If you use a wheelchair, you may have some questions about using sex toys in a way that is comfortable and safe. Fortunately, many people have shared their experiences online so that you can learn from their wisdom and make the most of your sexual experiences. We also asked our sexologist Rachel Sommer for some additional advice which we summarized in this takeaway box:
- Accessibility: Choose a product that is easily accessible and manageable within your wheelchair. I recommend smaller handheld toys (like a finger vibrator) or something with a long handle for easier reach.
- Positioning: Experiment with sex positions that are comfortable and accessible in your wheelchair. You may need to adjust your body positioning (a sex pillow is great for this) or the positioning of the toy to find what works best for you.
- Adaptations: Consider using adaptive equipment or modifications to make using the sex toy easier. This might include using straps or positioning aids to help hold the toy in place or mounts to attach the toy to your wheelchair.
- Seek Support: If you’re unsure or have specific questions or concerns, don’t hesitate to seek support from a healthcare provider or a sex therapist who is knowledgeable about disability and sexuality.
Table Of Contents
1. Using A Sex Machine
Okay, so diving into the world of sex toys with joint and strength issues can be a bit like navigating a maze with a blindfold, right? But here’s a pro tip from the Reddit realm, courtesy of pocketmoncollector42. She’s tackled this challenge head-on with a bit of creativity and a Hismith Premium sex machine (image below).
Now, before she went full tech with the sex machine, she channeled her inner MacGyver and made her own handles. She used an O ring and a rope handle combo that turns your average dildo into a gadget with a pop socket-like grip. Genius, right? And for the fans of medieval fantasy, she used something called the Oracle model from Funkit Toys, which apparently feels like holding a sword – adds a bit of an epic touch to the experience.
But if you have extra cash to spare, opting for the sex machine would be ideal to use if you’re in a wheelchair, and let’s be honest, who wouldn’t want to be pounded by this beauty?
Now if you’re a bit on the fence about whether this could be a good buy, you can read our full Hismith 4.0 sex machine review here.
2. Sex Toys With Handle
Dealing with arthritis or chronic pain can throw a wrench in your, uh, personal pleasure plans. But don’t worry. RainbowCollar on Reddit has some tips that are like finding cheat codes for a comfortable sexy time. She’s got arthritis in her hands but has become quite the guru in handle-adorned sex toys.
First up, RainbowCollar sings praises about the SilcArts Silc Touch Ergonomic Toy Handle. It’s a J-shaped wonder that can be paired with dildos for an easier thrust without turning into a contortionist or doing a shoulder workout. It’s got three sizes and two styles, but be warned, it’s on the pricier side. Think of it as the luxury sedan of sex toy handles.
Then there’s the Smartee The Easy Use Vibrator and Dildo by Voila. It’s a budget-friendly option with a curved handle like a magic wand for your pleasure. But it’s a one-partner kind of deal – it only works with its own dildo.
Another of RainbowCollar’s recommendations is the Long Reach Handle for the Velvet Thruster Prime (image above). It’s like a dedicated sidekick for this particular toy. Although it might also work with a suction cup dildo, RainbowCollar is a bit iffy about the angle game here.
3. Using A Pillow
Alright, here’s a tip from a Redditor known as Faceblush-Me for those rolling in style (a.k.a. wheelchair users) looking to spice things up in the bedroom. Apparently, a simple pillow can be your best friend when it comes to enjoying sex toys. If you’ve got the option to lie down, whether it’s on a bed or just going rogue on the floor, slip a pillow under your hips. This little elevation trick can make reaching your happy zones much easier. Oh, consider lying on a towel – it’s like having a cleanup crew on standby.
Now, before you dive into the deep end with a dildo, Faceblush-Me suggests a little warm-up session with your fingers. It’s like stretching before a workout – getting you comfortable and ready to go. And, for the love of comfort, keep those nails trimmed! No one wants a surprise scratch in the heat of the moment. Lube is your BFF here, making everything smoother and way more enjoyable.
Once you’re all set, it’s time to play around with positions and techniques to discover what floats your boat. Faceblush-Me might not be rolling in a wheelchair, but she’s all about encouraging exploration and finding your groove.
Now, if a simple pillow could elevate the experience, imagine using a dedicated sex pillow (like the Liberator Wedge Ramp combo in the image above) for it. If you want to start looking for options, here’s a full list of all of the best sex pillows we ranked and tested.
