You’re not alone if you’ve ever been in a situation where you want to have sex but need to keep it quiet. Whether you’re living with family or roommates, or simply wish to keep your sex life discreet just like anyone else on the planet, finding the right sex position can be a challenge.
But fear not, because Rachel Sommer, our clinical sexologist and love guru, has got you covered with some of the best quiet sex positions. She’ll share secrets that will help you maintain intimacy while keeping things low-key, avoiding any family members or neighbors catching on to what you and your partner are up to!
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Standing Doggy
This doggy-style variation is a fun and exciting way to perform some ninja penetrative sex that will allow you love birds to get down and dirty without making too much fuss. Pretty cool right?
What makes standing doggy a go-to for those who want to quiet down in the bedroom is that you’re not bouncing up and down on a bed or squeaking a mattress. Instead, you’re standing still or lightly swaying back and forth against a wall. Plus, it’s easier to control your breathing and keep your moans to a minimum when you’re standing up.
How To Do It
- Stand facing a wall with your feet shoulder-width apart and your hands on the wall for support.
- Have your partner stand behind you, holding onto your hips.
- Bend your knees slightly, sticking your butt out towards your partner.
- Your partner enters you from behind, adjusting their angle and depth as necessary.
- You can do some slow doggy to further lower the noise levels.
69
The 69 is a pretty common position for those who want to avoid any squeaky bed because there’s no thrusting involved. Only you and your partner know something naughty is happening *wink*. When you’re in the 69, it goes without saying that your faces are preoccupied with each other’s love bits, which means that any moans or groans you make will likely be muffled.
But of course- that’s not all. The 69 position also allows for some pretty creative maneuvering. You can adjust your positioning to find the perfect angle that allows your partner to push his tongue even further, while you can take his penis deeper, all the while keeping the good things going and everything else quiet.
How To Do It
- You lie on your back with your head at the foot of the bed, and your lover lies on top of you facing the opposite direction, with their head at the head of the bed.
- Make sure you’re both comfortable and can breathe easily. You might need to shift around a bit to find the perfect position.
- Begin by kissing and caressing each other’s thighs and genitals. Use your hands to guide your partner to the right spot, and don’t be afraid to give feedback.
- While your mouth is busy, use your hands to stimulate his genitals. You can also use your hands to guide their head and change the pressure and speed of their oral movements.
Lotus
The lotus position involves minimal movement and contact with surfaces that could make noise, which is ideal if you want to go less conspicuous. It also allows for deep penetration, as one partner can sit progressively deeper on the other’s penis. Additionally, Lotus gives you full control to just cover your partner’s mouth to muffle any moans.
How To Do It
- Sit down on a comfortable surface, like a chair, bed, or a yoga mat. Whatever works.
- Now cross your legs in front of you and place your feet on your partner’s thighs.
- Your partner should also cross their legs in front of them and wrap their arms around your waist.
- Slowly rock back and forth, maintaining eye contact and kissing each other as you go.
- Adjust the angle and depth of penetration as needed to find what feels good for both of you.
Missionary
If you play your cards right, this can be a position that will make you not worry about any loud slapping noises or squeaky bedsprings. You can keep it slow and sensual, or pick up the pace without making a peep. Plus, missionary is great if you guys want to get intimate as you look at each other’s eyes. Nothing beats the classic missionary when it comes to maximum intimacy, I’ll tell you that.
How To Do It
- You lie on your back with your legs slightly apart, and your partner lies on top of you with their legs between yours. Make sure to keep your movements slow and controlled to minimize noise.
- To make it more comfortable and pleasurable, you can adjust the angle of your hips by placing a pillow under your butt. This can also help to muffle any noise.
- Breathing heavily can be a dead giveaway that you’re having sex so focus on keeping it down.
- You can use your hands to hold onto your partner’s hips or back,
- There are many variations of the missionary position that can make it more exciting and enjoyable. For example, you can try raising your legs and wrapping them around your partner’s waist, or you can try placing your legs on their shoulders.
Spooning
Partners lie facing the same direction, with your partner behind you. This means that any noise and sound you make will be muffled by the pillows and blankets. Plus, you can do any cuddling technique you know to make this silent sex in a pleasurable way.
Not only is spooning a quiet option, but it’s also a great choice for lazy mornings or late nights. You don’t have to contort your body in any weird positions, and you can stay cozy and warm under the covers. You can read more about the spooning sex position here.
