Curious about taking pleasure to new depths? Anal masturbation might just be the exhilarating exploration you’ve been missing. Known for its intense sensations, it could unlock a whole new level of orgasm you’ve yet to experience.
This guide will walk you through everything from the basics to the best aftercare practices, ensuring a safe, enjoyable, and enlightening experience. Whether you’re venturing into anal play solo or with a partner, we’ve got you covered with step-by-step instructions and tips to enhance your journey. Ready to explore a lesser-known path to pleasure? Let’s dive in!
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What Is Anal Masturbation?
Anal masturbation involves stimulating the anus and the area around it, which can include inserting fingers, sex toys, or other objects into the anus for sexual pleasure.
Various parts of a man and woman’s anus are highly sensitive to stimulation – which is why it feels pleasurable to touch. These parts include your perineum (for women, it’s the vaginal opening to the anus; and for men, it’s the scrotum to the anus), prostate area (for men), and your anal margin.
Why Should I Masturbate Anally?
Anal stimulation gives you the chance to explore your sexuality deeper. According to Mia Sabat, an in-house sex therapist at Emjoy, anal masturbation allows enjoying a frequently untouched erogenous area to discover your likes and dislikes.
You’re also hitting sensitive nerve endings in and out of your anus. Regardless of your gender or sexual orientation, you can learn to find anal masturbation a pleasurable sexual activity. And before you dispute anything, we just want to say – don’t knock it until you try it! You will never truly know how much you could enjoy it until you give it a shot.
The best part of exploring anal stimulation is learning about the things you enjoy on your own. Use it to your advantage to share with your partner or future partners.
Does Anal Masturbation Hurt?
Anal masturbation should be a source of pleasure, not pain. While you might experience some discomfort initially, actual pain should not occur. If it does, it’s a sign that you may need to adjust your approach.
Here are some common causes of pain and how to avoid them:
- Abrupt or Forceful Stimulation: Start slowly and gradually increase the intensity. Sudden or forceful movements can cause pain and increase the risk of injury.
- Insufficient Lubrication: Always use plenty of lubricant to reduce friction and enhance comfort. The anus does not naturally lubricate, making a good quality lube essential for safe anal play.
- Tense Muscles: Relaxation is key. Try deep breathing or a warm bath before beginning to help relax your anal muscles.
To make your experience as enjoyable as possible, here are a few health and safety tips:
- Warm Up: Begin with gentle external touches to help your body adjust to being touched in this area.
- Use the Right Tools: Only use toys specifically designed for anal play, as they are shaped to prevent too-deep insertion and have a flared base to stay outside the body.
- Listen to Your Body: If you feel pain, stop. Pain is a clear indication that something isn’t right. Adjust your technique, add more lubrication, or stop and consult a healthcare provider if the discomfort continues.
Can I Orgasm From Anal Masturbation?
Yes, you can definitely have an orgasm from anal masturbation. This area is sensitive because it has many nerve endings [1], which makes it a hotspot for pleasure. Plus, for people with a prostate, stimulating this gland can lead to really intense orgasms, often called prostate or “P-spot” orgasms.
Even if you don’t have a prostate, anal play can still feel great because of the general sensitivity. For women, it can also indirectly stimulate the G-spot because of its proximity.
My Favorite Anal Masturbation Methods
You might be asking, “How do I even begin?” You’ve come to the right place – we’re here to talk about some of the easiest methods to try for your first-time anal masturbation. Here are 5 of the best ways and toys you can start with.
Use Your Fingers
The easiest method to use is your fingers. This technique is also known as manual stimulation – as you’re in control of each movement rather than using a sex toy.
It’s essential to ensure your fingernails are trimmed for this technique. Sharp fingernails would nick your anus opening, but they could also give you an infection. There are a ton of bacteria hiding under our nails, and keeping our fingernails short and clean avoids any risk of dirt seeping in and hurting our anal opening.
If you want to feel even more secure – try using latex gloves. A glove makes it easy to insert your finger when you load it up with water-based or silicone-based lube. Just be sure to use the right lube suitable for latex.
Try Using Anal Beads
There are different-sized and numbers of anal beads for you to start with, especially if you’re a beginner. They’re designed to be inserted and repeatedly taken out of your anus to hit your internal erogenous zones.
Some of the most common anal beads look like open bracelets but with beads increasing in size. Most come in 10 different-sized beads, while others come in 3. The gaps between each bead are known as the “neck,” which feels sensational whenever you insert and pull each bead.
Load up your anal beads with lube before penetrating them inside your bum hole. And remember, start small. You don’t have to insert every bead inside your anus. Instead, work with the smallest bead until you’re comfortable enough to move to the next size.
Try Butt Plugs
Butt plugs have many shapes and sizes while having the same function – it plugs into your butt. Regardless of your gender or experience level – you can find pleasure in adding this sex toy to your repertoire.
It’s a great toy to use for anal preparation too. You can slowly insert the butt plug in your anus opening to help your muscles relax. Whenever you remove and reinsert it – make sure to reapply the lube. You can also put some lube on your anus before putting your butt plug in.
