Many view vibrators as the go-to tool when it comes to self-pleasure. However, not everyone has access to one while others want to explore other ways of masturbating. The good news is there are plenty of ways to pleasure yourself with just a pinch of creativity. That’s why our clinical sexologist, Rachel Sommer, is here to give some surprisingly hot recommendations on how to masturbate without a vibrator or a sex toy! Let’s go!
- Washing Machine: A front-loading washing machine can be used for hands-free masturbation. Straddle the machine, adjust the intensity, and enjoy the vibrations. However, this method may not work for everyone and can be potentially dangerous if not careful.
- Fingers: Your index or middle finger can be a gentler and more intimate experience for manual stimulation. Make sure your hands and fingers are clean, use lubricant, and explore your body with different types of touch. Experiment with different techniques such as the V Stroke or go in for some G-spot stimulation.
- Pillow: A pillow can be used to simulate penetration. Find a firm pillow and squat over it with one hand inside your vagina and the other hand stimulating your clitoris. Experiment with different movements and pressures until you find what feels good.
- Showerhead or Faucet: Adjust the water pressure and direct the water stream to hit the right spot. Use your imagination to enhance the experience and be mindful of water temperature. Stay safe and avoid slipping or falling.
- Vibrating Cellphones: Turn your cellphone on silent mode and find a vibration pattern that you enjoy. Place your cell phone on your entire vulva or clitoris, or hold it against your penis.
- Massager: A handheld massager can provide intense and targeted stimulation to your erogenous zones. Look for one with a variety of speeds and attachments, apply lubricant, and experiment with different speeds and attachments to find what feels best for you.
Table Of Contents
1. Washing Machine
Believe it or not, a washing machine can be a great tool for hands-free masturbation. Here’s how to do it:
- I recommend using a washing machine with a front-loading door. Top-loading machines won’t work as well because the vibrations are less intense.
- Make sure the machine is empty and clean before you begin. Place a rolled-up towel or blanket on top of the machine to protect your skin from any rough edges or metal parts.
- Straddle the machine with your legs on either side of the door. Turn the machine on a spin cycle and adjust the intensity to your liking.
- Lean back and enjoy the vibrations.
Note that this method won’t work for everyone and can be potentially dangerous if you’re not careful. Make sure you’re comfortable and in control at all times. Also, keep in mind that washing machines are designed for laundry, not for sexual pleasure, so use them at your own risk.
2. Fingers
Rubbing your genitals using your middle or index finger can be a great alternative to using a vibrator. Not only can it help you figure out what you like and don’t like, but it’s a gentler and more intimate experience than a vibrating sex toy/
First, make sure your hands are clean and your nails are trimmed. You should also use water-based lube to make things more comfortable. Start by exploring your whole body with your hands, focusing on areas that feel good to touch. Try different types of external stimulation, such as stroking, gently tapping, or rubbing. And if you want to insert your finger inside to hit the G-spot, start with one finger and put a good amount of water-based lubricant on your vaginal opening because going in dry may feel frustrating and anticlimactic.
Note: If you are having a hard time finding your G-spot on your own and you have a partner, it doesn’t hurt to ask him for help. You two love birds can try some of the positions in this guide that are known to hit the G-spot effectively.
One technique you can try is called the V Stroke. Make a V-shape with your index and middle fingers, and place them on either side of your clitoris. Rub gently up and down, experimenting with different speeds and pressures until you reach climax. Another tip is rubbing your clit using your non-dominant hand. This can help you explore new sensations and break out of your usual routine. Don’t be afraid to experiment and try different things!
3. Using A Pillow (The Faux F*ck)
If you’re looking for a way to simulate penetration, using a pillow can be a great option. Here’s how to do it:
- Find a pillow that is firm enough to provide stimulation, but not so firm that it’s uncomfortable. You may need to experiment with different pillows to find the right one for you. (I love Tempur-Pedic pillows, but they are a bit expensive around $250)
- Place the pillow on a flat surface, such as a bed or couch.
- Squat over the pillow with one hand against your vagina and the other hand stimulating your clitoris.
- Use your vagina hand to thrust against the pillow, tap gently on the upper wall of your vagina, or press gently in the same spot.
- Take time and experiment with different movements and pressures until you find what feels good.
Using a pillow can be a great way to simulate internal stimulation because it lets control the pressure and speed of the stimulation, and it’s also fun to experiment with different movements and positions. Just be sure to use a clean pillow and wash your hands before and after masturbating to avoid infections.
4. Showerhead or Faucet
Using a showerhead or faucet to masturbate can be a great way to achieve hands-free pleasure. Here are some tips to get started:
- Adjust the water pressure: Start with a lower pressure and gradually increase it until you find the right level of stimulation. Going straight to firm pressure can be too much especially if your clit is sensitive.
- Direct the water stream: Move the shower head or faucet so that the water stream is hitting the right spot. For people with vulvas, the clitoral hood is a sensitive area that can provide a lot of pleasure. For people with penises, the frenulum (the sensitive area on the underside of the penis) can be a good spot to focus on.
