10 Best Strapons For Lesbians In 2024, REALLY Tested! [Video]

The right strap-on can spice up your sex life in an instant, transitioning bland vanilla sex into a series of steamy, to-die-for sexacapades. The kind that makes you drool, reminiscing on the explosive moments and looking forward to more quality time together. Does that sound like something you’d like to partake in? Then you should follow along because here we are talking lesbian strap-ons!

Of the dozens we have tested since 2016, Lovehoney Unisex Advanced is the highest-rated, no doubt about it. The versatile kit has an adjustable harness, a 7″ silicone dildo, and three interchangeable O-rings to experiment with other dildos in your collection, something that most other models don’t offer. The combo only costs $44.99, a relatively affordable price compared to other models. Our testers also thought it was the easiest model to use, including switching between dildos with the easy clasp O-ring locking mechanism.

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Why You Should Trust Us

Besides being our head Sexologist here at My Sex Toy Guide, Rachel Sommer has tested sex toys professionally since 2016. She has helped hundreds of couples identify and address sexual gaps, mainly recommending sex toys, including lesbian strap-ons, to foster closeness through mutual pleasures.

The wealth of knowledge and experience meant Rachel was the most qualified person for this article. She also engaged other sex experts, which for this article were Sandra Larson and Shane Davis, so the team had a combined testing experience of over 200+ sex toy reviews. The team examined various factors that constitute fulfilling lesbian sex before picking the review samples.

Rachel loves to hear feedback about her articles and product picks. You can reach her at [email protected] or call her at +1 307-372-3895. She typically responds in 1-2 business days.

 

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How We Picked the Products

Rachel researched deeply for this article before using responses from a questionnaire shared among the sex expert team to pick the best strap-ons for lesbians. She also defined 9 test criteria that we could measure on a scale from 0 to 100:

• Design. There’s a relationship between the design and the user experience. Whether strapped or not, both partners must be comfortable, and the experience must be rewarding. We prioritized harness and dildo builds that enhance the experience without jeopardizing the users’ well-being. The type was also essential, and we included full-on kits, harnesses, and dildo strap-ons to ensure everyone had something to pick from.
• Firmness. Like other dildos, strap-on dildos feature density differences. For instance, experienced folks might prefer firm models, while beginners and those with sensitive G-spots will pick a squishy dildo.
• Harness Type. Different harness styles are available, including brief, thong, and jockstrap. The ideal model depends on personal preference, and there’s no specific rule on which one to go for.
• Build Quality. Like we’ve done with other sex toys this year, we only reviewed silicone-made dildos. In addition, we tested the harnesses rigorously to give the user the most comprehensive information on what to expect from the lesbian strap-on.
• Comfort. The wearer and receiving partner’s comfort were essential facets of the experience. We prioritized tapered dildos and padded harnesses to simplify penetration and ensure the experience was as fulfilling regardless of the longevity.
• Special Features. Some highlighted features include reinforced O-rings, vibrating motors, intuitive user interfaces, and remote control.
• Settings. Unbeknownst to many, the number of vibration patterns enhances the experience. The more intensity settings, the easier it is to customize the rumbles to meet your sexual needs and desires. In addition, more intensity settings make a strap-on dildo ideal for beginner and experienced users.
• Versatility. The team also prioritized models with stretch, reinforced O-rings. Models with multiple O-rings were special as they allowed for creativity and incorporated different dildos for lesbian penetrative sex.
• Price & Value. Ultimately, your budget will determine what you buy. For this reason, we reviewed multiple lesbian strap-ons to ensure there were various options for everyone, regardless of their budget.

During testing, we rated each test criterion on a percentage scale from 0% (Worst) to 100% (Best). We then calculated the overall score using different weighted metrics depending on the importance of the test criteria. Half the total rating comes from Design (25%) and Build Quality (25%). After that comes Versatility (10%), Comfort (10%), and Price & Value (5%).

After the testing, I used charts to study and summarize the reports. I also called upon other sex experts to help review the user reviews. And with the multi-faceted collaboration, these are this year’s best lesbian strap-ons.

 

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Everything We Tested

In this chapter, you can see a comparison table with all the products we tested. As you can see, each row has the test criteria our team used during the testing. To make our testing process even more transparent, we also included the raw test data so you can see how the products performed with each test criteria.

 

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1. Lovehoney Unisex Advanced: Our Test Winner!

