What does a Fleshlight feel like? As a professional sex toy tester, that’s the most common question I receive in my inbox. If you’re on the fence about buying one, it makes total sense to ask this question before hitting that buy button.
I’ve written about Fleshlights since 2016 and tested most of their products, so I have accumulated tons of experience. Besides the people working at the actual company, I am probably the world’s foremost expert on Fleshlights, so I have some juicy stuff to share for sure. In addition, I interviewed industry professionals and scoured forums to hear as many opinions as possible. No stone was left unturned.
The result surprised me, to say the least, and I am sure you will be thoroughly entertained!
So, without further ado, let’s dive into my extensive research study!
A Fleshlight gives you quite a lifelike physical experience, thanks to the soft, SuperSkin material that closely mimics human skin. You can also tweak how tight or loose it feels using the suction cap at the bottom, making it more personal for you. Emotionally, though, everyone reacts differently: it can really turn some folks on and even create a strong connection, but it doesn’t quite match the whole-body experience of real human intimacy. In a nutshell, they nail the physical stuff, but capturing the deeper, more nuanced aspects of a genuine, real connection? That’s honestly difficult.
Table Of Contents
- What The Heck Is A Fleshlight?
- What Does It Feel Like?
- Are They Better Than Masturbating With My Hands?
- Do They Feel Similar To Vaginal Sex?
- Do They Feel Similar To Anal Sex?
- Do They Feel Similar To Oral Sex?
- Other Men’s Opinions About Them
- So, How Good Is a Fleshlight Really?
- What Does It Feel Like For Virgins?
- What Does A Wet Fleshlight Feel Like?
- What Does It Feel Like To Cum Inside Them?
- How To Make Fleshlights Feel More Real?
- Conclusions
What The Heck Is A Fleshlight?
Since you’re here, I assume you already have a basic understanding of what they are and how to use them. If not, I have an excellent Fleshlight guide with everything about this topic.
What Does It Feel Like?
There are two ways to approach this question. The first is to consider the physical sensation of the material it’s made of, and the second is to consider the emotional response.
Physical Sensation
For the physical sensation, we’ll start with the most fundamental part of the Fleshlight, the inner sleeve. The sleeve is made from SuperSkin, a soft proprietary material designed by Fleshlight, and it’s incredibly lifelike. In my opinion, it’s the material that closest resembles human skin on the market today and will give you excellent sexual satisfaction.
In addition, you can adjust the suction on the device by the cap at the bottom, and you can change the tightness by squeezing on the sleeve (if you remove the outer case). This method makes the experience even more life-like.
Emotional Response
The emotional response is a bit more challenging to pin down, so I spent more time researching. I tried to gather as many opinions as possible to help me better understand this subjective question.
In my research, I found that many people felt intense sexual arousal when using a Fleshlight, which was a constant throughout my entire study. However, many people point out the lack of overall sensations you receive from sexual intercourse, like the smell, breathing, chemistry, movements, etc.
Fun Fact: One guy I interviewed said he had very strong feelings towards his Fleshlight, almost like true love!
So it’s a mixed bag when it comes to the emotional response. A Fleshlight is a good match if you are just looking for a fuck hole to get off. But it won’t be anywhere near the emotional stimuli you receive from actual sex.
This deleted Reddit user said it best:
The thing is, there’s more to a woman than just a vagina. The insides of her thighs, her hips, her sides, her breasts up against you, kissing her, smelling her hair … all of that works together for the overall sensation.
Are They Better Than Masturbating With My Hands?
You may be wondering why Fleshlights are so popular when masturbation with your hands is so easy and more pleasurable.
Well, think of it this way: You probably tried to massage yourself or give yourself a back scratch, and it just doesn’t feel the same compared to another person doing the deed.
When you use your hand to masturbate, you know it’s your hand, and the physical and emotional response will not be as good.
In addition, most Fleshlight sleeves have some heavy texture designed to give you intense pleasure. They have ridges, bumps, and vortexes. You name it. Bare hand masturbation simply can’t compete with this type of sensation.
Do They Feel Similar To Vaginal Sex?
Another common question is, “Does a Fleshlight feel like vaginal sex?”
