy is my favorite suction cup dildo position, as it allows you to engage in all types of sensations. For a bit of foreplay, give some attention to your clitoris. Use a shower head to stimulate it. Start by using warm water and then gradually increase the stream.
As you get into the mood, try temperature play and switch between hot and cold water. It will introduce your body to new sensations and send shivers down your spine. Then, you can lean forward and gently insert the suction cup dildo inside.
First, try shallow thrusts, and then speed it up when you’re about to come – it feels incredible!
Shower dildo positions are also an excellent opportunity to explore anal penetration. You don’t have to worry about accidents while in the shower as long as you use a non-slip shower mat. More on shower dildos in this article.
If you want to invite your partner to simulate a threesome, have him sit between your legs and give you oral sex. It might be challenging to synchronize your hip movement with his tongue, but you can take things slow.
How To Do It
- Attach the suction cup dildo to the wall on your hip level.
- Slide it inside and then lean against the shower wall or hold onto a handrail.
- Remember, water is not lube. Cover the dildo with lube and use water for temperature play.
- Use a non-slip mat to avoid slipping.
6. Chair Cowgirl
Cowgirl is a lap dance position that allows for deep dildo penetration. Try moving your hips in a circle to stimulate vaginal walls and then combine back and forward movement with bouncing up and down. If your thighs get tired (it’s quite a sex exercise), insert the dildo fully and sway your hips back and forward in tiny motions.
You can also engage your kegel muscles for a different kind of sensation.
If you want to give yourself a treat, get a curved dildo that can stimulate your G spot directly. Paired with another sex toy, such as a vibrator or a butt plug, this kind of stimulation is a recipe for intense pleasure.
Pro Tip: To explore anal play, be sure to use plenty of lube and only start from a dildo that’s average size or smaller.
How To Do It
- Attach the suction cup dildo to the chair.
- If your suction cup dildo doesn’t stick to the chair, you can always use a toilet seat.
- Squat over the suction cup dildo and slowly slide into the position.
7. Blow & Bounce
Have you ever wanted to practice tantric sex, but you and your partner just can’t keep your hands off each other and always end up having a quickie? Blow and bounce suction dildo positions might be the solution as it forces you to slow things down, as combining bouncing and blowjob is quite challenging.
Before I get into how you can make this position work, a quick recap of what tantric sex is. It’s a unique type of sex activity where both partners focus on being present and slowly stimulate all of each other’s erogenous zones. While it sometimes ends in orgasm, the key here is connection.
Once you’re ready to do the deed, start with up and down hip movement while sucking the tip of your partner’s penis or strap-on. Then, switch things up and combine gentle back and forward hip movement with deep throating.
How To Do It
- The vagina owner attaches a suction cup dildo to the floor and then sits on it in a straddle position.
- The penis owner stands in front of her.
8. Spitroast
For couples hoping to try a threesome, the key is to take things slow. A good start can be watching porn to teach you new techniques and positions or exploring same-gender sex.
Another way is experimenting with sex toys and mimicking threesome positions. For example, spitroast should be on top of your list if you’re considering inviting another man into your bedroom.
This position challenges your blowjob skills and gives you a taste of what a threesome might be like. And the answer is, it’s fantastic; as your partner is penetrating you from behind, the intense pleasure acts as fuel and allows you to perform magic with your mouth.
It’s also a treat if you’re into a power play. Nothing feels as submissive as being penetrated in two ways.
How To Do It
- After attaching a suction cup dildo to the wall, a female partner gets on all fours and inserts the dildo inside of her mouth.
- A male partner penetrates her from behind.
9. Double Header
Nothing says double fun more than the double-header position. This one works best for same-sex couples as it allows you and your partner to penetrate each other simultaneously. How does it work, you might ask? The answer is a double-headed dildo!
Whether you’re a lesbian or gay couple, the doubleheader can take your lovemaking sessions to the next level. As the hip movement does all the work, you can simultaneously stimulate your genitals and even achieve orgasm at the same time as your partner.
If your penis partner is curious about prostate stimulation, Double Header will be a good introduction, especially if you aren’t comfortable inviting a third person to your sex life. Exploring your sexuality might be stressful, but facing the other direction can make them feel more comfortable as everyone stays focused on themselves.
How To Do It
- One person gets on all fours and inserts one end of the dildo.
- The other person positions themselves behind them while facing the opposite direction and inserts the other end of the dildo.
- Synchronize your hip movement to avoid the toy falling out.
10. Double Penetration
Many women have dreamt of having a threesome with two men. It’s not just that you receive attention from two people. The main appeal is the opportunity to try double penetration, which can give you more pleasure and culminate in blended orgasms.
While this sounds like a lot of fun, threesomes are tricky to organize, and the first time is always a bit awkward. Plus, a lot of things might go wrong. But even if you don’t want to risk a bad experience, you don’t have to give up on the fantasy just yet.
You just need to invest in sex toys.
All you need is two dildos or one double-headed dildo – either will do the trick. Before you try double penetration, it’s best to play with one dildo first and find an angle that gives you the most pleasure.
Make sure to get to know your body. Take some time to get used to anal penetration and buy lube. Once you’ve had a bit of practice, you can introduce a second dildo and have a go at double pleasure. The wait will be worth it.
Oh, and just because you’re busy with two dildos doesn’t mean you can’t give your clitoris some attention, too. Get yourself a suction cup dildo that can be attached to the floor and stimulate your sensitive area with a vibrator. Other sex toys you can use are nipple clamps or a ball gag. An unforgettable orgasm is guaranteed.
How To Do It
- For traditional dildos, find a comfortable position that allows you to access both your back door and vagina. The most popular options are spooning and doggy style.
- For suction cup dildos, you can attach them to the floor or a wall; get yourself wet with cowgirl or doggy position.
- Remember to use plenty of lube.
Rachel
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