How can I use my Fleshlight for the optimal masturbation experience? Is there a specific way of using this beauty? Unfortunately, most online guides say to apply lube and pump your penis in and out. But there’s a lot more you can do, and the level of fun depends on your imagination. Let’s check them out!
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The Preparation Phase
Fleshlight’s high degree of realism and attention to detail makes it a cut above the rest. Though most use it like a generic sex toy, there are numerous possibilities.
Most importantly, you should do a few things before using a Fleshlight to transform what would have been a regular experience into a mind-blowing session. With that being said, here’s how to prepare it. (I also summarized the article in the below video)
Warm It Up
Whether single or married, you know the warmth that wraps your penis as you penetrate your partner is magical – that controlled heat makes you not want to pull out. Well, unlike a real vagina, they lack the natural warmth that makes sexual intercourse such a unique and pleasurable experience. Inducing warmth before using a Fleshlight enhances the experience and makes it as cozy as sex (if not better).
While most men stop at the lubrication part, warming your sleeve significantly impacts the experience. It elevates the stimulation and makes the sensation close to real skin. The best thing is it only takes about 5 minutes or less, and there are multiple ways to do it.
You can read more about how to heat a Fleshlight in this article.
Note: Microwaving or boiling your sleeve will damage it. Never do it!
Hot Water
The easiest method is using hot water for about 5 minutes to warm and ready the Fleshlight. Remove the sleeve from the case, fill your sink with warm water, and soak for five minutes. Then, rinse the sleeve with warm water and slide it back into the case. Voila!
Note: If you use the Fleshlight for the first time, you should clean it well before soaking it in hot water.
Sleeve Warmer
Like lubes, most sleeve makers produce patented sleeve warmers as well. These USB-powered warming ‘sticks’ make warming your Fleshlight sleeve straightforward. It’s also neat and doesn’t leave a mess that needs cleaning afterward.
In addition, it always leaves your sleeve completely dry, just as it should be. Plug it into a power source, sit back, and let it warm up the sleeve!
Some models switch off once they reach the optimal temperature. They also have LED indicator lights that communicate when the warmer needs charging and when the sleeve is warmed. If you forget to remove the sleeve from the warmer and it cools down, the warmer detects it and automatically starts heating again until you plug it off.
If you want to see what the Sleeve Warmer looks like and how to use it, please watch our unboxing and demonstration video below:
Note: While many recommend using a hairdryer to warm your sleeve, we strongly advise against it. Introducing hot air to your masturbation sleeve using an appliance developed for other uses is risky. Most people who have tried it report deformation and material damage. There’s no need to damage your Fleshlight with a hairdryer. Invest in a sleeve warmer or use the warm water method!
Pro Tip: You can use an electric blanket as a DIY sleeve warmer. But ensure it has adjustable heat settings.
Lubrication
Away from warming your sleeve, using the right lube is a great way to elevate the experience.
To safeguard the material’s integrity, we recommend only using water-based lubricants. Unlike oil-based and silicone-based lubes, the water-based options do not damage the SuperSkin material. Water-based lube is also easier to clean because it doesn’t stain the sex toy materials as much.
Note: Never use silicone lube with your Fleshlight
The ideal lube will depend on several factors, including the intensity of the texture. And to help you out in this quest, this article has everything you need to know about Fleshlight lubes.
How To Use A Fleshlight The Optimal Way?
Hand Stroking
Probably the easiest way to go about it, hand stroking involves sliding your penis in the orifice opening and moving it up and down by hand. It’s like traditional hand masturbation but more realistic with a super-soft sleeve. And understandably, every newbie uses manual stroking, but as we said, your imagination limits the possibilities.
So, what makes hand stroking a desirable way to use your Fleshlight even with numerous other possibilities? Well, it gives you complete control over the speed and angle of penetration. In addition, you can make the slightest adjustments with a small hand movement.
However, stroking by hand has its drawbacks, one being the size. Most Fleshlights have a width of 2.5-4”, making it nearly impossible to control them with one hand. And if you go with both hands, it always gets uncomfortable with time.
