13 Best BDSM Collars in 2024, Reviewed by a BDSM Educator

There’s no better or more comfortable BDSM collar than Stockroom’s Premium Garment Leather. Extraordinarily well-designed and excellently manufactured from premium-grade materials, it’s safe and impressively versatile. No wonder it performed better than the other products in our test and then some!

Why You Should Trust Us

Hi, I am M.Christian and BDSM collars and I go way back. From the chain and heart-shaped lock I placed around my wife’s neck to the collar I wore years later as a full-time submissive, I know why they’re so hot. During my years in the BDSM community, I’ve seen everything under the sun and learned everything about them.

My years as a well-known erotica writer, sex tech journalist, and sex educator have furthered my knowledge about kink, BDSM, and what makes a good and a great collar. All this makes me ideal for presenting this list of the thirteen best BDSM collars.

I also love hearing stories from my readers, so if you have questions, don’t hesitate to reach out. You can call me at +1 307-372-3895 or send an email to [email protected]—just make sure to include your name and contact information.

How We Picked The Products

A lot of thought went into putting together this article because each product had to be carefully considered based on a series of stringent criteria. For example, how little or much they cost and how well or not the company making them is respected by the BDSM community.

But those weren’t the only factors I used when weighing the pros and cons of these BDSM collars. To help pull back the curtain a bit on my decision-making process, here are the test criteria that we could measure on a scale from 0 to 100:

• Manufacturer: More than anything, I carefully examined how skillfully a product was made. I paid particular attention to stitching if is made from leather. I similarly went over how securely riveted the metal collars were. But I also considered what my fellow kinksters thought about these sex toys and the people who created them.
• Material: It’s one thing to make a collar that looks good, but what they’re made of means if they are durable or comfortable as well. I gave or subtracted points based on whether these sex toys used high-quality vegan leather, nickel-free metal, plastic, etc. It’s not just because they are stylish; if they’re made of especially rough or coarse materials, no one can wear them for long. After all, it defeats the purpose if they’re uncomfortable or painful. Sometimes a product with faux fur lining can be easier to wear than a metal BDSM collar. A collar with a D ring must be made of strong steel to be safe.
• Design: You might think collars are pretty simple to design. However, this is not the case with what was used to create them; a good product must be extra-comfortable. It’s another reason why I like to check with the BDSM community, as they know a well-designed collar when they see or wear it. For example, the Sincerely Lace Collar is a great discreet model.
• Safety: Because these toys are worn around the neck, my review samples had to be as safe as possible. If you have sensitive skin, you’ll want a vegan leather model or one made with nickel-free metal. For those into rough play, you’ll want something with a tough D ring or one made from an especially durable material.
• Versatility: Although collars aren’t usually very versatile, I still awarded bonus points to those that’ll look great in various events or BDSM play spaces. The same applies to extra features like a ball gag or built-in quick-release clip.

I began my selection process with twenty of the most popular collars. Next, I sent them to my team of dedicated sex toy testers. After receiving their feedback, I solicited the opinions of some BDSM enthusiasts and sex educators.

During testing, we rated each test criterion on a percentage scale from 0% (Worst) to 100% (Best). We then calculated the overall score using different weighted metrics depending on the importance of the test criteria. Half the total rating comes from Safety (25%) and Design (25%). After that comes Material (10%), Manufacturer (10%), and Versatility (5%).

Lastly, I checked whether or not the finalists were favorably reviewed online. The result is this, my list of my favorite products this year.

Everything We Tested

In this chapter, you can see a comparison table with all the products we tested. As you can see, each row has the test criteria our team used during the testing. To make our testing process even more transparent, we also included the raw test data so you can see how the products performed with each test criteria.