Ever Heard of Prostate Massagers?
Prostate massagers are toys made to stimulate the prostate gland, a small, walnut-sized gland located inside the anus, between the bladder and the rectum. These toys are usually shorter than dildos because they’re designed to target just this area. When you use one, you might feel a soft, fleshy spot inside your rectum—that’s your prostate.
Prostate massagers are different from anal beads because you don’t need to keep inserting and removing them. They have a curved design that fits comfortably inside your anus and rests directly against the prostate, enhancing your anal masturbation experience.
Try Using A Suction Cup Dildo
A suction cup dildo may sound intense, but it’s actually a great tool for hands-free anal stimulation. Just as the name suggests, this dildo has a suction base that you can attach to different surfaces, allowing you to simulate anal sex without using your hands. This feature can make the experience more enjoyable and might even lead to a hands-free orgasm.
You can attach it to a wall and approach it from behind. You can also stick it onto your shower wall for a steamy shower masturbation session or on your floor to ride on top of it. But please stick it onto sturdy surfaces and furniture that doesn’t easily move around. Dressers or wardrobes are less recommended as they can easily fall on you.
Friendly reminder: Only use products designed for anal use on your anus!
We can’t tell you this enough, but sex toys or anal vibrators designed for anal use should only be used in your backdoor area. For obvious reasons, don’t use makeshift toys or phallic-shaped food like cucumbers or zucchini up your bum. It can get stuck, damage your anal opening, or hurt you. It also saves you an embarrassing trip to the ER.
Anal sex toys are designed perfectly for the anus. They have a flared base to keep it from going up your anus.
It goes without saying; that your sex toys used for anal stimulation should only be used in your anus and nowhere else. It’s your hygienic golden rule when using anal sex toys. Touching your anus and vagina or anus and penis with the same sex toys is a big no-no. They are two very distinct ecosystems that shouldn’t share the same bacteria.
6 Steps To A Successful Anal Masturbation
Now, let’s get to the main event! Here are six easy steps to guide you through your first anal masturbation experience. Remember, being well-prepared is important to enjoying this new adventure to the fullest.
1. Get Yourself Clean
Before starting your session, it’s a good idea to clean yourself to feel fresh and avoid any messy surprises. You can go to the bathroom 30 minutes to an hour before you start. If you tend to have slow bowel movements, eating fiber-rich foods can help speed things up.
Then, go ahead and wash your anus area with some soap and warm water. If you have a feminine wash, this works just as well. Using a pH-balanced feminine wash that’s unscented is your safest bet to avoid irritation.
A full shower is optional if you have more time to clean yourself. You can bend over in the shower and let the water drip into your bum. Don’t be shy to open your cheeks and let the water wash down your anus.
Alternatively, you can use a bidet if you have one. Bidets have different water pressures so make sure it’s not too high. Plus, it’s a quick and easy way to clean your anus.
2. Add Your Favorite Lube
The next important step is lathering it up with your favorite lube. Your anus region doesn’t self-lubricate like our vagina or our penis – which makes lube your go-to friend. You’ll need lots of your favorite lube, too.
Silicone-based lube is most people’s top choice for anal play. It works exceptionally well with most sex toys except silicone-based toys (go figure!). They give a thick and velvety finish, and you don’t have to reapply them as often. Water-based lube should also do the trick; our only caveat is you may just have to keep reapplying it every so often.
Massage oil or coconut oil should be your last resort. They don’t work well with some toys and latex condoms because of their formulation.
3. Set The Mood & Relax
What gets you in the mood? Do you set arousing scents in your bedroom? Dirty text with your partner? Put on your favorite erotica audio or video? Or read an arousing novel? Take as much time as you need to help you unwind. You can get into your favorite self-care routine to set the mood.
Once your space is how you want it to be, you can try breathing exercises. It’s one of the best ways for everyone to feel relaxed. Breathing exercises help you connect with your body, thereby increasing the feeling of pleasure while stimulating your genitals.
4. Start Slowly
Start slow and start small. There’s no need to rush into anal play just yet. The anus needs a lot of patience to feel good,” says Gigi Engle, a certified sex coach and SKYN Condoms sex and intimacy expert. When you start masturbating how you usually would, you’re slowly but surely making your body feel aroused.
You can stimulate your clitoris or insert fingers into your vaginal hole for women. As for men, stroke your penis, frenulum, or testicles.
When you’re at the height of arousal, your muscles are more relaxed. You may feel your heart beating quicker, your body is warm, and you are open to more exploration. Then you can caress the outside of your anus (lining area). Use your lubricated finger or take your lubricated sex toy (anal bead, butt plugs, or suction cup dildo) and gently insert it inside your anus.
Only insert your finger or sex toy as far up as you can. It can ruin the experience when trying to insert as many fingers or put bigger sex toys in. Take your time and repeat the process as you feel more ready to go deeper.