If you find regular models too big for your hand, consider the small-sized series. The brand has a wide range of options – everything from the Sex in a Can series to the Go, and Flight series; there’s something for everyone.
Note: Fleshlight Vibro has flaps where you can insert bullet vibrators for extra stimulations. Read our review here.
Hands-Free Stroking with Dedicated Mounts
There are numerous ways to get the most out of your Fleshlight experience without lifting a finger.
While couples usually shift hands to make the experience faultless and share the responsibility, single players must get creative. Luckily, you don’t have to look far; dedicated mounts are readily available for this very reason.
The company has a few dedicated strong suction cup mounts (click here for review) that you can use in different scenarios, including the shower wall and bedroom. The shower mount, for instance, turns your sizzling fantasy into a reality.
I think the shower mount offers one of the most realistic sexual stimulations to date, and you can enjoy incredibly realistic sex stimulations with your hands tied. Just ensure you attach it to a smooth surface before your solo sessions.
If you want to see what the Shower Mount looks like and how to use it, please watch our unboxing and demonstration video below:
Note: Ensure the floor is not slippery while using the shower mount. Use a friction mat or hold onto the shower bars for safety.
Other hands-free mounts like the Liberator on a Mission and Top Dog offer an extra degree of realism with new capabilities. Away from freeing your hands, these products make positions that would have otherwise been difficult very simple. Whether you want elevated missionary or anal doggy style, these mounts turn your fantasies into reality.
DIY Hands-Free Mounts
Are you short on cash? Or want to experiment for a while before buying a dedicated mount? Well, you came to the right place. Numerous DIY hacks help you enjoy your Fleshlight hands-free, and it only takes a little imagination.
My favorite method is to put the Fleshlight between the bed frame and mattress. And this method gives you a sturdy mount at just about the right height.
Pro Tip: When I hump my Fleshlight using the mattress, I prefer to put a pillow on the floor to rest my knees.
Another method is to take a pile of pillows, insert the Fleshlight, roll it up, and use a belt to secure it. Then, pour lube inside the sleeve and pound away. You can also use a sleeping bag, a shoe, or a blanket, and you’ll have a practical DIY mount.
Note: The DIY mount may not be as stable as a legit one, and you’ll need to adjust it to get the right angle.
Universal Launch with Fleshlight
Another incredible creation from the company is their Universal Launch, a hands-free device that lets you customize the depth and speed of a number of their toys by attaching them to the base unit. It also has a smartphone mount to attach your phone to fully immerse yourself in an erotic fantasy.
I selected my favorite sleeve, inserted the hard case into the circular ratchet, and tightened the holder (imagine closing a zip tie). The Fleshlight felt secure in the Universal Launch holder, and I was confident it wouldn’t slip out and damage me or either device.
After adding the desired amount of water-based lube, I set the Universal Launch to its task. This product was one of the easiest and best toys to use to get off.
While watching one of my favorite porn stars on my attached smartphone, I was effortlessly able to change the stroke speed and depth of the toy with my thumbs. Wow!
The Universal Launch was incredible because I could focus on the base, shaft, head, or my whole length with just the touch of a button zeroing in on what was feeling best at that moment. Adding to this centralized intensity, I increased the speed of the stroke and created the perfect combinations I haven’t found in many other toys.
What is great about this toy is it allows you to enjoy the fantasy of a partner doing all the work to get you to orgasm while you are lying back and savoring the moment effort-free.
Please note it doesn’t work with all models, only the following: Fleshlight Go, Fleshlight Ice, Fleshlight Turbo, Stamina Training Unit, Original Fleshlight, Sex in a Can, Vibro, Fleshjack Boys, and Fleshlight Girls.
You can read our detailed Universal Launch review here. We also have a review video below if you want to see what the product is physically or how it is used.
Edging with Universal Launch
In my opinion, the design of the Universal Launch makes it perfect for edging. The controls are easy to use, and with your left thumb or finger, you can refocus your toy on either the base, shaft, or head of your penis while also changing the stroke length.