Name	Garment Leather	Faux Leather	Brown Leather	Buckling	Deluxe Leather	Tall Curved	Cute Heart	Lead Me On
Category	Best Overall	Budget	Luxury	Clamp	Men	Thick	Locking	Training
Average Rating	95%	94%	93%	92%	91%	90%	89%	88%
Design	95%	94%	94%	92%	93%	91%	90%	89%
Manufacturer	93%	92%	92%	91%	90%	92%	89%	87%
Safety	94%	95%	94%	92%	91%	90%	92%	92%
Versatility	95%	93%	92%	93%	92%	89%	88%	88%
Price & Value	90%	94%	84%	87%	91%	89%	92%	93%
Price Tag	$35	$22.99	$106	$70	$29.99	$49	$25	$19.99
Material	Leather & Steel	Vegan-Friendly, Faux Leather & Metal	Leather & Gold-Colored Fittings	Steel, Rubber & Leather	Leather & Steel	Leather & Steel	Leather & Gold-Colored Metal	Velcro & Metal
Length	13.3 inches-16 inches	38 inches	18 inches	12 inches- 17.5 inches	22 inches	17 inches - 19 inches	12.5 inches - 16.5 inches	48 inches
Color	Black, Pink & Red	Black	Black & Gold	Black & Purple	Black & Silver	Silver & Black	Baby Pink	Black

1. Stockroom’s Premium Garment Leather: Our Test Winner!

Why I Love Stockroom’s Premium Garment Leather Collar:

Ask any BDSM enthusiast who makes the finest quality toys and gear, and they’ll tell you The Stockroom can’t be beaten. You name it, and their experts will design, make, and sell it. Why are they so well-respected by kinksters the world over? The answer is they make the best because the Stockroom’s craftspeople have used and enjoyed every one of their products.

Take their BDSM leather collar, for instance. It’s handcrafted out of ultra-supple leather for an amazingly comfortable feel; this collar is as elegant as it is durable.

Place a Stockroom Premium Garment Leather around your submissive’s neck and watch them beam with joy at how arousing and stylish they’ll feel.

Easily adjustable and available in various sizes to match practically every sized neck, it’s perfect for every imaginable type of BDSM scene.

If leashing your submissive gets you going, I’ve got news for you because Stockroom Premium Garment Leather is also fitted with a perfectly placed o-ring.

Minor Issues I Found During Testing:

Once again, the kinky wizards at The Stockroom have left my team of experienced sex toy testers and myself with little or nothing to complain about. If I had to say anything, I wish the O-ring was rotatable instead of fixed. But even that’s a stretch, as most leashes are fitted with a universal joint anyway.

Why Stockroom’s Premium Garment Is The Best BDSM Collar:

Did I forget to mention that Stockroom Premium Garment Leather also comes in black, luscious red, and sultry pink? Well, it does, making it extra-playfully stylish and hot!

Or how about it isn’t your run-of-the-mill collar but an exceptionally and meticulously example of kink craftsmanship? Look at how much work The Stockroom put into every stitch and rivet. It’s a collar every other BDSM gear or toy maker should look up to.

But there are plenty of other reasons why Stockroom’s Premium Garment Leather topped my list this year:

• Manufacturer: There are good products, and then there are great BDSM collars, and this Premium Garment Leather is one of the latter. Pick one up, and you’ll immediately realize why I’ve awarded it my prize for the highest-rated BDSM collar overall. But no model can be called great if it’s too uncomfortable to wear. Yet again, the Stockroom has utilized its decades in the BDSM play scene to give us a collar that can be comfortably worn for days, weeks, or even longer. Its o-ring is strong and perfect for all sorts of BDSM scenes.
• Materials: Stockroom Premium Garment Leather is created from super-supple high-grade leather and nickel-plated steel and is quality through and through. Nothing cheap or slip-shod about it, which makes its reasonable price tag of just thirty-five bucks so impressive.
• Versatility: With a choice of red, black, or pink, it looks amazing no matter where it’s worn. From fetish ball to BDSM dungeon, casual playspace to street parties, Stockroom Premium Garment Leather and those fortunate to wear it turn all sorts of kink-appreciative heads.

Features:

• Materials: Leather And Nickel-Plated Steel
• Measurements: Comes In Two Sizes. Small To Medium Fits Necks From Eleven And A Quarter To Thirteen And A Half Inches. Medium To Large Os Suitable For Thirteen And Three-Quarters To Sixteen And A Quarter Inch Necks.
• Colors: Black, Pink, And Red

Pros:

• Stockroom Premium Garment Leather is one of the most well-made and comfortable available today.
• A world-famous bondage equipment manufacturer makes it.
• It’s simple yet sophisticated and as durable as it is sexy.

Cons:

• Stockroom Premium Garment Leather is fairly expensive at thirty-five dollars.
• Some people might find it to be a bit too narrow.

