I have tested male sex toys since 2016 and I share my vast knowledge of how to use a stroker in this ultimate guide. From picking the right stroker toy to expert tips on maximizing your experience, I’ll help you give your penis the pleasure it deserves. So let’s dive in and take your solo play to the next level!
- The three questions you must ask when picking a stroker are: what’s your budget? Do you want a manually operated one or an automated one? And lastly, do you want a compact concealable one ideal for traveling or a larger one for home?
- Before using your penis stroker, please thoroughly read the instructions and safety manual. Then wash it, apply lube to you and the toy, insert your dick, and start stroking slowly. Stop if you feel discomfort or pain.
- If you want to spice up the experience, try heating the sleeve, twisting it, using it with another sex toy (cock ring, prostate massager, etc.), edging, or using it with a partner. Plus, if it’s app-controlled, I highly recommend public play or remote sex.
Table Of Contents
What Is A Stroker?
Male strokers, otherwise known as pocket pussies or masturbators, are male sex toys that replace your hand while masturbating. Most commonly, they are replicas of different parts of the female or male human anatomy with an inner sleeve and an orifice. However, some have no sexual connotation, just a hole to poke your penis into. In the image below, you can see 3 penis strokers with different orifices (vagina, mouth, and anal).
How Do A Stroker Work?
A male stroker is designed to bring you to orgasm by creating friction around your manhood, resulting in explosive pleasure. Most dick strokers have textured sleeves (image below) to heighten the sensations. While some models allow for full penetration, others provide a unique grip stimulates your penis as it glides through.
Most can be operated manually, requiring a motion similar to jerking off, but some more advanced models take care of the work for you. With a vast array of textures, orifices, materials, and automated options, you can easily find a stroker that suits your preferences and takes your pleasure to the next level.
What does a Stroker feel like?
The beauty of strokers is that they all feel different. Variety is the spice of life, and these sex toys are the easiest way to keep things spiced up since the advent of internet porn.
Ideally, a stroker will feel snug and pleasurable. Some are extra tight to help build stamina or get you off faster. Others may feel identical to the orifice of your choosing. Almost all products have a flesh-like feeling to them. Most importantly, a stroker sex toy should never feel painful or uncomfortable. If it does, remove your penis immediately.
Who Are They For?
No matter your sexual orientation or gender, there’s something for you. If you don’t want a vaginal orifice, you can buy an oral or anus opening or a non-descript that doesn’t look like human anatomy (image below).
In addition, strokers are also not only for solo play but are a great way to enhance foreplay adding more to your routine. Some open-ended toys are great to combine with oral sex, while others are great for a little domination role play. Some even have Bluetooth controls to allow naughty couples to play and have long-distance love-making sessions.
What To Think About When Buying A Product
Now comes the fun part: choosing the right stroker for you. Choosing a stroker is far less seedy than walking through the red light district and choosing your flavor. With all the available resources online, it feels like shopping for electronics.
The first three questions you must ask yourself are what’s your budget? Do you want a manually operated one or an automated one? And lastly, do you want a compact concealable one ideal for traveling or a larger one for home? Let’s examine our options and provide you with more information.
Types of Strokers
Manual Strokers
Manual models are the most common and budget-friendly strokers, simple yet effective. Some have rigid casings with an insertable sleeve, others are soft and malleable, and some are small enough to conceal in your coat pocket.
Some examples of manual strokers are Fleshlights, Onaholes, Pocket Pussies, Kiiroo Feelstars, and any of the Arcwave models.
Automated Strokers
As you can imagine, the automated models are the most expensive you can find, and for a good reason. The things these can do to your penis are mind-boggling, from jerking you off at what feels like 100 mph to pressure controls to realistic blowjobs. You can control some models using a smartphone app, while others have manual control. In the image below, you can see Kiiroo Keon.
Some examples of automated strokers are Kiiroo Keon (VR content, 230 tugs per minute, etc.) and Autoblow AI+ (blowjob simulator).
Material
You should only buy male strokers made from allergen-free, body-safe, and phthalate-free materials. The most common materials are ABS plastic, silicone, and TPE (Thermoplastic Elastomer). You can see a silicone sleeve from Fleshlight in the image below.
Silicone and TPE sleeves both offer their advantages. Silicone sleeves have more of a silky soft feel and a more flesh-like quality as you glide through them. They are also non-porous, making cleaning easier.
TPE, on the other hand, is much squishier and more malleable. The result is a sleeve that truly molds around your penis, grasping it in every way. The main downside with TPE is they are porous materials, making cleaning more tedious.
Budget
Fear not about breaking the bank. There’s something for every budget. The lowest budget stroker worth every last cent we have found and tested is the THRUST Pro Mini Ella (image below), costing only $14.99 (review here). Most Fleshlights are around $75. Most automated strokers cost a few hundred dollars but are worth it if you are the type of guy who likes to starfish.
