Maybe you saw a face sitting scene in porn and want to try it with your boyfriend. Then you came to the right place! Our clinical sexologist Rachel Sommer, Ph.D., has summarized everything about how to ride face in this extensive guide!
Facesitting is not a position that most people have tried before. Many women are worried that they will hurt their partner or won’t enjoy it.
But done right, face sitting is one of the most pleasurable and empowering sex positions for women. However, you need to know a few pointers beforehand, so both of you have a pleasant experience.
First, let’s start with the basics and then dive into my detailed step-by-step guide.
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What Is Facesitting?
Face sitting (AKA queening or face straddling) is a sexual act where the receiver straddles the giver’s face to receive oral pleasure using their tongue and mouth. It can also involve anal stimulation, aka analingus.
Why Should I Try Face Sitting?
Face sitting is not a position that most people have tried before. But it’s an intimate act that will make you feel special and pampered.
- Face sitting can be a really empowering position for a vulva owner since she’s in complete control of the act.
- The bottom has better access to the vagina, making an orgasm more likely.
- Finally, if you’re new to anal play, facesitting can be an excellent place to start.
Do Women Like Facesitting?
Yes, many women like facesitting, but it’s not for everyone. When looking through the many Reddit and Quora threads on the topic, it seems to be about 50/50. Some examples:
I sit on my guy’s face often. Him giving me oral sex is mandatory for him; me sitting on his face is a really awesome treat.
I enjoy sitting on my husband’s face. He licks and sucks me something fierce. Also, it leaves his hands free to caress me. Amazing. My only problem is that I know behind me is a rock-hard cock, and I can’t see it from my position. I miss the beads of precum.
I like it, but I rarely cum from it because it makes me feel self-conscious and weird. But the first time I did it, I was drunk, and the guy begged me to do it because it was a turn-on for him- rather than just for my pleasure. That made me really enjoy it because he loved it. Although I can have a dominating personality, so playing it off as a dominating thing can be hot if the guy properly acts submissive, but if it’s just an act, it feels a bit awkward and forced.
I can’t enjoy face sitting myself. I worry about him not being able to breathe, being uncomfortable… And I like to be able to relax while getting oral. Holding myself up is distracting to me, and I try to support my weight, so I’m not sitting on his face TOO much; then, eventually, my legs get tired. I just prefer to be lying down or 69.
On the other hand, face sit appears to be a common sexual fantasy for guys. Some even say it’s a secret fantasy since few bring it up with their partners.
How to Do Face Sitting In 8 Easy Steps
1. Communication And Consent
It’s important to talk with your partner before you start. You can simply say you want to try a new oral sex position, or if you’re open about sex in your relationship, just ask him straight that you want to try facesitting.
In addition, as with all sex acts, you need to have your partner’s consent. Never force your partner to do anything they don’t like. And remember to check in with them during the sexual act to ensure they are comfortable.
Pro Tip: Since your partner will use his tongue on your genitals, it may be an excellent idea to take care of your personal hygiene (shower, etc.) and trim your pubic hair before getting down to business.
2. Create A Safeword
The safeword is a word or phrase you agree upon beforehand, so both of you know when to stop or slow down.
It can be something simple like “stop” or “stop now” or something generic like “red” or “apple.”
It’s important to note that the safeword doesn’t have to be said out loud. For example, you can also tap your partner’s thigh if you want to stop the sex act. It’s crucial if your partner is in a position where they can’t speak.
3. Put Weight On The Knees
It’s easiest to start on a softer surface, like a bed or carpet. Get on your knees at chest level and slowly move your body towards their face until your genitals are positioned directly over their mouth.
As soon as you’re in the correct position, have your partner lick your genitals. You can guide them with your hands or body if they are not doing it right.
If you’re new to sitting on someone’s face, it can be difficult to keep your balance. In addition, it may be hard to find the right angle and place your vulva on the mouth. However, by practicing, these issues will be resolved over time.
Pro Tip: You can move your hands over his body and caress other erogenous zones, like the chest, arms, or thighs.
4. Find Solid Support If You’re Tired
If you’re feeling tired, try to find solid support for your arms and hands, like a headboard or even your partner’s chest. It’s also crucial if you’re not comfortable with your balance.
5. Hover, Don’t Sit!
While doing this, make sure you’re not applying too much pressure on your partner’s face. It’s called face sitting, but you’re not actually sitting on the face (unless they ask for it). You’re hovering a bit above the face – but close enough so they can reach the vulva with their tongue.
While you’re facesitting, ensure your partner can breathe. If the penis haver starts to choke, get off his face immediately!
6. Play With Pressure And Grinding
Once you’re comfortable, you can play with different pressure and movements. Try applying more or less pressure, depending on whether you want a stronger stimulation or not.
In addition, try different grinding motions to see what feels best for you. You can also rub your pubic bone against their mouth, jaw, or even nose. The man, on the other hand, can add fingers or use different oral sex techniques, like circles, blowing air, or sucking on the clitoris.
Pro Tip: The vulva owner can use their leg muscles to control how much body weight they are applying.
7. Try Different Positions
It’s essential to try different positions to see what works best for you. For example, you can turn around and face the penis haver’s feet or try squatting. More on the positions in the next chapter.
8. Add Restraints
If you’re adventurous, you can use restraints like handcuffs, leather cuffs, or even a tie. These toys are excellent for BDSM power play and take your dominatrix game to the next level!
Pro Tip: You can also use a vibrator to get extra stimulation. A blindfold is also excellent for sensory deprivation.
What Are The Best Face Sitting Positions?
Facesitting is an act you can perform in many alternative face sitting positions, ranging from beginner to advanced. Let’s check them out!
1. Cowgirl
The cowgirl position is the most popular face sitting position, and it’s also a great position to start with.
Simply kneel and hover your vagina over your partner’s mouth and get the party started.
2. Reverse Cowgirl
The reverse cowgirl position is also a common position for female face sitting. You simply turn around and face their feet instead of their face.
In addition, you can lean forward or back to play around with different pressures and angles. This position is also an opportunity to give your man a blowjob.
3. Squatting
Squatting is a position that’s a little more advanced and requires some strength and flexibility. In short, it requires you to have your feet on a stable surface and bend your knees to get into position.
4. Sofa Facesitting
The sofa position is a fun position for face sitting, and it’s a more relaxed version of squatting.
In this position, you simply sit down on a couch and face the person’s mouth. The receiver positions their mouth under your vagina and starts licking away!
5. Rimchair
A rimchair looks like a typical chair, but lower and has a hole in the seat for your private parts. The main benefit of a rim chair is the comfort, plus the vagina and anus open up more, meaning more area for the giver to focus on. You can read more about rim chairs in this article.
6. Sex Swing
A sex swing is a sexual aid that allows you to try different sex positions easily. The main benefit is the comfort for the vulva haver, but unfortunately, the sex toy is a bit on the expensive side. Plus, the installation requires some work.
Final Words
Face sitting is a fun position to add to your sex life. It’s a very intimate and sensual experience, and you can enjoy it in many different ways.
The best thing about facesitting is both genders can do it, and there are no rules or limits. You can do it in the bedroom, the living room, or even in the sauna.
You can start with the basic facesitting positions, move on to more advanced ones, or try something completely new.
Thanks for reading my guide on how to ride a guy’s face!
Rachel
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