There comes a time in many couples’ relationships when they feel ready to invite more adventure into their sex life. Often, this desire leads them to consider public play. If you’re one of those couples and wonder how to use a remote control vibrator for some voyeuristic play, you’ve come to the right place!
In this article, you’ll learn everything about remote-controlled vibrators, including more information about the different styles and features and which is the best fit for public fun.
Table Of Contents
- A remote-controlled vibrator is a small and compact sex toy you or your partner can control through a wireless remote or a smartphone application.
- When you buy a new remote control vibrator, pay attention to the type, material, vibrations, size, sound level, comfort, and extra features such as the app range.
- If you’re new to public play, using lots of lube and starting slow is essential. You should also follow the manufacturer’s safety guidelines, learn how the control works, and begin solo at home first.
What Is A Remote Control Vibrator?
A remote-control vibrator is more or less precisely what it sounds like — a sex toy that you or your partner can control, either a wireless remote or an app. There’s a variety of styles of remote-controlled products. Some are ideal for anal and vaginal penetrative sex, while others are perfect for clitoral stimulation. Some are even so discreet you can slip them into a pair of panties to spice up your sex life outside the house!
How Does A Remote Control Vibrator Work?
Remote vibrators are paired with a remote or a phone app (We-Connect App, Lovense Remote App, etc) you connect via Bluetooth. Some even have or both.
- You can use any app-controlled toys as long as you have a wi-fi connection, making them perfect for long-distance couples wanting to enjoy partner play from opposite sides of the world.
- You can also use them for solo play and keep you from having to fiddle with the buttons on your high-tech toy to adjust the settings. Having the option to go completely hands-free is a feature you are sure to love, especially when indulging in butt play.
Do They Feel Good?
Remote-controlled vibrators offer a wide selection of speeds and vibration options, so chances are, even if you’re on the more difficult-to-please end of the spectrum, you’ll find something that hits the spot.
Handing the destiny of your orgasm over to another person can be hard when you’re used to having full control over your vibrator use. And there is always the chance that the vibration speed or setting your partner chooses for you will miss the mark.
But, with enough time and communication, you are sure to find something that helps in giving you both the best orgasms.
Who Are They For?
Remote-controlled toys really are for everyone — both penis and vulva owners alike — since there is such a unique range in the design of these toys.
- While some remote-controlled vibrators were created only for external stimulation, others offer a long wand and thick base, perfect for tickling your prostate and a superb addition to any DP play.
- Some other styles either clip into the vagina or wrap around the shaft and balls of a penis, offering simultaneous stimulation for both parties.
What To Think About When Buying A Product
The Type
You can pair almost any style of vibrator with an additional remote control, and many companies have taken the liberty of altering virtually every type to make it have remote compatibility, which equals endless possibilities.
In this section, we will cover some of the most popular types of remote-control toys so you can better understand the best fit for you.
1. Panty vibrator
Vibrating panties are one of the most popular remote-controlled vibrators, created explicitly for public play since they are tiny and whisper quiet. They offer the highest level of discretion compared to other remote-controlled sex toys.
Some panty vibrators fit into a specific pair of panties, but most come with magnets that allow you to clip the vibe onto your chosen fabric, allowing you to turn just about anything into a remote-controlled panty vibrator. One model with a strong magnetic clip is the We-Vibe Moxie, and you can read our review of it here.
2. Clip vibrator
This public vibrator is sometimes described as similar to a paperclip since, when inserted, it ‘clips’ into place, applying enough pressure between your vagina and clit to stay in one place.
This design offers users a hands-free experience, even during penetrative sex. It also provides both clitoral and internal stimulation for your G-spot all at once.
The best clip vibrator we tested is Dame Eva, and you can find our review of it here.
3. Insertable egg
This toy has a shape that is similar to a small egg and was created to sit perfectly inside your vagina to stimulate your g spot. It also includes a long tail that makes retrieval post-orgasm significantly easier.
Remote-controlled egg vibrators are another popular option for public play since they are completely insertable and generally made to be on the quiet side.
One wearable egg vibrator we love is Lovense Lush 3, and you can read our review of it here.
