As we all know, Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. And what better way to celebrate than to plan a romantic date night, gift something special, and end things the best way possible – igniting your sex life? Whether you’ve been married less than a year or for more than ten years, now’s a good time to try new sex positions to celebrate a day of love, all while maximizing pleasure and increasing intimacy without getting into overly complicated positions. To help you get started, we listed the 8 best sex positions for married couples to try. Enjoy!
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Lap Dance
One of the best women-on-top positions is lap dance. For the men, you watch your wife be in control while in this position. All you have to do is sit back and enjoy being pleased by a sexy woman.
For women, it’s easy to feel confident while in a lap dance. You call the shots with your body’s movements and feel the effect you have on your partner. There’s no greater turn-on than knowing your partner wants you and enjoys you being on top.
How To Do It
- Have your partner sit down on the edge of the bed or sofa.
- Spread their legs open.
- Foreplay is vital in lap dance – you can give them a show by strip teasing, performing oral, or kissing them while you get them undressed.
- When you’re ready, face away from your partner and back up.
- Sit on your partner’s thighs.
- Use your hand to guide their penis inside and begin bouncing up and down against their thighs.
- Take it up a notch by arching your back while you grind against them, look back at them for a bit of eye contact, or take his arms and slide it down your body.
Doggy Style
Fair is fair, and next on our list is a position where the penis owner does all the pleasing.
It’s also an optimal position for deep penetration. You control the depth and speed of penetration from an optimal angle. In turn, your partner feels every inch of you thrusting inside and out, maximizing female pleasure.
How To Do It
- The woman or the receiver gets down on their hands and knees.
- Spread your legs open hip distance apart.
- Your man kneels behind you and enters from the back. They grab your hips and use them to penetrate deeper.
- You can bounce against him to make yourself feel more pleasure.
- With one arm, reach around your waist for clitoral stimulation. Or, your man may do the clit rubbing. Find whatever feels good for both of you.
Spooning
Feeling tired and not too keen to do anything eccentric? Try Spooning. It’s one of the best husband and wife sex positions for focusing on slow and sensual movement, perfect when you’re both tired but want to get intimate.
When you move slower and sensually, it invites more sensation and satisfaction into your body. Making it a great position when you’re in a marriage precisely because it brings you closer to your significant while being incredibly effortless. The spooning position tells you, “I feel safe enough to take things slow and intimate with my husband or wife.”
How To Do It
- Both partners lay on one side, either on your right or left side, whichever is more comfortable for both of you.
- Next, the woman or receiver brings their top leg in front, bending it slightly to create an opening.
- Your husband uses his hand to guide his penis inside.
- He enters from there and pushes his hips up against you, thrusting slowly and sensually. Make sure to kiss your wife’s neck, ears, or lips to maximize being in this position.
- The receiver may lightly push their butt’s back against you for a better-receiving angle.
Reverse Cowgirl
Reverse Cowgirl is one of the best married sex positions to spice things up in the bedroom. In this sex position, you focus on hitting the G spot of the receiver or woman.
As we all know, penetrative sex is not enough to reach orgasm, but certain sex positions that target the g spot help increase the likelihood of orgasm. Who doesn’t like the sound of that?
How To Do It
- The husband or penetrating person lies down on their back.
- Prop their head on a pillow to elevate and spread their legs open.
- Next, the receiver or woman turns away and climbs on top. Place your knees outside of your husband’s legs.
- Reach back and use your hand to guide their dick inside. Sit back and bounce up and down repeatedly.
- There are variations to help you make this position more pleasurable. Lean forward with your arms on the bed and bounce up and down, or lean back with your arms behind you on your partner’s chest and increase speed.
- All your significant other do is lie back and enjoy you doing all the work. Maintain the rhythm you want until you both feel an orgasm coming.
Lotus
The Lotus position is as intimate as missionary but with more room to be in a full-body embrace. “Being in this position is more about touching each other and making eye contact, which makes it great for all kinds of partners, regardless of genitals,” says Janet Brito, a Ph.D. clinical psychologist.
There’s a closeness attached to being in lotus, which makes it a fantastic choice for couples in a marriage. Whether you’re capping the night after Valentine’s day or want to feel intimacy on a random night, the lotus position is perfect.
How To Do It
- Your man sits on the edge of the bed with their feet on the floor. Optionally, they may do this in a cross-legged seat.
- Try doing this on a chair if you prefer support on your straight back.
- From there, your woman straddles and sits on you.
- With your partner entering from here, hug their body to be in a full embrace.
- They move their pelvis forward and backward in a fluid motion. Make the most out of this position by kissing, sucking on their neck, and whispering sweet nothings into their ear.
- Start to increase the speed by thrusting quicker and continue until you reach climax.
Sex In Front Of The Mirror
One way to take a dull, ordinary hook-up session and make it fun is by having sex in front of a mirror. The benefit? You’ll easily be aroused seeing yourself and your significant other have sex. It also makes you feel confident and sexy, watching your body move in front of the mirror.
It creates a visually stimulating effect, similar to watching movie sex scenes or porn videos; only it’s so much hotter seeing yourself.
How To Do It
- Start by moving a full-length mirror close to your bed.
- If you don’t have one, you can position yourselves in front of one. This could mean doing it on the bathroom counter, a living room chair, or a dresser.
- I recommend choosing the first four positions listed in this article, as you’re both facing the mirror and get to watch yourselves have intercourse at the same time.
- Try doggy style, lap dance, spooning, or reverse cowgirl while facing the mirror.
- You may even get creative by doing new positions, such as standing sexual positions or kneeling in front of the mirror.
Pretzel
Next on our list is a bedroom favorite: the pretzel pose, a fresh take on doggy style but more effortless. It’s also a more intimate position than doggy because it involves a lot of eye contact, making it far more beneficial for your relationship.
How To Do It
- Have your partner lay on their back.
- Next, bend your legs and twist them to one side. Lift the upper leg open.
- Your husband kneels in front of you. His knees are spread open on either side of your lower leg.
- He enters from here and grabs hold of your upper leg to use it to thrust deeper.
- Maintain the speed and depth that feels most pleasurable until you feel climax.
The 69
Last but certainly not least is good ‘ole fashioned 69. There’s nothing like receiving oral sex simultaneously on your bed. You’re both giving and receiving simultaneously, which makes your experience infinitely better. You can read more about the 69 sex position in this guide.
How To Do It
- Your man lies straight down on the bed.
- Next, the woman climbs on top and aligns their genitals to your man’s mouth.
- Your head goes to your man’s genitals.
- Start to perform oral by licking, sucking, or fingering your significant other.
- Try introducing toys into the mix – dildos, vibrators, or butt plugs.
- Listen to each other’s bodily cues and stick to the most pleasurable techniques.
Wrapping Up
What are you waiting for? Try one sex position in this article, or try all of them this coming Valentine’s day. Or save it for next time!
Thanks for reading my guide to the best sex positions for married life!
Sandra
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PS, we also have an article about the best Christian sex positions.
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