Did you know several studies have revealed a higher orgasm rate in lesbians compared with heterosexual women? [1][2] Well, as a lesbian woman, I am not the slightest surprised. We sisters are familiar with our bodies and know how to hit that clit the right way! We also tend to value our partner’s pleasure more than our own. [3]
However, if you are new to lesbian sex or just want to spice things up in your bedroom, I have compiled a list of my 7 proven and tested sex positions for lesbian couples. These positions have gone through hours of bedroom testing, and most are rated 10 on my orgasmo meter (my partner Jessica can attest to that!)
Let’s check them out!
Table Of Contents
1. The 69
The sixty-nine is one of the best positions for lesbian couples because you pleasure each other mutually. There’s nothing more arousing than hearing your partner moan while you receive the same kind of attention.
This position also focuses on clitoris stimulation, the center of female pleasure. While most men believe women can achieve orgasm from penetration alone, women know that our clitoris is the key to sexual satisfaction. And science is on our side. According to recent findings, women who orgasm more frequently receive cunnilingus more often than those who rarely experience a climax. [4]
So, if you’re seeking a mind-blowing climax, make sure to give the sixty-nine position a try.
Pro Tip: You can enhance the experience by stimulating each other’s anuses, aka rimjob.
How To Do It
- First, one partner lies down on her back.
- The other partner faces the opposite direction and positions herself over the partner’s body so that her vulva is over the partner’s face.
- The kneeling position is most comfortable and helps you avoid putting body weight on your partner.
- You can also incorporate anal play; use your tongue or fingers to maximize the pleasure.
2. Face Sitting
Facesitting is not only for clitoral stimulation. It also lets you try out power play fantasies. With power play, one is dominant, and the other is submissive. So, when you’re on top, you’re in a position of power, and your partner’s only role is to please you.
Trying new things is essential to prevent the relationship from going stale. According to a sex educator, Tristan Taormino, incorporating variety in the bedroom improves the connection between you and your partner. [5] So don’t be afraid to talk about your fantasies and let yourself explore.
Pro Tip: You could spice things up with a bit of role-playing. For example, imagine your partner is a naughty student who must be punished. The punishment is serving you through performing cunnilingus while hearing your dirty talk.
How To Do It
- First, one partner lies on her back.
- The other partner straddles herself over the partner’s mouth to stimulate the top partner’s clitoris.
- The bottom partner can reach and stroke the top partner’s breasts.
- Don’t forget to switch places!
3. Doggy Style (Strap-On)
Doggy is one of the best girl-on-girl sex positions, especially if you enjoy deep penetration sex. Your hands are also free to stimulate your partner’s other erogenous zones. For example, you could rub her nipples or rub her clit. She will beg for more! Trust me.
Want some evidence? A recent study showed that 81.5% of female participants found nipple stimulation crucial in sexual activity. [6] They reported increased arousal and better sexual experience overall. With heightened arousal comes more vaginal lubrication, so you might not have to use anything extra for penetration. Voila!
Additionally, other studies showed that about 76% of vulva owners make penetration more enjoyable by moving in such a way that the toy rubs their clitoris. [7] Alternatively, you can stimulate your partner’s clitoris yourself.
After inserting the strap-on dildo, please check in with your partner to ensure they’re okay with the depth and speed. Next, have your partner try the angling technique – adjusting the pelvis by trying out different angles, allowing for more pleasurable penetration.
How To Do It
- If you’re taking on the penetrating position, have your receiving partner kneel on all fours.
- Put on the strap-on and enter your partner from behind.
- This position is one of the most versatile on this list; you can incorporate nipple play, anal penetration, and oral sex.
- Alternatively, you might try using double-ended dildos.
4. Missionary
Next, let’s discuss the popular missionary position. I know, I know. Some folks think it’s boring. But hear me out before you rule it out.
In my opinion, missionary is actually a very versatile position, especially for same-sex couples. Why? Well, here are my four primary reasons:
- Missionary is one of my favorite oral positions. It enables me to spread Jessica’s legs wide open, so I get my tongue in deeply. Yummy!
- It’s also one of the best strap-on positions for lesbian couples. If you buy a curved dildo, the missionary allows it to rub heavenly against your partner’s G-spot. (Check out this article for more good G-spot sex positions)
- You also have easy access to your partner’s anus, allowing you to try anal sex or a rim job (but remember moving from anus to vagina might cause infection).
- Finally, it’s a good position for sex toys. So, buy a vibrator to spice things up!
How To Do It
- If you take on the giver’s role, ask your partner to find a comfortable sitting position. For example, have your partner sit on the edge of the bed. Or have your partner lying down.
