The title “throat goat” only belongs to a select few, and to attain this level, you must be able to give the most bomb-ass blowjob. The kind of blowjob that would make people be at your mercy, give you control, and also make you feel like the Sexpert you really are. Would you like to join this elite class? Then you must know how to deep throat!
Deep-throating is a unique technique for anyone who desires a strong head game. It may look difficult and a bit scary at times, but with the right mindset, you can make any Tom, Dick, or Harry lose his mind when you rock the mic. Do you desire to learn how to deep throat? Then you have come to the right place!
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What Is Deep Throating?
According to Carly Rae Summers, who is a deep-throating expert and adult actor, “Deep Throating is different to your average blow job as the penis surpasses your mouth. It travels to the depth of your throat, giving the receiver a tight all-round grasp.”
According to Urban Dictionary, deep throating is the act of performing fellatio (dick-sucking) to where the penis is sticking in the performer’s throat, usually causing a gag reflex.
According to Carly Rae Summers, anyone who wants to deep throat can do it. She says, “It’s about working with your gag reflex, not letting it dominate your skillset.”
What Is The Gag Reflex?
According to Merriam-Webster, the gag reflex is the reflex contraction of the throat muscles caused especially by stimulation (such as touch) of the pharynx. The Gag reflex is also the retching or gagging caused by the contact of a foreign body with the mucous membrane of the throat.
According to a 2015 Study, the gag reflex (a.k.a. Pharyngeal reflex) can be a reaction to different stimuli affecting your touch, taste, sight, smell, and sound senses. A sensitive gag reflex may be associated with conditions like:
- Stress, panic, strong odors.
- Health conditions, e.g., acid reflux.
- Allergy reactions to specific liquids and food.
Your gag reflex helps prevent you from choking and swallowing harmful substances. Everyone has a gag reflex, but not everyone has an overactive one. Some people have a sensitive gag reflex, and some do not.
How To Control Your Gag Reflex
To deep throat for the first time, you need to train yourself. No one has an inborn deep-throating talent, but with practice and proper control of your gag reflex, you can please your partner to the fullest.
1. Get comfortable and relaxed
It’s normal for your throat muscles to get all tense when giving head, and it gets worse when you keep thinking you’ll gag the whole time! The key here is to relax your body and mind beforehand.
Relax your mouth and throat, do not worry about your lips being tight around your partner’s penis; part them wide enough as your throat will open a lot more.
Note: Do not be afraid if you drool; saliva is a lubricant that eases the process.
2. Practice throat training exercises
Place your clean finger inside your mouth. Slowly move your finger down towards the back of the throat and past the tonsil area until you begin to gag. At this point, try practicing breathing through your nose while you relax your throat and resist the urge to puke. The aim is to stay relaxed and breathe as slowly as possible.
Hold for some seconds, repeat this technique, and as you progress, you could change your finger for sex toys like a realistic dildo, moving the dildo in and out of your mouth, and soon your gag reflex will be less sensitive.
3. Take it slow and not always all
You do not always have to have his whole penis or dildo deep in you. Take it slow; remember, you don’t need to rush a deep throat. Instead of taking it all in at once, get creative and playful.
Start with a regular blow job; use your lips, mouth, and tongue to suck and lick the head of his penis. Focus your attention on the head, the frenulum (it’s the small V-shaped area resting on the underside of the head of his penis). Use your hands too, and ease into the entire penis. Do not rush into deep throating to curb your gag reflex.
You can read more about frenulum stimulation in this guide.
4. Desensitizing your gag reflex
You may get rid of your gag reflex by getting your soft palate used to touch. You can do this with a toothbrush, and you can find out more about it here.
Do Girls Like Deep Throating?
Most girls are skeptical when it comes to deep throating. The question then becomes, do girls and women like deep throating? Is the experience worth it, and will I, as a giver, find pleasure? If you’re a guy and you want to introduce your girl to deep throating, you must surely be wondering if girls like deep throating.
- From the two articles above, we learn that deep-throating is uncomfortable for some women, but emotionally and psychologically, it’s an experience they love. They get satisfaction from the pleasure they give their partner.
- No matter how experienced, most women feel some pain in the throat that builds up, but they soon adjust to it. This is when most girls claim to enjoy deep throating; the sounds, the saliva drool, and the entire thing make the experience better.
- For some women, getting deep-throated is like hitting a G-Spot in the back of the throat; others love deep-throating because they like playing submissive, and others just enjoy the fullness in their mouths down to their roots. Each girl is different; your reason may vary from another girl, and it may be that you do not even like it.
If you’re reading to find out if you’d like it, I believe you’ll only know if you try it. Just because many like deep throating doesn’t mean you like it. The fact remains that there is no pressure.
Do Guys Like Deep Throating?
Nothing is as popular as blow jobs and deep throating to a guy. As a girl (guy), when you think of the pain that comes with deep throating and sometimes blowjob, you begin to wonder if it is worth the pain? Do guys even like deep throating? Everything looks easy and pleasurable in porn movies, but real life and film are different worlds. So do guys like deep throating as much as the movies and porn videos portray?
