How To Have A Prostate Orgasm? PRO TIPS from a Sexologist!

Ever wondered how to have a prostate massage? Then get ready for a fascinating adventure! Meet Sandra Larson, a clinical sexologist and our go-to expert in anything sexy. She’s here to share all the juicy details—from techniques on how to massage the prostate and why it improves your sex life in general. Think of this as your personal guide to exploring the exciting but often overlooked world of prostate stimulation. Let’s jump into Sandra’s warm and personal insights on prostate orgasm together!

What is the Prostate?

The prostate is a gland in the male reproductive system, aka the “P-spot”. This rounded lump is packed with sensitive nerve endings, tucked away about two inches inside the rectum between the bladder and the penis [1], roughly the size of a walnut. The P-spot isn’t just chilling there; it’s a crucial player in the whole pleasure production. It crafts and releases prostate fluid, a key ingredient in the magical potion we call semen. Semen isn’t just some science term; it’s the mix of sperm cells, that special fluid, and a bunch of other goodies from different male sex glands.

What is Prostate Milking?

Prostate milking, also referred to as therapeutic prostate massage, is a practice involving prostate stimulation to induce the release of prostatic fluid [2]. This therapeutic act is often pursued for potential sexual health benefits and enhanced sexual pleasure. When it comes to prostate milking, it’s like giving a little love to the nerve endings in the prostate. You can do this with a gentle massage or some rhythmic pressure, either by working on the outside around the perineum or moving to internal stimulation with a finger or a specialized massager.

While the research is still kinda sparse, some studies hint that giving your male G-spot a bit of TLC might actually alleviate symptoms and improve sexual function. And here’s a quirky bonus – regular releases of fluid from the prostate ducts there are thought to bring a bunch of physical and mental perks, for example, it may lower the risk of developing prostate cancer and heart disease.

What Are Prostate Orgasms?

Prostate orgasms are basically prostate-induced orgasms. Some individuals claim that a prostate orgasm can be more intense than the typical penile orgasms from regular activities. They describe feeling a euphoric entire-body sensation with muscle contractions and all. But hey, the debate around prostate orgasms versus penile orgasms is basically down to personal taste. It’s all about what rocks your boat and shapes your views on these things.

Let’s clear up a common misconception that’s been hanging around like an urban legend: the idea that anal sex and penetration are only for gay men. The truth is, every man, regardless of his sexual orientation, is gifted with a prostate from birth. And here’s the kicker: milking often carries a pleasurable sensation, a simple physiological fact that transcends labels and stereotypes. It’s a reminder that sometimes, beneath the surface, we’re all wired the same way – a physiological truth that knows no boundaries.

Now, a prostate orgasm is often linked to things like prostate milking or massage. You can give external and internal prostate stimulation a shot by either going for a gentle touch on the outside around the perineum diving in with a lubricated finger or inserting special tools on the prostate internally. While teasing the outside of the prostate can be a good time, the true fireworks tend to kick in when you venture into the world of anal penetration. That’s where the real deal, the powerhouse of a prostate orgasm, is waiting to blow your mind.

What Does A Prostate Orgasm Feel Like?

It feels like getting a warm wave pulsing through your body, sometimes for minutes at a time. Imagine the feeling you get from climaxing from your penis, but extend that throughout the entire body and make it last for a lot longer. That’s what prostate orgasms feel like.

This excellent Reddit thread has penis-havers describing what a prostate orgasm feels like. Here’s one such example:

“It starts as a quivering deep inside of you. It makes your thighs tremble, and your muscles contract in a very pleasurable way, and it tightens up the way your penis would when fully erect, and you are over-aroused like a pressure inside of you. The pressure was felt before, but that was from defecating, and this is a different kind of pressure. You can feel it rise up to your core, all muscles tightening at once… your temples shaking that’s how deep into your core this is reaching… and then it releases. Your ass, inside, and your thighs tremble and contract the way your penis pumps when you ejaculate. You feel an extreme rush of endorphins and feel-good chemicals, a warmth all over your body. You can barely think, just lay there in ecstasy and a stupor as wave after wave of pleasure courses through you and all over you. Your asshole probably feels a tiny bit sore as you/ your partner most likely had been a bit too rough in the heat of the moment.”

