I still remember the first time someone made me squirt. It felt like I had pee-ed myself, but it was also the most satisfying feeling I had ever experienced. Once the squirting floodgates were open, there was no going back. So imagine my joy when I discovered the Lovense Flexer, a clitoral and G-spot vibrator that emulates that “come-hither” fingering motion I love so much. But does it live up to the hype? Read on to find out!
The new Lovense Flexer delivered on its promises. I never thought I could orgasm so hard from being fingered by a sex toy. But I was even more impressed after I tried the app; the wide range of available options is fantastic. I also love how Flexer fits so well inside and never slips out. If you’re up for an adventure and want to explore discreet public play, I recommend you try Lovense Flexer.
Who Should Try It? Anyone who loves getting fingered until they squirt should try Lovense Flexer. It’s also great for discreet public play because it’s compact, relatively silent, and won’t fall out so easily.
Who Can Skip It? Some people don’t like insertable toys, so if you’re one of those, I suggest you buy a toy like Lovense Ferri. In addition, you’re likely to get your panties soaked often. So if you’re precious about lingerie, maybe Flexer is not for you!
You Can Buy It on the official Lovense website for $109.
What is the Lovense Flexer?
The Flexer is Lovense’s newest female pleasure toy, a super lightweight clitoral and G-spot vibrator designed to be wearable inside your panties. It emulates the “come-hither” motion towards the G-spot, which is one of the easiest ways to reach orgasm for many women (including myself). The toy also concentrates vibrations on your clit for double stimulation.
The fingering sex toy is also waterproof and has app functionality so your partner can control the toy anywhere in the world. Using the button on the Flexer, you can choose from seven different settings. But with the unique remote app, there are even more options to explore. With three vibrating motors inside, you can choose from three steady levels and up to ten different patterns of powerful vibrations to suit your needs. In addition, the Lovense app allows you or a partner to control the Lovense vibrator using your fingers, so get ready for a new world of possibilities!
First Impressions & Features
Unboxing
The Lovense Flexer arrived in very discreet packaging, and the size of the box made it look like it contained a card game rather than a panty destroyer. I can almost guarantee that my postman was none the wiser as he passed it to me casually.
The actual box containing the Lovense Flexer was a simple, no-fuss design, and it focused on the toy, giving me the impression the manufacturers were not messing around. Aside from the toy itself, the box contained a USB charging cable (magnetic charging), a user manual, and a black drawstring storage bag.
I love it when Lovense toys come with storage bags because soft silicone does tend to attract dust. I clean and store my toys well, so they are ready to go whenever I need them.
Three Motors
Lovense Flexer consists of three motors that independently power the G-spot vibrations, clitoral vibrations, and come-hither movements. This function allows the lucky user to decide how and where they want to be stimulated the most.
Wearable
Lovense has cleverly designed The Flexer as a wearable sex toy, sitting comfortably under any clothes. Your work meeting or morning coffee with the girls is about to heat up.
Come Hither Movement
The “come hither” fingering motion is now possible sans-partner, with Lovense Flexer moving in a way that will provide pressure and stimulation to the G-spot.
Waterproof
The Lovense Flexer is fully submersible, which is a must, considering it’s for inside play. For some women, G-spot stimulation will often lead to squirting, so rest assured that you can let yourself go confidently. Shower and bath play is also a fantastic option.
App Controlled
Lovense’s Remote App has been around for years, and many of the Lovense sex toys are controllable with this well-designed app. This app compatibility will allow you or anyone you desire to take control of your Flexer and, in turn, take control of your orgasms whenever they feel the urge. Take your pick from three steady levels and up to ten unique patterns of toe-curling vibrations.
Connecting the Flexer to the Lovense Remote App couldn’t be easier. Just turn the toy on and select “Add New Toy” in the app. Lovense Remote App has a bunch of excellent functions, including:
- Remote: The Flexer gets to show off the creative design of Lovense’s Remote App. The Remote function pairs with the toy and gives you two-finger control over how the sex toy reacts. This feature was fantastic for simulating the real-life come hither motion when the Lovense toy is inside – even if your partner is across the country. The Remote function has other standard features such as Loop, Float, and a traditional slider control.