Well, kind of. The main differences are lubrication, the warmth of a pussy, the vaginal contractions, the texture, and the movement of your sexual partner’s body.
- The first two are pretty easy to fix. Just lube the sleeve and use warm water to make it close to body temperature (more on that here.)
- For the texture: You should pick a model without too heavy texture if you want a realistic experience, one of the best is Original Pink Lady.
- For the contractions: This one is a bit tricky. As we men all know, the pussy contractions are one of the most joyful parts of penetration. You can use your hands to squeeze the sleeve (remove the outer case first) or buy Lovense Max 2, which does a decent job of replicating contractions.
- The last one is more tricky and can’t be replicated today. But maybe the company has some naughty tricks up its sleeve for the future.
So overall, a Fleshlight will be able to replicate some bits and pieces of vaginal penetration, but not all of them.
Pro Tip: The shower mount is my go-to solution for hands-free fun.
Do They Feel Similar To Anal Sex?
The question on everyone’s mind is, “Does a Fleshlight feel like anal sex?”
The answer is “No.” It will give you excellent stimulation, but it doesn’t feel like anal intercourse.
While you will get some pleasant visual stimuli from the sexy butt orifice and great stimulations from the texture, the anal canal on a human being is too tricky to replicate.
However, anal sleeves will still give you immense stimulation, and it’s one of my favorite categories. If you want to find out more, I recommend my anal Fleshlight guide.
Do They Feel Similar To Oral Sex?
The last question I’ll be covering is, “Does a Fleshlight feel like oral sex?”
The answer is, “It depends.”
If your partner is an oral pro, they will not just use their mouth. They will use their tongue, change suction pressure, deepthroat, and use their hands to provide a variety of sensations. You just can’t replicate that with ANY sex toys today.
The closest Fleshlight model for a realistic blowjob is Turbo Thrust, and it has a unique 3-piece mouth design that kind of resembles a human mouth.
We also have many more mouth Fleshlights in this article.
Other Men’s Opinions About Them
To get input from other guys, I interviewed other men on Reddit to share their opinions. Here are some of their replies:
“I feel like my Fleshlight is the real deal because I’m not sure I could really get the same experience if I had a real woman.”
“I love the realistic feeling and the tightness.”
“The best feeling is the texture and the tightness.”
“Fleshlight feels like I’m with my girlfriend when I’m with my Fleshlight.
In addition, here are some other opinions from sites like Quora and Reddit:
Septonex Benplex says:
It’s definitely a better experience than just jerking off with your hand. I see the most significant benefit in that my orgasms are more intense with Fleshlight than with just a hand, and there is not that “bruised” sensation afterward from squeezing your penis too much. I had trouble when I started having sex with my GF because it took me a long time to begin to enjoy vaginal sex because I had been so used to my hand. And I bought a Fleshlight after my last breakup, so I don’t have to resort to jerking off with my hand again.
Jim McAllister says:
Pretty good, in my opinion. Definitely better than your hand. I owned one back in their early days, and I hear they’ve developed all kinds of new variations. They have a couple of advantages, one being the depth of penetration. They effectively simulate an orifice by being able to stimulate a greater area simultaneously than your hand generally can. Another is that the cap on the back can be loosened or tightened to increase or decrease suction from air displacement, in that you can loosen it, insert yourself fully, and then tighten the cap. It produces a surprisingly strong, effective suction.
Stark says:
No. There are too many bodily sensations that a Fleshlight simply cannot replicate. Now don’t get me wrong, Fleshlights feel way better than using your hands, and I would definitely recommend any guy to purchase one for masturbation purposes, but do not buy one with the expectation that it’ll feel exactly like the real thing.
On a scale of 1-10
Your Hand – 4
Fleshlight – 7
Vagina – 10
Bewbtube says:
No. Even when a Fleshlight is perfectly prepared, it’s nowhere near as good as actual sex. It’s a wonderful sensation, and it’s miles better than just a hand. It gives an intense orgasm, but at the end of the day, it’s still masturbation. Actual sex with a regular woman involves much more than physical sensations. Yes, those are great, but the heat of the moment, the lust, the interaction, the chemistry, the feelings, all being shared between two people that make sex so awesome, and there is no duplicating that.