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2. Bondage Boutique Faux Leather: Our Beginner & Budget Pick

Why I Love Bondage Boutique Faux Leather Collar and Leash:

Here’s a fantastic combination of affordability, which everyone likes, and a great model for novices. Leave it to the experts at Bondage Boutique to make a low-cost yet high-quality product. Not only that, but this bundle of collar and leash is ideally suited to learning the pleasures of using them.

Using high-grade faux leather, making both collar and leash perfect for vegans, Bondage Boutique’s twofer is a win-win for beginners and experienced players.

Bondage Boutique is so comfortably plush that it’s wearable for a long time. Meanwhile, the thirty-eight-inch leash isn’t too long or short and is ideally suited for parading a submissive around your local BDSM collar play space.

Minor Issues I Found During Testing:

Very little isn’t amazing about this affordable collar and leash combo. However, some of my testers felt the leash could have been a few inches longer. But even that’s a minor quibble and doesn’t detract from this must-buy and very kinky deal.

Why Bondage Boutique Collar and Leash Is Our Budget Pick:

It’s one thing to find a remarkably well-crafted collar, let alone one that comes with a collar, but to get both for just twenty-two ninety-nine is astounding.

So much so that I strongly suggest getting this bundle sooner rather than later. Seriously, less than twenty-five bucks for a product from a respected company like Lovehoney? The mind boggles!

There are lots of other excellent reasons why the Bondage Boutique Faux Leather is our preferred beginner and budget collar:

• Manufacturer: It’s impressive, and then some for Lovehoney to give us an affordable leash and collar but for just twenty-two ninety-nine? Making this combo even better, both the collar and leash are impressively well-made. Newbies and experienced kinksters cannot go wrong by adding this bundle to their playbags.
• Materials: You’d be wrong to think such a low-cost product would be made from low-quality materials. The leather might be faux, but it is a great choice for vegan kinksters.
• Versatility: Here’s a perfect opportunity to see if you like collars with or without a leash. Because this combo comes with both, you can explore the potential delights of subservience and be leashed for a single and very low price.

Features:

• Materials: Vegan-Friendly, Faux Leather; Black Metal Fittings
• Measurements: The leash Is Thirty-Eight Inches Long. Collar Comfortably Fits Necks From Fourteen To Eighteen And A Half Inches.
• Colors: Black

Pros:

• A great and remarkably affordable combination of a leash and a collar.
• Both the collar and leash are vegan-friendly.
• It’s two high-quality BDSM toys for twenty-two dollars and ninety-nine cents.

Cons:

• The leash might be a little too short for some people.
• Some submissives may find it either too tight or too wide.

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3. Stockroom Brown Leather With Gold Accent: Our Luxury Pick

Why I Love The Stockroom Brown Leather Collar:

We all know that looking good can sometimes be as exciting as feeling good. The Stockroom is very familiar with both because only they could have brought us such a luxurious and fabulous stylish collar and leash.

Fitted with gold-finished and ultra-durable metal, wearing their Collar And Leash With Gold Accent Hardware will make you feel like kink royalty. Or maybe an extremely special or perhaps even priceless submissive.

Gold isn’t the only high-class thing about this collar and leash, as the Stockroom used super high-quality chocolate-shaded leather and the highest-quality metal parts they could find. This combo is well worth its one-hundred-and-six-dollar price tag.

Minor Issues I Found During Testing:

Let’s face it; the Stockroom goes all out when they make a collar and leash combo like their gleamingly fine, exceptionally luxurious Collar And Leash With Gold Accent Hardware. The only downside is all that quality comes at a high cost. I know I said one hundred and six dollars is a small price for an elegant leash and collar. The thing is, it’s still a lot, putting this bundle of a BDSM collar and leash beyond the means of most BDSM players.

Why Stockroom Brown Leather Collar Is our Favorite Luxury BDSM Collar:

Here’s a product that’ll make anyone wearing them the envy of submissives everywhere. The BDSM slave collar has glittering gold-plated metal fittings made from buttery-smooth chocolate-brown leather. The leash is just as glittery with a similarly luscious leather handle.

This bundle wouldn’t look out of place at a fine BDSM gala or fetish-fashion ball. There’s no better or finer example of kink elegance than the Stockroom’s Collar And Leash With Gold Accent Hardware.

