You’re probably here to find information on how to make a DIY sex pillow, but please note that making your own sex toys comes with a lot of risks. So no bueno.
It’s always better to purchase a professionally made product from a trusted brand. You can find many affordable options, for example, DOMINIX Deluxe Inflatable, which is priced at only $49.99 (even cheaper with discount code MSTG15 for 15% off!). However, we acknowledge that not everyone has access to sex stores, so we have included some semi-safe options below for those who want to give it a go at their own risk.
- It’s essential to know the risks when using BDSM furniture, especially when involving everyday household items. To avoid hospital trips, we recommend buying professionally tested and manufactured products that offer better safety for you and your partner.
- But we understand that not everyone can afford commercial products, so we have compiled a list of partially safe alternatives below. But please be aware that they will never be as safe not effective as a store-bought model.
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Why You Should Trust Us?
Sandra Larson is a highly experienced and knowledgeable sex toy tester, with over a decade of experience. She is widely respected and trusted by those interested in exploring various forms of play, including the use of homemade BDSM sex furniture like sex wedges.
For this article, Sandra worked closely with a team consisting of sexologist Rachel Sommer and fellow product tester Shane Davis. She also found the guide by Redditor shitnami-tidal-wave helpful, and it’s included below. Through their combined efforts, you can be confident that the sex wedge will be as safe and effective as possible.
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What Are Homemade Sex Pillows?
Homemade sex pillows are sexual positioning aids made up of various household items and cushions. People mainly use them to provide extra comfort, support, and pleasure during penetrative sex or oral sex. Other uses are as sex toy mounts. If constructed correctly, they could enable a couple to perform positions not possible on a flat surface, bringing some spark back into a dull bedroom.
Note: The product above is the Liberator Combo which lets you experiment with different positions and penetration angles in a safe environment. It’s made from memory foam, avoiding the annoying sinking into the bed which made us rank it as the best sex pillow in this article.
Wedge pillows help to alleviate discomfort or pain during sex, especially for those with mobility issues or injuries. They also enhance sexual pleasure by allowing for deeper penetration or different angles, making them a great addition to a bedroom.
Is Making a Homemade Sex Pillow Safe?
No. Making a sex pillow is not safe and something we never recommend. While it may seem like a fun and cost-effective DIY project, using household items can pose serious risks to your health and safety. A sex wedge made from household objects may not withstand the weight and pressure of sexual activity. They can easily compress or shift during use, causing you to lose balance or fall off the pillow, resulting in injury. Ouch!
Some Semi-Safe Ideas
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1. Making it from scratch
If you want to make everything from scratch, there are a few options to consider. The best option we found was from Reddit user shitnami-tidal-wave who splashed out an extensive guide that can help you make a decent Liberator wedge alternative at home:
Materials Needed:
- Foam stretching block
- Gorilla glue
- High-density foam
- Clear fishing line
- Old yoga mat
- Machine washable Bedsheet (preferably softer and plusher)
- Chalk
- Zipper (22″ used in the example)
Step-by-Step Guide:
- Cut your high-density foam into the desired shape for the pillow, incorporating the foam stretching block if available. Apply gorilla glue along the bottom edges of each foam piece and press them together. Avoid putting glue where it may cause discomfort during use.
- Glue the remaining pieces into the structure, forming the desired shape. Aim for an optimal incline angle of 27°.
- Add any suitable material for lumbar support.
- Use a clear fishing line to stitch together the tops of all the blocks to eliminate the feeling of glue during use.
- Cut an old yoga mat to the appropriate length and stitch one end to form a sleeve.
- Slide the sleeve over the foam structure, making necessary cuts to fit, and stitch the entire thing shut using the fishing line.
- Choose an old bedsheet and trace the rough outline of the faces of the cushion onto the sheet using chalk. Using a machine washable cover is important to make the cleaning easier.
- Stitch the sheet shut, either by sewing it inside out and wrapping it over the cushion or by sewing it separately and inserting the cushion afterward.
- Attach a zipper to the pillow case for easy removal and washing. A 22″ zipper is used as an example.
- Consider adding another line of stitching to the zipper for extra durability. Make any additional adjustments or improvements to the pillow based on personal preferences.
Source: Reddit
2. Foam Roller
Using a foam roller is way easier than hacking together number 1 above. I like them because they can be a more effective and practical choice especially if you know how to use them. Not only is it a versatile tool for exercise and muscle relief, but it can also be used as a prop during intimate moments. Pro Tip: You can add a soft blanket or towel on top if they are too hard.
Note: The Liberator Whirl (product above) highly resembles a foam roller. If you like discreet sex furniture, then this is perfect for you! The cylindrical pillow comes in different colors, so you can pick the one that compliments your décor the most.
Not Safe at All Ideas
There are always some ideas that are simply not safe. We strongly advise against trying these ideas:
Using cheap and weak objects: It’s crucial to only use high-quality materials. Using cheap or soft materials can cause the pillows to collapse from within, leading to potential accidents and injuries during sexual activities. The materials should be strong enough to support the weight of the person using the pillow (plus the partner) and withstand the movement force during use.
Hard or sharp objects. Never use hard or sharp objects for DIY projects. Period. This includes things like rocks, wooden blocks, or metal objects. These items can cause serious injury or discomfort, and they are not body-safe. If you want your wedge pillow to be stable and you can’t find the right material for it, your best course of action is to buy the real thing.
How to Use A DIY Sex Pillow?
If you’ve decided to make your own sex pillow, I hope everything went well. Now, let’s talk about how to use it.
- Positioning: The first step is to find the perfect position on your bed or the floor. You can use it under your hips, butt, or lower back to elevate your body when performing the missionary position to hit the G-spot easier. You can also use it under your knees or ankles for added support and comfort. When performing doggy style, you can put it in your stomach to elevate your butt comfortably. You can variations of the doggy style in this article.
- Lubrication: It’s important to use water-based lubrication as this will help prevent discomfort or irritation which makes the experience more enjoyable. Apply a generous amount of lube to your partner’s genitals or your own before getting started.
- Communication: Speak your mind about what feels good and what doesn’t. Adjust the pillow’s position or try different angles to find what works best for both of you. A safe word will also help.
- Experimentation: Don’t be afraid to experiment with different positions and techniques in the bed. Try using the pillow with other sex toys or props for added excitement and pleasure.
- Clean up: Clean it thoroughly after you are finished. Use warm water and mild soap or a cleaner to remove any residue or bacteria. Let it air dry before storing it away in your bedroom or under your bed.
Pro tip: I recommend giving sex swings a try if you’ve exhausted all the positions with a sex pillow. We have an article that talks about crafting your own sex swing at your home. Feel free to check it out!
Using a sex pillow the right way can enhance the sex positions that you do which will greatly impact your sex life. With a little experimentation and communication, you can discover new ways to enjoy each other’s bodies. We have a dedicated article that talks about different positions with a sex pillow right here.
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