18 Sexy Roleplay Ideas, Ranked by a Sexologist!

Featured imageEager to turn up the heat in your bedroom and dive into new sexual fantasies? Consider trying roleplay to inject some thrill and novelty into your relationship. Breaking away from the routine is crucial, as being with the same person repeatedly can lead to a monotonous sex life. Roleplaying is an imaginative and wonderful way to try out various scenarios and fulfill your wildest sexual fantasies. Sandra Larson, our expert in all things tantalizing and seductive, has curated an amazing list of sexy role-play ideas for you and your significant other. Let’s check them out one by one!


1. High-Class Escort & Rich Customer

Feel like turning your fantasies into reality with a thrilling role-playing idea? The high-class escort and customer scenario could be just the ticket. Here, you get to step into the shoes of a swanky escort, while your partner plays your client.

Kick things off by slipping into some knockout lingerie or a sizzling outfit, and have your partner give you a ring. Act as if you’re the most sought-after escort around, and your partner is a high-flying exec looking for some top-notch company. Set the mood by painting a picture of your plush hotel room, ready to cater to their every whim.

High-class escort girl

Now, it’s showtime. Start by feeling out what your partner’s into – a relaxing massage, or maybe they’re up for something a bit more daring? It’s all about tuning into their wishes and bringing them to life.

As the escort, you’re running the show. You choose how fast or slow things go, and what’s on the menu next. Want to amp up the suspense, or dive straight into the action? Go for it! The key is keeping your partner on the edge of their seat, totally wrapped up in the experience.

 


2. Cheap $10 Hooker & Customer

If the high-class escort pretends play didn’t have your engines running, take the sex scene down a notch with a daring twist in the bedroom and let the other person be a cheap $10 prostitute. This roleplay idea can’t get any easier for both of you!

All it takes is some simple, budget-friendly props. Throw on your most eye-catching outfit, add a dash of daring with fishnet stockings and bold red lipstick, and there you have it – the ultimate $10 look. For the customer part, let your imagination run wild. You could be a famous singer seeking a quick thrill away from the stage. Or maybe you’re a football player in search of the perfect lap dance on a chilly evening.

Street prostitite

Whatever role you choose, have a little pre-roleplay chat about the nitty-gritty to know you are on the same page with your significant other. How’s the payment going down? Before or after the fun? What’s included in this cheeky $10 deal? It’s your playground – the options are limitless.

Once you’re all set, throw caution to the wind and dive into the fantasy. Role-playing is all about stepping out of your comfort zone and exploring uncharted territories of desire.

 


3. Filming A Porn Movie

Ready to ramp up your roleplay game? How about filming your own steamy scenes, like a DIY porn movie? It’s a fantastic way to dive deep into those fantasies and whip up some sizzling memories for later. First up, brainstorm your plot. What’s the storyline? Who are the porn stars? Where’s it all going down? This is your show, so go wild with your role-play ideas. You could even spin off some of the other roleplay themes we’ve talked about. Heck- you can even pretend that it’s the world ends and pretend you’re filming strip poker with James Bond.

Next, prep your stage. Pick a spot that matches your story vibe. Gather any props and get-ups you’ll need. You can jazz up your space with a few decorations and the right lighting to set the mood. Filming-wise, keep it simple. Your phone or a basic camera can catch all the juicy moments. Just check you’ve got enough space and battery juice to keep filming your sex scenes.

Filming a homemade porn movie

But hey, safety’s key. Make sure you and your partner(s) are cool with everything that’s going to be on film. Talk about your limits and keep the communication lines open during the shoot. Consent is sexy!

Now, it’s showtime! Slip into character and let the camera capture your adventure. Who knows, you might just create the best sex scenes the adult world is yet to see.

 


4. Trouble With The Law

Feeling a bit mischievous and looking to bring some edgy fun to your bedroom? How about a little role-play that flirts with the idea of being on the naughty side of the law?

First thing’s first: who’s gonna be the police officer, and who’s gonna be the rule-breaker? Feel free to switch it up or stick to whatever role tickles your fancy. And if you’re up for it, throw in some props to make the scene pop – handcuffs, maybe a police baton, or even a fake gun (just keep it obviously fake, alright?).

