Curious to try anal for the first time? Or perhaps it’s a sexual endeavor you want to cross off your list with your partner? Whatever it may be, it’s a sign to use an anal vibrator in your sex life. It’s pleasurable, intense, and downright exciting.
If you don’t know where to start, this article is your all-in-one guide on how to use an anal vibrator solo and with a partner.
Table Of Contents
- Anal vibrators are used primarily for stimulating your anus’ nerve endings. They are small, compact vibrators that are generally not bigger than 4 to 6 inches in length, making them safer options for anal play.
- When you buy anal vibrators, pay attention to the type, material, settings, size, and sound level.
- If you’re new to butt play, starting slow and using a lot of lube (but no numbing products) is essential. You should also practice good hygiene and immediately stop if you feel pain or discomfort.
What Is An Anal Vibrator?
As the name suggests, anal vibrators are used primarily for stimulating your anus’ nerve endings. They are small, mini vibrators that are generally not bigger than 4 to 6 inches in length, making them safer options for anal play.
The most common anal vibrators have a flared base, a safety feature. This way, you won’t have to worry about it getting stuck in your anus.
Compared to other anal sex toys like butt plugs or anal beads, an anal vibrator is the best option for most people because of the vibrating sensation unique to the anal sex toy.
How Does An Anal Vibrator Work?
Anal vibrators focus on anal stimulation. It releases a rumbling vibration that leaves you feeling fullness which most people find pleasurable.
There are different vibrating speeds and patterns to choose from, giving you the right amount of intense stimulation. As you slowly insert it into your anus, it mimics the feeling of penetration.
For men, there is sexual pleasure in anal stimulation because it hits their p spot; for women, it hits the anus’ nerve endings.
Your anus has sensitive nerve endings, which are often unexplored. And like other nerve endings in our body, stimulating them can bring incredible orgasms.
Who Are They For?
- If you are someone who wants to explore solo anal masturbation for the first time and at your own pace, anal vibrators are an excellent anal toy to use. It’s a beginner-friendly sex toy used for backdoor pleasure.
- Another reason is to increase the pleasure level in anal play. Anal vibrators are your best bet in adding an oomph of pleasure in the nether region.
- Additionally, it is also a popular sex toy enjoyed by all genders. Regardless of your sexual orientation, anal vibrators are sensational for everyone. Men experience pleasure in their prostate, while women experience delightful pleasure in the anus’ nerve endings.
- Lastly, they are a safe way to have fun with anal pleasure with a lower risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Just be sure to have a good aftercare routine. More on that later.
What To Think About When Buying A Product
With many options for you to choose from, purchasing an anal can be overwhelming. Not to worry, we’ve got you covered with eight essential features to look out for when buying your first model.
Make sure you know the features you want and don’t want before deciding.
Material
You should buy anal sex toys made from non-porous materials, including body-safe or medical-grade silicone, ABS plastic, or stainless steel.
They are body-safe, and at the same time, they are easy to clean after use. Plus, it’s the best material to prevent bacteria buildup or germs from sticking. Never buy non-porous products like jelly and TPE. They are difficult to clean and may harbor harmful bacteria.
One silicone anal vibrator that we are especially fond of is Lovense Hush 2. It’s body-safe, latex-free, and suitable for beginners. You can read our Lovense Hush 2 review here.
Safety
Regarding safety, ensure your anal vibrator has a distinctive, flared base or bottom, preventing it from getting stuck or lost in your rectum.
In addition, look closely at the design, ensuring it’s as seamless as possible. There should be no pointy edges or rough edges as it can cause a tear in the anus’ tissues.
It goes without saying; make sure the model is designed for anal use. Avoid all vibrators not designed for anal play.
If you need help choosing a safe product, all products in our anal vibrator guide have a safe design.
Settings
Like most sex toys, anal vibrators have varying speeds and patterns for you to choose from. Most have at least three speeds and approximately 5-10 vibrating patterns, depending on the model.
Most anal sex toys are operated with the switch of a button, usually located on the base. Some even have a smartphone app or remote control for easier control.
The most feature-rich models are from Lovehoney, and we love both Hush 2 and Lovense Edge 2 (review here.)
Size
The size will depend on your experience level. In general, we recommend beginners to start with a width of 2 inches and smaller, intermediates: 2.5 inches, and experienced can go 3 inches and above.
