Getting older does not mean the good times have to stop rolling, even when it comes to matters of intimacy. In a study in 2018 by the National Poll on Healthy Aging, ¾ of respondents aged 65-80 agreed with the statement that sex is a critical aspect of any romantic relationship, regardless of age. We see this as true especially because with age comes more experience. We know our bodies better, and we are also better at communicating what we like and do not like. And after all, sex is one component of healthy aging and maintaining well-being. This is why we have prepared a list of the 7 best sex positions for seniors. This is a guide tailor-made and adapted for those of you who may have a few more candles on your birthday cake.
However, we must keep in mind that as we age, our bodies change as well. There may be limited mobility, hip pain, vaginal dryness, or other issues. Many seniors may not be as agile and flexible as they once were, but this is no reason for not having sex. Among people in their golden years, pain in the joints and back are the most common types of pain that can hamper enjoyment in the bedroom. With your utmost safety and comfort in mind as well as ease of access to the genitals and other erogenous areas, these positions are perfect for senior lovers as they avoid strain and discomfort on the back and joints. So, when you’re ready, read on to find out the best and most comfortable senior sex positions for seniors to have fun in the bedroom.
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Missionary with Pillow
Naturally, we have to start with Missionary, but we have adapted it to be senior-friendly through the use of a pillow. It’s an easy and safe position because it works for partners of all ages. There is intimacy, eye contact, deep penetration, G-spot stimulation, and great pleasure. Missionary is also an excellent position to experiment with in terms of the depth and speed of your movement, so if you are feeling adventurous, you can always go faster and harder.
If you experience any type of pain coming from your spine, then Missionary with Pillow is perfect. The receiving partner gets added back support from the pillow, and this takes away the discomfort. But if this gets dull real quick, feel free to try other variations of missionary.
How To Do It
- One partner lies down flat on their back with a pillow or two on the arch of their back or under their lower back and the other partner climbs on top coming face to face with you.
- The giving partner guides their penis inside.
- They start with slow and shallow movements.
- They can start to go thrust faster and go for deeper penetration.
- Keep going until you reach the climax.
Doggy Style with Pillow
Doggy Style is another sex position that couples love as there is a lot of room for stimulating many of your partner’s erogenous zones at the same time. For seniors, this can be adapted to lessen the agility and pressure needed to perform this position with the help of a pillow. The pillow under the receiving partner’s hips adds comfort and extra support. And with the giving partner hands-free, they can stimulate their partner’s clitoris or breasts or even hold onto their hips or ass. But if the pillow isn’t working for you, you can remove it and try other doggy positions instead.
How To Do It
- The receiving partner gets down on their hands and knees. The giving partner kneels directly behind them. Place a pillow under the hips of the receiving partner.
- The giving partner holds onto their partner’s waist and begins to thrust in and out.
- You can then go faster and thrust deeper.
- Keep going until you both orgasm.
Spooning
Spooning is another sex position perfect for seniors. Why? Because it is an easy position that minimizes any pressure on the knees, wrists, or back. This popular sex position is also extremely versatile. You can start with slow and minimal movement, or you can also go deeper and faster for more intense thrusts. If you feel like taking things up a notch, you could use a toy or make use of your free hands for clitoral stimulation.
How To Do It
- Both partners lie on their sides facing the same direction.
- The receiving partner bends their leg in front of them.
- The big partner or giving partner inserts their penis from behind.
- They grind and move their hips up and down, taking in every thrust and sensation.
- Stimulate your partner’s breasts or reach down for clitoral stimulation.
Cowgirl
Cowgirl is one of those sex positions that never goes out of style, even with age. The partner on top can help stabilize themselves by placing their hands on their partner’s legs underneath them so they are fully supported. Meanwhile, the partner underneath can lift their knees or hold onto their partner’s lower back. This supports their partner’s movements and could make it easier for them to perform cowgirl in the most pleasurable way possible with deep penetration from each thrust. Experiment with the cowgirl position and see what works best for both of you.
How To Do It
- The giving partner lays on their back with their legs spread slightly apart while the receiving partner gets on top.
- Place your knees on either side of your partner’s waist.
- Lean forward and then reach behind you to grab your partner’s penis.
- Guide it inside you and sit back down.
- Ride your partner by moving your hips front and back.
- The giving partner can create a ‘seat’ for the receiving partner by lifting their knees. They may also hold onto their partner’s lower back.
The Hot Seat
The Hot Seat is a great senior sex position particularly for those in a wheelchair, though it’s perfectly fine to do if you’re not in a wheelchair too. What makes it excellent for seniors is that it gives you deeper penetration coupled with the comfort and stability of being on a chair. If you experience pain in your feet, back, knees, or lower back, if you have reduced mobility, or if you just want to have sex seated, you may want to give The Hot Seat a try as it is known to relieve stress on the legs and back.
Note that for the best experience, the chair should have a straight back, and a firm base, and must not be too high off the ground that the receiving partner can not touch the ground. This is so that the receiving partner can stabilize themselves with their feet on the ground.
How To Do It
- The giving partner sits on a chair or wheelchair with their back supported against the backrest.
- The receiving partner sits on their lap, with their feet and legs over their partner’s.
- The receiving partner guides their partner’s penis inside them.
- The receiving partner can opt to bounce up and down or grind against their partner.
Standing Sex
Standing Sex is another sex position perfect for senior couples to experiment with. With Standing Sex, you can guarantee extreme pleasure despite minimal full-body contact. What makes it a great position for those with older age is that for the receiving partner, there is no pressure on the back. Just be sure not to arch your back if you are experiencing back pain.
For more support, you may also opt to place pillows under the receiving partner’s upper body and stomach. There are so many variations to standing sex, but for now, we will discuss how to perform standing doggy.
How To Do It
- Both partners stand up with one partner behind the other.
- The receiving partner bends down on the counter or any surface. You can add a pillow under the partner’s upper body or stomach for support.
- They spread their legs open.
- From behind, the giving partner enters the receiving partner such as in doggy style, and grabs a hold of their hips for support.
- Keep the momentum going by thrusting in and out until you reach an orgasm.
Sideways 69
We now have the Sideways 69 sex position. With 69, this position lets you be both the giver and receiver at the same time, giving you maximum pleasure. To make 69 more senior-friendly, you can do it sideways, which is exactly what it sounds like. Rather than one partner being on top of the other, you each lie on your side facing each other’s genitals. We have a list of 69 variations you can check in this guide.
This is the perfect oral sex position for older adults as there is no burden or pressure on the hands or wrists usually associated with the typical 69. Add in some toys and lube, and you are in for a really good time.
How To Do It
- Both partners lay sideways facing each other.
- Position your face such that they are directly in front of your partner’s genitals and make them do the same with yours.
- You can then perform dual oral stimulation.
- Ladies can lick, suck, and wrap their hands around their partner’s penis, moving their mouth or hands up and down simultaneously. Men can play with their partner’s clitoris and repeatedly finger them to find their G spot and make them cum.
Wrapping Up
There you have it: the 7 best sex positions for older couples. If there has to be one major takeaway from this article, it is that your sex life does not need to suffer because of issues related to older age like reduced flexibility or joint pain. Equipped with the right knowledge, extra care, patience, and a good attitude, older adults can still enjoy intimacy and safe sex and keep the flame going, especially when there is still sexual desire. Who knows? Sex may just be what the doctor ordered.
Thanks for reading the best sex positions for older people!
Rachel
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