4. Bullet vibrator
This type is the most commonly used for vibrating panties. They have a variety of designs, many of which are meant for public play and come with a magnet, making them attachable to the underwear of your choice.
Others are made with sucking features for clit stimulation and various rounded and flat tips that you can use to pinpoint your most sensitive spots perfectly.
If we have to pick one bullet vibrator, it has to be We-Vibe Tango X. If you want to learn more about it, we have a review here.
5. Anal vibrator
Using anal-specific toys for butt play is essential since they are created with a base large enough to keep it from getting stuck in your booty. Some anal vibrators include anal beads, making insertion easier for anal newbies. Others, curved to perfectly massage your partner’s prostate, are great for any woman wanting to take control for a change.
The hands-off experience of remote-controlled sex toys can be beneficial for anal vibrators, removing the need to awkwardly reach behind you to adjust the settings during your solo session.
The best app-controlled anal vibrator we found is Lovense Hush 2, and you can read our review of it here.
Material
Most products, including remote-controlled ones, are made of silicone because they are non-porous (meaning they don’t harbor bacteria).
On top of that, silicone is gentle on the skin, holds body temperature well, and is soft enough to transfer all of those powerful vibrations exactly where they’re wanted.
The second most popular material is ABS plastic which is a little harder than silicone, making the vibrations from toys made from this material more intense.
Whichever toy you choose, make sure it isn’t made from lower-quality rubbers and elastomers, as those can degrade more quickly and be a magnet for bacteria.
One popular silicone remote control vibrator is Lovense Ferri and you can read our review of it here.
Settings
Most high-end remote-controlled sex toys have up to ten-speed options and often just as many vibration settings. Less expensive options tend to have less variety.
Size
Since these toys come in a variety of designs, you can find remote-control toys that are small and discreet enough to be mistaken for a tube of lipstick and others that are large and very obviously phallic.
Many sex toys with a separate remote were intended to be used outside the bedroom and thus are small enough to go unnoticed in a pair of panties.
Design
There is no set design since any vibe can be made into a remote-controlled vibrator when paired with a wireless remote. For example, the We-Vibe Chorus has a dual stimulation design (review here), while the OhMiBod Esca 2 is a vibrating love egg (review here).
Comfort
As with even more traditional vibrators, there will always be certain styles that feel more comfortable for your specific anatomy than others. For example, some women love a model with a thick shaft, while others find them to be too intense.
Don’t be afraid to test out a few different designs before making up your mind about remote-controlled sex toys.
Sound Level
If you’re planning on using your vibrator outside the house, say in a restaurant or movie theatre, chances are you’ll want something quiet enough to go more or less unnoticed.
While not all toys come with this, there are wireless vibrators that have a unique whisper setting. This setting usually offers a lower speed paired with a simple vibration pattern to limit the amount of noise emitted from your device.
If having a quiet toy is essential to you, you can always double-check with the manufacturer, glean more info from online reviews, or look for a video of your toy in action.
App control/range
Any long-distance lovers interested in using a remote vibrator to connect from afar need to invest in a sex toy with its own app. Toys that connect via Bluetooth or a remote require that you be in the same vicinity as the toy and aren’t useful over long distances.
Toys created for long-distance lovers require nothing more than a wi-fi connection for you to give your partner maximum pleasure.
Remote control/range
Most companies don’t include specific information about their toy’s remote range. If you’re looking for something you can use over longer distances, even across a crowded dancefloor, it’s best to look for something with an app.
Budget
Most of these vibrators ring up at around $100, though you can find some sex toys costing as little as $30 and others as much as $210.
The cost varies depending on the number of vibration and speed options it offers, as well as whether or not it has Bluetooth connect-ability.
Read Reviews
Reading reviews is one of the best ways to get the inside scoop about the functionality of the vibrator you’re interested in. Companies won’t advertise if their remote often loses connection with the toy, if their free app is prone to bugs, or if their toy is exceptionally noisy.
Checking out online reviews is often the best way to separate the top remote-controlled vibrators from the competition.
How To Use A Remote Control Vibrator In Public?
1. Wash it first
Before using your remote-controlled vibrator, even if you’re taking it straight out of the box, you need to give it a thorough scrub with warm water and a soap that is bleach-free and gentle on the skin.