As one of my testers told me, “When my Master put this BDSM play collar around my neck, I felt like the bell of the ball!”

Here are some other excellent examples of why I’ve crowned this combo as our luxury pick:

• Manufacturer: No one but the Stockroom would dare to make such a jaw-droppingly fine gold-finished collar and leash. Holding it in my hand, I couldn’t help but imagine their wickedly gleaming eyes when they envisioned creating such an amazingly stylish combo.
• Materials: Never in a million years would you believe this product wasn’t made from sixteen-carat gold and not gold-finished metal. Yes, it is gorgeous and then some, especially when balanced against the collar and leash’s premium-quality leather.
• Design: It’s not exactly easy to make an elegant collar or leash that doesn’t look gaudy or, dare I say it, tacky. Experts that they are, Stockroom didn’t just give us a truly luxurious collar and leash combo but a flat-out beautiful statement about the joys and pleasures of BDSM.

Features:

• Materials: Leather And Gold-Colored Fittings
• Measurements: The Collar Is Two Inches Wide And Eighteen Inches Long. The Leash Is Forty Inches In Length With A Handle That’s Five And A Half Inches Long.
• Colors: Black And Gold

Pros:

• A lovely and elegant bundle of a collar and a leash.
• Both the leash and collar are finished in gold.
• Created from supple and super-smooth leather.

Cons:

• This combo is expensive, probably more than many people can afford.

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4. Stockroom’s Buckling Collar With Nipple Clamps: Collar And Clamps Set

Why I Love Stockroom’s Buckling Collar With Nipple Clamps:

If you’re like me, now and again, you may find yourself craving a product that’s more than just a collar. If you also share my fondness for nipple play, hang onto your socks because here’s the best of both worlds.

Allow me to present the only Buckling Collar With Nipple Clamps from the master kinksters at the Stockroom. Slip this around your or your submissive’s neck and hang on tight as its matched pairs of nipple clamps do their pleasingly intense thing.

Only the Stockroom would build BDSM gear this superbly well-made. For example, the clamps are rubber-tipped and screw-adjustable, so they’ll stay put however much the collar-wearer moves. It’s also expertly sized and crafted from comfortably-soft leather.

Minor Issues I Found During Testing:

Not so much a problem with this product as with most clamp and collar combos; the connecting chain might be too short for some people.

Why Stockroom’s Buckling Collar Is The Best For Nipple Play:

Hands down and nipples-up, this is the tip-top collar and clamps combo our testers have ever used. High praise indeed, but not surprising as it’s a product of The Stockroom’s kinky genius and an example of their BDSM craftsmanship.

The following are other examples of why this set of collar and clamps earned the title of the most effective nipple/collar combo kit:

• Materials: Every part is made of durable, safe, and comfortable materials. Odd to say about what many would consider a set of somewhat extreme BDSM toys but true nevertheless.
• Design: Comfortable when it should be and effective when it has to be, this nipple clamp and collar combo is brilliantly designed through and through. Trust in the Stockroom, who knows and respects the importance of quality when making anything, especially nipple clamps, and collars.

You can read more about the best nipple clamps in this review article.

Features:

• Materials: Steel, Rubber, And Leather
• Measurements: Nipple Clamp Chains Are Both A Foot Long. The Collar Is One, And a Half Inches Wide And Can Comfortably Fit Necks From Twelve Inches To Seventeen And A Half Inches In Diameter.
• Colors: Available In Black Or Purple.

Pros:

• It’s a fantastic combination of collar and nipple clamps.
• The kit comes in either black or purple.
• The nipple clamps are rubber-tipped and are easily adjustable.

Cons:

• Some people may find the nipple-to-collar chains to be too short.

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5. DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Collar with Cock Ring: Best For Men

Why I Love DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Collar with Cock Ring:

Just as some like having their nipples clamped while collared, so will male-identified people enjoy this combination of ring and collar.

This set is made of a steel cock ring connected to a simple but effective collar by a length of polished chain. The DOMINIX Deluxe Leather kit may very well be just what you or your male-identified submissive has been dreaming of.

But what if you’re not in a cock-ring wearing mood? If that’s the case, unsnap the chain, and you’re good to go. You can also use the ring without the collar, making this a very versatile set of BDSM toys.

