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When it comes to experiencing the myriad joys of anal play, there’s the length and width, as in steadily increasing the anus’s gape (AKA anal gape training) to be able to take bigger toys or even the sexual activity of taking entire human fists.
But like everything else to do with anal play, there’s a right, a wrong way, and an extra-fun way to train your anus. This is where we come in with our comprehensive guide to all things expanding, stretching, or widening of the human anus.
Table Of Contents
- Why You Should Trust Us
- What Is Anal Gaping?
- Why Do People Like Anal Gaping?
- Is Anal Gaping Dangerous?
- How Much Can I Stretch My Butt Hole?
- What Tools Do I Need For Gaping?
- Best Toys For Beginners
- Best Toys For the Moderately Experienced
- Best Toys For the Very Experienced
- How To Anal Gape?
- Best Positions For Anal Gaping
Why You Should Trust Us
You’d be hard-pressed to find a more qualified team of sex authorities than us here at the My Sex Toy Guide site. Sure, we know our sextech products and how to use them. But everyone here is also well versed in every other aspect of human sexuality.
If it’s arousing, exciting, or just plain fun, we know about it. BDSM to oral sex, we are exploring the outer limits of pleasure to sure fire ways to be more sensual. We’ve got you covered.
For our guide, we’ve tapped the considerable expertise of M.Christian. The acclaimed author of countless gay erotic stories and novels, proficient in all things sex tech, kink, and fetish educator extraordinaire, they are here to enlighten you on everything to do with your anal penetration play.
What Is Anal Gaping?
Anal gaping is using sex toys to widen or gape the anal tract for short periods or a considerable amount for larger anal toys. The goal is often to expand the anus so there’s a clear view of the upper rectum. The process can take anywhere from a relatively short time or require the investment of regular gaping anus exercises.
In either case, it requires patience and comprehensive knowledge of the anus and rectum, awareness of the risks involved, and a degree of dedication.
Why Do People Like Anal Gaping?
People like a gaped anus for many reasons. For some, gaping enhances a kinky role-play dynamic, one where the person whose anus has been stretched open is doing so at the behest of a dominant partner. Perhaps making it a bit easier for them to anally available for penetration by a butt plug. Such as with pegging, fists, or a penis.
Another popular reason people like a gaping asshole is that widening the opening is sexually arousing. After all, the anus has numerous nerve endings, just like the mouth and the appeal of oral sex.
The anus, when appropriately stimulated, can be sexually stimulating and a source of pleasure. Gaping the anus allows for far easier access to the depths of the anus for partner penetration. This is important for depth training as well. For those into fisting, this means less resistance and a more comfortable time for both fist-er and fist-ee.
Additionally, fans of prostate play may experience more than one orgasm at a time, as with multiple orgasms for women, as well as having ones that last several minutes. Though inside or out, none of us are the same. Others may not find prostate stimulation to be sexually exciting. To each their own, as we like to say.
This walnut-sized gland is responsible for generating seminal fluid. For those equipped with a penis, less restricted access to the anus also places the prostate gland where it can be readily caressed, aiding in ejaculation. But when stimulated by a fist or specialty-designed butt plug can trigger a special kind of orgasm. Or boost a genital one.
Is Anal Gaping Dangerous?
Anal gaping is not without its potential risks and, in some ways, can even be dangerous. Nature, after all, made the anal cavity to push poop out, not take things in.
So, the operative words with gaping and anything else to do with inserting anything into the rectum are lube, the right toy, and patience.
Not going slow, not using enough lube, or using the wrong toy can lead to pain, a tear, or worse.
Like running runs the risk of irritating or potentially harming the anal opening, resulting in serious pain, so too is not having a bowel movement or performing an anal douche beforehand to ensure the area is as poop free as possible. (Read how to anal douche here)
This can result in hemorrhoids which, while causing pain, is not especially risky. However, a tear can be as it raises the risk of severe infection.
Obviously, anal sex play of any sort should try and avoid this, beginning with always using a condom for a partner’s penis, and your butthole always has more than enough lube. Plus, always use a sex toy built for anal play.
We can’t emphasize this enough. Always be prepared to call for help if something goes wrong or you feel pain. The longer you wait to seek medical help, the more likely the injury will worsen.
So if there’s blood in your poop, a change in regular bowel movements, or pain of any sort, get you and your ass to a doctor post-haste.
How Much Can I Stretch My Butt Hole?
