The 9 Best Gay Sex Positions For People With Penises

You probably know that consistent orgasms are associated with more satisfaction in the bedroom. But did you know that sexual variety and communication are as important? [1] That’s right. When you combine lack of communication and boredom, it’s a recipe for disaster. But fear not; this guide will help you get back on track. Your sex life doesn’t have to be cumming to an end.

Before I start, though, for those who’re new to the gay scene, here are the roles that can be taken on during sexual activity:

Top – a person who takes on a penetrative role (the giver).
Bottom – a person usually on the receiving end of the penetration (the receiver).
Versatile – a person who likes both topping and bottoming.
Side – a person who doesn’t enjoy receiving or giving penetration but engages in other sexual activities, for example, mutual masturbation, oral sex, penis rubbing, rimming, etc.

Now let’s check out some of the best gay sex positions. They come with pictures and illustrations, so trying them yourself in the bedroom is easy. Prepare your notepads, everyone!

Table Of Contents

1. Doggy Style
2. Missionary
3. Spooning
4. Cowboy
5. Reverse Cowboy
6. Standing
7. Lap Dance
8. 69
9. Rusty Trombone
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1. Doggy Style

What says raw passion more than the doggy style? This gay sex position allows for extra deep penetration, which can be the hottest thing, especially if you’re into a power play. One partner can dominate the other while focusing entirely on physical sensations. Simply put, there’s not much affection in this deep penetration sex position.

Doggie style is best enjoyed between a gay couple who take on top and bottom roles. But if anal sex isn’t your thing, don’t worry. When one partner is kneeling, the other partner can stimulate his anus with his tongue.

Pro Tip: Who says the doggy roles have to be static? If you enjoy being dominant and submissive, you can invest in a double-ended dildo. As I like to say, pleasure is best shared.

Pro tip 2: The bottom partner can arch his back slightly to allow for easier entry.

How To Do It

The bottom kneels on the edge of the bed, resting on his wrists or elbows. Alternatively, you can go for a flat doggie variation where one partner lies flat (AKA prone).
The penetrating partner positions themselves behind the bottom and penetrates their anus.
Doggy isn’t just for deep penetration but also an excellent way to exercise dominance over your partner in various ways; tease him with fingers or rimming and make him ask for more. Spanking also makes for great foreplay.
Remember that safety comes first. Make sure you use lube for easy penetration. And don’t forget the condom.

2. Missionary

I know. You must be rolling your eyes right now. Missionary sex is the synonym of boring sex for many. Plus, it seems to be a typical position for straight people. But please withhold your judgment. Here’s why Missionary is one of the better options on this list:

The missionary position gives you easy access to all your partner’s bits. You can please him with your fingers or focus on oral sex. Because it’s so versatile, it’s great for tops, bottoms, and side couples.

It’s also great for watching your partner’s facial reactions. For example, while pounding your lover’s tight ass, don’t forget to see if he’s enjoying himself (I guarantee he will!). Remember, eye contact makes it all ten times sexier.

Pro tip: If your partner is a side, you can try frottage (penis rubbing) to get the best out of the missionary. But make sure you use plenty of lube to avoid condom breaking.

How To Do It

The bottom lies on his back and spreads his legs while the top partner positions himself on top.
From here, the top enters the partner’s anus (after making sure it’s sufficiently lubricated and the partner is wearing protection, of course).
The bottom can wrap his legs around the top to enable deeper penetration.
Alternatively, the bottom partner penetrates the other partner’s anus with his fingers or stimulates it with his tongue.

3. Spooning

Sometimes it’s good to slow things down and focus on emotional connection. And spooning is one of the most intimate gay sex positions as it allows for complete skin-to-skin contact.

Interestingly, studies show that emotional connection is one of the main themes that make sex the ‘best sex’ [2]. So, you can’t go wrong with a bit of snuggling.

Still not convinced? If you want to spice things up, try some verbal foreplay – who doesn’t love some dirty talk? Whisper what you want to do to your partner while penetrating him from behind.

Pro tip: If you’re the giver, instead of embracing your partner, you can try giving him a handjob to enhance the experience. Kiss his earlobe while you’re at it – he’s going to moan with pleasure!

How To Do It

If your partner is the little spoon, have him lie on the side. In the meantime, the big spoon can put on a condom and use lubrication.
Lie down behind your partner and have him lift his leg to allow for easier entry.

4. Cowboy

Cowboy is a position that allows for maximum intimacy. Staring into your partner’s eyes, stroking his chest, observing his reactions, and deep kissing are great ways to bond with your partner.

