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Butterfly vibrators are one of those teeny tiny wonders that can add a whole new level to your solo or partnered play. They may look delicate but they pack a punch where it counts. If you’ve been wondering how to use one or looking for tips to get the most out of it then you’re in the right place. With years of experience in sexual health and pleasure education, I’m here to walk you through everything you need to know to get the most out of this popular sex toy.
What The Heck Is A Butterfly Vibrator?
Before we get started let’s cover the basics. A butterfly vibrator is a wearable vibrator that fits snugly against the vulva. It’s shaped like a butterfly hence the name and has straps or wings to hold it in place (demonstrated in the image below). You can wear it during foreplay, solo sessions, or even during sex and have your hands free for other fun things. Sounds good right?
The little wings of the butterfly often have extra texture or motors that stimulate different areas including the clitoris and labia. It’s like a personal massage right where you need it. The beauty of this toy is its versatility – it’s wearable, discreet, and you can control the intensity depending on your mood or needs. What’s not to love?
Step 1: Set the Scene
Let’s be real: any good pleasure session starts with the right environment. Whether you’re alone or with a partner you want to feel comfortable, relaxed, and in the mood to explore. Grab your butterfly vibrator and make sure it’s fully charged. Trust me, the last thing you want is for the battery to run out just when things are getting hot.
A reader, Samantha, shared her tip: “I always start with a warm bath. It helps me relax and everything feels more intense afterward.” So, light some candles, put on some music, or do whatever gets you in the right headspace.
While setting the mood think about what makes you feel confident. The more relaxed and confident you feel the better your experience will be. Whether that means setting up extra pillows, wearing your favorite lingerie, or simply taking a few deep breaths getting in the right headspace is key.
Step 2: Fit It Like a Glove (or a Butterfly)
Wearing a butterfly vibrator might seem a bit tricky at first but once you get the hang of it it’s smooth sailing. First, apply a little bit of lubricant to the wings and the center to make sure everything glides smoothly. Then slip the straps around your waist and thighs. Adjust them until the butterfly sits perfectly on your vulva with the vibrator against your clitoris. You should feel secure but not too tight – it should be snug enough to stay in place but not so much it’s uncomfortable.
Don’t be afraid to adjust the straps a few times. Every body is different so take your time to find that sweet spot. A lot of users say it takes a bit of trial and error but it’s worth it.
Personalization is key for this step. You might find loosening the straps on one side or tightening them slightly on the other helps you hit the right spots. Experiment to find what feels best for your body shape. Some people even customize their butterflies by adding soft padding or adjusting the wings to direct the vibrations exactly where they want them.
Step 3: Start Slow
You have the butterfly in place and now it’s time for the magic. Most butterfly vibrators come with a remote control so you can start on low and increase the intensity. I always recommend starting slow. Your body needs time to adjust to the new sensations.
One of our readers, Jess, had a funny story to share: “The first time I used my butterfly I turned it up to max power straight away and oh boy, that was a mistake! It was a bit too much too soon. Now I know—slow and steady wins the race.”
As you get more comfortable experiment with the different settings. Some models have patterns, not just intensity levels. Pulses, waves, or steady vibrations can each give a different sensation so try them all and see what works for you. Don’t be afraid to play around—figuring out what gives you the most pleasure is all part of the fun. Have you used any other vibrators before? Think about how you like the sensations—steady buzz or rhythmic pulse—and apply that to your butterfly vibrator experience.
Step 4: Hands-Free Exploration
One of the best things about a butterfly vibrator is it’s hands-free, meaning you can do other things while the vibrator does its thing. If you’re flying solo you can use your hands to explore other parts of your body and heighten the experience. Or you can focus on the sensations it’s creating and not have to worry about anything else.
With a partner, the butterfly vibrator can add a whole new level of excitement to your time together. Because it stays in place you can use it during oral sex or intercourse and have your partner focus on other areas while the butterfly does its work. The combination of manual and stimulation can lead to some serious O’s.
Remember this is your time to get creative. Maybe add a blindfold to the mix or have your partner control the remote to mix things up. It’s all about layering the sensations and building up to the big finish.
Step 5: Clean up and Aftercare
Once you’re done be sure to clean your butterfly vibrator. Since it goes into your most intimate areas hygiene is key. Use a toy cleaner or mild soap and water to wash the butterfly then let it air dry.
Some of our readers like to keep a small cleaning kit next to the bed or in their toy drawer. “I always have a bottle of toy cleaner on hand. It’s so convenient and makes clean up a snap,” says Alice from Brooklyn, New York.
Storing your vibrator properly will also help it last longer. Keep it in a cool dry place and if it came with a storage bag use that to keep it dust-free.
Final Thoughts
A butterfly vibrator is like a little secret you carry with you—discreet, effective, and oh-so pleasurable. It’s versatile enough to be used solo or with a partner and hands-free so you can multitask in the bedroom (or wherever your imagination takes you).
If you’re new to pleasure products, the butterfly is a great place to start. And if you’re a seasoned sex toy user it’s a great addition to your collection for when you want something a little different. The beauty is in how adjustable it is—you can adjust the settings to suit your mood and every experience with it will feel new and exciting.
Go ahead take flight and see where this little butterfly takes you.
Rachel
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