The b-Vibe rimming plug is an excellent beginner product because it’s a smaller anal vibrator with a tapered tip; you can read our review here.
Design
A typical anal vibrator is round, cone-shaped, and smooth in design. You may find textured or curvy ones that look similar to anal beads to work your way up to slowly.
Other anal sex toys have a bonus of a two-in-one feature for clitoral stimulation. For men, you can find anal toys specifically designed to contour the prostate gland (like Hot Octopuss PleX with flex), known as prostate vibrators.
Power Source
Your device’s power source can either be battery-operated or rechargeable.
Battery-operated models may have a remote control that’s flexible for you to use. When switching vibrating speeds, a remote control comes in handy. Meanwhile, other anal sex toys are USB-rechargeable and can be used for hours after a full charge.
Sound Level
These compact sex toys are usually silent, although some models are louder than others. Look for whisper-quiet vibrators for discreet anal play. Check product descriptions and customer reviews to learn how discreet they are.
Budget
The price ranges from low-end to high-end vibrators. You can find terrific deals and affordable options in the market. How much you are willing to spend on your anal plug is entirely up to your budget.
How To Use An Anal Vibrator For Solo Play?
When you have your anal vibrator on hand, the next step is to start having fun with it. I recommend solo play first to learn what your body enjoys and responds to.
1. Wash it first
Firstly, before you use an anal vibrator, you need to clean it. Wash it with lukewarm water and a bar of mild soap. As most anal vibes are waterproof, you can run them under a faucet.
But please avoid soaking the electronic part in water, whether it’s the battery compartment or the charging port.
2. Empty bowel
Go to the bathroom to empty your bowels at least 30 minutes to an hour before anal play. Wash your anal area with a bidet and mild antibacterial soap. If you don’t have a bidet, you can do this in the shower with running water instead.
You can read more about anal play preparations here.
3. Clean your bum
Cleaning your bum means cleaning your anal area, as suggested in the point above. A quick clean should be good enough. While douching is an option, it’s not really necessary.
Douching is a cleaning method of rinsing the inside of your anus (rectum) with a douche or an enema. People choose to do it mainly for peace of mind and to eliminate the ick factor.
4. Make sure it’s fully charged
For anal vibes that are rechargeable, fully charge your device to get the most enjoyment from your sex toy.
Plug it into your power source and leave it for 30 minutes to 2 hours for a full charge. Read the instruction manual on how long a full charge is for your specific anal vibrator.
Related: How to Charge An Anal Vibrator? TIPS From A Sex Toy Tester!
5. Learn how the controls work
Remote-controlled anal sex toys usually have two buttons to increase and decrease vibrations and speed. Before inserting it, learn to use your anal vibrator by pressing the on switch for a few seconds. Play around with the buttons to know how they work so you can focus on the pleasure of using them.
For single-buttoned devices, press the same button to change the controls and get familiar with the patterns or speeds you’re working with.
6. Try it on other body parts first
Test the intensity before anything. Try it on your arm, stomach, or other erogenous zones on your body (nipples, inner thighs, etc.) Doing so helps you feel comfortable with the pleasurable sensations from your toy.
7. Find a comfortable place and create a good mood
Where is the space you find most comfort in? Is it your bedroom? Living room? Or a hotel room?
Set the mood by spritzing your favorite scent, getting the bed or couch made up, and fluffing your pillows. Allowing your body to feel relaxed, especially for butt action, helps prepare it for anal penetration.
8. Add lubricant (but no numbing lubricant!)
Add a generous amount of your favorite water-based lube to your vibrator. Do not skip this step, as the anus area does not lubricate naturally.
Please remember not to use numbing cream of any sort. It desensitizes your nerve endings, which could cause injuries since you won’t feel any pain.
9. Warm-up using a finger
It’s best to warm up your anus and get yourself aroused slowly. You can do it by using the tip of your finger, letting your body adjust to the penetrating sensations.
10. Start slow
Now, here’s how to use an anal vibrator! Just remember there’s no need to rush this.
You can start by slowly inserting the tip of your lubed-up toy into your sphincter muscles. Gently remove it and insert it again, only slightly deeper this time. Repeat this until you have your anal vibrator right where you want it to be. Maintain the vibrating speed and pattern most comfortable for you.