A sexy female police officer

Now that you’ve got your roles and gear lined up, it’s time to dive into your characters. The cop should be all about that stern-but-fair vibe, while the criminal is a mix of nerves and excitement. Throw in some banter to crank up the realism.

Next up, figure out what the ‘crime’ is. It could be anything from a cheeky theft to something a bit more on the daring side. Just make sure it’s something you’re both cool with and doesn’t step over any lines.

 


5. Boss and Employee

The timeless roleplay that everyone probably thought of once or twice by now– it’s a classic that never loses its charm. Ideal for those who love to dabble in power play behind closed doors. First off, decide who’s going to pretend to be the CEO, Manager, or Supervisor and who’s the secretary. Once that’s settled, time to embrace your roles. The CEO or Manager needs to exude confidence and control, while the secretary is going to pretend to be the submissive and eager-to-please angle.

Start with the typical office tasks – maybe the higher person asks for coffee to be made or notes to be taken. The secretary should play along with a respectful “yes, sir” or “right away, sir,” using plenty of eye contact and expressive body language to nail the role. As things heat up, the boss takes control, and the secretary, once reserved, reveals a more daring side. The dynamic between the control freak boss and the now-empowered secretary transforms the mundane into an exhilarating experience.

Sexy secretary

The authority figures blur the lines as demands become more inventive, delving into the good stuff. Perhaps the boss requests a sensual massage or a tantalizing striptease, creating a scenario that goes beyond the typical office routine and adds an unexpected twist to the usual power dynamics. Steamy!

 


6. Cosplay Role Play Sex

Looking to add a dash of playful fun to your bedroom antics? Why not dive into the world of cosplay sex, where you can bring your favorite anime or fictional characters into your intimate moments? Cosplay sex is all about embracing the fantasy world of anime, comics, or video games, and reimagining it in a sexy, fun way. It’s a chance to bring those beloved characters off the screen or page and into real life.

First step: pick your character and find the right get-up. You can either snag a costume online or, if you’re feeling creative, craft your own. DIYing your costume can be super rewarding and adds a personal touch to your roleplay. Once you’re all decked out, it’s time to truly embody your character. Think superheroes, notorious villains, or iconic video game figures. Mimic their voice, adopt their quirks – really get into their skin.

Sexy cosplay girl

And props? Absolutely! If your character wields a special weapon or has a notable accessory, include it in your play. It adds that extra bit of realism and thrill to your cosplay adventure.

 


7. BDSM Roleplay Sex

Feeling bold and ready to kick things up a notch? BDSM roleplay sex could be your ticket to an exhilarating experience. Just in case BDSM is new territory for you, it’s all about Bondage and discipline, Dominance and submission, Sadism & Masochism. It’s a style of sexual play that delves into power dynamics, where a dominant partner takes the lead in various ways, incorporating elements like tying up and a bit of pain for spice.

It’s a unique approach to intimacy that can add a different dimension to your relationship. While it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, for those intrigued, it can be quite the thrilling ride into uncharted territory where boundaries are explored and some areas are intentionally kept off-limits, adding an extra layer of excitement to the journey.

Spreader Bar-X-position

First things first, you gotta lay down some rules with your partner. Chat about what you’re cool with and what’s a no-go. Super important – use safe words for when you need to hit the brakes. And if you going to introduce toys, make sure you get the best BDSM toys out there for maximum safety.

 


8. Virgin Role Play Sex

You may have already lost your virginity, but that doesn’t mean you can’t relive the experience through roleplay. Virgin sex can be a fun and exciting way to explore your fantasies with your partner. To start, set the scene by creating an atmosphere of innocence and nervousness. You can pretend by dressing up in school uniforms or cute outfits to add to the effect. Make sure to communicate with your partner beforehand about what you’re comfortable with and what your boundaries are.

missionary sex position

Once you’re in character, take it slow and explore your and your partner’s body like it’s your first time. Experiment with different positions and techniques, and don’t be afraid to ask for what you want. Remember, this is all about exploring your fantasies in a safe and consensual way. If you’re feeling adventurous, you can even add a twist by pretending to get caught by a parent or authority figure. This can add an extra layer of excitement and danger to the experience.

