The idea of inserting an entire clenched fist into your or someone else’s anus might sound a tad extreme. But it’s possible with the right toys and practice. Best of all, anal fisting can be immensely arousing and highly pleasurable. It could even open sexual doors for you and your partner to explore. In this article, I’ll explain how to anal fist and what tools you need for the job!
Table Of Contents
- Why You Should Trust Us
- What Is Anal Fisting?
- Why Do People Like Anal Fisting?
- What Does Anal Fisting Feel Like?
- Can You Orgasm From Anal Fisting?
- Is Anal Fisting Safe?
- What’s the Difference Between Anal Fisting and Vaginal Fisting?
- How To Prepare For Anal Fisting?
- How To Anal Fist?
- Anal Fisting Aftercare
- How To Anal Fist Yourself?
- Best Positions For Anal Fisting
Why You Should Trust Us
We at My Sex Toy Guide pride ourselves in being thoroughly knowledgeable about every aspect of human sexuality. Like which vibrator, massager, stroker, or similar type of pleasure devices are guaranteed to put a smile on your face. And don’t forget our expertise in how to have a safe, sane, and consensual BDSM scene, among others.
For our fisting for beginners guide, we’re pleased to have erotica author, sex educator, and all-around sexuality know-it-all M.Christian with us. You name it, and they have either studied it, done it, or have more than a few well-versed friends to consult with.
The can’t-be-beat team of our My Sex Toy Guide authorities on all things sexual and M.Christian’s worldly experiences and comprehensive research are ideally suited for giving you anal fisting tips as part of our anal fisting guide.
What Is Anal Fisting?
Anal fisting is inserting an entire hand or fist into the anal canal. Anal penetration isn’t something that can be done quickly or without a small amount of education and considerable practice.
Taking a whole fist can be extremely risky as the anus is quite delicate and easily damaged. Unintentional injuries to the anal muscles or tissues during fisting may require immediate medical attention, surgery, or result in a permanent disability.
Warnings aside, if everyone is educated and well-practiced, anal fisting can be safe. Even if done repeatedly in a short amount of time. Or when more than a fist, such as a good percentage of a human arm, is used.
Why Do People Like Anal Fisting?
There are countless reasons why people find pleasure in anal fisting. For example, for those with penises, it may excite the prostate gland.
This small gland’s regular function is to provide lubrication to aid ejaculation. But when properly stimulated, it has been known to magnify a person’s genital orgasm or sometimes produce its own very special kind.
Those experienced in prostate massage have also reported having multiple orgasms when these two different kinds of coming work in concert.
People also enjoy anal fisting as nothing else makes them feel extremely full. By this, we mean internal pressure, much of it stimulating both the prostate/G-spot and genitals. With or without repeated penetration, as the case may be.
Additionally, there’s the BDSM aspect of anal fisting. It’s often arousing for submissives as the ultimate form of literal bottoming to their dominant.
Likewise, tops may enjoy it as the ultimate power move, with them using their entire hand and not merely their penis to penetrate a submissive.
Last but not least, others groove on combinations of the above. Or perhaps they can’t say what turns them on about anal fisting someone or being anally fisted.
In which case, more power to them. After all, as long as it involves consenting adults, whatever they or you like is fine and dandy.
What Does Anal Fisting Feel Like?
Anal fisting results in a great many arousing sensations. Such as applying pressure to the prostate gland or creating a pleasantly intense feeling of being anally filled.
But there are others, as well. For example, some are excited by how anal fisting excites the nerve endings around the anal sphincter. Meanwhile, others taking a whole fist is a great way to learn to meditate and relax, as both are essential prerequisites for safe anal fisting.
Then some get off on the taboo aspect of it. This is because fisting ass is still considered an edgy sexual practice. One that can seem especially dramatic if not wildly outrageous to the uninitiated.
On top of that, fisting might be part of a larger sexual activity. To illustrate this, imagine a person who, while being fisted or engaging in anal play, has their genitals stimulated with oral sex.
Or during edging, the process of getting close to and then pulling back from coming. This can cause the anus to constrict, making fisting even more exciting.
Can You Orgasm From Anal Fisting?
Yes, you can orgasm from anal fisting. But getting there takes practice. That said, an equal percentage of people who come first, their partner inserts their fist into them. As we like to say, everyone is unique, so you won’t know until you try it for yourself.
