Curious about submissive sex? It may sound intimidating, but toying around with dominant and submissive sex can be one of the most fun and pleasurable experience you’ve ever had. Not only are the orgasms out of this world, but you’re also exploring motions of trust and security with your partner while trying out submissive play. If you don’t know where to start, I have the best submissive sex positions in this article.
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Pile Driver
The first sex position on our list is the Pile Driver. It is one of the more challenging submissive sex positions because it requires some flexibility.
Like the machine, the Pile Driver comes with deep and heavy penetration, strong thrusts, and enough force from the dominant partner. They will be penetrating from a downward angle, giving the top partner complete control over the speed and depth of penetration.
How To Do It
- The submissive partner gets into a fetal position with their knees near their chest.
- They rock back gently and slowly until they get enough momentum to raise their legs over their head.
- They roll back several times until they feel enough room to lift their legs.
- Their lower back should be off the ground as you (dom partner) help place their legs over their body.
- Sexually submissive partner flexes their toes on the ground to support their body still.
- With your feet flat on the floor, bend down and enter from up top. Hold onto your partner’s hips and penetrate downwards.
- Thrust in and out of them repeatedly until you both can last.
Standing Against a Wall
On a more small-scale position, we have the Standing Against a Wall position. A standing sex position is on the tamer side for dom and submissive sex, but it is still an excellent option for switching things up in and out of the bedroom.
It’s incredibly hot to live out your fantasies with standing sex. You can do this anywhere, in public (as long as you don’t get caught) or in the comfort of your own home. Make sure to bring in a lot of roleplay to make this submissive sex position even hotter.
How To Do It
- The submissive partner stands and leans against the wall.
- They lift one leg and bend it. Wrap it around the waist of your partner for more support.
- The dom partner will move their body closer and lean forward at a stance.
- Slowly enter and penetrate, standing up.
- Thrust in and out of your partner repeatedly. Increase your speed and thrust harder for some more pleasure.
- Hold your partner’s hands over their head and lock them against the wall.
Lying Doggy (Prone)
One of the best submissive sex positions for the bottom partner is Lying Doggy. It’s one of the more familiar positions on the list, with a low difficulty level, and can be infinitely hotter with dominant power play.
It’s sensual and effortless for the submissive partner, as you don’t have to do any work. Give your top partner control and bring this to another level by thrusting deeper and harder. Maybe try introducing some light bondage to the mix.
How To Do It
- The submissive partner lies down on their front body.
- They can place their arms in a forearm plank and plop their upper body up, resting comfortably.
- Have your partner enter from behind. They are directly on top of your body, with both knees wide open on either side of your hips.
- Your dominant partner holds onto your waist to thrust deeper. To take this to another level, they can forcefully hold your head down while thrusting deep.
- Introduce slapping of ass cheeks and hair-pulling as tolerable as can be.
- If the safeword is needed, remember to use it.
Frog Tie (Bondage Position)
Now it’s time to spice things up a bit with some bondage. The Frog Tie will be done entirely by the dominant partner. And this is where your BDSM fantasies come to life.
It’s the ultimate submissive position, where you don’t control your body. It can be pleasurable, it can be wild, and it can be fun. Of course, you will need some bondage for this position to work.
You can use some bondage tape, cotton rope, a few belts, or something more commonly found in your closet – a few ties. More on bondage positions here.
How To Do It
- Your submissive partner wraps their arms behind their back as if they were under arrest.
- Your dominant partner grabs hold of the bondage tape and tie your arms. They can wrap it around your chest, binding your arms completely.
- They will also secure your wrists together to keep your hands tied.
- Next, get into a low squat and bend your knees close to your body. Your partner binds each leg tying your ankle to your thigh.
- Your partner helps you in staying balanced. They are in total control over the decision-making on what to do with you.
- This means they control the placement of your body, whether it’s lying down or sitting upright on your tied legs.
- They begin penetration from there and have easy access to your opening.
Missionary With Legs On Shoulder
This missionary Seashell position is far from your plain Jane missionary position. It’s a great sex position to step up from the ordinary missionary we all know and love. Contrary to its name, it’s not too twisted and complicated to get into. There’s no bondage or acrobatics involved, although you’re always welcome to use some bondage here.
Additionally, it is one of the best submissive sex positions to try for deep penetration and amp up the power play.
How To Do It
- Firstly, lie down on a flat surface with your legs stretched out in front of you.
- Second, bend your knees and lift your legs over your shoulder or as far back as possible.
- Your dominant partner comes in to help you keep your legs stretched as far back as possible. Of course, if you can maintain this pose by yourself, there’s no need for this step.
- Next, your dominant partner hovers over you with his arms stretched out beside your shoulders. They begin penetrating from this position and thrust in and out of you repeatedly.