Minor Issues I Found During Testing:

At the risk of sounding like a broken record, a common complaint with collar and other sex toy combos is the length of the chain between the two. Because of this, you will likely want to measure the distance between your genitals and neck to ensure this set will fit comfortably.

Why DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Collar is the top men’s BDSM collar:

There’s a lot to love (and lust over) about this arousing combination of a ring and collar. If you have a penis or know a playmate equipped with one, then the DOMINIX Deluxe Leather kit will make them very happy campers.

Buckle this collar around their neck, slip on the ring, and hang on as this set gets theirs and your motors revving!

Here are many more fine reasons why the DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Collar with Cock Ring is my recommendation for men:

• Design: Both this set’s collar and ring are skillfully engineered to increase pleasure and reduce discomfort. Not only that but they make a bold and arousing statement that here’s a submissive who knows how to serve their dominant.
• Versatility: This set can easily go from two BDSM toys acting as one or a pair of independent ones. Just unclip the cock ring’s chair, and it’s a fashionable collar. In the same way, if you only want to use the cock ring, you can put the collar aside.

Features:

• Materials: Leather And Steel
• Measurements: Connecting Chain Is Twenty-Two Inches Long. Cock Ring Is Available In Two Sizes: One And A Half Inches And Two Inches In Diameter.
• Colors: Black And Silver

Pros:

• It’s an ideal melding of a collar and a cock ring.
• Everything is finely crafted and made from quality materials.
• It’s a great choice for male-identified submissives or dominants who play with them.

Cons:

• The connecting chain is non-adjustable.

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6. Stockroom’s Tall Curved Collar: For Posture Play

Why I Love Stockroom’s Tall Curved Collar:

Back with another awesome return engagement is the Stockroom with their ultimate posture collar.

Posture collars are designed to keep the wearer’s neck straight. But leave it to the Stockroom to create a great leather BDSM collar that’s as extraordinarily comfortable as it is beautiful to wear.

Minor Issues I Found During Testing:

Posture collars are one of those take-it-or-leave-it sorts of BDSM toys. Some people enjoy wearing them, while others may find them extremely uncomfortable. So think long and hard about whether or not the Stockroom’s Tall Curved is right for you or your submissive.

Why Stockroom’s Tall Curved Collar Is The Best Thick BDSM Collar:

No one does kink better than the Stockroom. It’s very good for kinksters like you and me, as posture collars must be perfectly designed and carefully made. Otherwise, they will be uncomfortable and possibly dangerous to use for longer than a few minutes.

But that’s just the start of why Stockroom’s Tall Curved is our favorite thick BDSM collar for posture play:

• Manufacturer: Who else but the Stockroom could make a posture collar that’s rigid enough to prevent slouching but pliant enough to be comfortable? It’s a marvelous, impressive meld of strong, soft leather with premium steel fittings.
• Design: You can’t just whip up a posture collar and call it a day. The Stockroom thought a lot about what makes a great and not just a good product. Next, they put their research to good use when conceiving their consummate posture collar.

Features:

• Materials: Leather And Steel
• Measurements: It Comes In Three Different Sizes. The Small Fits Necks From Thirteen To Fifteen Inches. The Medium Is Suitable For Fifteen To Seven Inch Necks. The Large Can Accommodate Necks From Seventeen To Nineteen Inches.
• Colors: Silver And Black

Pros:

• This posture collar is expertly designed and excellently made.
• You can wear it for long periods if desired.
• It’s attractive and comfortable and keeps the wearer’s neck straight.

Cons:

• Posture collars require careful monitoring to prevent injury.

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7. Stockroom’s Stupid Cute Heart Lock Choker: Locking Model

Why I Love Stockroom’s Stupid Cute Heart Lock Choker:

Far too often, black is the only color bondage collars come in. There are millions of kinksters out there craving something that isn’t dark and intimidating. The Stockroom not only gets the allure of a less-than-harsh collar but created the Stupid Cute Heart Lock Choker for all of you BDSM romantics out there.

Pretty as a button and lovely as a rose, this product is, as its name suggests, spectacularly cute. The BDSM choke collar is as much a fashion accessory as it’s a way to proclaim the wearer is consensually owned by their dominant.