How To Milk A Prostate Properly?

As with any sexual activity, getting the hang of prostate milking takes practice, especially if you’re new to it. Therefore, it’s crucial to engage in proper anal prep when venturing into prostate play for the first time.

1. Training

if you’re thinking about making your backdoor a bit more limber, it’s not an overnight thing – it takes time and commitment. Grab a set of anal beads of different sizes; they’re like your flexible friends guiding you through the process. They help you ease into it and show how far you’ve come. And hey, don’t forget about the trusty butt plug – it’s another option to consider on this adventure. Just take it at your own pace, and you’ll get there!

However, for those who may find themselves on the impatient side of the spectrum, it’s worth noting that the human finger is a small and accessible tool to explore this endeavor. While it can certainly provide valuable insights, it does come with certain limitations in terms of what can be achieved.

2. Anal Douching

For those who have hygiene concerns, there’s an option to consider – the use of an anal douche.

Now, anal douching involves the practice of introducing a fluid, typically a saline solution, into the anal canal. The objective here is to effectively clear out any remaining debris and ensure a clean slate especially right after bowel movement, so to speak.

Explore those special shops that really get your intimate side. They’ve got a bunch of tools to make this process smoother. It’s like giving your anal hygiene a good spruce-up but with all the right gear.

There are many anal cleanse guides online that will go into the specific steps in more detail (We have one in our anal sex guide, for example).

3. Anal Lubricants

The golden rule when it comes to prostate milking is to be generous with the lube, especially around the back door. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t have its own built-in lubrication system. So, coaxing anything through a dry passage? Recipe for discomfort.

Here’s the drill: start by generously applying water-based lubricant around the anus using your index finger. When it comes to stimulating the prostate externally, using a water-based lube is the way to go. Gradually, insert the index finger up to the first marked line, and repeat this process three times, each time venturing a bit deeper. The goal here is to ensure the anus is sufficiently lubricated for a smoother experience without irritating your delicate skin.

Now, if you’re keen to avoid the potential mess of lubricants on your finger, fret not – the ingenious world of sex shops has you covered. There are lube shooters/launchers (like in the image above) available, which are essentially syringe-like devices designed to deliver your chosen lubricant right where it’s needed most.

4. Get Excited

As previously mentioned, the state of arousal serves a dual purpose in our discussion.

First up, it causes the prostate to swell up, making it more open to all sorts of stimulation, both internal and external forms of stimulation. Think of it as the prostate’s way of saying, “I’m ready for some action!”

Here’s the bonus round: arousal does more than just pump up the prostate. It also chills out the sphincter muscles, giving them the green light to be more accommodating. So, when it’s time to bring in the troops—be it a finger, a sex toy, a penis, or hey, even a strap-on dildo—things are a bit more relaxed and ready for the party.

It’s like your body’s way of rolling out the welcome mat for a smoother entry, an insight you can further explore in our comprehensive guide on strap-on pegging.

Techniques on How To Have Prostate Orgasm

1. Using Your Finger/Partner Finger

• Trim Your Nails: Trimming and cleaning your nails might seem mundane, but in the world of butt play, it’s crucial. Neglecting this step could lead to uncomfortable situations, like potential cuts in the prostate and rectal lining. Besides the risk of uncomfortable nicks, well-groomed nails are essential because they can harbor dust, germs, and bacteria. When diving into a prostatic massage, you don’t want to introduce any unwanted guests into the rectum. Picture that – definitely a “Yikes!” moment to avoid!
• Wash your hands: Building a habit of handwashing is a smart move, given the various surfaces we touch daily. When venturing into a prostate-poking adventure, starting with clean hands is crucial to dodge the risk of prostate infection. This mirrors the logic of keeping well-trimmed nails. So please wash your hands thoroughly before diving in – a preemptive strike against unseen particles and microbes hitchhiking on your hands.
• Use a Glove or a Condom: Using a medical glove or condom is like your ultimate safety net, providing a solid 99% assurance against any unwelcome hitchhikers from your hands finding their way inside you. Picture it as your last line of defense, almost like wearing armor on your exploration quest. This extra layer ensures no foreign contaminants sneak past your diligent safeguards. It’s a safety measure that adds peace of mind as you navigate these uncharted waters.
• Never Go from Anal to Vaginal: In the throes of passion, you may find yourself tempted to explore from one enticing territory to another. However, it’s advisable to resist that impulse. If the desire truly strikes, there’s a prudent approach to consider. You can opt to change the glove or condom before making the switch from anal play to vaginal play. Alternatively, thorough handwashing could be on the table, though it might seem like a bit of a mood killer, and we all know that timing is everything in these passionate moments.
• Techniques To Try: For those venturing into the exhilarating world of prostate orgasm, here are a few tried-and-true techniques with a twist of humor. Kick off with the “Come Hither” move – think of it as beckoning a shy cat, but this time, you gently insert your index finger into the anal sphincter, palm up, to engage in a delicate tango with the prostate. Next, there’s the “Circles” technique, where you playfully guide your index finger in whimsical whirls around the prostate, like an artist dabbling in abstract art with a single brushstroke. Then comes the cheeky “Doorbell Technique”: imagine you’re politely ringing a neighbor’s bell, but here, the bell is the prostate gland, and a gentle tap can unleash a world of joy. Remember, it’s all about the rhythm – think of yourself as a conductor, where each movement orchestrates a crescendo of delight.