Guys love regular blowjobs, and girls love giving them, and we understand why they do, but what about deep throating? Is the choking and gagging worth it? The experience? The two articles above give us this insight:
- For some guys, it is the thought of a girl agreeing to an uncomfortable situation to please her man – a psychological and emotional turn-on.
- Other men like deep throating just because of how it looks. The visual representation of deep-throating is a turn-on for some guys.
- For another set of guys, it is the dominant/submissive role that deep-throating brings with it.
- For others, it’s the feeling of a girl (guy) going balls deep.
While most guys like and enjoy deep throating, not all guys want it; for some, the oral sex act doesn’t even matter at all, and thus, you need to be able to communicate with your guy to determine if they like it or not.
How To Deep Throat?
To be able to give a good blow job, you must have two things:
- Enthusiasm
- Skill
If you have ample enthusiasm, you can, with practice, have the latter quickly.
Learning oral sex skills is not only an excellent way to pleasure your partner but also a perfect way to increase your sexual skills. There are different tips, techniques, and guides on how to deep throat but below are a few:
Note: If you don’t have a partner, sex toys like a suction cup dildo will do. Avoid using a cucumber or banana because they could break and ruin the entire process (or get stuck in there), so stick to a dildo:
1. Take it slow
As slowly as possible, take in the penis as much as you can. Go further as you go on to let your partner feel the difference. And for each time you go down, hold your stance for a while, sensually and slowly building tension until the whole penis is inside your mouth and at the back.
Pro Tip: If your partner has a bigger penis, you can use your hands to control the depth. Clench your fist around his shaft at the depth you’re comfortable with. You can also use a Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage as a depth controller.
2. Do not stop sucking
Hold onto the penis with your lips and suck it before pulling off quickly; repeat this process as many times as you like, as this involves you pulling off and taking it back into your mouth. This method changes the speed, makes them feel good, and gives you time to relax your throat between the breaks.
3. Position your neck and throat well
Ensure you are in a comfortable position so that your throat and the penis are always aligned correctly. The best way to achieve this is to get your partner on their back and you on your stomach alongside them. Bend over them, keeping your neck straight so the penis directly points at the back of your throat.
If this doesn’t work, have your partner standing and you on your knees in front. Keep your throat, neck, and body aligned well, as this will help the penis slide easier into your throat.
4. Play with sounds
Remember how turned on you get when you hear your partner’s groans? Make some sounds; talking or humming works, and even deep breathing while it’s so far into your mouth as throat vibrations will affect them positively.
5. Breathe
Have you noticed you stop breathing when you put something in your mouth, even food? That air stops coming in? Do not forget to breathe and take in the air during deep throating so you do not gag on the penis. Eww right?
Inhale either before or while a penis is sliding down the back of your throat. Ensure your tongue is out because the gap it creates will aid you in breathing.
6. Open your mouth widely
Learn to open your mouth wide enough to allow enough space for a penis to slide down your throat. You can practice with two or three fingers, placing them in your mouth to give you a clue on how to open your mouth.
Unlike giving head, you must keep your mouth open, helping you take the penis and providing you with room to breathe when they pull out.
7. Take rest and breaks
Remember to stop when your throat, neck, or jaw gets strained and uncomfortable. Rest yourself to allow for relaxation and prevent you from mistakenly biting the penis. Breaks will also prevent you from gagging. Only try deep throating again when ready.
8. Start with a regular blowjob
You do not have to deep-throat the penis immediately; work your way towards it. Kneel between his legs, tease them with your eyes, and plant a kiss on the tip, making the experience more enjoyable and enticing. Lick the shaft and, without breaking eye contact, put the penis inside your mouth, sucking it for a while. Then, you can work your way towards a deep throat.
9. Be sensual and maintain eye contact
Deep-throating is more than just sucking your man’s penis balls deep. Just like penetrative sex, it is a whole lot more than sticking it in and pulling it out.
One way to increase intimacy is to maintain eye contact while you take it in, or you can throw those baby-loving eyes. This method will make it easier and increase the sexual arousal of you both.
10. Hydration and lubrication
The best advice to keep your throat unhurt is to ensure you stay hydrated. When giving regular blowjobs, you notice you produce a lot of salivae. Thick saliva is a good lubricant, but if you do not produce enough saliva, drink water first to avoid a dry mouth.
You can also add lube to the entire process; any lube works, but please avoid using a numbing lubricant or throat numbing spray. You could also use flavored lubes to add taste.
11. Use more than your mouth
Yes, it is called oral sex, but oral sex is not restricted to just your mouth, meaning you should include your hands and even your tongue.
According to Texas-based sex educator Goody Howard, MSW, MPH, host of Lick! A penis-focused oral sex workshop, “Using your hands is a great way to keep your mouth from getting tired as well as a great way to stimulate the entire penis and mix up sensations.”