 


9. Doctor-Patient Relationship

Fancy playing a medical professional? You’re in good company! The doctor-patient roleplay is a steamy favorite for its taboo thrill and the chance to dabble in some bedroom power play. First up, grab a few props to make it real. A stethoscope, a lab coat, and a clipboard should do the trick. For extra authenticity, consider slipping on a medical mask or gloves. Then, it’s scene-setting time. Transform your bedroom into a make-believe “exam room,” or if you’re lucky enough to have a real doctor’s office handy (and can tidy up after!), use that.

A sexy doctor

With your stage set, it’s time to slip into your roles. The doctor should ooze confidence and a bit of an intimidating vibe, while the patient plays up being vulnerable and a tad nervous. As the doctor, kick off with checking vitals and probing about symptoms. Then, maybe move on to a ‘physical exam’ or suggest some cheeky ‘treatment.

If you want a more robust experience for your doctor-patient role play, then you must use the right toys. Here are some medical fetish toys you can try.

 


10. French Maid & Millionaire

Ready for some classic roleplay fun? Introducing the ever-popular French Maid and Millionaire scenario. It’s surely a hit because it’s playful, a bit cheeky, and always on the naughty side. First things first, get your hands on a French Maid outfit and a Millionaire getup. You can easily find these online or at any costume shop. The key is to pick something that fits nicely and boosts your confidence.

Once you’re all dressed up, it’s showtime. The Millionaire should channel their inner high roller – think confident, a touch of smooth arrogance, and all charm. The French Maid? She’s all about being demure, a little shy, and super accommodating. The game starts with the Millionaire dishing out house chores for the Maid – could be anything from tidying up the kitchen to sorting out the closet. The Maid’s role is to follow orders, even if they get a tad bold.

Sexy French maid

As the play unfolds, the Millionaire gets a bit more daring in their demands, maybe asking for a drink to be served or a relaxing massage. The Maid plays along, remaining dutiful but ready to gently push back if things get too much.

Note: If the male partner prefers to be the servant in this role-playing scene, you can call it Millionaire & Pool Boy. The dynamics of the act won’t change so it’s a great way to add a twist. Remember that roleplay ideas should fly as long as both partners agree, anything is on the table.

 


11. Pizza Delivery Person

Imagine this: you’ve ordered a pizza, and guess what? The pizza guy turns out to be the highlight of your night! This is one of the most classic roleplay ideas and is perfect if you’re up for a little spontaneity and excitement in your relationship.

To kick things off, set the stage. Get dressed up in your sexiest outfit and have that pizza ready. When the delivery person shows up, pretend that the receiver is surprised and flirtatious. Maybe drop a playful hint about extra toppings they could add to your order.

A sexy pizza delivery guy

Once you’ve got that flirtatious banter going, it’s time to turn up the heat. Invite them inside and offer a slice of pizza. As you both munch away, keep the eye contact going and keep the conversation light and playful.

As things heat up, don’t hesitate to add a dash of spice by exploring intimate moments. Whether it’s diving into sexual favors, playing out enticing sexual scenarios, or indulging in some naughty dirty talk, the direction is entirely up to your imagination. It could lead to a passionate one-night stand or potentially mark the beginning of something more long-term.

 


12. Plumber Role Play Sex

Who would’ve thought that a clogged sink could lead to such a sizzling rendezvous? In this roleplay scenario, one person is going to step into the plumber’s shoes, and your partner is going to pretend that she is in dire need of a “plumbing rescue.”

To set the stage, throw on a pair of overalls and grab a toolbox. You can even add a fake name tag that boldly states “Plumber” for that extra touch. Knock on the door, and introduce yourself as the plumber on a mission to fix that troublesome sink.

Standing Doggy Shower Position

Once inside, inspect the sink and pretend to work your magic. Engage in some light conversation with your partner, asking about their time in the house and any past plumbing mishaps they’ve encountered. As you work on the sink, create those accidental, electric moments as you brush up against each other, letting the sexual tension simmer.

As things start to heat up, suggest that your partner “assist” in the repair process, like handing you tools or holding the flashlight. This is the perfect opportunity to get up close and personal, letting the roleplay take the lead. Maybe the action ends in the shower?

