Are you looking to spice things up in the bedroom with some power play? Well, you have come to the right place. In this article, we are diving into the exciting realm of handcuff positions – a great way to add intimacy and thrill to your sex life, because who says only cops can use handcuffs? Brace yourself as we explore seven of the kinkiest and best handcuff sex positions that will leave you in a hold and begging for more.
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Sex with Handcuffs
Sex handcuffs are accessories that are non-lethal and harmless and used in restraining the ankles or wrists. Just like any bondage play accessory, they come in various colors, materials, sizes, shapes, and security. These are used during sex when people want to either display or surrender some form of control.
When using handcuffs in bed, they can be attached to sex furniture, pleasure products, or other objects around your house. Depending on your needs, there are many handcuffs in the market with varying designs, purposes, and materials to choose from. You could use them with or without a partner. Maybe you feel like masturbating but with a limited range of motion for the added thrill. Or, you’d like to tie up your partner and take control of their body. You can use handcuffs for all of these reasons, and more!
If you’re not yet sold on using handcuffs, here are some of its advantages. Sex toys like handcuffs add another layer of thrill and excitement while restricting movement. They are small and lightweight and can be easily taken with you should you choose to have fun elsewhere than in the bedroom. Handcuffs heighten masturbation, foreplay, and sex. Whether you are having some fun alone, with a partner, or even in a group, handcuffs are suitable on all occasions. For those raunchy nights, they go well with some sexy lingerie and other sex toys. When it comes to maintenance, these are easy to hide, maintain, and clean. Regardless of your gender or sexual orientation, this sex toy is perfect for anyone to use. You can even gift them if you like.
As with any sex toy, it must be sturdy but at the same time not to the point that it causes panic. This is why many models of handcuffs come with extra keys as well as a quick-release button. Don’t forget to read the product manual as each pair of handcuffs is different, and you’ll want to avoid getting stuck in an awkward position. Most importantly, do not lose the keys or locks. Keep them in a safe and accessible place.
Whether you are a seasoned pro or a novice just trying out the cuffs, we’ve got something for everyone. From beginner-friendly sex positions with handcuffs to those that will push your boundaries, get ready to go on an exhilarating journey through restraint and sexual pleasure. So, buckle up (or rather, cuff up) as we unleash our top picks for those who like it a bit kinky, and let’s give ‘cuffing season’ a whole new (and literal) meaning. Who knows? You may get addicted to using handcuffs in the bedroom after this.
Missionary
To start things off, we have the crowd favorite: the missionary position. Known for being both intimate and pleasurable, missionary gives you face-to-face intimacy, kissing, and full-body contact all in one position. While it is considered pretty basic in the realm of sex positions, it also gives you a lot of room for exploration.
This is why it’s a great position to add in some handcuffs. The result: a thrilling kinky missionary experience.
How To Do It
- Lie down flat on your back with your hands cuffed overhead. You can opt to take things up a notch by having your ankles cuffed to the bed’s legs too if it’s possible to do so.
- Your partner climbs on top, coming face-to-face with you, and enters from there.
- They perform slow, shallow thrusts and then begin to increase the speed and intensity.
Face Sitting
From the name itself, you know it’s going to be a good time. Face sitting is a versatile position that can be used for clit play, vulva, or ass eating. Here, your partner gets full access to a highly erogenous zone, one where if they stimulate it right, you can orgasm. Also, it’s perfect for couples in the mood for some kinky exploration, as you can choose whether to do the sitting or be sat on.
What’s also great about this position is that it is low-impact since both partners are in comfortable, resting positions. You can find more oral sex positions in this guide.
How To Do It
- One partner lies on their back and is handcuffed to the bed.
- The other partner kneels over the face of their partner and has their partner’s head between their legs.
- The partner who is lying down begins to perform oral sex. If the sitting partner is up for it, they can also try squatting over their partner’s face.
Hogtied
The hogtied position is perfect for adventurous lovers out there. It is important to note that the hogtied position requires the bound partner to have some degree of flexibility, sort of like an erotic stretch. Flexibility is required to avoid muscle strain because the leg and arm cramps you may get while in this bondage position are not fun. There are many variations to this exciting sex position, mostly in the way the submissive partner is tied up, but in our case, we will teach you the traditional position.
Being in this position for a certain amount of time can cause discomfort, so make sure to always communicate about what does and does not feel good. When moving your hogtied partner’s body or releasing them from the restraints, always use slow, gentle movements.