So, How Good Is a Fleshlight Really?
Fleshlights are great for masturbation. They are much more effective than your hands, and they can help you reach a climax more easily. In addition, many men love to use them for stamina training (check out Stamina Training Unit).
And compared to other male masturbators, Fleshlights are my favorite. They are just so much more realistic and give me more pleasure than other pocket pussies.
However, if you want to experience real sex, you can’t beat a real partner, so don’t buy a Fleshlight expecting it to be like sex with a real woman. See it as a masturbation tool to enhance your solo session and experiment with enhancing your orgasm.
What Does It Feel Like For Virgins?
They can actually be a great “training tool” if you have never had sex before. As I said before, it does do a decent job of replicating vaginal sex, so get a vagina model.
Septonex Benplex sums it up like this:
If you are a virgin, who wants to have a glimpse of how being in a real vagina feels like I would definitely recommend trying it. In that case, I would soak it in hot water before using it to simulate the warmness. Otherwise, the feeling is somewhat cold. But for understandable reasons, it will never be exactly like having sex with a real woman.
Pro Tip: Curious about oral sex? Try licking the vagina lips to simulate giving oral to a woman.
What Does A Wet Fleshlight Feel Like?
Warming them using warm water (or the Fleshlight sleeve warmer) and applying plenty of water-based lube is necessary. This process increases the realism and makes the penetration easier (it can hurt if it’s too dry!)
However, it won’t be 100% like a real vagina. One of my favorite parts when I fuck my wife’s pussy is the continuous flow of vaginal juices. The lubricant, on the other hand, will dry up pretty quickly.
What Does It Feel Like To Cum Inside Them?
Cumming inside a Fleshlight beats hand wanking any day of the week. First and foremost, it gives me this milking feeling. With my hands, I usually stop too early, making my orgasms shorter, but when humping a Fleshlight, I go on thumping until I am milked dry.
In addition, it’s nice that the load gets inside a container and not spread all around my bed. However, that makes the cleaning a bit tedious.
How To Make Fleshlights Feel More Real?
If you’re aiming to effectively use a Fleshlight to imitate the real thing, the first thing you’ll want to do before masturbation is lube up your entire penis. Finding the right lube is like finding the perfect seasoning for your favorite dish – it can make a good thing great. You’re aiming for Goldilocks perfection here: not too thick, not too thin, but just right. Remember, in the realm of lube, more is often more – nobody likes a dry spell in the heat of the moment.
Next up, temperature is key. Ever slipped into a bed with cold sheets? Not exactly inviting, right? The same goes for your Fleshlight. It feels much better if you warm them up by soaking them in hot water (if the manual specifically says warm water, do it), or by using warming lube. Much better, get your hands on the sleeve warmer for that cozy feel. This step before you use a sleeve is like preheating your oven before baking – it sets the stage for a toasty experience.
Now, let’s talk about the power of your mind. Your brain is the most erogenous zone, so engaging your imagination can significantly elevate the experience. Create a scenario, dive into some steamy literature, or let your favorite adult film guide your adventure.
Finally, consider the rhythm and pressure you apply. Much like a pretty good massage, varying the pressure and speed can replicate the dynamism of a real encounter. It’s not just about going from point A to B; it’s about enjoying the journey with all its twists and turns. Think of yourself as the chef of your sensual domain, and your Fleshlight as your favorite recipe – a little tweak here, a little adjustment there, and voilà, a mind-blowing sexual experience!
For more tips on how to amp up the sensation, you can read my how to use a Fleshlight 101.
Conclusions
We have learned that a Fleshlight is an excellent tool for masturbation and experimenting with your sexuality to understand what you like in your sex life.
You can use it to train your stamina and increase your self-esteem. In addition, it’s always available for sex, and it’s a must-have for the busy single-career guy.
I hope you found my article helpful and informative, and by now, I hope you have an understanding of what they feel like. Feel free to share it with your friends or on social media. And don’t miss out on my other excellent male sex toy articles on our site.
That’s all 🙂
Tim
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