Now, I get it – that old bench in your attic looks like the perfect DIY queening chair project for all your dominatrix dreams. But before you start strapping belts and buckles onto it, let’s do a reality check. Making your own sex toy comes with many risks and it’s far better to buy a professionally crafted, budget-friendly option like the “Bondage Boutique Chair” – a real game-changer for just $99.99 (even cheaper with discount code MSTG15 for 15% off!). But for those who don’t have adult stores where they live, we’ve got a few semi-safe alternatives below that you can build at your own risk.
- We don’t recommend DIY-ing a queening seat using items around the house. Instead, we recommend buying a legit, professionally made chair. Why? Because you want to avoid those unexpected bumps in the road that could turn your thrilling adventure into a visit to the ER.
- But we understand that not everyone has a neighborhood adult shop on speed dial. So, for all you adventurous DIYers out there, we’ve got some semi-safe alternatives that you can try. These alternatives won’t exactly rival the professional stuff – but they might add a sprinkle of excitement to your bondage endeavors.
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Rachel is also a strong supporter of crafting practical and economical BDSM gear. With her wealth of expertise and experience, plus the help of fellow sexologist Sandra Larson, she stands as a dependable and trustworthy source for suggestions and advice on BDSM play, even when it comes to homemade queening chairs. Special shoutout to Reddit users CheyenneAndZapp, kate-kate-kate, IAmDumpster9009, and blurque for their helpful guides, which are included below.
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What Is a DIY Queening Chair?
A DIY queening chair (AKA facesitting stool or rimchair) is a homemade sex furniture with a hole in the middle used for facesitting and domination play. It’s designed to make it easier for the person sitting on it to feel like a royal highness, while the partner down below gets a front-row ticket to a whole menu of sensual delights. Think of it as oral sex on a silver platter if you will. People build them from various materials found around the house or at the hardware store, and the primary reason is to save money or customize them to their exact needs.
Note: The JimSupport Handled T-Leg (product above) is an example of a real queening chair. This product has been meticulously crafted by experts in the field, using durable materials and strong welds. It’s one of the products we tested in the review we did earlier this year.
Is Making a Queening Chair Safe?
Like with any DIY BDSM toy, building your very own homemade queening chair is unsafe unless you have experience with material science and assembly. Safety first, folks! Using subpar parts is like building a sandcastle with a soup ladle – it’s just not going to hold up. You want your throne to be stable and reliable, not wobbly and unsafe. Therefore, we highly recommend buying a professionally made product instead.
Some Semi-Safe Ideas
We promised some ideas in the key takeaway box above, so let’s talk about them next. While they are safer than the other hacks we have seen on Google and YouTube, they are not as safe as a store-bought product, and you must take great care when building them. If some steps are unclear to you, immediately stop and buy a real product instead. Now let’s start with the easiest option: Adapting a regular chair into a queening model:
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1. Chair with Velcro Handcuffs
Alright, let’s kick off with the classic. Imagine a good old bench, but we’ve spiced it up with some velcro handcuffs attached to the arms. It’s like a “sit and stay” command for the person in charge, giving them the power to wiggle around and get comfy while staying nicely restrained. Here is a guide by Reddit user CheyenneAndZapp:
Materials Needed:
- Chair (found curbside or in the attic)
- Lightweight scrap angle iron
- Scrap RV toilet seat
- Pink fur
- Scrap plywood
- Hinges
- Bolts
- Velcro handcuffs or other straps
Step-by-Step Guide:
- Cut six inches off of each leg of the chair to adjust the height for comfortable straddling or standing over the chair.
- Connect the back two legs of the other at the base using a lightweight scrap angle iron.
- Remove the original seat cushion.
- Cover a scrap RV toilet seat with pink fur.
- Secure the pink fur-covered seat.
- Connect the angle iron at the rear base to scrap plywood using hinges, allowing it to tip back as shown in the photo.
- Bolt two D rings to the base near the front legs so that when the chair folds down, it can be secured as a restraint.
- Add Velcro handcuffs to each side for use as desired.
Pro tip: But if you don’t trust your DIY skills, then get the Master Series Queening Chair instead. It’s got all the bells and whistles a dominant lady or an eager submissive could dream of, all in a beautifully crafted package.
Source: Reddit
2. Wooden Chair
A wooden chair isn’t just for grandma’s kitchen; it can be a blast in the bedroom too! Get one with a tall back and a cushy seat so you can customize it with additional features like handmade restraints or footrests. – it’s like a kinky IKEA project! Let’s see how Redditor blurque pulled this one together:
Materials Needed:
- Wooden chair
- Pieces of 2×8 or thick wood (available at a hardware store)
- Foam
- Fabric
- Gaff tape
- Staples
Step-by-Step Guide:
- Get a wooden chair and remove all parts that are not the seat.
- Replace the legs with pieces of 2×8 or thick wood. You can find suitable pieces at a hardware store, and they can cut them for you if needed.
- Purchase foam to make the chair cushy.
- Use a jigsaw to cut out the desired area from the seat.
- Attach the chair seat (now a loop) to the “legs” made of 2×8, ensuring there is a lip on the outside.
- Cut the foam to the correct size for the seat.
- Take fabric, preferably a thick one like canvas, and cover the seat and foam with it.
- Staple the fabric to the underside of the lip to secure it in place.
- For the neck piece, assemble pieces of foam in the desired appearance.
- Wrap the neckpiece with gaff tape.
