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New year, new… you-know-what? As someone who’s been testing sex toys since 2016 (and casually since college), I know resolutions don’t just have to be about diet or the gym. Sometimes the best changes happen in the bedroom—where the stakes are higher, the rewards are sweeter, and let’s be real, more fun.
I’ve put together 10 New Year’s sex resolutions to help you re-ignite your intimacy next year. You’ll find actionable advice, personal anecdotes, and a few tried and true toy recs sprinkled in. Plus our readers shared their own sexy resolutions and they’ll remind you that inspiration can come from anywhere. Ready to turn up the heat? Let’s get started!
1. Schedule Sexy Time—Yes, Actually
It sounds clinical but life gets busy. Between work, kids, and Netflix binges, spontaneous sex becomes a myth. Last year my wife Sandra and I started blocking out “intimacy time” on the calendar. It sounds cheesy but anticipation became half the fun. I’d catch myself whispering suggestive things to her or giving her a mischievous smile hours before the “scheduled program.”
One of our long-time readers, Megan, had the same idea. “We use Google Calendar for ‘us’ time. My husband even sends invites. Corny? Maybe. But it works!” she says. And if you want to add more sizzle to the wait try the We-Vibe Melt. This phone-connected suction toy makes teasing your partner all day a reality—talk about foreplay on autopilot.
2. Try a New Sex Toy Each Month
Even as a professional sex toy tester I sometimes get stuck in a rut with my favorites. This year, make it your mission to try something new each month. Whether for solo play or shared fun, trying something new can break up the monotony and add excitement.
A few years ago I gave Sandra a surprise box of pleasure products with monthly “assignments.” January’s toy? The Lelo Tiani 3, a wearable couples’ vibrator that lets you enjoy a movie night while “Netflix and chill” takes on a whole new meaning. It’s one of those resolutions that benefits everyone involved.
3. Explore Your Fantasies—Guilt Free
If you can ask your partner to pick up toothpaste on the way home you can talk about that little roleplay idea you’ve been fantasizing about. I’ll admit it took us years to open up. Now no topic is off the table whether it’s costumes, pleasure products, or watching a steamy film together.
One of our readers, Jeremy, had a moment of bravery last year: “I finally told my wife I wanted her to use a strap-on. Her response? ‘Took you long enough.’ Best experience of my life.” If you’re ready to dip your toes into something new I recommend checking out the new Lovense Lapis which is an app-controlled strapless strapon that will take your love life to new heights.
4. Prioritize Solo Pleasure
Resolutions aren’t just for couples. Exploring your body can work wonders for understanding what makes you tick and that knowledge leads to better partnered sex. For example, my wife Sandra swears by the Dame Arc, a versatile G-spot vibrator that hits all the right spots, while my personal favorite is the Kiiroo Keon. It’s simple, powerful, and surprisingly easy to clean—because no one wants more chores.
Making solo time a priority isn’t selfish—it’s self-care with benefits.
5. Communicate Before, During, and After
Communication might not sound sexy but the results sure are. Sandra and I started doing quick “compliments + tweaks” chats after sex. It’s nothing heavy—just a check-in on what worked and what didn’t.
Here’s a simple question to start: “What’s one thing you’d love for us to try next time?” Small prompts like this keep things open, honest, and evolving. Trust me, these conversations will bring you closer, both emotionally and physically (And yes, the science backs it up).
6. Take It Out of the Bedroom
Nothing recharges intimacy like a change of scenery. A quiet corner of the house, the car, or even the backyard (if you’ve got a bit of privacy) can make things feel exciting again.
One of our readers, Lena from New York, shared her trick: “We had a ‘picnic’ in the backyard with champagne and a blanket. It felt like we were breaking all the rules and I loved it.” For those looking to add a little tech to their adventure, the Lovense Ferri is a discreet, wearable vibrator that works via Bluetooth—perfect for teasing in unexpected places.
7. Be a Foreplay Master
Foreplay isn’t just a warm-up—it’s half the experience. For me, foreplay often starts long before Sandra and I are even in the same room. A cheeky text during her workday or a playful comment while she’s cooking sets the tone.
If you need a little help turning foreplay into a shared event the We-Vibe Wand 2 is a spicy wand vibrator that brings app-controlled teasing into your hands—literally.
8. Try Sensory Exploration
Sometimes it’s the little things—like a feather dancing on your skin or the thrill of not knowing what’s coming next—that heighten pleasure. Temperature play is one option (a heated massage oil or chilled stainless steel toy works wonders) but why stop there?
A basic Feather Tickler is an easy, affordable addition to any bedroom toolkit. Pair it with a blindfold and suddenly every touch feels like an adventure. It’s simple, effective, and absolutely underrated.
9. Focus on Aftercare
Sex doesn’t end with the final moan. Take time afterward to reconnect whether that means cuddling, sharing a shower, or simply laughing together about how your cat knocked something off the dresser mid-act.
Aftercare is like the cool-down after a workout—it helps you recover and process the connection you just shared.
10. Make Next Year the Year of YES!
Say yes to new sex toys, new fantasies, and new experiences—within your comfort zone of course. Maybe you’ve been eyeing that vibrating wand for months or perhaps it’s finally time to try that “silly” roleplay idea you keep brushing off. Whatever it is, take the leap. Life’s too short for boring sex.
Final Thoughts
Most resolutions are about “doing less”—less sugar, less spending, less screen time. But when it comes to intimacy this is your year to add more. More fun, more experimentation, and more connection.
Your sex life deserves as much attention and care as any other part of your life. As someone who’s tested more toys and shared more laughs with Sandra than I can count I promise: small changes make a big difference.
What’s your New Year’s sex resolution? Whether it’s a wild fantasy, a new toy, or something completely unexpected, comment below—let’s inspire each other to make the next year unforgettable.
Happy vibing!
Tim
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