2. Using Sex Toys

It’s not surprising at all to find out that companies creating intimate toys are getting creative with special gadgets designed for prostate milking during anal stimulation. If you’re considering adding a prostate massage device to your sexual wellness routine, here are two options to choose from.

Vibrating Massagers

When it comes to vibrating prostate massagers (like the image below), you’ll be pleased to know that they don’t demand a Herculean effort. All you need to do is locate the controls for the vibration, and from there, the enjoyment is yours to embrace! Think of it as the easiest form of technological marvel that requires no user manual – simply find your groove and let the good times roll.

Non-vibrating Prostate Toys

Non-vibrating prostate massagers work with your muscles for prostate pleasure. Master the technique by mimicking the halt-urination move, and activating Kegel and sphincter muscles. Hold for 2-3 minutes, take a short break, then repeat. Achieving pleasure with this sex toy isn’t a sprint; it’s more like a marathon. Some finish in under 30 minutes, while others go beyond an hour. Plan a generous chunk of time – think of it as an exercise in patience and perseverance, where the reward is in the journey.

External Prostate Massage

When it comes to the art of external prostate milking, the key lies in locating the precise spot within the perineum. If you happen to be graced with an erection, consider exploring one side of your shaft just beneath your scrotum. As you navigate this region, you might stumble upon a small bump that deviates from the inner shaft of your penis. While caressing and stimulating this particular area, you’ll soon notice that it offers a distinctly different sensation compared to your regular penile activities.

For a more comprehensive exploration of this intriguing terrain, our male perineum massage guide holds a treasure trove of valuable information.

3. Best Prostate Milking Positions

Several positions for prostate massage are at your disposal, whether you’re the maestro of self-stimulation or engaging in this delightful endeavor with a partner. Here are a few to kickstart your exploration.

Prone

For solo adventures, let’s begin with a comfortable recline, facing the bed, ensuring your hands are free to explore. Feel free to introduce a pillow or two as your trusty companions, offering support where needed.

In partner-assisted play, the prone position is key, giving your partner an advantageous angle. Depth isn’t the focus; instead, settle with legs slightly apart. This position allows ample exploration of buttocks, perineum, and other erogenous zones.

For an in-depth exploration, you can refer to our guide on anal-depth training.

For extra sexual stimulation, positioning a couple of pillows under the belly can also present an avenue for additional penile stimulation. It’s all about creating a comfortable canvas for your collaborative masterpiece of pleasure.

Legs Up

The “Legs Up” position, while it may put your stamina to the test, offers a unique angle and pressure that’s well worth the effort.

Here’s the drill: Assume a supine position on the bed, back against the mattress. Gradually elevate your knees toward your chest, securing them in place with one arm. Now, with your other hand, you’ve got convenient access to your anus. In this setup, you’ll notice the added pressure affects the snugness of the rectal cavity. It’s like an endurance challenge with a delightful twist – plenty of rewards for those who persevere.

On the Side

Navigating the spoon position is surprisingly accessible, less physically demanding than lying flat, and, in my humble opinion, tops the list for prostate milking. Here’s the deal: Lie on your side, elevate your outer leg toward your chest, and either cradle it with your arm or let it rest on the bed. This nifty move opens up your anus and perineum for some pleasurable prostate stimulation.

