Let’s face it, not everyone is as limber as they’d like to be, and a lack of flexibility can leave you limited in the realm of sexual exploration. If you’re spending more time during extended sessions worried about your knees and lower back, it’s time to call in reinforcements.
Enter the sex pillow. By learning how to use one, you can invite a new level of pleasure (and, most importantly, comfort) into your sex life, whether you’re flying solo or with a partner.
- Sex pillows are a variety of wedges, cushions, and mounts made from firm foam materials. The additional density supports your body so you can try new sex positions, experience deeper penetration, or feel more comfortable during penetrative sex.
- When choosing your product, please pay attention to the type, material, size, design, comfort, versatility, and budget. You should also read customer reviews and only buy from trusted brands such as Liberator or Dame Products.
- The most essential point is to be careful when unboxing since the wedges usually come vacuum-compressed and can inflate quickly. You should also clean the cover before use, ensure it’s on sturdy ground, and start with a simple sex pose.
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What Is A Sex Pillow?
Sex pillows are a variety of wedges, cushions, and mounts made from a denser material than a regular pillow you’d sleep on. This density helps support and prop up the body so you can access a new variety of sex positions or just feel more secure in some of your existing favorites.
How Does A Sex Pillow Work?
These ergonomically designed adult cushions come in various shapes and sizes. Still, they all do one very important job: support your body during sex so that you feel comfortable and can focus your attention where it really matters.
Benefits Of Buying One
The benefits of sex pillows are plenty. Couples can expect to expand their repertoire of intercourse positions and delight in deeper penetrative play, better angles, less pain, and more direct G-spot stimulations. And for single folks, getting a toy mount pillow will make more realistic hands-free riding of their favorite vibrator possible.
Who Are They For?
Intimacy pillows are for everyone. Whether you’re single or dating, non-disabled, or with limited mobility, there’s a product out there that will help you unlock a whole new world of potential comfort and pleasure.
What To Think About When Buying A Product
There’s a lot to choose from today. If you’re dealing with choice overload, don’t sweat it. In this section, you’ll be given a better breakdown of the design features you have to choose from.
The Type
If you’re looking for a pillow to enhance your sex life with your partner and frequent missionary position or anything with your well-endowed partner on top, you’ll probably want to stick with a wedge or a ramp.
These pillows work by hoisting your hips and offering more support through your lower back and hips, simultaneously allowing for more comfortable sex and the potential to hit deeper penetration in more sexual positions.
For those who love being bent over, a spanking bench, like Liberator Obeir, will allow them to explore their more kinky desires safely and comfortably.
If you’re without a partner, don’t fret. You can still have great sex with toy mounts explicitly created for solo sessions, such as Liberator BonBon. This type holds the sex toys in place while you ride your way to orgasmic pleasure (who says single women can’t have fun?)
There is also sex furniture that usually closely resembles a beach chair with more angles to facilitate deep penetration. However, some furniture more resembles what you’d find at your gyno and won’t be easy to hide from the in-laws.
Material
A hallmark of well-designed products is removable waterproof covers that are soft to the touch and machine washable, like the double-lined velvet cover of the Liberator Hipster. Since you can’t expect to fit a wedge pillow into the wash, you must have some way to keep it free of bodily fluids.
And, of course, a dense foam core that prevents you from sinking into your toy, like that which you’ll find on the Liberator Jazz, is a must. Otherwise, popping your regular bed pillows under your lower back would still be doing the trick.
Size
Sex pillows are generally on the larger side, especially if you decide on a wedge, so you won’t be able to pop them in your bedside drawer to hide them from prying eyes.
Inflatable or smaller wedge sex pillows are ideal for anyone living in an apartment with limited space. Something like the Liberator Jaz will help you maximize sexual pleasure while saving space.
The good news is that most brands have plus-size models if you or your partner is on the larger side. Check their website or contact customer support to ask them about information like weight limit.
Pro Tip: If you plan to straddle your pillow, measure your thighs to ensure the product will work for your body size.
Design
The shape of many models is designed to ergonomically support your body during sex in various positions. Although flat beds are great for sleeping, they’re not well-designed for propping your body up for better access and deep penetration.
You should also consider if you need a discreet pillow or not. This is especially important if you have a small living area and need to leave the wedge out. Will your friends think it’s a TV lounger? Hipster? Yes! Liberator Pulse? No way!
Finally, if your goal is to overcome a significant height difference between you and your partner, I recommend buying a stackable and versatile product like the Liberator Wedge/Ramp combo.
Comfort
Comfort is an important part of any sexual experience, and feeling fully supported can help the body relax and even lead to more satisfying sex. No more embracing your inner contortionist when you’d rather be trying to cum.
Whether you’re dealing with health issues like limited mobility or are ready to enter into the next phase of your sexual exploration involving maximum comfort and putting your pleasure first, a sex pillow can help.
If you need help selecting a comfortable pillow, I recommend Dame Pillo.
Budget
Regarding sex toys and accessories, pillows are on the higher end of the pay grade. High-quality models, like the Liberator Wedge Ramp Combo, will run you between $240-$300.
If spending $300 on non-essentials isn’t in the budget, we totally get it. DOMINIX Deluxe Inflatable is a significantly more affordable option that will run you only $50.
Versatility
Some products are versatile enough to be used in multiple sex positions, while others, like the Liberator Whirl, will have your mother-in-law using it for neck support without a second thought.
Spanking benches like the Liberator Obeir have a specific use, and aside from being bent over them, there’s not much else you can use them for. Making them unideal for less kinky counterparts. More on spanking benches here.
If you’re looking for something that you can incorporate into most positions, your best bet is going for a ramp or wedge, or the Liberator Wedge Ramp Combo, which flawlessly combines the two. You can also start with something cheaper and smaller, like Jaz, which is stackable, meaning you can buy more pillows later on and use them with Jaz (like sex Jenga!)