5. Vary Speed & Motion
Once your finger or toy is inside you, try motioning in and out of your anus. You can also try rotating your finger or toy inside.
If you’re using an anal bead, try rotating it and popping it out. Repeat this process until you find the speed that works best for you. You’re hitting a lot of internal nerve endings using any of these motions.
Continue going at it with the movement that feels most pleasurable. Stimulate with the motions you enjoy and have fun with them. Play around this unexplored area until you feel an intense orgasm coming!
6. Focus On Other Erogenous Zones
And the last tip you want to keep in mind is to get your genital and non-genital erogenous zones involved. These are all over our bodies, and you may have overlooked them. Focusing on these sensitive areas will help keep you aroused.
When you’re satisfied, you can stimulate your genital erogenous zones next. Sensually play with non-genital erogenous zones such as your inner thighs, butt cheeks, small of your back, or chest while performing an anal play.
For men, these areas include your perineum (between the anus and genitals, rectum, the frenulum (behind the tip of your penis), and prostate. These areas include your clitoris, vaginal opening, and G-spot for women.
Best Anal Masturbation Positions
Once you’ve got the basics figured out, it’s time to explore positions to enhance your anal play. You can try different positions to see which feels most comfortable and enjoyable for you. This variety can really spice up your experience and make it even more pleasurable.
1. Try It In Doggy-Style
The go-to position for this is doggy style. To get into this position, kneel on your hands and knees. Then, using your dominant hand, reach around to your back and guide your fingers to the anal area. This position allows easy access and can be quite comfortable as you explore.
You can gently massage and play around your anus with the method you find the most pleasure from. You may also take your lubricated dildo and masturbate with it. Let loose and let the experience take you to cloud nine.
2. Why Not Go Missionary?
It can’t go wrong with the good ole’ trusty missionary. When you masturbate anally, the missionary position is the same as when you’re having sex with a partner.
All you have to do is lie comfortably on your back, and once you’re comfortable, you can spread your legs and bend your knees. Then reach your arm underneath your back until your finger reaches your anal region.
Again, introduce your dildo or anal toys to come and play.
3. Try The Spooning Position
The spooning position is great for those who lack flexibility since it’s effortless and provides easy access to your backdoor.
You can do this by having your legs slightly forward on your bed. Lie on your side and have yourself shaped almost like a half-moon position. Now, all you have to do now is reach your fingers behind you and start touching, caressing, or inserting them into your anus.
4. Try It Facedown
Another position that makes all the difference is lying face down. It is very similar to your missionary position, except your back is towards the ceiling as if you were getting a full massage.
Lie face down and rest your cheek on your pillow. It helps put a pillow underneath your stomach to give you easy access to your anal opening.
5. Do It In A Cowgirl Position
The cowgirl position is sexy. There’s not much to a cowgirl position but to have your knees spread open as if you were straddling someone.
When upright on your knees, reach your dildo or finger and begin anal play. After a while, you can use your free hand and place it on your bed for support. Cowgirl is also fantastic when you’re doing it with a partner.
You don’t have to do all 5 of these anal masturbation positions in one go. You can take a break between them and explore them whenever you want. Save this for next time, or try it out today; just be sure to have fun.
Male vs. Female Anal Masturbation
Both men and women can experience intense pleasure with this sexual practice:
For men, this involves targeting the prostate, often referred to as the P-spot, which can lead to powerful, toe-curling orgasms. Regardless of sexual orientation, many people find that anal stimulation enhances their sexual experiences significantly. The sensations from stimulating the prostate can lead to some of the most intense climaxes.
Women can also experience profound pleasure from anal stimulation, as the area is rich with nerve endings. Stimulating this zone can be as exhilarating as hitting the G-spot and can lead to arousal and pleasure that might even be stronger than vaginal orgasms.
Involving A Partner
Once you’re comfortable with solo masturbation, you might want to try it with a partner. Why? Because exploring something together can add a lot of fun and excitement! Partnered play allows for more varied stimulation and can really heat things in the bedroom. It’s a great way to discover new pleasures and enhance intimacy with your partner.
Just ensure to have plenty of foreplay, use lots of lube, and maybe even include toys like dildos. Most importantly, always communicate openly and have a safe word ready in case things get too intense. This way, you ensure that both of you feel safe and comfortable while enjoying the experience.
Aftercare
Now, let’s talk about aftercare. In our opinion, it’s just as important as the preparation stages. You want to take as much time as possible with your aftercare routine so you can safely start again whenever you want. Your future will thank you for properly taking the time to be squeaky clean.
Clean Toys & Fingers
Cleaning sex toys is easy and important for maintaining hygiene. You can typically clean them with mild soap and warm water, but please check the manual to be sure. If you have feminine wash or wipes, you can use these for an initial clean of both yourself and your toys. Ensuring your toys are clean protects your health and extends their lifespan.
Pro Tip: You don’t need to clean yourself inside your anus – it’s a self-cleaning part of your system. Cleaning externally with soap and water should be good enough. Now you’re all good to go!
Have fun!
Rachel
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