- Use your imagination: While the water is doing its thing, use your imagination to enhance the experience. Think about a sexy scenario, or focus on the physical sensations you’re feeling. You can also watch porn to help get you in the mood.
- Be mindful of water temp: Hot water can feel great, but it can also be damaging to sensitive skin. Make sure the water isn’t too hot, and take breaks if you feel uncomfortable.
- Stay safe: Make sure you’re in a safe and comfortable position while using the showerhead or faucet. Be careful not to slip or fall, and avoid using products like soap or shampoo that can make the surface slippery. We recommend using a non-slip shower mat to stay safe.
Using a showerhead or faucet is a fun and easy way to explore your body and experience hands-free pleasure. Give it a try and see what works for you!
Pro tip: In case you don’t have a detachable showerhead around and you’re willing to spend some bucks to get something really nice, then getting the Womanizer Wave (image above) is your best choice. I don’t want to spoil the fun for you, so read our Womanizer Wave Review instead to find out!
5. Vibrating Cellphones
If you don’t have a vibrator but have a cellphone, you can use it to create vibrations for masturbation. Here are some tips on how to do it:
- Turn your cell phone on silent mode to avoid any interruptions.
- Find a vibration pattern that you enjoy. Most cell phones have different vibration patterns that you can choose from.
- Place your smartphone on the outer lip of your clit also known as labia majora. You may want to put a cloth or towel between your skin and the cell phone to avoid any discomfort.
- Experiment with different angles and positions to find what feels best for you.
- If you’re worried about hygiene, you can clean your cell phone with a disinfectant wipe before and after use.
Using a cell phone as a vibrator may not be as effective as using an actual vibrator. Cellphone vibrations are not as strong or precise, and the battery life may not last as long. However, it can be a fun and convenient option if you don’t have access to a vibrator.
6. Massager
A massager can be a great vibrator alternative as it provides intense and targeted stimulation to your erogenous zones. When choosing a massager, look for one with a variety of speeds and attachments to customize your experience. Some massagers can also be used for full-body massage, making them a versatile addition to your self-care routine.
Note: Did you know that the Hitachi wand vibrator (image above) was originally a massager? You read that right. In 1968, the Japanese company Hitachi introduced a vibrator during the rise of the sex-positive feminism movement. Initially promoted as a device for soothing sore muscles, particularly in the neck area, it quickly became apparent to the renowned sex educator Betty Dodson that this neck massager was equally adept at providing clitoral stimulation.
To use a massager for masturbation, start by finding a comfortable position and applying a water-based lubricant to your genitals. Then, experiment with different speeds and attachments to find what feels best for you.
Other Masturbation Tips
Masturbation is a personal and intimate act and it’s important to find what works best for you. Here are some other tips that can help enhance your solo-play experience for vulva owners:
- Make Sure You’re In the Mood: It’s important to be in the right headspace before you start masturbating. Take time to relax and get comfortable. You can try taking a warm bath or listening to some soothing music to help you unwind.
- Use Lube: Some people think that lubricants are just for penetrative sex but lube can also make solo masturbation feel even better, especially if you’re experiencing dryness.
- Try Other Positions: Don’t be afraid to try different positions when masturbating. You might find that lying on your back or stomach, sitting up, or standing works best for you.
- Experiment with Other Sensitive Spots: While the clitoris is often the main focus of female masturbation, many other sensitive spots on the body can be pleasurable to touch. Try exploring your nipples, inner thighs, or even your ears or neck. And if you haven’t given your anus some loving, you can try some stimulation using your fully lubed pinkie and use the exact method mentioned earlier.
- Using the Mirror: Some people find it erotic to watch themselves masturbate in front of a mirror. You might find yourself getting more aroused while watching yourself slowly swirl your slippery hand around your clitoris. If you’re feeling adventurous, give it a try!
- Don’t Focus On The Orgasm As The End Result: While orgasms are amazing please don’t put too much pressure on yourself to achieve one every time you masturbate. Instead, focus on the sensation you’re feeling in the moment and enjoy the experience.
What NOT To Do When Masturbating
While it’s tempting to use stuff around when you don’t have a vibrator, using the wrong objects or methods can lead to an emergency room trip! So let’s address what you should never do when masturbating:
Vacuum Cleaners
Using a vacuum cleaner to stimulate your genitals is very dangerous and the strong suction can cause severe injuries to your most delicate areas. We are talking stuff like burns, cuts, or other trauma to your genitals. Never use a vacuum cleaner for sexual purposes. Full stop!
Cucumbers and Other Foods
While it looks like a good idea to use a cucumber or other phallic-shaped foods to masturbate, they are not meant for sexual activities. Sharp edges or pieces can break off and cause injury or infection. Additionally, the food item can break inside your body and cause a medical emergency. Always use toys designed for sexual purposes. Period!
Electric Toothbrush
Never use an electric toothbrush as a vibrator. Period. The bristles can cause irritation or injury to your genitals, and the toothbrush may not be cleaned thoroughly which can lead to infection. Stay away for the sake of your vagina!
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