 


13. Teacher & Student Role Play

Ah, the classic teacher-student roleplay scenario. Who hasn’t fantasized about being the naughty student who needs to be disciplined by their strict but sexy teacher? Or maybe you’ve always wanted to try that age-play role by being the teacher, taking control, and showing your student how to properly behave. To start, you’ll need to decide who will be playing the role of the teacher and who will be the student. Once you’ve made that decision, it’s time to get into character. Dress up in appropriate attire to really get into the role. The teacher can wear a button-up shirt and glasses, while the student can wear a short skirt and pigtails.

Pro tip: The teacher act can be stretched to teaching in a religious school to make things more strict or you can also pretend to be a yoga instructor teaching your doe-eyed student some good positions like downward dog and standing forward bend (which are both good sex positions by the way).

A sexy teacher

Now that you’re dressed the part, it’s time to set the scene for your sex fantasy. Perhaps the student needs to stay after class for some extra tutoring, or maybe the teacher catches the student passing notes in class. Whatever the scenario, make sure to establish the power dynamics right away.

During the roleplay, the teacher can give the student a stern lecture on the importance of paying attention in class, while the student can beg for forgiveness and promise to do better. Of course, things can escalate quickly, with the teacher using more physical forms of discipline to drive home the lesson.

 


14. Role-Reversal Play

Do you feel like you’re always calling the shots in the bedroom and you want some role-play ideas for that? How about a little switcheroo for a change? This is your ticket to messing around with who’s in charge and shaking things up a bit.

Here’s the deal: you and your partner swap spots. There’s not much to pretend here just give him or her the authority. If you’re usually giving orders, it’s time to let them steer the ship. And if you’re the one who normally takes a back seat, guess what? You’re in the driver’s seat now. It’s a super interesting way to see different sides of each other and add some zest to your bedroom game.

Amazon Sex Position

Note: If the penis partner is more on the dominant side and you want to turn the tables, turn your lady to an Amazon using this guide.

To make it more real, why not mix up your wardrobe too? If your go-to is something soft and silky, maybe it’s your partner’s turn to try that on. If you’re all about that suit-and-tie life, consider something a bit more daring. The whole point is stepping out of your usual zone and experimenting.

Just a heads up, chat things out with your significant other first. You gotta be on the same wavelength about what’s cool and what’s not. Oh, and don’t forget to pick a safe word, just in case things get a tad too wild. Most of all, remember to have a blast with it!

 


15. Masseuse Role Play Sex

Who doesn’t love a great massage, right? But imagine mixing that chill vibe with a bit of roleplay spice. That’s where the “Masseuse” idea comes in. First things first, get that mood right. Some chill tunes, low lights, and maybe even a few candles to nail the ambiance. One of you gets to be the masseuse and the other plays the lucky client. The masseuse should take their time, focusing on those feel-good spots. A bit of massage oil or lotion? Yes, please – makes everything smoother and sensual. As things progress, the masseuse can start getting a bit more… personal, if you catch my drift.

Tantric massage technique forearms to body

Related: Beginner’s Guide to Traditional Tantric Massage

And hey, why not throw in some flirty chat? The masseuse can check in, making sure their client is all kinds of relaxed and enjoying the ride. Maybe even hint at a ‘special’ finish to the massage, leading to a happy ending for the both of you.

Pro Tip: Buy a milking table. Thank me later!

 


16. The Painter and Their Muse

Ever fantasized about the whole artist-and-muse thing? Well, here’s your chance to bring that to life with a bit of a sexy twist. It’s the perfect mix for those who love a splash of creativity with their romance. Before getting started, one person is going to be the artist and the other, the muse. The artist can rock a classic smock and beret look, and the muse? They can go for something flowy or, you know, opt for the birthday suit. Set the scene with an easel and some canvas to make it feel legit.

Cat and cow pose

Once you’re all dressed up, it’s showtime. The artist starts painting, guiding the muse into different poses. But hey, muses have ideas too, you can pose naked if you like. And don’t forget to keep things playful and flirty while you’re at it – it adds to the fun. Feeling bold? Why not bring in some body paint? The muse becomes a living canvas, and you both can create something uniquely beautiful.

So, ready to dive into this artistic adventure? It’s a cool way to explore both your artistic side and spice things up. Grab those brushes, and let’s make some art!