Minor Issues I Found During Testing:

Due to its undeniable cuteness, the Stupid Cute Heart Lock Choker will likely not appeal to kinksters who prefer a darker, sterner collar. But even the most hardcore BDSM enthusiasts must admit it’s cool that the Stockroom sells various differently colored and uniquely stylish collars.

Why Stockroom’s Stupid Cute Heart Is our Preferred Locking Collar:

Time and time again, the Stockroom has demonstrated a BDSM gear and toy manufacturer that knows what leather gear their customers want. More power to them; they aren’t scared to go where other companies fear to tread, like creating this cute and playful locking bondage collar.

Their playfulness and dedication to quality don’t stop there. For example, there are more points in their favor and why you can’t find anything better than the Stupid Cute Heart Lock Choker today:

• Materials: Because it’s created from supple and lightweight leather, it can be comfortably worn for longer periods. Much more than thicker, heavier collars or ones with lots of metal fittings.
• Safety: Locking collars should be made to be easily and quickly removed in an emergency. Stockroom’s Stupid Cute Heart Lock Choker may not have a quick-release mechanism, but due to its thin leather, the collared BDSM wearer can be cut free in mere seconds.

Features:

• Materials: Leather And Gold-Colored Metal
• Measurements: Available In Small, Medium, Large, Extra-Large, And Extra-Extra Large Sizes To Fit Necks From Twelve And A Half To Sixteen And A Half Inches.
• Colors: Baby Pink Collar, Gold-Tinted Lock, And Fittings

Pros:

• Whoever wears it will look pretty as a peach.
• The lock is secure without being uncomfortably heavy.
• Its thinness enables it to be quickly removed should something go wrong.

Cons:

• Stupid Cute Heart Lock Choker may not appeal to people who like heavier, more intense collars.
• The lock is more decorative and less secure.

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8. Bondage Boutique Lead Me On: For Sub Training

Why I Love Bondage Boutique Lead Me On Soft Collar and Leash:

We all have to start somewhere, and Lovehoney has a great way to explore the arousing delights of collar-wearing with the Lead Me On Soft Collar and Leash.

The padded Velcro-adjustable product is so soft you’ll forget you’re wearing it. Meanwhile, the forty-eight-inch long leash is great for tall or not-so-tall submissives to be towed along by.

Minor Issues I Found During Testing:

Hardcore, the Lead Me On Soft is not. But that’s also why it’s on my list as excellent for BDSM beginners. Though the velcro isn’t restrictive, I recommend it for experienced players. My reason is buckle collars are sometimes either too tight or too loose. But Velcro play collars like this one fit like a glove.

Why Bondage Boutique Lead Me On is my favorite for BDSM training:

I adore this bundle not only to explore the pleasures of domination and submission. I’ve been a fan of Velcro restraints since first getting into the BDSM community. I’m pleased the Lead Me On utilizes Velcro.

Here’s a brief overview of the other fantastic reasons why the Lead Me On has earned its place on our top list:

• Design: When creating BDSM gear for novices, they must be more comfortable and safer than those for more experienced players. Velcro was practically made for beginners due to its ease of use, adaptability, and comfort.
• Safety: Velcro restraints are splendidly suited for kink beginners as they can be removed faster than you say, “I’m uncomfortable.”

Features:

• Materials: Velcro And Metal Fittings
• Measurements: The leash Is Forty-Eight Inches Long.
• Colors: Black

Pros:

• This bundle is a fantastic introduction to BDSM collars and leashes.
• It’s affordable at just nineteen dollars and ninety-nine cents.
• Velcro can be removed quickly in an emergency.

Cons:

• Lead Me On may not appeal to people into more restrictive or intense gear.

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Other Good Alternatives

Stockroom’s Magnetic Barbell is a great metal BDSM Collar that will make you feel like a badass submissive. Hardcore doesn’t begin to describe the heavy-metal intensity of this steel product. Don’t try to go through an airport metal detector when wearing Stockroom’s Magnetic Barbell Stainless Steel Collar.

Sex Pet Leather Choker With Silver Ring is the most discreet option on this list and perfect for outside wear. It’s so unassuming and pretty most people will think the Sex Pet Leather Choker With Silver Ring is nothing but a pretty choker. But if they’re in the BDSM community, they’ll not only know you’re a submissive but admire how lovely this bondage collar looks on you. One of the top discreet models, it’s great for public or private bondage play.

