Butt plugs bring a whole new level of sexual pleasure to the bedroom. Yes, they can be pretty daunting at first glance, but with the proper preparation, toy choice, mood, and patience, you will see that this is not just the cherry on top but the whole damn cake. So, let’s look closely at how to use one for the first time!
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What Is A Butt Plug?
A butt plug is like it sounds, a plug for your butt. These kinky sex toys are usually shaped like cones or eggs and typically start with a narrow tip, widening in the middle, and then back to narrow again. All commercial products have a broad base to stop them from getting lost during insertion. Unlike many sex toys, a butt plug is supposed to fit and not move during your sexual playtime or for prolonged wear.
How Does Butt Plugs Work?
Butt plugs are pretty straightforward. Once lathered in plenty of lube, they are slowly inserted into your (also lubed) anus. This method could take some getting used to, but practice makes perfect.
You can then keep it there as is, or you or your partner can play around with moving it in different motions. For example, get creative in and out, up and down, or circular motions. This style can be enjoyed simultaneously with other sexual acts, adding to the pleasure.
What do Butt Plugs Feel Like?
The butt plug will feel incredible if inserted correctly. Your anus has many sensitive nerve endings, which means for anyone with a prostate, having something inside can feel incredibly good., adding a new feeling to the mix for men.
In addition, butt plugs are incredibly satisfying for many people, regardless of your anatomy:
- For men, anal plugs help stimulate the prostate, a small gland located between the bladder and the penis that, when stimulated, can provide tremendous pleasure.
- For women, it can also offer extra pressure inside the vaginal canal; if you add penetration to the anal canal, it can feel tighter for all involved.
One common issue for many new users is the feeling of needing to poo. This is a natural reaction to sticking something foreign up your butt. Over time you will learn to control this feeling by being relaxed and more confident. It’s also wise to add a pre-sex ritual to your butt play, including emptying your bowels and douching beforehand.
Who Are They For?
Butt plugs are for anyone wanting to explore anal play or added stimulation to your sex life, and it’s for any gender and sexual preference. You can use them with a partner or alone for steamy bedtime masturbation sessions.
What To Think About When Buying A Product
Material
Butt plugs come in many different materials, from silicone and glass to marble and steel. Finding your favorite might take time, but that’s all part of the fun.
If you choose glass or stainless steel, try out temperature play by running it under a warm/hot tap for a few minutes, putting it in the fridge for 10 minutes, or freezer for 10 for some extra icy fun. A good metal butt plug we recommend is the Lovehoney Jeweled Heart (review here).
However, you should always buy a model made of body-safe, non-porous material (silicone, metal, etc.) Porous material, like TPE and jelly, can harbor harmful bacteria, making them unsafe and challenging to clean,
Butt Safe
But plugs are explicitly designed to be safe for insertion. Due to their flared base, they will not get lost in your anus, and you can explore the rest of your sexual experience without fear.
If your butt plug doesn’t include a flared base in the design, I would advise against using it, especially if you’re a newbie.
What Size is Best For Me?
There are many different sizes and it’s essential to choose the right size depending on your experience level. Below is a rough guide on how to size your new butt toy.
- Newbie: If you’re new to anal play, you should start with a small beginner butt plug. For example, 0.8 – 1.25 inches in width. Even if you are not a total beginner, when in doubt, go with a smaller size. You can still enjoy the small plug and progress to a larger one when ready, but it won’t be as fun if you choose too big a size. As for length, they vary with the design; beginner models in the dimensions above usually come in anything from 2-3 inches wide. A good beginner model is the b-Vibe rimming plug petite (review here.)
- Intermediate: If you have previously used smaller anal toys but would like to advance to something a little larger, try one that is 1.25- 1.5 inches in diameter. Remember to lube up well both inside your butt and on the toy itself. A slight increase in diameter may still be a big step for your sensitive butt opening.
- Advanced: A large size can be delightful for the experienced ass-play lovers out there, but the one thing that’s always true is beginners shouldn’t use this until they have done some anal training. Using a butt plug is supposed to be about reaching ultimate pleasure, so if you are advanced or intermediate and ready for that next level of sexual pleasure, you can try a 1.5- 2 inch butt plug.
- Size Lovers: Using an extra large butt plug means you’re not only very experienced with anal play but love a big toy. These products are usually 2 inches and above. Depending on personal preference, they can be tailor-made to any specifications.
Length
Prostates are about 2-3 inches deep inside the anal cavity. Any toy with a protrusion at those marks will suffice to hit the prostate.
Few anal toys will extend beyond 4.5 inches, and five inches and above puts your safety at risk, even for size lovers.
Design/Shape
Butt plugs come in many sizes and materials, so it would be hard to imagine if they didn’t also come in various designs and shapes. Many manufacturers have brought out innovations with their creative flair.
Some look alien-like, while others are coned or the more standard egg-shaped ones. There are many unique shapes to discover, so get out there and find your perfect plug.
Due to its curved shape, Hot Octopuss PleX with flex is an excellent product to hit the P-spot (review here).
Vibrating vs. Non-Vibrating
Butt plugs come in both electronic vibrating designs and simple, non-powered models. You can find what works for your sexual preference and budget. It might even be that some days you want that vibration feeling, and others you want a suitable old-school, no-frills model.
There is no right or wrong choice; it is all personal preference. However, if you choose a vibrating anal plug, it usually has multiple settings and sometimes multiple motions to reach maximum pleasure. Some, like Lovense Hush 2, even have remote app control.
