Ho ho… hoe? We often think of Santa as a wholesome part of our childhood, but for folks with Santaphilia, sexual arousal to Santa, the excitement is about more than Santa’s presents. Indeed, it’s not uncommon for several Santas to come forward each year describing adults sitting on their lap and whispering the dirtiest, filthiest descriptions of what they want to happen when he comes down the chimney. What’s so hot about Santa? Is it because we sit on his big comfy lap and tell him exactly what we want? Is it because we want someone to notice and reward us for our goodness? Or is it part of our voyeuristic desire to be watched? Follow along as I do a deep dive into Santa fetish tis season!
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Do people actually think Santa is hot?
Before exploring why people eroticize Santa – let’s first discuss if this is even a real fantasy. Do people masturbate to Santa and fanaticize about all he has to offer?
A study out of benaughty.com wanted to get to the bottom of this. They surveyed 11,009 people and found that 20% of women had a fantasy involving Santa. They also found that 6% of men had dressed up as Santa in the bedroom (assumingly at their partner’s request). Indeed, searches for Santa Porn often skyrocket around Christmas, with searches going up 447% on Pornhub during the holidays!
When I asked my social media followers what they thought about Santa, almost half of them said they saw the sex appeal, with one woman sharing, “he’s like a good daddy dom, firm on the rules but also loving.” Another person shared, “I’m a guy, non-monogamous. I’d give him a go with my girl because his confidence is dope as fuck.” Another woman shared that she thinks Santa’s attractive because “he’s so generous” who doesn’t want that in a man? Indeed, it appears that folks do eroticize Santa.
Why do people have a Santa Fetish?
Because He’s There
Our desires develop through our early childhood experiences. Almost anything can grow into a fantasy or fetish if exposed at the right time. Some examples:
- Goats raised by sheep become turned on by sheep instead of goats simply because they were exposed to sheep during their development.
- Older siblings are more likely to develop a pregnancy fetish because they grow up seeing their mother’s pregnant belly.
Although researchers don’t understand exactly what needs to be in place for a fetish to develop, it’s clear that the first step is having the fetish object be a part of their lives, and Santa often plays a considerable role in children’s lives.
Classical Conditioning
For many children, Santa is also associated with the joy of receiving gifts and the magic of the holidays. In classical conditioning – something previously neutral (an old dude with a beard) becomes positive when it’s associated with the excitement of the holidays and gifts.
If people see Santa around the same time they enjoy the magic of the holidays, eventually seeing Santa alone can induce this excitement. It’s not difficult to envision a situation where some folks may overtime eroticize this general excitement.
Taboo
There’s also something transgressive about fucking the wholesome holiday icon. We are sexually aroused by taboo – hence the prevalence of stepmother porn, public sex, and most of what we fantasize about. Saint Nick is no different!
Perhaps it’s the reason we also love seducing a person in uniform. Indeed, in Justin Lehmiller’s book Tell Me What You Want, he found that 48 percent of people have eroticized someone in uniform before. Santa qualifies (unless you believe thousands of true Santas are hanging out in malls).
Power Play
Although Santa has grandfather vibes on first inspection, when you dig a little deeper, he has all the making of a major ‘daddy’ figure. Santa is in control. He has experience (playa gunna play!). He knows if you’re being naughty or nice and offers punishments or rewards depending on your behavior. If you ‘play nice,’ you may get what you want. If not, he will leave you wanting more. The inherent power of Santa can be a big draw to some folks.
His physical attributes
Santa also has some physical qualities that women tend to find attractive. Red is the most erotic color for folks of all genders – so his suit and hat can be easy on the eyes. As well, A survey of over 8000 women found that including folks of all ages, women find men with facial hair more attractive than folks without facial hair.
Santa’s foxiness isn’t a new discovery – below is a quote about father Christmas from the 1600s. “Women dote after him; he helped them to so many new Gownes, Hatts, and Hankerches, and other fine knacks, of which he hath a pack in his back.”
In modern English, it sounds like Santa was a ladies’ man who always delivered the goods. Indeed, Santa is continuing to make his mark a foxy icon. Why else would there be tunes like “I saw Mommy kissing Santa Claus.” or “Eartha Kitt’s Santa Baby?”
Santa Fetish or a Fantasy?
For most people who explore kinky Santa play, I suspect it’s more of a fantasy than a fetish. However, for those who felt specifically drawn toward Santa early in life and fantasize about him throughout the year – this could certainly reach fetish territory.
It’s not as important to define exactly what your desire is called, as to remember that no matter your affinity, there’s nothing wrong with you, and it’s something you can explore.
How to explore Santa Fetishes?
Although it may not be realistic to send your partner down the chimney (if you are so fortunate as to have a chimney) or to creep out the local mall Santa by oversharing your sexual fantasies – there are several ways to explore having an affinity towards Santa ethically.
- You can explore a Santa role play, where one partner pretends to be Santa on Christmas eve, bringing the presents, but gets distracted from his duties by your sexiness.
- You can explore a BDSM scene by having one partner take on the role of a sexy Santa and judge if the other’s actions are naughty or nice. All genders can be Santa, as long as they can tell their partner what they need to do to be on the good list and perhaps bring out the whips if they are naughty.
- Although you can get a Santa outfit and role-play that way, you can also take on Santa energy by asking the right questions to learn what would excite your partner to receive this year and, after a nice long tease, delivering.
Exploring a Santa fantasy can be thrilling if you talk to your partner first about your fantasy and create a safeword to ensure you and your partner are on the same page with the Santa Claus fetish. As with anything, people can be drawn to Santa kink for a variety of reasons, so it’s essential to have a discussion and understand your partner’s desire so that you can explore it in the most pleasurable way.
Happy holidays and have fun out there, you holiday kinksters 🙂
Niki
PS, I am in the process of writing a book about demystifying fetishes. Please click here if you’re interested in sharing your experience with fetishes in the book (anonymously!) I also specialize in coaching clients to better navigate their fetishes. Please email me at [email protected] or check out my website to learn more.
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