Qiui Little Devil Electric is my preferred BDSM shock collar and is a surefire way to charge up your sex life. Fit this high-tech, smartphone app-controllable shock collar around your submissive’s neck and watch the sparks fly. The Qiui Little Devil Electric Collar also doesn’t take its shocking good looks too seriously, as it has a pair of little horns to go with its devilish design.

Bad Dog Spiked is a good BDSM dog collar when you want your puppy to come in all the right ways. Modeled after dog collars worn by man’s best friend, the pet collar will have pet play enthusiasts wagging their tails with glee and begging for more. It’s excellent together with a bone gag and tail butt plug.

Bondage Boutique Faux Leather Collar and Cuff Set is my favorite model with wrist cuffs and can’t be beaten for a bondage scene where you want your submissive’s collar to match their wrist cuffs. Bondage play lovers will tie themselves in knots over this faux leather set’s restrictive possibilities.

What Is A BDSM Collar?

A BDSM collar is designed to be worn around the neck of a submissive to indicate they belong to or are in service to a dominant [1]. Collars are made from various materials such as leather, steel, rubber or latex, and more. Sometimes they can be locked, requiring a key to be removed from around a wearer’s neck. Others are equipped with one or more attachment points. A single o-ring might be used for connecting a leash. On the other hand, a collar with several could be utilized for complicated bondage play scenes. For instance, some have a faux fur lining or a ball gag, while others do not.

But Why Should I Use One?

You may want to consider wearing or using a collar for several reasons—the most obvious is to show the wearer’s subservience to a dominant.

Because of this, they are frequently worn proudly as a statement of a submissive’s dedication to their owner. It’s why collars might be made of high-end materials or elaborately decorated.

Collars are also ceremoniously awarded to submissives. Sometimes this is done as a reward for their service or to mark the beginning of a power exchange relationship [3].

Types of BDSM Collars

There’s a huge number of collars currently available which can be quite confusing. It’s surprising when you realize they’re not very complicated, just a look of material usually secured around a person’s neck.

Still, leave it to the members of the BDSM community to let their kinky imaginations fly, which is why it seems there are as many collar types as there are people who love wearing them.

The following is a pretty good rundown of the various styles of collars and what sort of scenes they might be used for [2].

Collar and Leash: A tried and true BDSM classic, these products are usually made so a leash can be attached. Perfect for submissive scenes or public displays of servitude, leashes are equally fun for animalistic activities like puppy play. But I don’t think actual dogs are involved, as puppy play is about a submissive pretending to be a playful and sometimes disobedient pup.

Locking Collar: It’s one thing to wear a collar, but nothing beats a locked one to demonstrate a dominant’s control over a submissive. Many BDSM scenes begin with locking a model around a submissive’s neck and concluding with the dominant using their special key to release them. D rings are sometimes used for locking collars.

Shock Collar: Combine electrical play with a collar, and you get an extremely shocking experience. That said, shock collars should only be used by BDSM experts who understand their pleasures and respect their risks. Only purchase these or any electrical play toys from companies that put the safety of their customers above everything else.

Protection Collar: When a dominant wants to show other dominants their submissive is under their care, they’ll use a discreet collar. They can be made of fine lace and faux fur and may or may not have a d ring with a leash attached. A lace collar is also a sign the wearer is in a BDSM relationship.

Nipple Clip Collar: There’s no reason why collars can’t be linked to all sorts of other BDSM toys. In the case of these collars, they come equipped with, you guessed it, nipple clips. These collars are often connected to their clips via thin chains, rubber tubing, or cords. The only issue I had with this combination of nipple clamps and a collar is it can sometimes be too long or too short.

Day Collars: What if you want to demonstrate your subservience publicly but not immediately call attention to it? The answer is to wear a day collar as they can be worn in public without anyone being the wiser because they balance effectiveness with subtlety. For example, a day collar might look like a choker, necklace, or thin ribbon around the neck. They are also perfect for everyday wear.