Cowboy is also good for bottoms who aren’t as experienced as they can easily control the speed and depth of the penetration. It’s the perfect position to see what anal sex is all about. Trust me. You’ll want to explore more in no time!

How To Do It

Both partners are face-to-face. The giver lies down on his back, and the receiver sits on top.
The partner who takes on the bottom role leans forward and puts his hands on the giver’s chest.
Before penetration, the giver should make sure he’s wearing a condom that’s sufficiently lubricated. Sexual health is important.

5. Reverse Cowboy

This one is almost the same as the cowboy, except the partners face away from each other, so there’s not much room for intimacy. On the other hand, the giver has a great view of the partner’s body, and the bottom can turn around and look back at him. There’s something incredibly hot about having your partner watch you while enjoying himself.

Additionally, being the bottom doesn’t mean you have to give up the power. This position lets the bottom partner control the thrusting and find the best angle to achieve orgasm. You’ll be surprised how easy it is to stimulate the prostate.

Pro tip: If the bottom wants to share control with the top, he can lean back on his partner’s chest.

How To Do It

The giver lies down on his back, and the receiver faces towards the receiver’s feet while kneeling or squatting.
Once all the protective measures are in place (there’s no bigger mood spoiler than an STI), get ready to enjoy the P-spot stimulation.
The receiver might stimulate his penis simultaneously.

6. Standing

Most gay men love the standing sex position (also known as the bodyguard) as it allows for a wider range of motions and playing with angles. To fully enjoy standing sex, ensure clear communication between you two. No one likes to be penetrated hard without prior consent.

Plus, it’s great for a quickie – just find a space to get down to business whenever you fancy. If you’re adventurous, you can explore sex in public places (think bathrooms or the outdoors).

But before you give in to your desire, make sure there’s enough lube involved to maximize the pleasure and minimize the discomfort. Of course, wearing a condom should go without saying.

How To Do It

The giver stands behind the bottom, typically leaning against the wall.
The receiver arches his back a bit to allow for easier entry.

7. Lap Dance

Have you ever fantasized about having sex with a stripper? As the name suggests, the Lap Dance gives you a little taste of that fantasy.

The receiver might tease the top with a grinding movement; moving his pelvis and rubbing his chest over his partner’s. He might even dance in front of the partner while maintaining eye contact to maximize arousal.

Pro tip: The person being penetrated can turn his hips slightly sideways so he can kiss his partner.

How To Do It

Lap Dance allows for easy entry as long as you use plenty of lube. And don’t forget to wear a condom while you’re at it.
The top faces away, sits on a chair, bed, or flat surface, and spreads his legs slightly.
The other partner positions himself over the top’s lap.
The bottom might place his hands on the top’s legs to control the penetration.
If you’re the bottom, feel free to stimulate your penis for an enhanced orgasm.

8. 69

The 69 is the go-to position for gay men who isn’t fans of anal sex. All you need for this one is your tongue (and a condom if it’s a casual partner). But let’s face it, 69 is great even if you aren’t a side– no other sex position can guarantee mutual oral sex. If you’re into hearing your partner moan while they’re pleasuring you at the same time, 69 is just what you need!

Want to spice things up? Have your partner stimulate your anus instead. Regardless of your oral sex preference, 69 is one of the best sex positions to try out there. Add it to your list for the most satisfying sex you’ll ever have.

How To Do It

One partner lies down on his back.
His partner faces the opposite direction and positions himself over his partner’s body, so his penis is over his partner’s mouth.
The kneeling position is one of the most comfortable sex positions (unless you want to train those biceps).
Alternatively, many gay couples find it easier to lie down on their sides. It’s best to give both options a try.
You can incorporate anal play; use your tongue or fingers to make it even more enjoyable.

9. Rusty Trombone

The Rusty Trombone is way sexier than it sounds. While it does look like someone’s playing the trombone, its strength is double stimulation that guarantees an intense orgasm. The receiver gets all the attention while the giver engages in rimming and gives a handjob at the same time.

Since there’s no penetration involved, this gay sex position is perfect for both sides and gay men who like to explore different styles. I think you can agree it’s one of the better ones on this list (when you ignore the funny name).

Pro tip: If you’re the giver, don’t forget to stimulate the area between his balls and anus.

How To Do It

One partner is in a standing position with slightly spread legs while the other guy kneels behind him
Alternatively, the partner who takes on the bottom position can kneel on a bed facing away from the partner and lift his pelvis, just like in a doggy position
The giver then reaches around to stimulate the partner’s penis and engages in backdoor oral sex