- She can lean back on her forearms for a more comfortable position. Or fully lay down on her back.
5. Mutual Masturbation
Mutual masturbation is highly arousing and intimate, and it allows you to learn more about each other’s needs. There’s nothing sexier than knowing how to please your partner and receiving the same kind of treatment.
Mutual masturbation sessions can also be freeing as lesbian sex goes against social norms. Society has ignored female pleasure for a long time, and women’s role in the sexual context was reduced to reproduction or fulfilling men’s needs.
Therefore, masturbating with your partner allows you to completely give in to pleasure. Recognize your sexuality as something to be celebrated for the simple reason it’s enjoyable.
How To Do It
- Mutual masturbation leaves room for creativity. But the most common way is lying on the side facing each other.
- From here, you can pleasure your partner with your fingers or start with nipple stimulation.
- Alternatively, you can use a double-ended dildo for mutual penetrative sex.
- You can also stimulate your partner using your fingers or incorporate sex toys into your play.
6. Spooning
Spooning is not only for strap-on sex. If you’re the receiver, you can relax and enjoy different kinds of sensations. For example, have your partner reach around to stimulate your nipples or clitoris. On the other hand, if you’re the giving partner, your efforts will be rewarded, with your partner screaming in pleasure. Whichever side you choose, it’s a win-win.
Spooning is also great for maximum closeness. When your body presses against your partner’s, you can embrace them to make this even more intimate due to the release of the oxytocin hormone that facilitates bonding.
While one of the main reasons lesbians report having sex is to relieve desire, the need for emotional connection is essential. [9] In fact, lack of emotional closeness might contribute to ‘lesbian bed death’ – the decline of sexual activity. Previous studies indicate that greater sexual satisfaction is associated with emotional factors such as closeness, and greater sexual satisfaction predicts greater frequency. [10]
If you want to avoid death bed and increase your connection with your partner, be sure to include the spooning position in your lovemaking session.
How To Do It
- One partner is the big spoon, and the other is the little spoon.
- If you’re the big spoon, have your partner lie on her side.
- Put on a strap-on and lie down behind your partner.
- Use lube to allow for easier entry.
7. The Scissor (Grinding)
The Scissor might be the first thing that comes to your mind when you think of queer sex. While it might seem a stereotypical view of how sex between two women should be, it’s widely used by women who sleep with women.
For example, a recent study showed that 90.8% of surveyed participants tried genital scissoring with a female partner. Additionally, 99.8% of women admitted having engaged in genital rubbing, which is precisely what scissoring is typically all about. [11]
This Scissor is enjoyable due to direct clit stimulation but can involve grinding against each other’s thighs or other body parts. You’re doing it right as long as it’s skin-to-skin and feels nice. I also recommend keeping eye contact for heightened pleasure.
How To Do It
- Sit down, facing each other.
- Then, one vagina owner places her right leg (top leg) over the other women’s left leg and her left leg under her partner’s right so that the genitals touch.
- As rubbing involves the outer part of your genitals, make sure to use lubrication to prevent friction wounds.
- While the most common variation includes rubbing each other’s genitals, this position doesn’t have to involve your vulvas and pubic bone areas touching.
Final Words
The key to an enjoyable sex life is variety. While lesbian sex might seem restrictive due to both partners having the same body parts, it opens the door to many possibilities. For example, queer women can incorporate double-headed dildo, anal play, oral sex, and direct clitoral stimulation. Your imagination is the limit!
Don’t be afraid to explore new sex positions and mix things up – get that passion flowing; it’s the recipe for great queer sex.
Rachel
References:
[1] https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jsm.12669
[2] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28213723/
[3] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5087699/
[4] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28213723/
[5] https://www.lelo.com/blog/from-the-experts-the-importance-of-fantasy-in-relationships/
[6] https://www.researchgate.net/publication/227715352_NippleBreast_Stimulation_and_Sexual_Arousal_in_Young_Men_and_Women
[7] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8046227/
[8] https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0011392119826619
[9] https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Jessica-Wood-15/publication/288371252_Reasons_for_having_sex_among_lesbian_women/links/56951f0408ae3ad8e33d4d06/Reasons-for-having-sex-among-lesbian-women.pdf
[10] https://books.google.co.uk/books?hl=en&lr=&id=Ae39o9m66hIC&oi=fnd&pg=PA70&dq=cuddling+and+sexual+satisfaction+lesbian&ots=bz3L9dNRFa&sig=CXXJ3jYuGuJDxuUpc5pajoeu6dk&redir_esc=y#v=snippet&q=frequency&f=false
[11] https://sti.bmj.com/content/88/6/407.short
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