Inviting sex toys into the bedroom is a natural progression for couples looking to expand their sexual repertoire, infuse some of those irresistible ‘first-time vibes’ into a long-term relationship, and achieve the leg-shaking orgasms they’ve always dreamed of.
If you consider yourself a giver in the bedroom and want to share the pleasure of your favorite toy with your partner, couples vibrators are for you. In this guide, we’ll explain how to use a couples vibrator, why you need them, and offer tips on choosing the perfect model.
- Couples vibrators are sex toys designed to be worn by the female partner, but it provides buzzy and rumbly stimulation to both the clitoris and penis owners during penetrative sex. These toys usually come in a C-shape, with two vibrating arms and a bendable joint in the middle that allows for concurrent g-spot and clitoral stimulation.
- When choosing your model please pay attention to the type, material, design, budget, settings, and noise. Perhaps, the most important aspect is the type because couple vibrators have 4: clip vibrators, cock rings, remote-controlled, and app-controlled.
- One of the most essential is to make sure to read through your instruction manual. It’s also a good idea to use a lot of lube, use it solo first, and start with a familiar position when you bring your partner on board.
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What Is A Couples Vibrator?
Couples vibrators are sex toys designed to provide rumbly sensations to both the clitoris and penis-endowered partners simultaneously during penetrative partner play.
Most products are designed to be worn by female partners and they come in a C-shape, with two vibrating arms and a bendable joint in the middle that allows for concurrent G-spot and clitoral stimulation.
Penis owners don’t have to miss out on the fun, though. There are also cock rings that come complete with bunny ears to provide all the best feels for both him and her.
How Does A Couples Vibrator Work?
Couples vibrators come in a variety of different shapes and sizes, but most are designed to be worn inside the vagina, with one of its two arms being held in place by a clenching of the pelvic floor muscles (see image below). The other arm is then free to perfectly nestle between the labia, acting as a clitoral stimulator.
A key feature is an internal arm that is small enough to leave room for the penetrating partner. However, the sizes of internal vibrators vary to accommodate members of all sizes.
Who Are They For?
The design of most couples’ vibrators is best suited for heterosexual couples, though they can be used by same-sex partners engaging in penetrative sex too.
As with any style of sex toy, they can help infuse a new element of fun into your sex life or add a dose of extra stimulation for folks who struggle to reach climax.
What To Think About When Buying A Product
With so many options to choose from, the task of picking the right couples vibrator for your unique needs might feel daunting. To help make the experience of shopping for your new toy a positive one, we’ve put together the following in-depth list full of expert tips.
Types Of Couples Vibrators
First, and most importantly, is deciding which style of partner vibe is right for you and your significant other.
Clip Vibrators
If you’re looking for something that can deliver simultaneous pleasure for both him and her, clip vibrators are your best bet. This sex toy has a few advantages that both you and your partner will appreciate, starting with having a completely hands-free design, simply slip the two arms into place, and you’re off to the races!
More important, though, is the fact that they deliver internal and external vibrations, AKA dual stimulation, for the receiving partner, all while directing rumbly sensation along the entire shaft of the penetrating partner’s penis.
Models like the We-Vibe Sync 2 (image above) are the perfect addition to partnered sex and leave enough space for penetration, whether you prefer playing with your fingers, a dildo, performing oral sex, or a girthy cock.
Cock Rings
Another option for sex toys that pleasure both the receiving and penetrating partner is cock rings. Although any cock ring will work, we love products that also include bunny ears to target sensation to the labia and clitoris, like those found on the Ignite Cock Ring.
Other examples of cock rings are Lovense Diamo (for long-distance couples and public play) and Lovehoney Bed Ringer (double cock ring). If you want more options, you can check out the review we made for the best cock ring this 2023.
Remote-Controlled
Using a remote-controlled toy is another fun way to make your partner feel more included. Instead of just letting them watch, your significant other can control your pleasure, deciding on things like the speed and intensity of your toy’s rumbling. Click here for a comprehensive list of the best remote-controlled vibrators.
App-Controlled
If you cannot deliver sexual pleasure to your playmate firsthand, app-controlled vibrators can be a useful stand-in. Certain products, like those controlled by the we-vibe app, can be used from the other side of the world.
They’re also ideal for couples who enjoy public play, as adjusting the settings from your phone is more inconspicuous than having a remote in hand at your favorite restaurant.
Material
When it comes to vibrating sex toys, high-quality silicone definitely reigns supreme. Not only is silicone non-porous and hypo-allergenic – making it a perfect option for our more sensitive bits, but it’s also flexible and soft to the touch.
Design
Though most clip-on vibrators (the most popular style of sex toys for couples) are created with a C-shaped design, with two arms and a super flexible hinge in their center, certain features set each model apart.
Dame Eva, for example (image above), is a super tiny toy that focuses most of its energy on clitoral stimulation, with tiny internal arms that leave tons of space for our well-endowered users.
