The 9 Best Gay Sex Positions For People With Penises

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Orgasms are one of the best parts of sex, and definitely the part that gets the most attention, but sexual variety and communication are equally important to real sexual satisfaction. We urge you to read this article with your partner and talk about interests, boundaries, and expectations.

If you are new to gay sex, some terms that are typically used include

Top: the person who takes on a penetrative role (the giving partner)
Bottom: the person on the other end of the penetration (the receiving partner)
Versatile: a person who likes both topping and bottoming
Side: a person who doesn’t enjoy penetrating or being penetrated, but engages in other sexual activities such as mutual masturbation, oral sex, penis rubbing, rimming, etc.

Keep reading for our suggestions that span all types! As with all anal penetrative sex, you’ll want to use plenty of good-quality lube. Water-based and silicone-based lubes are safe for use with latex condoms.

1. Doggy-Style

Doggy-style is a passionate position that lends itself well to power-play dynamics. If you have established top and bottom roles in your relationship, this is definitely a classic (plus, it’s perfect for spanking). However, it also works just fine if you switch it up and take turns. Either way, it offers the opportunity for deep penetration.

What We’re Doing

The receiving partner positions themself on their hands and knees on the bed with legs spread slightly.
The penetrating partner kneels behind the receiving partner, between their legs.
The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

2. Missionary

Missionary gets a bad rap as boring sex for straight people. It certainly can be that, but one of the best things about the missionary position is that it is incredibly versatile. It can go from mild to wild, and it works for any couple who wants to enjoy intimately connected sex with a lot of full-body and face-to-face contact. There’s an old military joke that “it isn’t gay unless your bellies touch” — well, here you go!

This even works if you or your partner is a side and don’t want to engage in anal intercourse because it’s also a good position for frottage (penises rubbing together). Good lube is your friend for both intercourse and frottage.

What We’re Doing

The receiving partner lies on their back with their legs spread.
The penetrating partner lies on top of the receiving partner, between their legs.
The receiving partner lifts their hips and wraps their legs around the penetrating partner’s waist.
The penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

3. Spooning

Spooning can be lovely, lazy, comfortable sex that builds emotional connection, in part because you have full-body skin-to-skin contact. And the big spoon (which actually doesn’t have anything to do with body size) pretty much has to hug and cuddle the little spoon in order to get close enough to have sex. The big spoon can also manually stimulate the little spoon and you can try for simultaneous orgasms.

What We’re Doing

The receiving partner (little spoon) lies on their side on the bed, curled in a half-moon position.
The penetrating partner (big spoon) lies on their side behind the receiving partner, curled around them.
The receiving partner lifts their top leg slightly, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

4. Cowboy

In the cowboy position, the receiving partner controls the depth and pace of penetration, which makes this a great position when the receiving partner is new to penetrative anal sex and/or the penetrating partner’s penis is larger than average.

For any couple, though, this can be a very intimate position with a lot of eye contact and kissing. All four hands can also be used for caressing, which is another bonus.

What We’re Doing

The penetrating partner lies on their back on the bed with legs straight out or slightly bent.
The receiving partner straddles, squats, or kneels over the penetrating partner’s pelvis.
The receiving partner leans forward and lifts their hips, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

5. Reverse Cowboy

The reverse cowboy has similar advantages to the classic cowboy position, such as more control for the receiving partner. Reverse cowboy also offers a great view for the penetrating partner, and easier access to manually stimulate the receiving partner. It’s also an excellent angle to target the receiving partner’s P-spot.

What We’re Doing

The penetrating partner lies on their back on the bed with legs straight out or slightly bent.
The receiving partner faces away from the penetrating partner and straddles, squats, or kneels over the penetrating partner’s pelvis.
The receiving partner leans forward and lifts their hips, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

6. Standing (The Bodyguard)

This standing sex position also allows the receiving partner to adjust the angle of penetration by leaning further forward or straightening up, as desired. It is also a good choice for spontaneous sex — even outdoors! — since all you need is a sturdy surface to brace against and some lube (and condoms, of course, if you have not mutually agreed to STI testing and monogamy).

What We’re Doing

The receiving partner stands facing a wall or other sturdy and stable surface, with legs slightly spread.
The penetrating partner stands behind the receiving partner, between their legs.
The receiving partner bends forward and braces against the wall.
The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

7. Lap Dance

A lap dance is a super-fun way to add a little excitement to your sex life. You can spice it up with your favorite music, some costumes and props, or even some Monopoly money. It’s also perfect for some role-play. The dancer can tease, bump and grind, or put on a show that would get them arrested in some states — it’s all up to the two of you!

What We’re Doing

The penetrating partner sits on a chair, bed, or couch with their legs out in front and feet flat on the floor.
The receiving partner straddles the penetrating partner’s legs. They can face the penetrating partner or face away; both positions have advantages.
The receiving partner dances on the penetrating partner until they’re both ready for sex.
The receiving partner straddles the penetrating partner’s pelvis, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

8. The 69

69 is fun for all couples, of course, but it’s an especially good choice if one or both of you is not wanting to have penetrative sex for whatever reason. You can still share intimacy and mutual pleasure! Always remember that oral sex is still sex, so you need to take the same safety precautions as you would for anal sex.

What We’re Doing

Partner #1 (usually the larger/taller partner) lies on their back on the bed.
Partner #2 (usually the smaller/lighter partner) kneels over Partner #1’s chest, facing the opposite direction.
Partner #2 leans forward so that their mouth is aligned with Partner #1’s genitals, and backs up so that their genitals are aligned with Partner #1’s mouth.
Both partners perform oral sex on each other. You can also use your hands to provide extra genital or anal stimulation.

9. Rusty Trombone

This is a silly name, but we guarantee that the receiving partner will not be thinking that it’s silly when the giving partner is playing them this way! There’s plenty of stimulation and it usually leads to a very intense orgasm. The giving partner can also use an anal vibrator or other sex toy on the receiving partner. This is another good position for sides or anyone who is not wanting penetrative anal sex.

What We’re Doing

The receiving partner stands with legs slightly spread (alternatively, they can position themself on their hands and knees on the bed).
The giving partner kneels behind the receiving partner.
The giving partner manually stimulates the receiving partner’s penis, and also performs analingus.

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Maggie Hart has written about sexual well-being and sexuality in society for quite a few years now. She is active in communities that celebrate sex for older adults.