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Every body is different, every pair of bodies is different, and therefore every couple is different — and we all like different things! However, there are some classic sex positions that benefit the penetrating partner, and there are some ways to enhance the experience even more for both partners. Read on to learn more!
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1. Missionary
Missionary is one of the best-known and most-loved sex positions, and for good reason. It is a very intimate position with your bodies and faces in full contact. In this position, the penetrating partner has control over the depth and pace of penetration, which is extra helpful if they are trying to make the experience last longer.
What We’re Doing
- The receiving partner lies on their back with legs spread. Knees can be bent or drawn up to their chest.
- The penetrating partner lies on top, face-to-face, with their legs between the receiving partner’s legs. They can brace themselves on their arms if the weight is too much for the penetrating partner.
- The penetrating partner guides their penis into the receiving partner.
Pro Tips: Place a firm pillow under the receiving partner’s hips to elevate them. This allows for deeper penetration, and it can also help target the receiving partner’s G-spot. If the receiving partner needs more stimulation, either partner can use their hands or a small bullet vibrator on the receiving partner’s clitoris.
2. Spooning
Spooning lends itself to slow, sensual lovemaking. It is super comfortable for both partners, and it’s great for lazy mornings in bed. You can enjoy full-body contact, and the “big spoon” usually has their hands free to caress their partner.
The penetrating partner can move freely without much exertion, which makes this a very desirable position. It’s also very easy to stay connected.
What We’re Doing
- The receiving partner lies on their side on the med, with legs slightly bent.
- The penetrating partner lies on their side behind the receiving partner and sort of wraps themself around the receiving partner. The penetrating partner’s legs can be together or intertwined with the receiving partner’s legs.
- The receiving partner reclines against the penetrating partner and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis inside.
Pro Tips: If the penetrating partner also enjoys being penetrated anally, they can use a butt plug without worrying about too much pressure from the weight of two bodies. And if the receiving partner enjoys clitoral stimulation, either partner can use their hands or a vibrator.
3. Doggy Style
It’s a close race, but doggy is usually the winner in polls about favorite sex positions. It’s usually satisfying for both partners: it targets the receiving partner’s G-spot and leaves lots of hands free for additional clitoral stimulation. The penetrating partner can move freely and has full control over the depth and pace of penetration. Doggy works great on a bed, of course, but because neither partner needs a lot of support, it’s well suited to encounters elsewhere in the world.
What We’re Doing
- The receiving partner kneels on the bed (or other surface) with legs slightly spread and head down. They can support themselves on their elbows and arms, or extend arms out in front.
- The penetrating partner kneels behind the receiving partner, between their legs. The penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.
Pro Tips: The receiving partner can kneel at the edge of the bed and the penetrating partner can stand behind them. This is another position where it’s easy to incorporate a vibrator for the receiving partner, and because the receiving partner’s body is not muffled by the mattress, the penetrating partner will probably be able to feel the vibrations as well.
4. The 69
This is everyone’s favorite number! There’s lots to love about it. You get to be completely wrapped up in your partner, you get to enjoy their body in your face, and you get to enjoy receiving oral sex as well. It’s an incredibly intimate and incredibly exciting experience. This position works best when partners are close in height, but when there’s a will, there’s a way, and couples with significant height differences just need to make a few adjustments.
What We’re Doing
- One partner (usually the larger partner, but that’s entirely up to you) lies on their back.
- The top partner kneels over or straddles the bottom partner’s chest. The top partner backs up so that their genitals are in line with the bottom partner’s mouth, and then the top partner stretches out so that their mouth is aligned with the bottom partner’s genitals.
Pro Tips: It’s also possible to do 69 with both of you on your sides. It takes a little effort to get yourselves positioned for this kind of 69, but the act itself takes a lot less effort so you get all the benefits of this kind of intimacy without the gymnastics.
5. Lap Dance
This might be the ultimate indulgence for the penetrating partner. They get visual and physical access to the receiving partner’s body, and all that they have to do is sit back and enjoy it. And as a bonus, they might get some good music too! This position doesn’t need a bed or mattress, just a chair, so it is also well suited for spontaneous adventures.
What We’re Doing
- The penetrating partner sits on a chair. We recommend a firm, armless chair.
- The receiving partner can do a striptease if they are comfortable with that. The receiving partner straddles the penetrating partner’s lap, facing away from them.
- The receiving partner backs up until they are sitting on the penetrating partner’s lap. The penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis inside.
- The receiving partner can control the depth and pace of penetration, or the penetrating partner can hold the receiving partner by the hips and take control.
Pro Tips: You can really lean into the lap dance aesthetic and the receiving partner can dress up in lingerie or costumes.
6. Wheelbarrow
The wheelbarrow is physically challenging for both partners, but it’s worth it! The penetrating partner can enjoy very deep penetration and control over the pace of penetration. Standing sex positions can also allow for even more hip movement (deeper thrusts).
What We’re Doing
- The receiving partner lies on the floor, in a full-arm plank position but with legs slightly spread.
- The penetrating partner stands behind the receiving partner, between their legs.
- The penetrating partner grasps the receiving partner’s ankles and lifts their legs off the ground (still standing between their legs).
- The penetrating partner slowly walks forward until their pelvis is aligned with the receiving partner. The receiving partner wraps their legs around the penetrating partner’s waist.
- The penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in, and then holds the receiving partner’s hips for support.
Pro Tips: If both partners are comfortable with it, the receiving partner can prop their legs on the penetrating partner’s shoulders instead of around their waist. This allows the penetrating partner to go very deep.
7. Cowgirl
Cowgirl is another very popular position. In many positions, the penetrating partner does most of the “work.” In cowgirl, the penetrating partner gets to lie back and enjoy both a great ride and a great view. There’s a reason why it’s on this list even if conventional wisdom portrays this position as benefiting the receiving partner more.
What We’re Doing
- The penetrating partner lies on their back with their legs together and their knees straight or slightly bent.
- The receiving partner kneels over, squats over, or straddles the penetrating partner with pelvises aligned.
- The penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.
Pro Tips: The penetrating partner can place a pillow under their hips, which can change the angle and facilitate deeper penetration. Also, either partner can use a small vibrator on the receiving partner’s clitoris for additional stimulation.
Maggie
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