You can stretch your butt hole a lot. That is with time, proper gape training, plenty of lube, and the perfect toy. How long and how much depends on your body, experience level, and patience.
People who are really into anal sex have been known to increase their anal muscles. Hence, their fist or arm is easily insertable if they have a partner, as well as their partner’s penis. Also, their expanded rectum will stay dilated for days, if not longer.
However, given enough time, these muscles will eventually return to their original size for adults. Though there’s plenty of data showing the anus can be damaged, requiring surgery to repair.
But this can be avoided by taking it slow and not pushing your anal sex training too far or fast. Should something unpleasant happen in the course of your play, seek out a medical professional.
What Tools Do I Need For Gaping?
There are many tools you’ll need for your anal gaping.
Once more, the bowels are about expelling poop, not easily letting stuff in. It’s mandatory to only use toys or anything else designed, engineered, and manufactured for anal gaping.
Whatever it is or how hot you think it might be, doing it overwise runs the risk you won’t be able to safely extract it. Repeat, “I will never use anything but approved and texted objects or lubricants for my anal training.”
Doubt us on this? If so, drop by any emergency room and listen to the staff’s tales of the many poor, unfortunate souls who dropped by with every sort of weird thing stuck up their butts.
It’s also important to have a good bowel movement followed by an anal cleaner to remove as much fecal matter as possible.
An enema is also how most people get used to how their butthole feels. This nozzle insertion into the rectum is also how men and women get interested in this kind of sex play. That and porn, of course.
1. Lubricant
Lubrication is perhaps even more essential than the butt plug for the right (anal) job or an enema. This is because the anus is equally about absorbing moisture and pushing waste out of the body.
While great lubrication for a vagina, it’s far less for the rectum. Due to this, avoid a water-based lube because using some will result in an unfortunate uphill battle with your anus. However much you use, your ass will remain a step ahead of you by soaking it up.
Previously, it was common for anal gape fans to use common household shortening for sex. But times have changed. Now there are a plethora of anal play lubricants available, often uniquely formulated for activities like anal training. So stick to silicone lube as it’s super slick and won’t be so easily absorbed.
Pro Tip: The data shows you can’t have too much when applying it. If you’re one hundred percent sure you’ve used enough, that’s when you should lather on more. There’s a website or two offering special enema solutions for this sort of sexual fun.
To take a page from our book and when ordering your anal training tools buy twice or maybe three times more lube than you feel you might need. Believe us. Your ass will be eternally and internally grateful you did.
2. Anal Toys
As the old adage goes, you must have the right tool for the right job. Regards to gape training, that’s sex toys expressly engineered for anal insertion.
We cannot stress enough how crucial this is. Believe us. You don’t want an unexpected visit to the hospital because you used something other than an anal sex toy, but a wrong toy that can result in serious injury or even permanent damage to your anus.
It’s not finding anal training toys is difficult, and the creme de la creme can be found at the Square Peg Toys site, which is ideal for beginners and experienced alike.
But it isn’t the only company making money selling anal play toys. So, if Square Peg Toys doesn’t have what you’re looking for, do a little research, and you’ll likely find one that does.
You can read more about preparing for anal sex in my other guide.
Best Toys For Beginners
Begin with a thorough anal douche with an enema to remove excess fecal matter. Then use a gloved finger and a gentle circular motion to dilate the rectum. When you feel you’re ready, insert the same finger. The same goes for two and then three fingers. Then, if you have a partner, their finger or penis.
For the next step, use a toy with a flared base around an inch and a quarter wide. This would make it a bit over five to six inches in circumference.
Square Peg’s Acorn is what we’re talking about. It comes in various sizes, including the smallest, which is fantastic for beginners. When ready to take it, you can get the next size up without getting used to a whole new shape.
The operative word for early anal training is wideness over length. However, if you want both, that’s perfectly okay. Another excellent one is the Egg Plug line from Square Peg. They come in many sizes and widths, so you can easily upgrade what you can take.
Best Toys For the Moderately Experienced
With greater proficiency comes the need for wider and wider toys, but try not to let your arousal get the better of you. Rather, move up to a bigger one only when you’re used to the ones you’re already used to.
Square Peg’s Blunt Peg is superb for this next step. On the farther end, where the moderately experienced become the very, are ones like the Uncut 7.
These and others typically run from two and a quarter to three and a half inches in width.
At this point, you may want to consider stepping up to an inflatable. The benefit is easily increasing or decreasing its girth. If you feel it’s too wide, you can deflate it to make it smaller. So you don’t have to keep buying more.