How To Do It
- You may opt to insert a butt plug, vibrator, or dildo into the submissive partner’s body before she gets hogtied.
- The submissive partner is face down and lying on their stomach with their arms tied behind their back and their ankles tied together as well.
- The dominant partner can go in front of the submissive partner for some oral sex with his penis or a dildo. You can also enjoy some sensation play and add some other toys into the mix.
Ballet Dancer
Adding a pair of cuffs to any position makes it all the more pleasurable. Take the ballet dancer, for instance. Sans handcuffs, this position is already pretty arousing. But with handcuffs, you are taking this position to another level. The ballet dancer is great for couples wanting to try a standing position.
While it sounds like you need to be flexible to do this position, that’s not true. If you can perform any type of cowgirl position, then you can most definitely do the ballet dancer.
How To Do It
- Look for a spot where you can handcuff your partner’s arms while standing up. This could be a hook against the wall or a towel rod.
- Have your partner stand with their legs hips distance apart then wrap one leg around your body. Make sure your body is stable.
- Engage in oral and play with the different sensations. Tease your partner with wet kisses, ice cubes, the warm oil of a massage candle, cunnilingus, and the like.
- Have your handcuffed partner slightly arch their back and tilt their head back for better penetration.
- The penetrating partner enters from there and thrusts up and down, while the handcuffed partner’s back is against the wall.
- They can caress, kiss, or lightly tease their partner all over their body with their free hand.
Standing Doggy
The standing doggy is a fun variation to the already exciting doggy-style position. You can bet you will receive intense pleasure even with minimal full-body touching. If you have handcuffs to use, this gives you an exciting introduction to bondage. For the men or penetrating partners, keep in mind to not get too carried away as the strain on your partner’s arms being pulled may get uncomfortable.
Note: If you’re pregnant, interestingly, this sex position is also good for inducing labor. You can read about it and find more pregnant-safe sex positions in our full guide right here.
How To Do It
- Face the wall or a chair with your arms cuffed behind you. Bend your body over with your elbows on the chair or wall in front of you.
- Your penetrating partner holds onto both your arms or your elbows and uses them to help thrust in and out of you.
- Another way to do it is to be in a downward-facing dog position with your handcuffed arms on the ground in front of you.
- The penetrating partner enters from behind and holds onto your hips to thrust in and out of.
Pile Driver
The pile driver is one of those positions that is fun, freaky, and allows for great thrusts and heavy and deep penetration. The downward angle at which penetration happens causes extremely pleasurable sensations for both partners, but it does require the receiving partner to be quite flexible.
When you do this position with handcuffs, the feeling of being restrained or your partner being restrained heightens the pleasure and arousal.
How To Do It
- The receiving partner lies down on their back with their arms cuffed behind their back.
- With their knees bent, they keep rocking back until their feet touch the ground. Their lower back should be off the floor.
- Next, your partner straddles your hips and slides his penis inside.
- They squat and thrust in a downward motion repeatedly.
Doggy Style
Doggy style, time and time again, is a sexy position that you never really get tired of doing. The woman or receiver feels sexy being on their hands and knees. Meanwhile, the penetrating partner can thrust deeper into this position. Mix it in with some handcuffs and it will raise the heat in the bedroom. More variations of the doggy position right here.
How To Do It
- Get down with your knees under your hips and your hands cuffed to the bedpost. You may have a pillow added under your head for added support.
- You can also opt to bend your elbows on the bed or couch to make this position more enduring.
- This position should look like you are planking but with bent knees.
- The penetrating partner enters you from behind and grabs ahold of your hips. By holding onto your hips, he can thrust in and out of you repeatedly. This also allows for deep penetration.
Wrapping Up
There you have it, pleasure enthusiasts and thrill-seekers. We have explored the 7 best handcuff positions for sex. From missionary to hogtied, these positions will surely take your intimate experiences to new heights. Remember, while handcuff play can be an exhilarating way to experiment and explore your deepest desires, don’t forget to establish clear boundaries, use proper restraints, and have a safeword ready in case you want to hit the brakes. Some positions can cause discomfort over time, especially for your handcuffed partner, so do check in with them from time to time and ask if they are still feeling comfortable. With that, armed with your handcuffs, curiosity, and excitement, it’s time for you to experiment with these fun sex positions.
Thanks for reading my guide on how to use handcuffs in the bedroom!
Sandra
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