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When it comes to sex, lubricant is often the hero behind the scenes. But did you know that not all lubes are created equal, especially when it comes to your favorite sex toys? That’s right. Choosing the wrong product can lead to disappointing results, damaged vibrators, and even health risks. Nobody has time (or money) for that!
So, how do you know if your lube is sex toy-friendly? No sweat! In this guide we’ll look at the different types of lubes for sex toys, what they do to different materials and get expert advice from sexologist Rachel Sommer, Ph.D. to help you make informed decisions. Let’s see what she has to say:
The Basics of Lubricant Types
Before we get into compatibility, let’s cover the lube basics. There are three types of lubricants you will come across: water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based. Each has its pros and cons and knowing these will help you make the best choice for your body and toys. Let’s start with water-based products:
Water-Based Lubricants
Water-based lubes are the most popular and versatile of the bunch. They’re compatible with almost all sex toys, easy to clean up, and safe for all skin types. They’re also the go-to choice for anyone who uses condoms frequently as they don’t break down the latex material.
“Water-based lubes are a good starting point for most people,” says Dr. Sommer. “They’re gentle on the skin, easy to wash off, and work with many materials.” That’s all fine and dandy, but are there any drawbacks? Yes, most importantly, they can dry out faster than other products and may need to be reapplied during longer sessions.
Silicone-Based Lubricants
Silicone lubes are loved for their long-lasting glide. They don’t evaporate or absorb into the skin as fast as water-based options which means they are great for longer play, especially anal sex. But here’s the catch: silicone lube and silicone toys don’t mix. The lube can break down the material over time and make it sticky or deteriorate.
“Silicone-based lubes are great for skin-on-skin contact,” says Dr. Sommer, “but they can destroy silicone devices. It’s like oil and water – they just don’t mix.” If you want to use a silicone lube make sure your toys are made of materials like glass, stainless steel, or hard plastic.
Oil-Based Lubricants
Oil-based lubes, whether natural (like coconut oil) or synthetic, feel slick and luxurious. They’re great for external play and can be used as massage oils. But they’re not compatible with latex condoms and can be hard to clean from your toys. And oil-based ones can clog pores which can lead to infections if used internally (ouch!).
“Oil-based lubes are a double-edged sword,” says Dr. Sommer. “They feel luxurious but can damage latex and are hard to clean from your body and toys. Use them sparingly and with the right materials.”
What To Know About Material Compatibility
Now you know your lube type. That’s awesome, but that’s also just the beginning. Equally important is knowing how different products interact with the materials your toys are made of. Let’s get into the most common materials and how they work with each lube.
Silicone
Silicone is a popular choice for sex toys because it’s soft and body-safe. But pay close attention now: you must NEVER use silicone-based lube with silicone toys. The two can chemically bond and ruin the vibrator or butt plug.
“If you’re using a silicone toy, stick to water-based lubes,” says Dr. Sommer. “The risk is too great to ignore.” This is especially important if you have a collection of high-quality silicone toys (like LELO). Protect your investment and choose the right lube. Your pleasure products will thank you.
Glass and Stainless Steel
Glass and stainless steel toys are durable, non-porous, and compatible with all lube types. Whether you prefer water-based, silicone-based, or oil-based lubes these materials won’t react. They’re also super easy to clean which makes them a versatile and low-maintenance option. What not to love?
I always say that stainless steel and glass sex toys are like the Swiss Army knives of the adult world. They’re compatible with everything and built to last. If you want to try different lubes these are your best bet.
ABS Plastic
ABS plastic is another non-porous material that works with all lube types. It’s used in bullet vibrators and other rigid toys, mainly for the shaft. Not as luxurious as silicone, glass, or steel but a good option if you like to mix and match your lubes.
“ABS plastic is a workhorse,” says Dr. Sommer. “It’s not as glamorous as other materials but gets the job done without hassle. Plus it’s less costly to use in manufacturing” Whether you’re using water-based, silicone-based, or oil-based lube, ABS plastic can handle it.
Jelly Rubber and PVC
Now we are coming to the dark underbelly of the sex toys world: Jelly rubber and PVC toys which are cheap but come with a hidden cost. These materials are porous so they can harbor bacteria and degrade over time (please read more about them here). They can also react badly with certain lubes especially oil-based ones which can break down the material and make it sticky. So we must say porous materials are not safe and we don’t recommend them for long-term use.
“While jelly rubber and PVC are budget-friendly they’re not your best friend,” warns Dr. Sommer. “They’re prone to wear and tear and their porous nature makes them hard to clean.” If you do use these materials use water-based lube and always use a condom.
Latex
Latex is used in condoms and sex toys (albeit not so common in the latter anymore, thankfully). While it’s compatible with water-based lubes oil based products should be avoided as they can weaken and tear latex. If you’re using latex toys or condoms, water-based is your safest option.
“Latex is versatile but has its limits,” says Dr. Sommer. “Avoid oil-based lubes at all costs if you’re using latex. You don’t want a compromised toy or condom.”
Reading the Labels: A Must Do!
The simplest way to know if your lube is sex toy-friendly is to read the label. Most bottles will specify what materials they’re compatible with so take a minute to check. Look for phrases like “safe for silicone toys” or “compatible with all materials”. If unsure check the manufacturer’s website or contact customer support.
I always say that labels are your first line of defense. They provide valuable information about what the lube can and can’t be used with. Don’t skip this step it can save you a lot of hassle. Trust me on that one.
DIY Testing: When in Doubt, Test It Out
If you’re unsure if a lube is safe, a simple spot test can clear things up for you. Apply a small amount to an inconspicuous area of the sex toy (like the base or handle) and wait 24 hours. If the material shows no signs of degradation (stickiness, discoloration, or weakening) then the lube is safe to use.
“Spot testing is a quick and easy way to avoid damaging your toys,” says Dr. Sommer. “It’s a small step that can save you from a lot of disappointment later on.”
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Even with all the info at your disposal mistakes can happen. Here are some common mistakes to watch out for and how to avoid them:
- Mixing Lubricants: Combining different types of lubes can produce unpredictable results. For example, mixing a water-based product with a silicone-based one can cause clumping or reduce the effectiveness of both. Stick to one type at a time.
- Assuming All Lubes Are the Same: Just because a lube works with one sex toy doesn’t mean it’s safe for all. Always check the material before applying lube.
- Ignoring Expiration Dates: Like any other product lubes have a shelf life. Using expired lube can result in reduced effectiveness or even skin irritation. Always check the expiration date before use.
- Overlooking Cleanup: Even the most toy-friendly lube can leave residues that need to be cleaned. Failing to clean your pleasure devices thoroughly can lead to bacterial buildup and shorten the lifespan of the sex toy.
Remembering these common sex toy mistakes can save your toys and your pleasure. It’s about taking small steps to maximize your pleasure.
Happy vibing!
Sandra
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