Similarly, orgasming depends on all sorts of factors. For certain penis owners, it may stem from prostate stimulation. Others may experience a combination of physical sensations and psychological ones.
Like when fisting is a component in a BDSM scene. Plus, if they are so incredibly aroused by the idea of taking a full fist, their erotic fantasies help to tip their orgasmic scale.
Fisting enthusiasts sometimes say they orgasm, but it’s not like having a genital one. When they orgasm, they liken it to knee-buckling, teeth-chattering, staggeringly intense waves of pleasure. When in the fisting zone, their whole body is a massive and very aroused sex organ.
While possible with time and practice, others enjoy fisting as merely a pleasant activity. One they and their partner relish doing as part of their regular and very fulfilling sexual activities.
However fisting feels to you, it’s important to do it safely.
Is Anal Fisting Safe?
Anal fisting can be a totally safe sexual practice to participate in. But it’s not without some serious risks.
As with any anal play activity, it’s crucial to remember your body’s anatomy. The anus evolved to remove waste from your body. So it’s intrinsically not suited for having anything inserted into it, let alone a human fist.
Again, it doesn’t mean fisting can’t be done or is somehow wrong. Not at all! It’s that you shouldn’t ever forget these essential basic facts regarding how the anus operates. Such as another key aspect of your ass is it removes excess moisture from your fecal matter.
So far, so good, right? Well, when talking anal fisting, this means you shouldn’t use water-based lubricants as your ass will soak it up faster than you can apply it. And never use lubes with numbing agents.
One thing you must never for anal play have is a dry anus. When there is not enough moisture or not sufficiently slippery, a finger alone can be enough to irritate or possibly tear its extremely delicate tissues or harm the distal sphincter. Sometimes requiring a trip to the emergency room.
So use lots, and we mean lots, of silicone-based lube. Or a specially formulated oil-based lube intended for anal sex. But in either case, keep it flowing no matter what.
Take it from people with more than our fair share of anal fisting experience. You can’t have too much lube, and if you think you have enough, that’s when you should apply even more.
What’s the Difference Between Anal Fisting and Vaginal Fisting?
There are significant differences between anal fisting and vaginal fisting. The first and most important thing gets us back to basic human anatomy.
But here we are talking about how the vagina primarily evolved to encourage fertilization. Once done and it’s time to give birth, it switches roles to where it is all about getting a baby out as smoothly as possible.
The upshot is that vaginas tend to be a bit easier due to the posterior vaginal wall and its innate ability to expand and is also self-lubricating.
The differences don’t stop there. Unlike butt play, only use water-based lube for pussy fisting. The vagina’s often delicate internal balances otherwise could be upset. If anything else is used, it might lead to a nasty infection.
For those with vaginas, anal double penetration is also possible and can be a really intense sexual experience.
Single or double penetrated, anal or vaginal, “patience” is key. Trying to push beyond an anus or vagina’s natural limits is a recipe for anything from severe discomfort to actual pain.
Not to mention the high probability of a frantic 911 call, an ambulance trip to the ER, and emergency surgery.
How To Prepare For Anal Fisting?
There are several things you need to do to prepare for ass fisting. Beginning with familiarizing your body with ass play. A great method for getting ready for butt stuff is to start with a single, solitary finger rather than your or anyone else’s hand.
Finding the right glove for your ass may take some trial and error. Latex gloves are highly recommended for this. Though there are some on the market designed for anal play.
But as with everything to do with your ass and anything else, take your time and don’t rush into anything.
First, wash your hands with antibacterial soap, trim your nails, put on your gloves, and apply plenty of silicone lube. Then gently caress your anal opening. If that feels good, insert one finger and move it around for a while. Try two, three, and then all your fingers as you get more comfortable.
Incidentally, while named “fisting,” it doesn’t actually begin with one. Rather it starts with the fingers in a beak, or Italian emphasis hand position to get the anus ready for that first fist.
While you play with your ass, pay attention to how it feels. It will likely take some time, but eventually, it will be less uncomfortable and more pleasurable. Or even arousing. Immediately slow down or stop if you experience any pain or discomfort.
Getting to where you can take more than one finger can take days, weeks, or all the way to months. It all depends on your body. So don’t go too fast; take your time and develop your inner calm.