 


17. Stranger Role Play Sex

So, you’re thinking about the good old ‘strangers meeting’ fantasy, right? If you’re in a long-distance relationship and you only meet a couple of times, this could be a running joke that could turn into something spicy. For example, you’re both arriving separately at the same bar, coffee spot, or somewhere out and about. You act like you’ve never met, exchange some flirty looks and banter, and eventually, things lead back to the bedroom.

First things first, you and your companion need to decide the scene. Are you out-of-town business types crossing paths, or just locals bumping into each other by chance? Get those creative juices flowing and cook up a fun backstory. Now, for the actual roleplay part. It’s all about those sneaky glances, sly smiles, and cheeky flirting. Remember, you’re supposed to be a complete stranger, so exploring each other’s limits is part of the fun. Dare to be a bit bold with your moves.

A couple talking

If you’re up for a bit of adventure, why not take this whole thing beyond the bedroom? Hit up a bar or a cafe and stick to your roles. Pretend you’ve never met and see where the evening leads.

 


18. Flight Attendant Role Play

In this simple scenario, one partner becomes a charismatic flight attendant, while the other takes on the role of a passenger on an imaginary, leisurely flight. The bedroom is your cabin, a couple of chairs can mimic airplane seats, setting the stage for your high-altitude adventure so there’s no need for an actual airplane. The flight attendant dresses in something suggestive yet comfortable, like a tailored shirt with a scarf or badge, while the passenger dons casual travel attire.

Begin with a cheeky safety demonstration, using it as an opportunity for close encounters and flirty touches. As the attendant, offer a variety of ‘in-flight entertainment’ options, from playful conversations to more sensual acts, tailored to your passenger’s desires. Elevate the experience with some light snacks or beverages, turning each service moment into an opportunity for seductive interaction. The essence of this role play is in the flirtatious banter and the building anticipation, creating an intimate and exciting in-flight atmosphere.

Against the wall sex position

The adventure crescendos with the thrilling prospect of joining the ‘mile-high club.’ Lead into this moment with suggestive comments and gentle physical cues, stirring both excitement and desire. Throughout the role play, remember the importance of communication and consent. Agree on boundaries beforehand and establish a simple safe word, ensuring a comfortable and enjoyable experience for both. This streamlined “Flight Attendant Role Play” offers an easy yet exhilarating way to add a playful and seductive twist to your intimate moments, ensuring a smooth and delightful journey for both partners.

 


How Roleplay Works and How To Do It Right?

It’s a super cool way to add some zest to your intimate moments and bring to life different fantasies. Here’s the lowdown: you and your partner(s) pick roles and play out a scene. Think of it as being the stars in your favorite movie or drama – with just you folks as the audience.

Woman thinking

The golden rule before any role-play ideas is chatting it up beforehand. Grab a comfy spot with your partner(s) and hash out the details. What roles are you jazzed about playing? What kind of sexual fantasy ideas are you keen to explore and pretend to? And hey, don’t forget to talk about personal boundaries – super important for keeping things chill and enjoyable for everyone. And hey, if things get a bit much and you feel uncomfortable during the role-play, it’s totally cool to hit pause and talk it out. Remember, it’s all about consent and having a good time!

It’s normal to feel a little self-conscious when you start. If you do, turn the lights down and arouse yourselves. Doing this helps you temper your inhibitions and take on the character more easily.

Props and costumes help a lot, and fake names can sometimes make the process easier. The longer you stay in your role, the more natural it will feel. At some point, you’ll lose the awkwardness and effortlessly stay in character.

 


Is Dress-up Required When Roleplaying?

Dress changes aren’t necessary, but they are fun to do. Some women find a lot of pleasure in taking on a new identity, complete with a wig to change their hairstyle.

Dressing up the environment works too. Your bedroom probably can’t look like a classroom for a student-on-teacher scenario, but adding a desk and a chalkboard can help sell the scene.

It takes a lot of effort to plan and get into character. Through all the effort, never forget what the goal is. All of this is to get you turned on. Don’t just suddenly go on an hour-long lecture just because you’re playing the teacher. Focus on each other and on the things that truly matter. At the same time, if something just feels funny and you burst into laughter, that’s fine too. Take your time, then press on.

 


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