The Boyzshop site has many great ones, like the Primal Inflatable or the long-named Dark Inflator Silicone Inflatable Anal Plug. Both would be just the thing for the middle-ground anal training.
If you need help using any of these, there’s a website or two out there with informative sex videos and cam shows for you to check out.
Best Toys For the Very Experienced
If all goes well, you’ll need to use even wider toys. When it comes to big boys, you’re very fortunate as there are loads to choose from, so go crazy.
Talking measurements, these are around three inches and above in width. Or eight to an impressive nine inches in circumference. To give some perspective, these are the sizes people into anal fisting often shoot for.
The Baby Elephant from Square Pegs is a good example of these larger toys, as well as the Double Fist Plug. Or you can go from baby to adult elephant as well.
These especially girthy toys also come with a unique sense of humor, like ones shaped like massive fists, fire hydrants, or anything else you might erotically imagine.
How To Anal Gape?
There’s how to begin your anal training. First, educate yourself on risks should they happen and arousing benefits of it. Then get more than enough lube and have rubber gloves handy.
Note: Anal gaping is an advanced sex act, and you need to take great care when doing it. Any action you take upon the information on this website is strictly at your own risk, and we will not be liable for any losses, injuries, or damages. Learn more.
1. Getting used to your anus
To get your anal training underway, carefully and gently explore your anus. Use a slow, gentle circular motion to get those muscles used to your fingers and what it’s like to have something inserted into yourself. A penis is a classic example.
Don’t push in or widen too much to avoid a tear. Age may play a role in this as the older an adult is, the looser their rectum may get.
Have a break now and again, take it slow, listen to your body, and ease off if you experience pain or discomfort. Eventually, you’ll gain control over its contractions; as you do, it will feel more pleasurable.
2. Move onto anal toys
At some point, you’ll want to replace your fingers with something else. This is when you go shopping for tons of lube and a certified anal toy. After receiving both, get comfortable and get used to having the toy inside yourself.
For any sort of anal play, the major obstacle is getting a toy or finger in without damaging the anal sphincter. But once whatever you’re using is in there, it can stay in place for a long time, sometimes hours for the very experienced.
Pro Tip: You should pay close attention to your body’s reactions, like when you have a toy inside yourself and after it’s been removed. Urination changes, cramps, constipation, diarrhea, and so forth can be signs you should take a break. If these or other concerns persist, visit your doctor immediately.
Otherwise, set up as regular schedule as you can. How often and for how long is up to you and your body. Many find a weekly session beneficial, while others find that every three or even two days does the trick.
3. Slowly increase the duration and diameter
From here on, it’s just steadily and patiently expanding the width of your anal sex toys. As well as how long you keep them in.
Back to personal preferences, some say that regular rhythmic penetration works well for anal training. If the idea turns you on, by all means, try it for yourself. If you do, we highly recommend doubling or tripling the amount of lube to help prevent painful irritation.
Given enough time, patience, and perseverance, you’ll be well on your way to enjoying the multiple pleasures of a wide-open ass. Just be sure to develop a keen understanding of your body and what you like and don’t like along the way.
Best Positions For Anal Gaping
Let’s talk positions before we wind up our guide and why discovering the right ones can be key to having a good time.
The butt in the air
Back to the ins and outs of anal biology, squatting down often triggers your bowels to get moving. This is why sitting upright with an anal dildo inside yourself may feel like your body’s trying extra hard to push it out.
Consider laying on your back with your ass slightly elevated to alleviate help this. Pillows or having your legs up against a wall might help. This position is also mirrored by that legendary anal sex mainstay, the sling. Though without having to sink extra-secure bolts in your ceiling.
This can be great for anal sex training because it may bypass that squatting reflex. At least enough to help you hold something inside yourself for a bit longer.
The half spoon
Another method to circumvent your body’s natural tendencies is to lay on your side. Think of it as spooning someone who isn’t there. Hence the name of this anal training position.
Among its good points are it’s easier to relax, places less pressure on your anus, and manipulates an anal sex dildo without fighting against your anus’s natural tendencies.
The Anal Doggy
Weird name aside, this is a slight modification to the classic doggy, from behind, with the twist of using it with an anal dildo for repeated penetration play.
For those with a partner, it’s great as they can take control of the toy. For those without, it’s a little more challenging. But far from impossible, a good percentage of anal sex training toys come equipped with suction cups. This way, you can affix them to a smooth surface. Then get down on your hands and knees before going to town!
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