Why we love Lovehoney Unisex Advanced:

Picking the most effective strapon for lesbians is not an easy task since there are so many factors to consider. Plus the market is crowded with a mix of quality and subpar products, making the team’s job even more challenging. That said, we are extremely confident that the Lovehoney Unisex Advanced is this year’s best product overall. The testers rated the kit as both “Excellent” and “Exemplarily Easy To Use”, two significant must-have features for this kind of product. If you also factor in that this quality model was the easiest to use and only cost $44.99, it’s no surprise we picked it as our overall test winner.

Let’s first address the most important factor: how to adjust the harness straps. Our tester Rachel Sommer summarized her experience like this: “Adjusting the harness (image below) to get a custom fit was easy. Another practical design choice was that the straps go over both the thighs and waist, making Lovehoney Advanced stable and perfect for dildo-in-vagina penetration.”

All team members felt the harness felt comfortable on the skin. While the straps are firm, and you might need to wear underwear if you’re using it for extended sessions, the nylon straps are reasonably comfortable. In addition to the comfort level, the dildo was the most stable with Lovehoney Unisex Advanced, more than all the other products we reviewed.

The silicone O-rings, seen below, felt sturdy once we snapped them in, and switching between the three sizes was quick. With three rings, you can use the harness with multiple dildos – from the tiniest to the dragon dildo. All this made us rate it the highest in the versatility test category.

Something else that stood out was the included 7″ dildo. “Its semi-realistic design has a lifelike head and smooth, curved shaft. While it might not be the thickest, the angled build simplifies G-spot stimulation”, our tester Sandra Larson wrote in her test report.

The dildo’s 6″ insertable length and 4.75″ girth make it an all-rounder. Most users will find it fulfilling unless you’re part of the more experienced folks. Even then, the three silicone O-rings let you get creative with much more enormous dildos. (Circled in the image above.)

Let’s wrap up the review by talking about the vibration function. Lovehoney Unisex Advanced has a tiny pocket on the inner layer of the harness for a vibrating bullet. The designers used a light fabric for the pouch, allowing the rumbles to seep through to the clitoral hood unopposed. Great design overall!

Minor issues we found during testing:

Like other models, you can only use dildos with a flared base with Lovehoney Unisex Advanced. Most of the dildos in my collection don’t have a flat bottom, and I missed out on some exciting names I wanted to experiment with.

In addition, the nylon straps felt stiff and can cause chafing if you use the harness for extended sessions without underwear.

Why Lovehoney Unisex Advanced is the best lesbian strapon:

• Design. Lovehoney Unisex Advanced’s harness was the easiest to use among the products we tested. Everything from the adjustable straps to the ease of switching between the interchangeable O-rings was well thought out. With a 7″ dildo with a tapered head and curved shaft, penetration was straightforward. In addition, my colleagues found it easy to target the G-spot with the angled design.
• Versatility. The kit came with three O-rings, allowing you to switch between different dildos in your sex toy collection. With the easy clasp O-ring locking mechanism, Lovehoney Unisex Advanced’s user experience was better than other models we tested.

If you want to see what Lovehoney Advanced Unisex looks like and how to use it, please watch our unboxing and demonstration video below:

You can read our complete Lovehoney Advanced Unisex Strap-On review here.

Features:

• Material: Silicone, Neoprene, Nylon
• Circumference: 4.75″
• Insertable Length: 6″
• Dimensions: 28″ – 65″

Pros:

• The adjustable harness is easy to use.
• Curved dildo renders G-spot stimulation straightforward.
• Multiple O-rings make the strap-on versatile.
• A pouch at the back of the harness lets you add vibration capabilities.
• Machine washable harness.

Cons:

• You’re limited to dildos with a flared base.
• The nylon straps can cause chafing when used for extended periods.

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2. Desire Luxury: Strapless Model!

Why we love Desire Luxury Strapless:

Desire Luxury Strapless’ fascinating design (seen in the image above) makes it our recommended model for the more experienced lesbians seeking 100% hands-free penetrative sex. The dual-stimulation design with a sleek, long shaft for the receiving partner and a chubby pony for the wearer vibrates in sync stimulating the couple’s G-spots simultaneously.

Let’s address the design first, where the team thought the external shaft’s tapered design significantly simplified penetration, while the bulbous body elevates the pleasures of internal stimulation. “With a slight curve towards the tip, hitting the G-spot is cake”, Rachel Sommer commented.

Please be aware that using a strapless model is more difficult than a harness one, and it takes lots of practice and Kegel exercising to get a rhythm going, but luckily, Desire Luxury was the easiest to use among the strapless models we reviewed. The posable neck lets you adjust the penetration angle up to 180˚, making it comfortable for the wearer regardless of the size or shape. You can check out our guide on how to use a strapless strap-on if you want to learn more.