Budget
The beauty of butt plugs is that they come in many different price ranges for every budget. Just as long as the material is safe and the toy is from a reputable seller, you can go nuts and choose the best price for your wallet.
You can read more about butt plugs here.
How To Insert A Butt Plug?
1. Wash it first
It is essential to wash any sex toys you have before using them, even if you washed them after using them last time. Bacteria, dust, and dirt could easily attach to it; you don’t want that inside you.
Instead, try using your favorite sex toy soap or regular genital soap and warm hot water.
2. Empty bowels
It is vital to empty your bowels before doing any anal play to prevent discomfort and a potential accident. After all, you are inserting something in your ass, and if you are backed up, this could be a very uncomfortable situation physically, visually, and emotionally.
3. Clean your butt area
Make sure your entire butt area is clean and ready to go. This process ensures no dirt or harmful bacteria can get on the toy when inserted, which could cause an infection.
You may even want to try douching. It’s a very odd sensation at first, but if butt play is something you like, this will become a very normal part of your prepping.
You can read more about anal play preparation here.
4. Find a comfortable place and create a good mood
Setting the mood is essential for any sexual endeavor, whether this is throwing on your favorite sex playlist, lighting some candles, or watching porn.
Feeling comfortable, relaxed, and turned on is crucial when doing anal play.
5. Add lube
Lube is one of the essential things for any part of anal sex. Even for someone with experience, it is critical not to force the toy inside; instead, cover the toy in as much lube as you feel you need. You can also use a finger or two to insert lube inside your anal cavity before using the toy. Remember that you can continue to add lube throughout your play, don’t lose control and forget to stay well-lubed, or you may be paying the price the next day.
Finding a good lube is crucial when doing anything related to anal sex. Skipping this step could result in pain and even injury. Once your toy is lubed, you are ready for the main event; It’s as simple as that.
Silicone lube is always a great way to go. However, you should not use it if the butt plug is silicone, as silicone on silicone will corrode the material ruining your new favorite toy. For silicone toys, water-based lube is required.
6. Time to insert
Relax, and slowly insert the butt plug into your anus. Please do not force it; this is not a race. It can take time to get the toy fully inserted. Go at your own pace, and you will start feeling all the incredible sensations you’ve been reading about.
7. Movement
This part is very much up to what feels most pleasurable to you. Some people prefer to keep it where it is once inserted and continue with other sexual acts. However, some people love slowly moving it at different speeds, and it’s all personal preference.
If you are new to anal stimulation, why not try it and see? It might be the cherry on top.
How to Use Them Solo?
Butt plugs are very easy to use for solo play. Whether you wear it while in the shower or bath. Or try using it simultaneously with other sex toys like a dildo, vibrator, or your trusty cock ring. Due to how butt plugs are designed, you can wear them for hours at a time (AKA extended wear.)
So why not pop it in and go about your day teasing yourself while you try and get your work done? There are plenty of solo adventures you can have with your butt plug. For example, try temperature play or different shapes alone before being in a situation to try with a partner.
How To Use Them With A Partner
A butt plug is an incredible add-on in the bedroom with your partner. Due to its gender versatility, so much can be explored. This play could include some fun new positions you’ve seen in your favorite porn video, trying out temperature play, or getting hot and steamy in the shower.
Pro tip: For women having penetrative sex while a butt plug is inserted can result in a full tight feeling adding more eye-rolling pleasure to the mix, ultimately resulting in an incredible orgasm.
Due to the sensitivity of nerve endings in the anus for anyone with a prostate, pleasure sensors will be on high alert; this will then be tripled when pressure is put on the prostate. Having a putt plug inside you while simultaneously getting a blow job could be life-changing.
To top off the already full plate of possibilities for anal plugs for couple play, you can use it as a teasing method or secret public play when going out during the day or on a night out with your partner.
Aftercare and Maintenance
Aftercare is an essential part of butt play that you shouldn’t skip. Butt plugs and any anal play can be pretty intrusive.
Even though both partners may have enjoyed the experience and feel good afterward, it’s essential to check in on your partner and ask them questions about how they feel, if they are in any pain, and what could be done differently next time.
It’s also a great time to reassure them of any embarrassment they may be feeling from such intrusive play.
Cleaning
It is essential to wash your butt plug thoroughly after using it. Soapy warm water will always be sufficient, but there are also a lot of quality sex toy cleaners on the market from most brands. Depending on the material and design, some models can be boiled in water to ensure no bacteria or dirt is left behind.
Storage
Even though you will be washing it before you use it again, it is essential to store your butt plug well in a clean, dry space.
Your butt plug may have come with a fabric bag which is a perfect place for your anal toy to be kept safe and clean. If not, a ziplock bag or plastic tub will do the job just fine.
Are There any Risks with Butt Plugs?
As with all anal sex toys, if used wrong, there can be risks.
It is not advised to force size that’s too big for you; anal training takes time. Ignoring this could result in bleeding, scratching, anal tearing, or severe long-term damage.
There will also be a risk if you do not use ample amounts of lubrication.
Wrapping Up
There is endless pleasure when introducing butt plugs into your sex life. You can’t go wrong with something so simple that it can be used with or without a partner, at home, or on the go, and depending on the chosen model, possibly one of the cheaper toys you have.
So if you don’t already own at least one butt plug, you should consider it for your next toy purchase.
Thanks for reading my butt plug tips!
Rachel
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