Many of these toys are completely waterproof, but before giving your toy or remote a proper dunk, you’ll want to double-check that yours is submersible.
2. Make sure it’s fully charged
Whether your toy is USB rechargeable or battery-operated, having it at max capacity will save you from the ultimate disappointment — your toy running out of juice.
If you’ve invested in something to use outside of the house, it’s also a good idea to double-check the run time of your toy to ensure that you save all the power for when you need it most.
Also, keep in mind that many USB rechargeable toys have battery-operated remotes, so it’s a good idea to stock up on some AAAs
3. Learn how the controls work
Some toys heat up to match your body temperature, have up to 10-speed settings, and have a wide array of vibration patterns. Others even offer suction for your clit. Needless to say, mastering that many functions might take some time.
You can either get to know your remote-controlled vibrator on the job or run through the different settings with your pants on. It’s up to you.
4. Add lube
Even if you have the world’s wettest vagina, lube makes sex significantly more comfortable, especially with an adult toy.
Make sure to pick up water-based or water-silicone hybrid lubes, as straight silicone and oil-based lube can deteriorate your toy.
5. Try it at home solo first
Before bringing your partner into the picture, it could be a good idea for you to get to know your toy more intimately on your own.
Using a sex toy with a partner can be a little embarrassing the first few times, so taking time to get comfortable with your toy could be just the confidence booster you need.
6. Agree on a safe & comfortable location
Choose a place that feels safe and comfortable and where you know you can unwind completely with your partner.
For more voyeuristic couples, it might be their favorite coffee shop or club dancefloor. For others, it could be their bedroom. Either suggestion is fine and will depend on how comfortable you feel exploring this new territory.
7. Agree on the rules
Sex toy play, especially when you relinquish control of the remote, can put some people outside their comfort zone. For this reason, it’s vital to go over consent and ground rules before engaging in this sort of play.
These rules could look like your partner having to start on a slower speed setting or let you know before turning on the vibrator in a public setting.
8. Let your partner have their fun
If you’ve used vibrators before, chances are you know what feels good and tend to stick to the same routine, but using a remote-controlled vibrator with a partner is an excellent opportunity to try something new.
Instead of coaching your partner through the experience, sit back and enjoy a variety of new sensations.
9. Pause or stop if you feel uncomfortable
Don’t be afraid to let your partner know if any part of this experience feels uncomfortable.
Whether related to uncomfortable sensations or crossing boundaries, feeling safe in your love life with your partner should always be a top priority.
Scenarios & Role-Play Ideas
Cafe or restaurant
Using a remote-controlled vibrator while enjoying a cup of coffee or eating at your favorite restaurant is an easy segway into public fun.
Clubs
Looking to take your next date night up a notch? Heading to a crowded club to grind the night away on the dance floor is the perfect use for a remote-controlled vibrator.
Movie theater
This suggestion is probably the most suitable for beginners since movie theaters are dimly lit, and you won’t have to deal with strangers brushing up against you.
Aftercare and Maintenance
Discuss the experience
This aftercare step is purely for your soul and your connection with your partner.
After putting your orgasm in the hands of your partner, either inside the house or during public play, take time to sit down and discuss any parts of the experience you enjoyed and others that may have made you feel uncomfortable.
When you invite new flavors into your sex life, it’s normal to feel uncomfortable sometimes. The level of vulnerability required during sex can bring up old insecurities or make you feel awkward.
Having an open discussion can create space for an entirely new depth in your connection, leading to even steamier lovemaking sessions.
Properly wash it
After use, wash your sex toy thoroughly with mild soap — something soft on the skin — and water. If you used a remote control panty vibrator, it’s important to toss those undies in the wash too.
Properly store it
After you’ve allowed your toy to air dry entirely or dried it thoroughly with a towel, you can place the toy in its box or small bag, separate from your other toys, until you’re ready to use it again.
Bottom Line
Remote-controlled vibrators come in many different styles and designs that are useful for solo and partner play. Exploring the features that make each vibrator unique and checking out the online reviews for each toy is the best way to ensure you get the right vibe.
Wearing a vibrator in public can open up a world of fun for you and your partner; whether you decide to keep that fun contained in the bedroom is up to you.
Rachel
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