- My Patterns: Become your orgasm director with the My Patterns function. This clever setting allows you to create unlimited vibration patterns that you can save for future enjoyment. Pulse, Wave, Fireworks, and Earthquake modes are all included, and you can adjust them to hit just the way you like, with dramatic build-ups, plateaus, and explosive finishing patterns.
- Music: Spotify has cut ties with many third-party apps using their music for fun (like syncing with sex toys). Unfortunately, the syncing music feature no longer works with the Lovense Remote App. Hopefully, we will see it come back in the future, allowing us to feel the bass in places you never thought possible.
Sound
The sound function will set off the Flexer depending on your desired dB level. Your partner may mention something sexy in a higher sensitivity setting, turning it into full vibration mode. In a lower setting, vibrations may not appear until your partner wants them to, perhaps with a loud clap – triggering the Flexer into action.
Lightweight
Weighing in at under 3.5 ounces, the Lovense Flexer is one of the lighter sex toys I have used. The company has done a great job of creating a powerful toy that isn’t cumbersome, especially if you plan to wear it around for an extended time.
Vibration Patterns
The Flexer allows you to customize your vibration intensity and patterns via the app, and the options are unlimited. The regular settings allow three steady levels and up to ten patterns.
Specifications
- Size: 3.3” x 4” x 1.3”
- Weight: 3.35oz
- Standby: up to 120 Hours
- Materials: Non-porous, Body-Safe Silicone
- Battery: Li-Ion Rechargeable
- Charging Time: 60 Minutes
- Use Time: up to 120 Minutes
- Waterproof: IPX7 Waterproof
- Warranty: 1 year against defects due to faulty workmanship or materials.
How to Use Lovense Flexer?
The Lovense Flexer is easy to use. Before you start using it:
- Charge it for 60 minutes.
- Wash it with some warm soapy water or toy cleaner.
- Rinse and pat dry.
- Apply a generous amount of water-based lubricant before insertion.
For Manual Operation
After gently inserting The Flexer, turn it on by holding the on/off button for three seconds. The panty toy will vibrate to indicate it is on. You can also turn the toy off by holding the button for 3 seconds. Then, tap the on/off button to move through the standard seven rumbly vibration settings.
Using Flexer with the App
The Lovense Remote is a well-designed app that works across most of the Lovense sex toy range.
Syncing my Flexer with the Lovense Remote took the toy to the next level by allowing separate controls for all three motors independently.
You can read more on how to use public play toys in this guide.
My Personal Experience
Introduction
When I first heard about the Lovense Flexer, I was very excited to try it because I had never heard of a toy that could emulate the movement of someone fingering me to orgasm while stimulating my clit at the same time. I have tried clit vibrators before, but nothing like this.
The toy promised many vibration options, including a Lovense app with Bluetooth connectivity. It expanded stimulation options, and this giant combo seemed too good to be true for someone like me who was already livin’ la vibra loca. But boy, was my cynical ass about to get schooled.
Packaging
Apart from standard discreet shipping and packaging, the Lovense Flexer comes in simple, no-fuss packaging. The manufacturers have their eyes on the prize, and there’s no need for fancy packaging when a product is this good.
Build Quality
I would say that the Flexer is well-designed. It looks good, feels good, and, most importantly, fits well. As it’s designed to be worn under your panties, my first concern was that it would add a bulge or slip out while I’m on the move, like other reviewers reported. But having tested it, I can safely assure you that neither of these scenarios will happen. The design is very discreet, and the fit was perfect.
My husband and I went to a dinner party together, and I was wearing my Flexer inside. At some point, while socializing, I even forgot that it was inside me. But it didn’t take long before I was pleasantly reminded of this fact by my husband sitting across the room. It was the perfect teasing for the raunchy night we had ahead!
Design
The Lovense Flexer is a small toy shaped like two human fingers dedicated to pleasing you. I am pretty small, but with some lube, the toy slid in easily and fit very well. Most insertable toys tend to fall out mid-play. But it stayed put the whole time, probably because of the bulbous head.
Materials
Lovense Flexer is made of super smooth silicone. It’s also easy to clean with warm soapy water, and I like to pat it dry after washing it with a kitchen towel. I also noticed this toy does not accumulate as much lint as other silicone toys I own.