Read Reviews
Do you have trouble deciding on what model or brand to buy? Reading reviews is a great way to track down more information about your next purchase.
You can read more about sex pillows in this extensive article.
How To Use A Sex Pillow?
Ready to test out your new sex pillow? Here’s a step-by-step guide that will prepare you to maximize the pleasure potential of your new toy.
1. Carefully Unpack It
Most sex wedges (and all of Liberators products) will arrive vacuum compressed to save space (and carbon footprint, yay!). However, this means you must take exceptional care when unboxing your precious new toy, and you should always read the instructions first.
For Liberator products, you should never use a knife to cut the plastics as they inflate like Violet Beauregarde in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, and you can accidentally cut the material. Instead, you need to unroll it carefully.
2. Wash The Cover First
Are you taking your sex wedge fresh out of the box? If so, you must run the removable cover through the wash inside out before using it. Anyone with sensitive skin must be mindful of this step, as leftover dye and chemicals from the manufacturing process could still be lingering on your pillow.
3. Discuss Consent With Your Partner
Using a pillow can set you up to access a variety of new sex positions, but only if you and your partner are on the same page about experimenting. Before you embark on the mission of expanding your sexual vocabulary beyond the comfort level of your partner, it’s a good idea to have a conversation about boundaries.
If you plan to explore your kinky side with a doggy-style model like the Liberator Obeir, which also features D-ring attachments for bondage, you might consider deciding on a safe word.
4. Create A Good Mood & Atmosphere
Many couples turn to sex wedges to help them maximize comfort during partnered sex, and we see no reason to let the snugness end there. Lighting candles, putting on your favorite mix, and adorning your sex pillow with your favorite fleece blankets are ways to kick the comfort of your next sesh up a notch.
5. Make Sure It’s On Sturdy Ground
Don’t let the heat of the moment get the best of you. Always ensure that your pillow is safely positioned so you won’t have to worry about tumbling off the side of your bed.
6. Warm Up With Foreplay
Foreplay turns a 15-minute quickie into a powerful hour-long session and, for many women, is essential for them to reach climax. [1]
Whether you integrate tantric practices like eye-gazing, make out like you’re back in high school, or join forces with one of your favorite vibrators, this is the time for you to ready your body for more intense play.
7. Start With A Sex Position You Already Know
Break out the lube and get started in a position you and your partner already know and love. If you’re working with a sex wedge, you might try missionary or roll onto your side with your bum hanging off the tallest point of the wedge pillow to offer easier access to your partner.
8. Try Different Sex Pillow Positions
Now is the time for you to start experimenting with new positions! Using a wedge pillow (or any other kind of sex pillow, for that matter) can give you the extra height and support you need to try previously inaccessible positions.
Not every new position you try will work out perfectly, especially on the first try. To make the most out of the experimentation process, try not to take yourself too seriously and simply enjoy the process with your partner.
Pro Tip: If some sex wedge positions are too high on the bed, you can move the cushions to the floor to see if that works better.
9. Pause Or Stop If You Feel Uncomfortable
Not feeling it? That’s okay too. Sometimes a position doesn’t feel right, or your head and heart might not be completely in it. Don’t be afraid to talk to your partner if that’s the case.
Best Positions To Try
Certain sex positions pair perfectly with sex pillows of all kinds. In this next section, we will share with you some of our favorites.
Doggy
If you’re a lover of doggy style (and spankings), then using a spanking bench will be ideal for saving your knees and lower back, especially during longer sessions.
You also can’t go wrong purposing sex wedges for doggy, though.
Resting your low belly on the tallest side of your wedge is a perfect way to support your hips and lower back. Or you could try positioning your knees on the lowest edge of the wedge and resting your face at your wedge’s peak to soften the impact on your knees.
Missionary
Using sex wedge pillows, with your bum located at the tallest edge of your cushion, can help your partner take a deeper plunge. It also sets you up nicely for bringing your knees closer to your body, if that’s something you fancy.
Oral
Most of you have probably tested the tried and true method of placing a body pillow under your hips while receiving oral sex. A sex pillow underneath helps to close the gap between the giver and receiver, and trust us when we say that it makes being eaten out more enjoyable for everyone.
Cowgirl
Your man (or strap-on wearer) deserves some extra support too. Placing them on a wedge while you do the work on top can help them feel more comfortable and place them closer to you for nipple play and extra-intimate love-making.
Solo Play
Dying to do some cowgirl riding but have no horse to do it with? No problem. A toy mount pillow will hold your favorite sex toy at the perfect height and keep it from slipping and sliding, so all you have to do is cruise.
Do you want more ideas? You can find many more sex pillow positions here.
Aftercare and Maintenance
If you decide to invest a few hundred dollars into a sex pillow, keeping it around for years of fun should be a priority. Luckily, these toys don’t take much minding and should hold up well if you follow these simple steps.
Wash The Cover
How often you decide to wash the cover will be up to you, but frequently doing so will benefit your cushion and limit the spread of bacteria to your precious private parts.
It’s not a bad idea to treat sex pillows like your bed sheets or regular pillows, washing them every week at least, or after any especially wet play.
Most models have a removable cover that you can throw in the wash, and for those that don’t, it’s worthwhile getting a separate waterproof cover that you can use to keep your wedge from getting soiled.
Properly Store It
Storing your toy properly will keep the outer cover looking new for longer and, more importantly, keep it away from prying eyes. Since softer materials like velvet are dust magnets, your pillow should be stored in its bag, even if you’re keeping it tucked away in a closet.
Thanks for reading my guide on how to use a sex wedge!
Rachel
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