12. Please make use of your tongue
Use your tongue to block the back of your throat. This creates a pillow-like cushion that they could thrust into and protects your gag reflex.
13. Finish them off
Finish off your partner, but ensure you communicate with them about how you’d like it done. Play with the balls, and if swallowing the cum is your thing, then take it all in.
If you prefer them cumming on your face and body, then, by all means, request for it so long as you finish them off the way they’d like, and you will be comfortable doing and accepting.
Note: You need to clarify that your partner cannot thrust during deepthroating! You must be in 100% control of the depth you’re comfortable taking in.
14. Consent and Communication
Mutual respect, consent, and communication form the foundation of a great deep-throating experience, ensuring everyone is comfortable and on the same page. Discussing likes, dislikes, and boundaries beforehand not only enhances trust and intimacy but also ensures a smoother and more enjoyable experience for both partners. It’s about ensuring that both participants feel valued and heard, making the encounter not just pleasurable but also safe and consensual.
Do you want to roll up your sleeves with some tricks to improve the experience? I will give you some tips and some advanced deep-throating techniques you can try.
My Best Advanced Techniques!
1. Lick the balls
If you’re practicing the Kneeling Blow Job Position, then you can bring your tongue outwards and start licking his balls. While they are deep inside your mouth, stick your tongue out and play with the balls. This advanced technique will get them to orgasm fast and make them happy.
2. Use your hands like a pro
As said earlier, oral sex may involve your mouth but isn’t restricted to it. Your hands will be much less busy, and there are many ways to put them to good work and make the experience much sexier.
Place your hands on your partners waist or legs so you control how they move and the speed of the deep throating. You can rub or massage the balls while you’re sucking, place your hands on his chest, and play with their nipples, caressing the penis as you take it deeper into your mouth.
3. Swallow while deep-throating
Most people have had their cum swallowed by their partner during a blow job, but not many have had their cum swallowed while being deep-throated, and this is a different feeling. This trick is not easy, but if you can do it and manage it, you will have an enthusiastic and satisfied partner on your hands.
While these techniques would help you, certain positions will make the experience a whole lot easier and the oral sex way better.
Best Positions For Deep Throating
1. The Kneeling Blow Job Position
Kneeling is the regular blow job position, but it’s also excellent for deep-throating. To perform this, you need to face your partner, get down on your knees while they are standing, and then give them a blow job.
Most people consider this a bore, but many still call it the best for a blow job. But please protect your knees with a pillow to provide a safer and sexier blow job.
2. Standing Fellatio
Standing fellatio is the perfect position to control one’s gag reflex; however, it’s more suitable for experienced couples. The giver lies on the bed with their head hanging over the edge of the bed. The receiver stands at the edge of the bed, inserting their penis into the giver’s mouth. Take this gradually and communicate with your partner.
This position can also work another way; have your partner lie down on the edge of the bed while you get down, and take the penis into your mouth till you have it at the back of your throat.
3. Boss Chair Position
The name comes from the fact that your partner will be sitting down while you suck their penis. In other words, they will feel like a boss and have a full view of the action as it unfolds. They can sit on the bed or a chair; it all works.
Slowly undo whatever they are wearing before giving head. You could spice things up by indulging in sexual roleplay, by surprising them while watching their favorite team play or a movie, or even while eating.
4. Regular Blowjob Position
This position is easy as your partner needs only to lie down with legs widely open. Then, you lie down on your stomach just below with your head by the crotch.
You may wonder what your hands will be doing, but you could just play with their chest or put your hands on their stomach.
You could also request them to hold your hair if it distracts you from the job.
5. 69 Position
The infamous 69 is one where both partners pleasure themselves orally. One of the partners would lie flat on the bed and the other’s genitals close to the other’s mouth (i.e., you lick your partner’s pussy). There are different 69 positions, and you can find them here.
If using a classic 69 approach, you and your partner should align yourselves so your mouths are closer to each other’s private parts; you can achieve this by one of you lying on your back with the other on top, their knees straddling the head of their partner. Usually, in an opposite-sex relationship, the woman is on top.
Note: Unfortunately, some people can’t perform deepthroating. They either have an overactive gag reflex, or their throat is too small for their partner’s penis.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Must I deep-throat my partner?
The answer to that question is a huge NO. If you don’t feel comfortable practicing deep throating, communicate with your partner. They are not to pressure you into anything and must respect your decisions and limitations.
What if I bite the penis while deep throating?
It can happen to anyone at any time. If you bite your partner, relax your mouth and take the penis out of your mouth to caress the pain away. You need to take a break if it’s a severe bite.
What if I vomit? Will they find it to be a turn-off?
You must know your limits regarding your gag reflex, and if you feel like throwing up, then stop. As a beginner, your partner must understand that you and your body are new to this, so take breaks. In the case that you vomit, your partner should understand and will not find it as a turn-off. Clean them off, take a break, and repeat later.
How many inches of length can I take in deep throating?
There are no inches or length; as long as the penis can reach your throat, you do not need to worry about the size. There is no minimum or maximum and no standard, either.
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