Source: Reddit
3. Cantilever Chair
This type of stool has a curved base that allows it to rock back and forth, giving you a wild ride of sensations during your sexy escapades! Here’s an excellent guide by Redditor kate-kate-kate:
Materials Needed:
- Cantilever chair (without the lean)
- Cutout Board
- Upholstery materials
- Metal pipes (part of the chair’s structure)
- Pump ball
- Pillow
Step-by-Step Guide:
- Start with a cantilever chair (without the lean) as the base.
- Remove the original seat and replace it with a cutout board that matches the desired shape for comfortable positioning.
- Do some upholstering on the cutout board using suitable materials like fabric and foam to make it comfortable.
- Ensure that the height of the cutout board matches the chair’s perfect height and is stable when attached.
- Consider the positioning and stability provided by the metal pipes of the chair, as they don’t take up much space below.
- Decide whether to keep or remove the lean of the chair. In this case, the lean was removed to have the flexibility to choose the sitting direction.
- Connect the pump ball to one of those pillows that can be used to break open car doors. This allows for easy adjustment of the height of the lower part by pumping it up
Source: Reddit
4. Folding Facesitting Chair
A folding queening chair is the perfect option for those who want something portable or have limited storage space. I especially liked this guided by Reddit user IAmDumpster9009:
Materials Needed:
- 3/4″ plywood
- Folding brackets
- Upholstery foam
Step-by-Step Guide:
- Start by gathering the materials: 3/4″ plywood, folding brackets, and upholstery foam.
- Cut three pieces of 3/4″ plywood: two for the legs (11″ x 19″) and one for the seat (24″ x 19″).
- In the initial version, a seat with an oval shape was cut, but it was later changed to a U shape, which was found to be better.
- To address concerns about flex in the seat, 3/4″ plywood was used, providing stability.
- After painting and upholstering the seat, fasten the legs to the bottom of the seat using the folding brackets and screws.
- The folding brackets allow the legs to lock into place when extended, ensuring a sturdy build.
- The chair can be designed to fold up for easy storage and can be customized with additional features like restraints or footrests.
Source: Reddit
Not Safe at All Ideas
It’s important to know that some ideas are very unsafe, and we highly recommend against trying any of the below methods. The potential for serious injuries is real, so err on the side of caution and opt for safer alternatives.
Unstable Designs
If you’ve taken a peek at our homemade sex swing guide, you know stability is the name of the game. Nobody wants a surprise tip-over during the heat of the moment, right? Do a stability check so you don’t hurt yourself in the process.
Poor Finish
Now, don’t be tempted to go all cheap when it comes to your queening chair. Sure, an inexpensive option might seem tempting, but trust me, splinters in sensitive places aren’t on anyone’s bucket list So, splurge if you must – you’ll thank yourself for getting the best chair!
If you’re not comfortable with DIY projects, go with the highest-rated queening chairs we ranked. For a budget pick, we recommend buying the Bondage Boutique Chair (product above). Despite its seemingly straightforward design, this chair boasts incredible durability, versatility, and easy portability – all for the modest price of just $99.
How to Use a DIY Queening Chair?
- Positioning: It’s a must that your chair sits on solid ground and won’t go all “tipping tower” on you. For bonus stability points, cozy it up against a wall or in a corner.
- Get comfortable: Now that it’s in the perfect spot, it’s all about getting comfy – like arranging the cushions on your couch for a movie night. Adjust its height and seat angle until it feels like the ultimate throne of pleasure. Don’t forget the plush cushions or pillows to add that extra cozy factor when you sit down – because we’re all about maximum comfort, even for the submissive!
- Assume the position: Now the dominant can sit down on the chair, legs apart, ready for some entertainment. Then, the sub positions themselves under the chair and gets ready for some up-close and personal action.
To ensure safety and comfort when using a homemade queening chair, it’s important to take extra precautions. Make sure your chair is rock-solid, throw in some cushions for comfort, have a good chat, and, of course, ensure consent throughout the whole session.
Once you’ve got those basics down, you can toss some impact play toys into the mix, like floggers and spanking paddles. We have articles on making a DIY BDSM flogger in case you’re interested.
Why Is it Better to Buy Commercial Products?
When it comes to BDSM furniture, the DIY urge is strong, but we urge you to be careful. Here’s what both you and your partner can look forward to with an authentic piece:
Design
Authentic products are all about pleasure and safety, made by folks with years of BDSM experience. These experts craft furniture with your unique needs in mind, so you can count on a genuine queening stool to be comfier, user-friendly, and better at boosting your pleasure compared to a homemade version. Plus, they come in all sorts of flavors!
Take the JimSupport Rim Rocker for example. There’s no way you’d be able to pull off that rocking feature on your own. Take it from an expert. It’s something you didn’t know you’d always wanted until you tried it for yourself.
Materials
When it comes to BDSM toys, it’s all about treating yourself right. The authentic stuff is made from non-toxic, sturdy materials that can handle the wild world of BDSM without breaking a sweat. But with a makeshift queening chair, you might end up with materials that aren’t safe or built to last. So, choose quality for the royal treatment!
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
What are the key features of a queening chair?
A queening chair spices up BDSM by creating a dynamic for domination and submission play. If you’re keen on similar vibes, consider chastity cages and belts, though DIY-ing them can be quite risky. If you’re feeling creative, look for simpler alternatives that won’t raise eyebrows in the emergency room.
How can I safely and effectively use a queening chair?
For a successful queening stool experience, remember the three Cs: communication, consent, and a little BDSM know-how (Yes, I know, that last one didn’t have a C at the beginning). Set clear boundaries and safe words, start at a comfortable pace, and keep the communication flowing. If you’re looking to spice things up, consider adding sensory deprivation elements like blindfolds (We have a guide for DIY blindfold ideas too!)
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