11. Relax & breathe
Try to remain relaxed and take deep breaths. Breathing naturally helps unclench any tight muscles in your butt, allowing you to feel every wave of sensation in your body much better.
12. Try different speeds and patterns
Once you’re feeling good about where you’re at, experiment with different vibrating patterns by switching the button on your remote control or device’s button.
Increase the level when you are ready to take it up a notch. A more powerful vibrating pattern will help you reach a toe-curling orgasm.
13. Try different positions
Like sex, you’re not limited to doing it in doggy style or your go-to position. Try other sensual positions like kneeling on the bed with your knees spread open, lying doggy with your hand reaching out, or spooning (on your side). You can find many more anal masturbation positions here.
14. Combine it with a vagina toy
Remember, you cannot double-dip your anal vibrator and use it for your vagina. But you are welcome to introduce a second vibrator to the mix and amp up the pleasure.
Give some love to your vagina by considering an egg vibrator, a clit sucker, or a dildo for extra stimulation. Just be sure to lube it up!
15. Pause or stop if you feel uncomfortable
Always remember you can stop whenever you feel uncomfortable. There’s no shame in taking it slow and at your own pace. Listen to your body and revisit backdoor play whenever you are ready.
After all, there’s nothing more uncomfortable and painful than to force a sexual activity when you are not ready.
16. Use it in the shower (if waterproof)
The good news is that most backdoor vibrating toys are waterproof. Bring it into the shower for a steamy session. Run your body under hot water and make a pleasurable “me time” night out of it.
Are you looking for even more information about anal masturbation? No sweat! We have an extensive guide for that.
How To Use Them With A Partner?
When you’re ready to take the next step, you and your partner can have fun together with the use of an anal vibrator. Here are all the ways you can use a sex toy in the bedroom.
Consent
Consent is sexy and one of the most important things when exploring new sexual activities in any relationship. You both must be comfortable with the idea and on the same page before proceeding with anus stimulation.
Bring up the topic while conversing with your partner and gauge their response. Ask them if they are open to exploring anal intercourse, but don’t pressure them. When you receive a clear yes answer, it’s go time.
Foreplay
Butt stuff will introduce more excitement into your foreplay. Give your partner a massage, add lubricant to their genitals, and introduce your sex toys to get them aroused.
Communication is vital when you have anus stimulation for the first time. Make sure your partner is enjoying it every step of the way.
Double Penetration
Double penetration is a pleasure-packed way of having sex with your partner. It can lead to orgasms like never before. To properly achieve double insertion, you can penetrate her vagina while the vibrator penetrates her anal canal.
Try it in the classic missionary or cowboy position to hit her G-spot.
Pegging
Pegging is a sexual practice wherein the roles are reversed, meaning the female partner uses a strap-on vibrator and penetrates the male partner’s anus. Most men consider pegging a pleasurable practice because their partner leads and stimulates their P-spot.
There’s no right or wrong way to perform pegging, as you can do it in the same comfortable positions while having sex. Find your favorite sex position, only reverse the roles.
Aftercare and Maintenance
Here are two simple tips for a proper aftercare routine. You don’t need a whole list of things to do, but two holy grail steps to properly care for your vibrator.
Properly Was It
After a satisfying night, you want to keep your toy hygienic and squeaky clean. Wash the sex toys after every use so you are ready to use them anytime you want.
Use lukewarm water and mild antibacterial soap to clean your vibrator. Scrub it with your hands for at least 30 seconds before rinsing. If you have a toy cleaner specifically used for sex toys, you may also use that. Pat dry with a clean towel (preferably a lint-free one), and it’s good to go.
Properly Store It
If your toy comes with a silk bag or a pouch, you can keep it secure inside. That way, it stays away from dust and prevents bacteria from building up. Keep it in your closet or any cool, dry place when not in use, which helps keep your vibrator in mint condition for long-term use. You can read more about storing adult products here.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
What lube should I use with an anal vibrator?
Water-based lube is the safest option as they are generally suited to most materials. Just clean it off after to keep your toy in excellent condition.
Are anal vibrators safe?
Yes, anal vibrators are safe to use. Look for body-safe materials and a flared base design to easily remove it from your anus.
How to insert anal toys?
It’s a slow yet sensual process to insert anal toys. Clean your butt area, relax, perform foreplay to get aroused, and add lube (a lot) before slowly inserting your anal toys.
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