- They can hold onto your ankles for deeper thrusts and take this position up a notch with rougher movements. Penetrating all the way out and quickly penetrating in is a great way to increase the heat, leading to a mind-boggling orgasm.
The Power Grab
The power dynamic behind this sex position is at an all-time high. It’s excellent for letting go of control for the submissive side. Think of this sex position as almost similar to doggy style but with the added power dynamics.
You are free to switch roles when it comes to dom and submissive play. And it’s an excellent opportunity to change the dom role to a submissive role and vice versa. In a non-hetero relationship, the person wearing a strap-on will switch positions.
How To Do It
- Submissive partner gets down on their hands and knees in doggy style.
- Have your dominant partner kneel directly behind you. They will grab hold of your arms and place them behind your back.
- Rest on one cheek instead of your forehead for more comfort.
- Your partner will enter from behind and use your arms as leverage to thrust in and out of you.
- Continue moving in and out of your partner. Start introducing slapping, hair-pulling, and dirty talk to take this position up a notch.
The Armlock Position
The armlock is a sweet surrender. It’s one of the tamer sex positions in this list that is very similar to The Power Grab.
Instead of having both your arms wrapped behind you, your partner grips only one arm behind you for more stability. There are plenty of variations to do while in the armlock, mainly because the difficulty level is low.
The satisfaction you receive, on the other hand, is high. Make sure to bring in dirty talk, hair grabbing, and slapping to heat things up like in the previous position.
How To Do It
- Have the submissive leaning down on their front body with their legs spread open.
- Your dominant partner kneels behind you. His legs are placed on either side of your body.
- They will grab one arm and lock it on your back.
- Your dominant partner enters from behind and thrusts in and out of you. Similar to the power grab, they will use your locked arm as leverage to thrust deeper.
- Communicate what feels good and stick with it until you both experience orgasm.
Doggy Blowjob
The last on our submissive sex positions list is an oral sex position. Because who doesn’t want to receive oral pleasure while being in control over your partner?
Now’s the time to let your partner take charge of how he wants to receive oral. They can hold down the submissive’s arms and guide your head according to their liking. So open your submissive side and let them control your body during this session.
How To Do It
- Get down on your hands and knees on the edge of your bed.
- Your dominant partner stands on the floor and positions their body in front of your face.
- They will then take your head and guide it to perform a blowjob.
- Hair pulling is easy to do while in this position. They will move your head front and back as you give them a blowjob.
- A safe word may not be the easiest to say, so come up with a gesture with your hands to signal when to stop.
Let’s Talk About Consent
Remember to have consent before proceeding with anything sexual. Consent is extremely hot and needed between two partners. Especially when engaging in new sexual repertoires.
Have an open conversation with your significant other about what’s allowed and not during dominant and submissive play. In a non-hetero relationship, it’s best to agree on who will be the dominant and submissive partners.
Once you have consent, you’re just about ready to start. Read more about consent here.
Establish A Safeword
Let’s not forget to agree on a safeword if things ever feel uncomfortable. It’s perfectly normal to step back and stop what you’re doing when you feel uncomfortable.
Plus, it’s for safety purposes too. You may find your body in new acrobatic positions that you’re not used to, and this is where a safeword comes in handy.
Props You Can Use
After becoming familiar with the above submissive positions, you can add some props to the mix; for example, nipple clamps, spreader bars, vibrators, anal plugs, or nipple clamps are excellent products, but there are many ways to use BDSM props. Let’s look at some of them:
How To Do It
- Try restraints like nylon ankle cuffs and arm cuffs. A leather belt in your closet is a good alternative, but a set of ankle and arm cuffs is a better option.
- Sensory play toys like whips, melted candle wax, feather sex toys, nipple clamps, and ice cubes are another great addition to the bedroom.
- The way to go is a full-proof blindfold that hides the entire eye area. Find a thick eye blindfold that blocks all the light to make sensory toys feel much better.
- Last on the list is good old-fashioned vibrators. It’s never a bad idea to bring vibrators of your choosing to the session to complement all your hard work.
Aftercare
After trying out these sex positions and bringing in props, it’s crucial to have a good aftercare routine.
When it comes to hygiene, wash any toys and props that touch your genitals. A mild soap and lukewarm water will suffice. Pat dry with a towel and leave your sex toys to dry clean.
Most importantly, aftercare emotionally is one thing you need to take care of. Talk to your partner about what you enjoyed and how you feel. Aftercare, such as cuddling, cleaning up, or reflecting on what happened, helps reduce negative effects.
Be open about the things you are keen to try again and what sides to submissive sex you are putting off the table.
Wrapping Up
You now have all the tools to explore submissive sex with your partner. When you’re both trying out something new, make sure to have consent, establish a safe word, and have fun with it! Be patient when trying out certain kinky sexual positions, and be safe.
Sandra
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