4. Another Sex Machine
So, there’s this Redditor, emptyTrench, who’s dealing with Psoriatic Arthritis and has come up with a game-changing solution for wheelchair users in the realm of pleasure: a sex machine. Yeah, we know this was first on the list, but this double-downs that these babies are life changers!
emptyTrench is all about the Hismith sex machine, praising it like it’s the next best thing since sliced bread. It’s got a bunch of different settings to play with, and it’s user-friendly – no engineering degree required. For those on a tighter budget or with less space, the Hismith Traveler 2.0 is the compact, wallet-friendly cousin.
Now, let’s talk positions. emptyTrench has gotten this down to science. Position one: wall-mounted standing doggy style. It’s all about that energetic vibe and getting a good stretch. Position two: hand-held spooning. Think of it as the slow dance of sex machine positions. Position three: lying on the chest, legs playing the role of welcoming gates. This one’s emptyTrench’s personal favorite. Position four is lying on the side, knees to chest. It’s like the fetal position meets pleasure town, great for easy entry.
Since you might be thinking “We want another sex machine recommendation. We already saw the Hismisth.” Don’t worry we have another one for you. Enter Lovense Sex Machine.
It’s a tad more expensive than the Hismith but it’s Lovense we’re talking about. It’s the top dog for teledildonics and high-end sex toys, so you can bet your bottom that their app is slightly more functional than the Hismith. Talking about it would make this article longer, so please read our Lovense Sex Machine review instead.
5. Using A Vibrator
Alright, let’s tune into some wisdom from sexologist Rachel Sommer, who’s got a hot take on the whole sex toy situation for wheelchair users. Her big idea? Vibrators might just be the MVPs in this game. Why, you ask? Well, in the world of pleasure, vibrators are like having a little helper that does all the heavy lifting for you. It’s like having a tiny personal assistant dedicated to your happiness.
Now, here’s a nugget of practical advice from Rachel: vibrators are not just about ease but also about safety. Picture this: you’re getting adventurous with a dildo, and suddenly, it’s a balancing act worthy of a circus act. But with a vibrator, it’s all chill. Just set it and forget it, like those infomercial ovens. You hold it where it needs to be, and voilà, it works its magic without turning you into an acrobat.
So, for all you wheelin’ folks out there looking to spice up your love life, a vibrator might just be your ticket to the funfair of pleasure. But just don’t grab those run-of-the-mill ones that pop up when you open your Amazon Price account. You have to ‘go hard or go home’ in this one.
Our recommendation? App-controlled vibrators. Yep- these trendsetters and game changers are what you want beside you when that ‘urge’ comes up. Using them is pretty straightforward, but the app might take getting used to. Don’t worry- all those efforts will turn your frustrations into the fruit of pleasure. Want a more specific recommendation? Buy Lovense Lush 3.
6. Accessible Sex Toys
Let’s wrap up our list with some accessible sex toys that Rachel Sommer recommends for our readers who are wheelchair-bound:
- Dame Fin Finger Vibrator has a detachable tether for a better grip, making it suitable for wheelchair-bound people. You can wear it in many ways—at the fingertips, near your palm, or above or below your hand.
- SpareParts HardWare La Palma is a dildo harness you wear on your hand. It fits a variety of sex toys and has two small pockets above and below the O-ring to fit two bullet vibrators and three Ringo Grips. Bonus: You can also use it as a vibrating massage glove.
- The Universal Wand Harness is a holder for your wand massagers. It comes with a harness and 2 straps that go around a pillow (it should fit a pillow between 9 to 28.5 inches in width), which lets you enjoy a hands-free masturbation session.
You can read more about accessible sex toys in this article.
Wrapping It Up
Having a disability or using a wheelchair certainly doesn’t dampen the spice in your sex life. It’s about embracing your unique journey and discovering what stirs your senses and ignites your passion. The adventure lies in exploring different ways to connect with your body and partner, finding those sweet spots of comfort and excitement.
Whether it’s through intimate communication, creative positioning, or simply experimenting with different types of touch and sensations, the possibilities for pleasure are endless. Remember, your physical situation is just a facet of your experience, not a barrier to a fulfilling and vibrant sex life. Keep an open mind, and you’ll find that a deeply satisfying and adventurous intimate life is well within your reach.
Sandra
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