So how were the vibrations? Well, the team reported that the 8 patterns and 12-speed intensities offered excellent vibration combinations. “The rumbles were trackable as I could articulate the progress from one pattern to another”, Rachel Sommer wrote in her report. “In addition, the motor is implosive, and the vibrations are impactful, even at the lowest intensity range”, she added. That sounds pretty good to me!

Desire Luxury also came with a wireless remote control. The silicone-covered controller felt great on the palm and has an intuitive 3-button interface that significantly improves the user experience. It also enhances lesbian sex, allowing you to continually thrust and regulate the rumbles simultaneously without halting the momentum.

Because of the strapless design, the double-ended dildo draws partners closer, making the session more intimate. Especially with the posable neck that adjusts up to 180˚(see image below), you can pull your partner as close as functionally possible.

Pro Tip: Our tester Angela Kempf recommended gravity-friendly sex positions like spooning or woman-on-top to keep the dual pleasure strap-on in place. She also discovered that using the toy with my legs crossed retained the insertable pony better. Still, it takes lots of patience and Kegel exercises to tone your pelvic muscles to get it right.

Minor issues we found during testing:

Unfortunately, the inner and outer arms vibrate simultaneously, and you can’t regulate the rumbles separately. You must agree with your partner on what intensity setting to use and always check with them when you crank up the volume. You can find more information in our double-sided strap-on review.

Like other strapless models, Desire Luxury is better suited for more experienced consumers. Still, you must exercise the pelvic muscles repeatedly to get to where you can effortlessly clench it hands-free.

Desire Luxury is also expensive, and the $199 price will push most people after hands-free lesbian penetrative sex away.

Why Desire Luxury is the best strapless model:

The silicone build, double-ended design, posable pony, remote control, and vibration abilities make Desire Luxury the best strapless strapon for lesbians. Let’s look at the raw test data to see how it performed:

• Design: The double head build with an adjustable neck that adjusts up to 180˚ makes Desire Luxury unique. The flexibility combined with other special features like the bulbous body and curved shaft enhances G-spot stimulation.
• Special Features: The wireless remote control enhances the user experience (96% average score). Besides making it easy to regulate the intensity levels, the controller lets you hand over power to your partner for completely hands-free penetrative sex.
• Settings: The dual-stimulation dildo intensity levels (8 vibration modes and 12 intensity levels) are likely sufficient for the majority of customers. Plus, with wireless remote control, cycling through the patterns is easy.

If you want to see what Desire Luxury looks like and how to use it, please watch our unboxing and demonstration video below:

Here’s the full Lovehoney Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On review for more details.

Features:

• Material: Silicone & ABS Plastic
• Girth: 4.75″ (pony), 4.25″ (shaft)
• Insertable Length: 4.5″ (pony), 5″ (shaft)

Pros:

• Multiple vibration patterns and intensity levels.
• A posable neck enhances the user experience.
• The bulbous and angled body makes internal stimulation thrilling.
• Wireless remote controller.
• It’s 100% waterproof.

Cons:

• A rechargeable remote control would’ve been better.
• Strapless products are reserved for the most experienced (Kegel exercises) users.

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3. Lovehoney Beginner’s Kit: Our Budget Pick!

Why we love Lovehoney Beginner’s Kit:

Looking for something more affordable and beginner-friendly? Then you should be pleased with our next entry, the Beginner’s Kit from Lovehoney, which was rated as the best value among all the models on this list. It only costs $44.99 which we believe is a reasonably low price for such a high-quality kit. While it costs the same as Unisex Advanced, its smaller dimensions (4.5″ usable length and 3″ circumference) make it a better fit for newbies.

Something that stood out during the review was the versatility. “The Beginner’s Kit has three O-rings (image below) to use with your favorite dildo. Whether you want to go up or down the scale, the silicone rings make it easy to switch between multiple dildos”, our tester Shane Davis chimed in.

The team thought the harness’ nylon material might not be the most comfortable, but it felt sturdy enough and would last long with the proper care. The adjustable straps have a maximum waist size of 68″, which offers a sufficient allowance for different body shapes and sizes.

We noted that switching between the O-rings was straightforward. Unsnapping and snapping the clips back was extremely easy, and you won’t need a manual for this one. We love easy-to-use devices!

The harness has a tiny pocket (see the above image) on the crotch area for the bullet vibrator. Like the Advanced Unisex Advanced strap-on, the pouch’s lining has light fabric, so the vibrations can seep through easily and unopposed.