Ease Of Use
The Flexer is easy to use, and I just charged it up for 60 minutes and then cleaned it with warm, soapy water. After patting it dry with some kitchen towel, I applied lube to the entire toy and slid it inside me. Once inside, I was amazed at how well it fit and didn’t slip out. It’s a great toy that made me feel confident getting off wherever I was.
Stimulations
There are seven different settings you can choose using the button on the Lovense Flexer. But with the unique remote app, you get a much more comprehensive range of options. Choose from three steady levels and up to ten different patterns of powerful vibrations to suit your needs. The Lovense app also allows you to control the movements of the vibrator with your fingers, so the possibilities are endless!
Sound Level
The Lovense Flexer is rated 57dB at the highest vibration level, meaning the toy is not whisper-quiet, so it may attract a little attention if you are in close quarters in a public space. When I measured it, it came out to about 55dB, which is “moderate to soft sounds. In fact, it is comparable to a quiet home environment, a residential street, or a normal conversation between two people.” according to this website. The noise was significantly drowned out once inserted, though, so it is more of a dull hum than anything too crazy.
If you want to see what Flexer looks like and how to use it, please watch our unboxing and demonstration video below:
Review Summary
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All in all, the Lovense Flexer delivered on its promises. I never thought that I would be able to climax so hard from being fingered by a toy. It did not disappoint, nor did it lose steam halfway (as some of my partners unfortunately have). This feature was already very impressive to me, but when I tried the app, I was even more impressed by the wide range of available options.
My partner travels a lot for work, but we can always stay connected with the app. He loves the ability to move the toy using his fingers from wherever he is, and this option has added a new dimension of pleasure to our relationship. Today, we are still experimenting with all the different settings in different locations. There are just so many possibilities.
I also love how the toy fits so well inside me and never slips out until I take it out. It gives me control over my pleasure, but at the same time helps me lose control! If you’re up for an adventure and want to explore new horizons, I recommend you try the Lovense Flexer.
Pros
- Lightweight and compact.
- Wearable vibrator for public play.
- App-controlled and perfect for long-distance play.
- Rumbly and powerful motor.
Cons
- A little pricey.
- It may not hit the G-spot for all women.
- It can be a little noisy, but it may not be an issue depending on where you are or which setting you choose.
Who is This For?
I recommend this toy to anyone who loves getting fingered until they squirt. It’s also great for those who like to play outside because it is so compact and well-designed that it will not fall out. I recommend it to couples who want to tease each other discreetly while in the company of other people. Finally, if you’re a cam model, the Lovense Flexer is excellent since it’s compatible with most camming sites. More on Lovense Chaturbate integration in this extensive guide.
Who is This Not For?
Some people don’t like toys inserted inside them, so if you’re one of those, I suggest you try a different toy. With this one, you’re likely to get your panties soaked often. So if you’re precious about lingerie, then maybe it won’t be for you. But I think a few pairs of panties are a small sacrifice for the high levels of pleasure you will experience with the Lovense Flexer!
Alternatives to The Lovense Flexer
In this chapter, you can see a comparison table and shorter reviews of alternative products we tested. As you can see, each row has the test criteria our team used during the testing. To make our testing process even more transparent, we also included the raw test data so you can see how the products performed with each test criteria.
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| Name | Flexer | Ferri | Lush 3 | VeDo Niki | Sexy Secret |
| Average Rating | 90% | 94% | 93% | 87% | 83% |
| Size | 96% | 96% | 88% | 88% | 88% |
| Sound Level | 95% | 95% | 90% | 90% | 90% |
| Design | 94% | 94% | 89% | 89% | 89% |
| Settings | 95% | 95% | 90% | 90% | 90% |
| Stimulations | 93% | 93% | 91% | 91% | 91% |
| Build Quality | 94% | 94% | 90% | 90% | 90% |
| Battery Life | 92% | 92% | 88% | 88% | 88% |
| Comfort | 91% | 91% | 87% | 87% | 87% |
| Ease of Use | 93% | 93% | 88% | 88% | 88% |
| Remote Range | 92% | 92% | 93% | 93% | 93% |
| Special Features | 94% | 94% | 92% | 92% | 92% |
| Price & Value | 95% | 90% | 87% | 97% | 96% |
| Price Tag | $199 | $109 – $119 | $229 | $55 | $59.95 |
| Material | Silicone & ABS | Silicone & ABS | Silicone & ABS | Silicone | Silicone |
| Length | 4 inches | 2.93 inches | 8.3 inches | N/A | N/A |
| Circumference | 1.4 inches | 3.32 inches | 4.71 inches | N/A | N/A |
Lovense Flexer vs. Ferri
Unlike the Flexer, the Lovense Ferri is designed to be placed on your panties. So it doesn’t go inside. But don’t worry, it still stays in place because it comes with a magnetic cap. You put the Ferri on your panties (like a panty liner), and then you attach the magnetic cap on the outside of your panties to hold the toy in place.