In the partner-assisted version, the side position gives your partner plenty of room to explore both your anus and perineum. Imagine your partner positioned behind you, with the flexibility to venture into delightful realms

Doggy

Ah, the doggy style, a choice so obvious for those venturing into the realm of prostate play, offering an expansive canvas for both solo and partner-driven experimentation. The prostate massage position mirrors the standard doggy-style pose, whether you’re embarking on a solo escapade or diving into the pleasures of partner play.

For those charting a solo course through the realm of anal play, accessing the anus and perineum becomes a breeze. You can navigate through the gap between your legs or explore behind your back with ease.

Now, in the realm of partner-assisted endeavors, simplicity reigns supreme. Your partner need only kneel behind you, ready to take the reins and guide the journey. It’s a position that offers ample space for exploration, ensuring both parties are in for a memorable adventure.

Health Benefits Of Prostate Milking

1. Prostate Health Exam: A prostate exam is performed by medical practitioners who use a tool or their gloved finger to access the rectal area [3], where they perform a massage on your prostate gland. Subsequently, the extracted fluid undergoes examination to detect any underlying medical conditions. In a sense, you can think of it as a detective carefully inspecting evidence to uncover hidden clues, except in this case, the objective is to reveal potential health issues to further improve prostate health.
2. Chronic Prostatitis: Prostate swelling and inflammation can lead to a condition known as prostatitis. As the prostate enlarges, individuals may experience discomfort and pain during urination, along with sensations of discomfort in the pelvis and groin. Additional symptoms may include erectile dysfunction (ED) and fever. In a doctor’s toolkit, one of the approaches to relieve pressure or reduce swelling involves a procedure referred to as prostate milking. During this process, a healthcare professional encourages the prostate to release prostatic fluid, which is tested to identify any underlying prostate problems. Intriguingly, some studies have indicated that regular prostate massage [4], when combined with antibiotics, may, in certain instances, relieve symptoms of prostatitis.
3. Urine Flow Issues: A swollen prostate can also play havoc with urine flow issues [5]. Imagine a scenic route where urine journeys from the bladder to the penis through a tube called the urethra, and the prostate acts as a natural border guard surrounding it. Now, when the prostate decides to bulk up, it can constrict the urethra, resulting in a weaker urine flow – almost like a traffic jam during rush hour. In more severe cases, the prostate can go into “roadblock mode,” completely obstructing the urethra and halting the flow of urine. A prostate massage may contribute to a slight reduction in the size of prostate enlargement, potentially alleviating those lower urinary tract symptoms of Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia (BPH)- a condition that can manifest as men age. Think of it as convincing a bouncer to loosen their grip on the club’s entrance when things are getting a bit too crowded.

Risks With Milking

First things first, a prostate massage shouldn’t hurt. Too much force can lead to discomfort. If pain kicks in, it’s a sign to ease up a bit. Your body’s giving you the cue to take it down a notch. Now, for those who are just dipping their toes into this realm, a bit of soreness can crop up as you navigate uncharted waters. But fret not, for this discomfort is merely a friendly reminder to tread with a lighter touch. There’s no need to lose sleep over it, especially if you take the necessary precautions, which we’ll delve into shortly.

Another potential pitfall for beginners involves the delicate linings of the rectum and prostate. These tissues are as fragile as fine china. Overzealous prostate massage can, at best, result in mild soreness and, at worst, trigger unwelcome bleeding.

Further, people with prostate cancer should avoid having prostate massages [6]. The act of massaging the prostate could inadvertently detach prostate cancer cells from the tumor, potentially facilitating their unwelcome migration to nearby tissues. But does prostate milking prevent cancer? Unfortunately, there are no studies to back this up yet.

Thanks for reading my guide on how to do a prostate massage for a prostate orgasm!

Sandra

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Sandra studied nursing and sexual health and is named one of the world’s top 50 sexologists. She founded My Sex Toy Guide in 2016, where she and a team of experts write about relationships, LGBTQ topics, and other sexuality issues. She has been featured in Men's Health, Wedding Wire, InsideHook, ThriveGlobal, and more.
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