Overall, we felt that the Lovehoney Beginner kit has an impeccable balance. On the one hand, it’s easy to use, while on the other, it’s the most affordable model we reviewed. With a well-designed dildo, multiple O-rings, and a bullet vibe pouch, the lesbian strap-on is perfect for the job.

Minor issues we found during testing:

The greatest pitfall was the dildo’s stability. The included dildo could be more stable. Even when I used the smaller-sized O-rings, the dildo flopped around, and I had to use my hand to force penetration. Luckily, the other dildos in my sex toy collection held firmly, and I didn’t have to use the included dong.

In addition, the PVC straps are firm, and you might have to wear something underneath if you intend to use the harness for extended sessions. The straps feel uncomfortable on bare skin, especially when you tighten them up.

Why Lovehoney Beginner’s Kit is our budget pick:

• Price & Value. The Beginner Kit from Lovehoney is affordable and inclusive for most lesbian couples. With three O-rings, the versatile kit lets you explore as far as your imagination can take you.
• Ease of Use. Among the budget-friendly models we reviewed, Lovehoney Beginner’s Kit was the easiest to use. Everything from adjusting the straps for a custom fit to switching the O-rings was straightforward.

If you want to see what Lovehoney Beginner’s Kit looks like and how to use it, please watch our unboxing and demonstration video below:

Here’s the full Lovehoney Beginner’s Unisex Strap-On review for more details.

Features:

• Material: Silicone, Nylon, PVC
• Circumference: 3″
• Insertable Length: 4.5″
• Harness size: 18″ – 68″

Pros:

• Comparatively affordable – $44.99.
• Interchangeable rings enhance versatility.
• A curved shaft simplifies G-spot stimulation.
• The adjustable harness stretches up to 86″.
• Easy to use and clean.

Cons:

• The included silicone dildo wiggles during use.
• The straps might be uncomfortable after extended use.

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4. Lovense Lapis: App-Controlled Model!

Why we love Lovense Lapis:

The next entry is something for our camgirls or long-distance couples: Lovense Lapis. Lapis is compatible with the Lovense Remote app which is a great choice for those who want more customization options during their sessions. Besides being the most straightforward sex toy mobile application, the Lovense Remote’s versatility lets lesbians in close-range and long-distance relationships enjoy multiple fun motions.

Among the sex toy apps we tested, integration was the easiest with the Lovense Remote app. The testers highlighted how the user-friendly interface and innovative technology made it easy to connect to the lesbian dildo. “Pairing the sex toy with the app was bliss. I’ve used more than four different applications over the years, and none was as easy to integrate as Lovense’ Remote”, our tester Sandra Larson told me.

The lesbian dildo has an impressive three vibrating motors layout, and the mobile application lets you control each independently. “I’ve always loved having absolute control over my sex toys, and having a way to regulate each motor to the finest detail was impressive,” affirms Sandra. “The feature means you can adjust the sensations so that your vibrations are intense and your partner’s rumbles are mild or vice versa.”

Note: Most sex toys with multiple motors have a single control line, meaning both partners must contend with the same bandwidth. This way, the experience might be limiting or too much for one partner. For this reason, Lovense Lapis’ independent control makes it stand out from the competition.

The Lovense Lapis’ powerful motors made it ideal for couples looking to merge clitoral and G-spot stimulation. One motor was located around the neck, promoting precise external stimulation.

Something else that stood out was the well-thought-out design. Unlike most strapless strapons, the designers added a shorter and thicker internal arm, with more knobs around the joint for internal gripping. In addition, the ON/OFF button was placed on the base (circled in the image above), an easy-to-reach area once the sex toy was inside two bodies. Most competing models scored low on button placement because the access was awkward and interrupted the moment of pleasure.

Lovense Lapis’ versatility was another selling point. The Remote app made it ideal for close-range and long-distance relationships. In addition, the waterproof design means you can use the lesbian dildo in the bath or shower. (In the image above, you can see a wet Lapis after our waterproof testing.)

Lastly, the build quality was outstanding. The body felt sturdy on the palm, and not even shaking it left us feeling short-changed. There were no moving parts, and the joint felt impressively solid after multiple uses.

Minor issues we found during testing:

Unfortunately, the pricing was steep for most people. The lesbian dildo costs $259 when not on offer, which most sex toy users will find expensive.

The Lovense Lapis’ semi-realistic design infringes on inclusivity as some people want 100% non-phallic design.