Hands-free vibrators like the Lovense Dolce (image above) will be a better choice for women with tighter pelvic floor muscles, or those who enjoy an extra girthy stretch.
It’s also worth mentioning that basically, any vibrator can be a couple’s vibe when paired with a remote control. This means that lovers of anal sex can have a lot of fun with devices like the Lovense Hush 2 (image above), an app-controlled butt plug that’s sure to hit all of the right spots.
Budget
The price tag can vary greatly depending on the style you prefer, with a simple vibrating cock ring like the Lovehoney Ignite being a more budget-friendly choice than a remote-controlled clip-on vibe with all the settings and vibration patterns.
Many of what I consider the best products are on the pricier side, with price tags upwards of $150. That being said, they are built to last and offer so many features you’re guaranteed to never get bored.
Settings
You can find something with just about every feature you can imagine. From remotes that vibrate in response to your sex toy’s rumbles to devices that vibe along to your favorite songs, there’s something for everyone.
Investing in a product with a variety of settings will definitely give you and your partner lots to explore, and certain features, like the user face offered through the We-Connect App, can no doubt enhance your user experience.
The truth is, though, that there is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to settings. You may find that the only feature you really need is extra strong vibrations, like those delivered by the We-Vibe Chorus, which also offers a music sync feature.
Sound Level
When using a sex toy in real life, its noise level can have a surprising impact on your experience and, for our more sensitive users, even affect their ability to reach orgasm.
Whether you’re easily distracted, sensitive to sound, or trying to play inconspicuously in a house full of roommates, finding a toy that’s on the quiet side could be a good idea – but, of course, will depend on your personal preference.
Read Reviews
Looking for something extra whisper quiet? Can’t figure out if the internal arm of your dream toy is the right size for you? Often, the best place to find answers to all of your questions is in reviews from other buyers.
There, you can find unbiased information that will help guide your decision and help ensure that the toy you’re considering purchasing is worth the investment.
If, for whatever reason, you’re unable to find reviews listed on the website of your toy’s distributor, you can also try browsing Amazon, or YouTube, or do a simple Google search to see if you can find any additional information. You can find some of the best couples vibrators we ranked by clicking here.
How To Use A Couples Vibrator?
- Before getting busy with your partner, make sure to read through the instructions and safety manual. Doing so can not only help you use your toy safely but also ensure that you don’t accidentally pass over any of its mouthwatering settings.
- To avoid an anti-climatic finish, ensure that the batteries on both your toy and its remote are fully charged and ready to rumble.
- There’s no harm in giving your toy a solo test run before using it with your person. This is a time when you can run through its various settings, change the detachable head, and figure out the easiest way to insert it.
- Introducing toys into the bedroom is supposed to be fun! To help make your experience with your partner as enjoyable as possible, address possible feelings of sexual inadequacy and discuss how you feel comfortable using your new gadget so you’re free to have worry-free fun!
- Don’t get distracted by dirty laundry! Take time to clean your space, light candles, and put on your favorite playlist before getting down and dirty. Setting up your space to feel comfy and inviting is as important as foreplay and can really set the tone for your time together.
- Just because it’s new doesn’t mean it’s clean. Make sure to give your vibrator a thorough rinse before putting it on your more sensitive areas.
- You’ve taken the time to create an inviting space, the next step is engaging in foreplay to enhance your connection with your partner and get yourselves warmed up. You might choose to indulge in mutual masturbation, tease each other’s nipples and other erogenous zones, or pleasure each other with your mouths or fingers. The possibilities are endless!
- Don’t be afraid to use a generous amount of lube on both your bits and both ends of your toy to maximize pleasure and limit possible injury. Water-based is the best choice for silicone products as it’s easy to clean and can help prevent deterioration over time.
- Once your toy is prepped with a little lube and you’ve indulged in some steamy foreplay, it’s time to let the fun begin! Start with a position you’re familiar with and one in which gravity is on your side to avoid any slippage. Classic missionary is always a safe bet!
- Starting to feel more comfortable with your new toy? It might be time to bring your partner play to the next level! Now’s the time for you to invite your extended repertoire of sex positions into the mix.
- Investing in a first-time vibe that’s too large is a common issue for couples experimenting with any sort of insertable vibrator. Wide arms are a poor match for penetrating partners with massive cocks or receiving partners with tightly spaced pelvic floor muscles.
Pinching and other uncomfortable sensations are a sure sign that you should take a break and resume the fun another time, either with a new toy or extra lube!
Aftercare and Maintenance
Proper aftercare is what will keep your new sex toy in optimal condition so you can keep using it for years to come! And luckily, this next stop isn’t complicated. Caring for your couples vibe is as simple as:
- Use mild soap and warm water to wash it directly after use. Check the box to ensure it’s 100% waterproof before fully submerging it.
- A bin full of all your favorite toys might be pleasing to the eye, but it’s a recipe for bacterial infections! When storing it away, place each in its own box or storage bag. [1]
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