How To Do It
- Get into bed with your partner and lie on your side, facing the same direction.
- Your partner should then move in behind you and wrap their arm around your waist, pulling you close.
- You can then bend your knees slightly and position your butt against your partner’s pelvis.
- From here, you can grind your hips back into your partner’s pelvis, creating a subtle thrusting motion.
- Use your hands to explore your partner’s extremities, or reach behind you to grab onto their butt or thighs.
- Keep your breathing slow and steady, and make sure to communicate with your partner about what feels good.
Mutual Masturbation
Ah, the good old-fashioned mutual masturbation. It’s the perfect way to have a little fun with your partner without waking up the whole house. This position is great because it allows both partners to pleasure themselves while still being close to each other. Plus, it’s a sexy way to learn what your partner likes and doesn’t like.
The key to making mutual masturbation a quiet sex position is to keep your movements slow and steady. You don’t want to be making any sudden or loud movements that will give you away. Non-verbal cues would suffice. This is a great opportunity for lesbian couples to experiment with different hand techniques.
How To Do It
- Find a position that works for both of you. You can do this on the floor, it doesn’t matter.
- You could lie down side by side or face each other while sitting up. Whatever you choose, make sure you’re both relaxed and comfortable.
- Mutual masturbation is all about taking your time and enjoying the moment. Start by touching yourself while your partner watches. Let them see what turns you on.
- Once you’re both comfortable, start touching yourselves at the same time.
- You could mirror each other’s movements or try something different. The key is to stay in sync with each other.
Cowgirl
Not only Cowgirl is a fan favorite, but it’s also one of the quietest sex positions out there. Why, you ask? Well, for starters, your partner is lying flat on their back, which means they won’t be making any noise. And since the partner on top is the one doing most of the moving, you can play around the pace and intensity to keep things quiet.
But that’s not all. Cowgirl is also great for using toys, which can help keep things even quieter. Just make sure to choose a quiet vibrator or dildo, so you don’t accidentally wake up other people next room. And if you’re feeling really adventurous, you can even add a pair of handcuffs to the mix for some extra excitement.
How To Do It
- Start by straddling your partner, facing them. Make sure you’re both comfortable and ready to get down to business.
- Slowly lower yourself onto your partner’s penis or dildo. Remember, you’re in charge here, so take your time and find a pace that works for you.
- Once you’re comfortable, start moving your hips back and forth. You can also try grinding or circling your hips onto the bottom partner for added stimulation.
- If you’re feeling adventurous, try leaning forward and placing your hands on your partner’s chest. This will give you more leverage over your movements.
Facesitting
In this position, one partner is going to sit on the face of the other partner while they pleasure you with their tongue. It’s a win-win situation: you get to be in charge and your partner gets to indulge in their oral fixation.
What makes this oral sex position a perfect option is that your partner’s mouth is occupied, which means they can’t make much noise. And since your body is covering their face, any sounds they make will be muffled. Plus, you can always use your hands to cover your mouth if you need to stifle your moans.
Just make sure to communicate with your partner beforehand about what you’re comfortable with and establish a safe word in case things get too intense.
How To Do It
- Make sure both of you are comfortable with the idea and establish a safe word. Remember, consent is key!
- A bed or a couch will do the job. You don’t want your partner to have a sore neck from trying to hold you up.
- The giving partner lays on their back. You can use pillows to prop up their head for better access.
- Straddle your partner’s face. Make sure to position yourself so that your weight is evenly distributed.
- You can lean forward or backward to add variety to the pressure and angle. You can also use your partner’s hands to guide them to where you want them.
- You can grind, rock, or even bounce. Just make sure to check in with your lover and make sure they’re enjoying themselves.
Wrapping Up
In the realm of discreet, late-night intimacy, mastering quiet sex positions is essential, especially when living with others or desiring privacy. They are not just about physical placement but also mindful control and silent coordination.
To bolster your efforts in maintaining silence, another secret is incorporating soft music getting a white noise machine. Putting an additional auditory layer masks any inadvertent sounds, enhancing both your privacy and the overall sensual ambiance. Ultimately, the success of quiet intimacy hinges on the harmonious blend of thoughtful positioning, controlled movements, and shared understanding.
Rachel
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