This feature allows the sensations your attached toy gives you to dramatically change to a different area, moving the intensity away from your building orgasm while keeping you stimulated. More sexual satisfaction!
The bonus of this redirecting ability is you do not need to focus on what your hand is doing because the Universal Launch is hands-free. You will change the setting and be able to sit back and thoroughly enjoy this mind-blowing experience.
Use It Case-free
I have the solution for those who think Fleshlights are tricky to maneuver due to the large hard plastic case. Using the sleeve on its own lets you hold it more securely while you control the pressure with your hand.
Granted, when using the Fleshlight sans-case, you will not benefit from the case’s ability to change the pressure (suction) you feel while using the product, which is one of the reasons this product sells so well. Fear not. I have figured out a way around both of these small obstacles.
Find your favorite sleeve and lubricate as necessary with a water-based lube. Note: Do not put the sleeve in the case! Once lubed, you will use the sleeve as you usually would with the hard case.
The best part of the no–case method is your ability to squeeze the sleeve with your hand(s) in any desired area of your penis. You are in complete control of the sensation in your head, shaft, or base with the amount of pressure one or both hands apply to the sleeve.
This method can get highly intense in combination with the varying nubs, ridges, and bumps found in different sections of the Fleshlight sleeve. Do not forget this method can also work with a partner to control every sensation.
Choosing which of your favorite Fleshlight sleeves to enjoy first will be the most challenging part of this experience.
Use It With A Cock Ring
Another fantastic and intense variation to try is adding a cock ring.
A brief 101 course on cock rings: they keep blood in your penis, allowing it to stay hard during your experience. It’s one of my favorite methods because the Fleshlight gives you a powerful erection, and the cock ring will enable you to keep the erection throughout your entire session.
The different sections of the sleeve are much easier to experience and enjoy on your head, shaft, and base the harder you are. Cock rings also come in varying models that stimulate your penis differently. Some models even have a vibration feature, allowing you to change the experiences in intensity and variety by changing sleeve types or ring types.
Suction Control
A standard Fleshlight comes with two end caps; one to keep it clean and dust-free during storage and the other to control the suction pressure during use.
- The top-end cap is removed before play to allow for penetration.
- The lower cap is tightened or loosened to regulate the suction settings.
Adjusting the suction elevates your experience and makes penetration easier or harder. For textured masturbation sleeves, it compels the sleeve to hug your penis, resulting in heightened pleasure.
How Couples Can Include Them in Their Love Life
There are numerous ways for couples to incorporate Fleshlights in their bedroom to spice up their sex life. Firstly, you can use them during foreplay by letting your partner lube you and get you gassed up for the experience. I do this all the time with Sandra.
Pro Tip: Some models, like Quickshot Vantage, have an open-ended design. Your partner can give you a blow job or perineum massage while you use the Fleshlight.
Another way to use your Fleshlight is in long-distance relationships. Through the aid of Interactive sex toys like the Kiiroo Keon (Fleshlight Launch has been discontinued), couples can enjoy interactive sex and control each other’s orgasms.
Connect and feel your partner’s touch regardless of the distance with compatible KIIRO devices! Trust me! The realism in this technology is insane.
Cleaning and Maintenance Tips
To make sure your Fleshlight lives a long and happy life, we have summarized the best maintenance steps in this video:
Wrapping Up
That’s it! Using your Fleshlight or pocket pussy doesn’t have to be stressful. It’s easy, and even with the preparation, masturbating with them is blissful. Just use a sleeve warmer or hot water to get it ready, lube up, and enjoy the experience.
While we’ve recommended stroking by hand and using a dedicated mount method as two of the most common ways to use one, there are numerous ways to use your male masturbators. Your imagination bounds the possibilities.
So, depending on what excites you the most, get yourself a pornstar Fleshlight (or Fleshjack if you prefer guys), and enjoy the immeasurable possibilities. The most important thing is to have the right ‘tools’ in place. From warming to lubing and incorporating a dedicated mount, get your penis ready and pound away.
Have fun!
Tim
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