Training Collar: As the name suggests, this kind of collar is worn by submissives-in-training before receiving their final, maybe even permanent, one. Because they aren’t made to last a long time, they’re sometimes made from simple materials like ribbon, string, or a length of leather cord. The Bondage Boutique Soft is an especially great choice. Pet play enthusiasts may sometimes wear steel chain models fitted with a d ring for a leash. Bondage ankle cuffs, also called ankle shackles, are favorites when slave training a submissive.

Posture Collar: As much of a fetish fashion accessory as a hardcore BDSM toy, posture collars are crafted to keep the wearer standing straight and true. One type resembles a torque around the neck, while others are larger and more elaborate. Care must be taken not to strain or damage the wearer’s back, neck, or shoulders. Due to this, I feel they shouldn’t be worn for extended periods.

Permanent Collar: Last but not least are permanent collars. The most extreme involves a circle tattooed around a submissive’s neck. But there are less painful options available. As a submissive, I wore my owner’s collar twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. I could do this because it was made of body-safe materials.

How To Use A BDSM Collar?

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Here’s where I review how collars can be used during BDSM play. The good news is they are safe, but only when properly used. Notice I said “properly” because if not, they can be extremely dangerous if not life-threatening. Collar or not, every scene must be safe, sane, and consensual.

Safe doesn’t just refer to minimizing physical but also emotional risks. To reduce the first, you and anyone you play with need to know everything you can about BDSM safety. To limit the second, everyone involved has to thoroughly and completely communicate their likes and dislikes beforehand, including establishing safe words and what to do in an emergency.

Sane means no one’s judgment is impaired and everyone can slow down, take a break, or end a scene at any time.

Consent is about knowing and accepting what you’ve negotiated. But remember, consent can and should be withdrawn at any time and for any reason.

Pulling or tightening a submissive collar is a big safety risk. Sometimes only a small amount of pressure applied to the front of the throat will cause a person to black out or impact their ability to breathe. Never, under any circumstance, allow someone to use a collar this way. It’s resulted in serious, sometimes permanent injuries and far too many deaths.

How To Clean a BDSM Collar?

Maintaining a new collar is easy only when following the manufacturer’s recommendations. Otherwise, you may damage your collar and avoid its warranty.

If your product doesn’t come with cleaning instructions, contact the company or site you bought it from. If you still cannot get the information you need, you should try to clean your collar yourself.

The key to maintaining bondage equipment is to do as little as necessary. Boiling water, harsh chemicals, or vigorous scrubbing damages or ruins a collar.

For collars made from non-natural materials, apply a tiny amount of antibacterial soap or sex toy cleaning solution with warm water, rinse, and thoroughly dry.

Leather devices can be maintained with warm water and a few drops of vinegar. But please do your research, as some leathers need less or more care.

If your collar is metal, avoid polishes because they can cause painful rashes.

You can read more about BDSM sex toy cleaning in this guide.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

What BDSM Collar Is Best For Beginners?

Bondage Boutique’s Faux Leather Collar isn’t only great for novices and a great budget option. Made from the ground up for beginners and costing a mere twenty-two dollars and ninety-nine cents, it’s a fantastic all-around choice. The Bondage Boutique Lace is also great for newbies [2].

Are BDSM Collars Safe?

Yes. When used correctly, collars are completely safe to wear [2]. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t without some risks. As I mentioned, care must be taken not to tighten or pull on them as this may seriously warn the person wearing them.

How To Store a BDSM Collar?

The most effective way to prevent your collar from becoming damaged is to place it in a dry place away from direct sunlight. Placing it in an airtight container with a moisture-absorbing desiccant pack works wonders. You can read more about sex toy storage in this extensive guide.

How To Make A BDSM Collar?

Though collars appear as though they’d be simple to make, I still recommend purchasing a well-made one instead of trying to do a DIY BDSM collar. Making a safe and comfortable collar requires a lot of hands-on experience. Not only that, but it’s frighteningly easy to harm someone with a substandard device, so stick with professionally made products. Your and your submissive’s lives are too precious to gamble with. You can read more on how to make a DIY collar for BDSM in this article.

Primary Sources

1. The BDSM Training Academy. Collar And Leash Play

2. Loving BDSM. 6 Different Types of BDSM Collars (September 2017)

3. Submissive Guide. How to Choose the Right BDSM Collar

4. My Sex Toy Guide. 20 Best BDSM Toys | Spice Up Your Dungeon Play! (August 7, 2022)

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