For those who are worried about losing the magnetic cap while you’re out dancing or being more active, Lovense has got you covered because the Ferri comes with a spare magnetic cap! It also comes with an app that allows for remote control and is excellent for those who prefer external stimulation. You can read more about Ferri here.
Lovense Flexer vs. Lush 3
The Lush 3 is another fantastic G-spot vibrator from Lovense. Stimulation-wise, the Lush 3 only uses one vibrating motor, whereas Flexer boasts three orgasm-inducing motors. Although many of the app controls and functions are similar between the two Lovense products, the Flexer wins here because it can control different movements and vibrations independently.
Lush 3 is a better option if you’re worried about the noise level, though, with a much quieter output of only 43 dB. Depending on the individual, you may find that one of these great toys will fit inside (and stay inside) better than the other. For me, the Flexer fit well, but I know it was not the case for other testers. You can read more about Lush 3 here.
VeDo Niki
Some people find apps annoying and don’t want to fiddle with their phones during sexual activity. That’s fair enough, and if you’re one of those people, I would recommend the VeDo Niki, which comes with a physical remote instead of an app. I also find that the vibrations on the Niki are deeper and rumblier compared to the Lovense Ferri, which can be buzzier.
The VeDo Niki is also secured to your panties with a magnet. I find that the magnet is not as strong as the Lovense Ferri, but the VeDo Niki’s shape helps it stay put. Of course, with this toy, your partner will only be able to control it if they’re in the room with you, and they’ll need to check your responses and have some mastery over the buttons to handle it well. Some might argue that that’s a more intimate way of going about it.
SexySecret
The SexySecret is an excellent deal for a wearable panty vibrator if you’re on a budget. Sold at $50 on average, it may be cheap, and the price may even put some people off, but the design and the app are pretty good for the price.
However, it is not as powerful as the Lovense Ferri or the Lovense Flexer. So it will probably not get you off hands-free as effectively. And if you want a panty vibrator for foreplay, to tease you into the mood, or if you’re not sure if you will even like a panty vibrator, then the SexySecret is worth trying out.
You can find many more vibrators in this guide.
How to Clean Lovense Flexer?
Thorough cleaning of any sex toy after each use is a must. The Flexer makes this job easy because of its smooth design and waterproof rating.
Clean the toy with warm water, mild soap, or any good sex toy cleaner. Rinse and dry thoroughly before placing it back into the storage bag provided. More on Lovense toy cleaning here.
Pro Tip: Use a kitchen towel to pat dry your toys – it’s easy and does not leave lint on silicone toys.
I am Sold! Where Can I Buy It?
I bought my Lovense Flexer directly from the Lovense online store. Their website is a pleasure to visit, with a massive range of toys to explore and all the information you need to select something that suits your sexual desires. Lovense also has a handy Compare feature to stack each up against the other.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
How to store the Lovense Flexer
Lovense provides a cute black storage bag that is perfect for keeping your Flexer dust-free while allowing a little breathability to prevent moisture build-up. You can also use the box to store the toy; seeing as they have made so much effort with the original packaging, I find it hard to throw it in the trash. More on vibrator storage here.
What lube to use?
When using any silicone-based sex toy, water-based lube is a must. Lovense doesn’t seem to have its lube product, but you will find plenty of good options online, at your local drug store, or at a sex shop.
Is Lovense Flexer waterproof?
The fingering vibrator is waterproof, so enjoy those orgasms as wet as you like. Lovense rates the toy as waterproof to an IPX7 rating, which means the toy can be submerged up to 1 meter in water for 30 minutes.
Thanks for reading my Lovense Flexer review!
Sandra
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