Read Reviews
Reading reviews is the best way to ensure you get the dick stroker right for you. Inside the reviews, you will find the measurements for each device and comments about what penis size they work best for. You will also learn about the individual sensations and goals of each stroker. Do your homework. Unlike a mail-order bride, you can learn all the quirks of your new penis holster!
How To Use A Male Stroker?
- Always read the instructions first. We, men, can get a little overconfident and skip the instructions, especially when it involves putting our dick into things, but this is not one of those times. The instructions are there to keep you and your penis safe. If yours is automated, then you want to read the instructions first.
- Wash it before using. I sincerely hope you like putting your penis in clean places, even if that clean place may do dirty things. Your stroker is no different. Even if it’s factory-fresh, give it a quick wash.
- Apply ample amounts of lube. Wet orifices are the best, so why shouldn’t your stroker be nice and moist too? Not only does lube increase pleasure, but it also decreases the chance of injuries.
- Get hard. You can do that any way you like, with a penis pump, your hand, your partner’s hand, or maybe you are already standing tall. You don’t need to be completely erect; entering some strokers with a semi-erection is possible, allowing them to do the rest of the work for you. Note that some masturbators work with a flaccid penis, like Lovense Gush, which is also excellent for frenulum stimulation.
- Easy does it. Like any new sex act, you want to start slow, even if it feels good. Ease into your device and become familiar with it before going jackhammer style.
- Please don’t overdo it. Using it or staying inside it for too long is not good. Just like sex, it’s good to come out of the mole hole and do a little reconnaissance. Have a pause and go back in for more.
- Discomfort means it’s time to stop. If you feel any pain or discomfort, stop immediately. Remove yourself and slowly try again with more lube. If the discomfort persists, that particular model is unsuitable for your penis shape.
- Clean up. Just because you can’t see the mess you made doesn’t mean it isn’t there. Unfortunately, strokers require washing after every use, preferably before the fluids dry—more about cleaning below.
10 PRO TIPS I Learned By Being A Sex Toy Tester
- Heat it. Warming your sleeve before use makes it even more realistic, adding to your fantasies. The simplest way to warm it is by letting it soak in a bowl of hot water for 5-10 minutes. The alternative is to use an electric sleeve heater such as Fleshlight. More on electric sleeve heaters here.
- Edge yourself. Edging is when you stop pleasuring yourself right before you climax. Doing this will increase the strength of your orgasm when you finally do cum and drain those balls.
- Use it with your partner. Getting your partner involved is a great way to spice things up. Whether using your stroker during foreplay, domination acts, or alone, it will be more fun than using a stroker alone. If your stoker allows your head to poke out like the Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage, have your partner caress your penis head with your mouth.
- Lose control. If you opted for an advanced automated stoker, there is a partner control option like with Lovense Max 2. Let them control the situation and see how they can tease you into climaxing.
- Tickle the prostate. Combining your stroker with a prostate toy may be what puts you over the edge to give you an eye-watering good orgasm. Try using the Lelo Hugo or Edge 2.
- Put a ring on it. Using a cock ring while you masturbate might sound odd, but I promise you that having an ultra-erect penis gives you more intense stimulation. Not only will your orgasms be better, but you will be able to feel more of the textures of your sleeve as you push harder against the lining of it. A vibrating cock ring can add even more sensation to your penis stroker toy. If that tickles your fancy, try the Lelo Tor 3 cock ring (image below).
- Give a twist. Twisting your masturbation stroker as you move it up and down can heighten the sensations, especially on the head of the penis. Rotating it will create more of an oral sex experience
- Savor the chamber. If your sleeve has a variety of textured sections, take the time to get to know each chamber intimately instead of thrusting away like a jackrabbit. Some offer different sensations when you want them the most.
- Use it without the case. If you have a product like Fleshlight with a hard casing, try masturbating with only the sleeve. That way, you can use a firm grip to control the tightness.
- Control the suction. Some products have a way of controlling the suction. For example, Fleshlights have an end cap you can adjust to change the air vacuum. Others, like Pro Mini Ella, have holes at the base that you can cover with your fingertips.
How To Clean A Stroker?
The only downside to using a male stroker is the clean-up after use. It is not an overly burdensome task, but it is a task that must be done nonetheless.
- Remove the sleeve from its case if your cock stroker has a removable sleeve.
- Most sleeves or strokers are waterproof. If yours is, run it under water and use a sex toy cleaner or a mild antibacterial soap to remove fluids from the inside.
- Wipe the casing down with a damp cloth.
- Allow the sleeve and any other parts to air dry completely. You may pat them down with a towel to help speed this up. Never use a warm hair dryer; you can damage the material.
- Store them in a dry, cool place, ideally in a pouch or box, to avoid dust from collecting.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Are there any risks with Male Strokers?
There are no risks to using a male stroker. As long as you use lots of lube and clean it after every use, you shouldn’t have any problems.
Do male strokers hurt?
A male stroker should never hurt. If it does, remove it immediately. If it becomes painful, it is probably a sign that it is too small or you are not using enough lube.
Thanks for reading my guide on how to use a male masturbator.
Tim
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