Most of all, learn to breathe. From there, communicate with your ass. So during your initial fisting prep, if anything feels odd, you will know how to calm and center yourself. This will help reduce your anus, rectum, and the rest of your gastrointestinal track’s tendency to reflexively contract.
Because if fisting requires anything from the person being fisted, it’s learning to listen to their body.
Then, when armed with this knowledge, develop ways to control its natural inclinations. Therefore able to accept a hand going in rather than trying to push it out.
We also have an extensive guide on how to prepare for anal sex.
How To Anal Fist?
There’s a lot to go over, so we have prepared a step-by-step guide to this sexual act. Including what to do before, during, and, equally important, what happens when you are done.
Though we’ve tried to be as comprehensive as possible, remember your body is your own. While what we will touch on works for most people, there’s a real possibility something here might be more or less challenging for you. The same is true for various things that might even be easier.
In that spirit, pay strict attention to your anus. If you experience serious discomfort, pain, or intestinal difficulties, do whatever you need to recover.
Note: Anal fisting is an advanced sex act, and you need to take great care when doing it. Any action you take upon the information on this website is strictly at your own risk, and we will not be liable for any losses, injuries, or damages. Learn more.
1. Diet and fisting
Anal sex play involves your lower intestines, bowel, rectum, and so forth. So you shouldn’t be surprised that what you eat a day or two affects every bowel movement.
Ideally, the aim is for your stool to be somewhat loose and free-flowing without being too much. This way, getting rid of excess fecal waste from the anal canal will be far easier. This, in turn, can make anal fisting easier or more difficult.
Pro Tip: Maintaining a dietary and excretion diary can be extra helpful. What you ate and what came out the next day can give you a good idea of what foods to consume and what to steer clear of.
You should generally refrain from eating solid food six to twelve hours before sexual play. Before then, stay away from especially dense or high-fat foods. Like ones containing lactose products or beans. Also, don’t eat nuts, seeds, or fruits. If any remains in your colon during fisting, they can painfully irritate or cut your anal walls.
Otherwise, stay well hydrated. This keeps things moving and prevents dehydration. It will also help boost anal lubrication when it is time to do some anal fisting.
2. Enemas and cleaning
Use an enema for anal to flush out as much fecal matter as you can. Some say it is fine if a small amount remains. But we prefer to be safe rather than possibly sorry. So wash your hands, wear gloves, apply J lube, and squeeze your enema bulb until your anus is clean.
While probably a no-brainer for people interested in anal fisting, we want to take a moment to talk about fecal matter. It may not be pleasant but dealing with it comes with ass play. So if you are uncomfortable with poop, try not to let your squeamishness interfere with cleaning your ass.
Pro Tip: It’s perfectly okay to wear latex gloves or anything else that helps overcome any shitty trepidations you might have.
3. Toys are your friend
Anal toys can be great for getting you and your backside used to wide and deeper amounts of butt hole penetration. While this would likely be a whole article, here’s a quickie lesson on picking the silicone toys toy for anal training.
For starters, only use toys designed for anal play, like butt plugs or a mock dildo. We can not emphasize this enough, as using anything else runs a very serious risk of getting it stuck in your anal cavity. So it’s anal sex toys and nothing but anal sex toys.
We highly recommend anal toys from We-Vibe. They are excellently designed, and the company’s founder, Alicia Sinclair, is an anal sex expert. Getting a toy inside can be tricky, but not when it’s from We-Vibe.
Also, you will need several butt plugs to prepare the anal canal for a human hand. The reason is you can not go from zero to sixty, size-wise. Rather, get things rolling with a smaller butt plug. When you are used to how it feels, move to a wider butt plug. Repeating this process with toy after toy will eventually get you where your ass can handle it.
A key part of this process is maintaining a regular routine of anal expansion exercises. The more you do, the more elastic your lower anal colon will get. That and you will get more comfortable or perhaps more aroused by it.
4. Patience
Only you can say when you are ready for anal fisting. So resist the urge to go any faster than you are comfortable.
By the way, porn videos aren’t always a good guide for how it should be done.
Rushing also seriously increases the odds of you harming yourself or your partner’s anus. This is also true during fisting itself.
Anal fisting requires communication. So negotiate thoroughly, work out hard limits, and agree on safe words. If you want the play session to stop, tell your partner immediately. Likewise, playing only with people you trust will slow down or stop when you ask them to.
If they do not, raise a ruckus until they stop. Then get dressed and get out of there, as this is someone you should not play with.
If their failure to play safely is especially egregious, consider sharing your experience with others. This could help them realize how important anal sex safety truly is.
It may also prevent others from playing with anyone who does not take it seriously.
Anal Fisting Aftercare
Before your anal play session, discuss with your partner what you want in your last few hours. For those new to fisting, this might include taking a hot bath or shower, crawling straight into bed, or wherever else you need for a pleasurable experience.
But since you are a newbie, you may not know what you want. If this is the case, give yourself time for you and your anal area to get used to it.
Physically, some people experience gastrointestinal irregularities. These will probably ease once your body fully recovers from a fisting session. Again, how long and what might happen is up to you.
If you experience debilitating cramps, blood in your stool, or pain, go to your doctor post-haste. Waiting is not advisable as you don’t want a minor problem to become a major one. Or a major health emergency to become potentially life-threatening because you hesitated.
Concerned your anus might remain permanently loose? Rest assured, given enough time, your upper rectum and sphincter muscles will return to their pre-fisting state. Though if you have multiple fisting sessions over a short time, it may take longer to do so.
You can read more about how to recover from anal sex in this guide.
How To Anal Fist Yourself?
It’s entirely possible to fist yourself. Though it requires no small amount of flexibility and practice. Here yoga or similar exercises can be invaluable.
As fisting requires patience and regular exercises, so too goes getting your body to where you can fist yourself.
You must stretch train your anus, wrist, shoulder, elbow, back, and the rest of yourself. Long-handled anal sex toys can be helpful as they can go where your own hand may not.
It goes without saying that self-fisting doubles or triples your risk of doing something painful to your body. But less critically as it is usually nothing more than overstretching your joints. Uncomfortable? Absolutely! But unless you throw your back out or dislocate something, you typically do not have to rush to the ER.
Though unexpected discomfort might make you pull your fist out faster than if you were playing with a partner. This raises the risk of an anal prolapse, where your insides are pulled outside. This typically requires a lot of force, so it is unlikely even if you jerk your hand out quickly.
Best Positions For Anal Fisting
Getting where you can take a human fist requires careful preparations, patience, and the right sex position.
Here are hopefully useful ideas of how you and your partner might position yourselves for fisting. But don’t feel you have to try all of them out. Or you are doing anything wrong if you don’t like them.
Equally, more power to you if you find a position you like that isn’t here or make up your own.
The Sling
Back in mid-90s San Francisco, M.Christian frequently attended balls-to-the-wall fisting parties. The music was picked for its steady beat, and there were ceiling-mounted slings as far as the eye could see.
The latter is extremely good because slings are perfect for fisting. They lift the fisted person’s ass upwards, nicely counteracting the body’s natural inclination to expel waste when we are sitting or squatting. It’s also extremely comfortable for the fister by reducing back strain.
The only downside to a sling is you cannot hook one up willy-nilly. Though some are attachable to door frames or come with their own support racks.
Otherwise, you will need a space with extremely sturdy ceiling supports. And someone who really knows how to safely suspend a sling from them.
But if you have both, then get yourself a sling. Trust us, the first time you use it for a fisting scene will be more than enough to convince you how great slings can be.
The boosted doggy
This is a slight modification of the classic from behind position, with the twist that the puppy rests on a suitably large pile of pillows. This helps them maintain this position without supporting themselves on their arms and legs.
The goal is to give the fister unimpeded access to their ass. All without the receiver torquing their joints or other parts of their body.
The only downside to this position is as the fisted person faces downwards, their anus does the same. Therefore, the fister has to angle their hand and arm slightly downwards. Depending on the person, this could be somewhat awkward. Though some may find it more comfortable than fisting someone in a sling.
The Sideways
If you’re looking for a comfortable receiver position, look no further than the sideways.
The name says it all. The person being fisted lays on the side with their legs tucked up against their chest. The fister then can get to their ass by sitting or kneeling behind them.
This position is excellent for those with back issues. The only point against this position is the receiver’s legs cannot be easily spread apart. Perhaps making it awkward to get into or maintain for too long.
Thanks for reading my anal fisting instructions!
M.Christian
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