Why Lovense Lapis is our preferred app-controlled model:

• Special Features: The Lovense Lapis was the easiest to use among the app-controlled models we reviewed, thanks to the Lovense Remote app. The review panel tested different metrics, including integration and the number of possibilities. Unsurprisingly, none of the other mobile applications came close to the Lovense Lapis. The hands-free control makes lesbian sex straightforward and highly satisfying.
• Design: The lesbian sex toy’s innovative design elevates the quality of lesbian sex. Everything from the flexible body to the posable neck and shorter inner arm promotes cozy extended wear and intense internal and external stimulation. With the intelligent button placement, turning the toy on and off was straightforward, and you won’t mess with the rhythm.
• Build Quality: We’ve used dozens of Lovense sex toys, and the build quality is always the least of my worries. Lovense Lapis’ silicone material and sturdy structure make it long-lasting. Even when we shook it vigorously, there were no moving parts, and the sex toy felt intact through the most intense thrusting sessions. Bravo Lovense!

If you want to see what Lovense Lapis looks like and how to use it, please watch our unboxing and demonstration video below:

You can read our complete Lovense Lapis review in this article.

Features:

• Material: Silicone
• Insertable Length: 1.61″ (pony), 3.43″ (shaft)

Pros:

• Outstanding possibilities with the Lovense Remote app.
• The app simplified integration and control.
• Impressive design and dimensions.
• Phenomenal build quality.
• Multiple vibration motors.
• Body-safe silicone material.

Cons:

• Lapis is more suitable for more experienced lesbians.
• Diversity-hampering semi-realistic design.

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5. Doc Johnson Vibrating 9″ Kit: Most Pleasurable Vibrations

Why we love Doc Johnson Vibrating 9″ Kit:

While all the above products are great, they lack a bit in the vibration department. So if you want strong vibrations we recommend Doc Johnson Vibrating 9″ Kit which the team rated as “Most Powerful”. “The torque-oriented vibrations are more rumbly than buzzy (my favorite)” Rachel Sommer clarified. “The vibrations also are spread evenly throughout the shaft with a maintained consistency, making internal stimulation thrilling”, she continued.

Unlike the other kits on this list, the Doc Johnson Vibrating 9″ dildo is girthy (7″ circumference). It gives a ‘fuller’ feeling, and even with the hollow design, the testers found it firm enough for penetration. The soft finish also makes it ideal for most users, including those with sensitive bits.

We also want to address the material choice. Unlike the stiff PVC ones we tested at the start, the stretchy, rubbery straps were much more comfortable to wear for extended periods. The testers didn’t have to wear underwear with the harness, and chafing wasn’t on the menu. Great design overall!

The 2-piece harness has a retractable silicone part covering the crotch. It attaches to the thighs and waist straps on the front and back, making for a stable attachment. In addition, the all-silicone crotch area means the opening is sturdier than the individual silicone O-rings.

The included 9″ dildo held on firmly, and even during intense thrusting, we didn’t need to use my hands. Its semi-realistic build and bulbous body inspired a thrilling feeling of fullness most lesbian couples will enjoy.

With a 1.75″ diameter opening, the strap-on vibrator accommodated most dildos in our collection. While multiple O-rings are more versatile, the stretchy silicone hole was just as resourceful.

The wireless remote control made the dildo perfect for the job. Besides making it easy to cycle through the 7 patterns and 3 vibration speeds, it enhances power shift in the relationship and promotes a completely hands-free experience. In addition, the controller’s silky silicone finish adds to the grippy effect, making it easy to handle even with lubed-up hands.

Minor issues we found during testing:

The dildo’s 8″ usable length and 7″ circumference remove newbies and intermediate sex toy users. And while you can use a smaller-sized dildo, it doesn’t make sense to spend $150 on a strap-on dildo you won’t use.

The Doc Johnson kit is also expensive, and few people will look forward to parting ways with $149.99. We have lots of more affordable lesbian strap-ons on this list, such as the Lovehoney’s Beginner Kit in the article for budget seekers.

A rechargeable battery for the remote control would’ve been better. And while you can avoid disruptions with good planning, you don’t want to be the guy rushing to the gas station to get the AAA batteries in the middle of the night.

Why Doc Johnson Vibrating 9″ Kit is the most recommended vibrating strap-on:

• Settings. Doc Johnson got an impressive 89% average score from the test panel. Its powerful motor’s 7 patterns and 3 speeds deliver a range of consistent, rumbly vibrations, amplifying the pleasures of penetrative lesbian sex.
• Special Features: The kit has a wireless remote controller, an exciting addition to the kit. The controller enhances the user experience and lets you switch power for a dynamic and thrilling experience.
• Build Quality. The harness was the most comfortable among the models we reviewed. It was more stretchy and rubbery than the stiff Neoprene most designers use. And with the chunky body with a firm design yet soft finish, the strap-on is perfect for lesbian couples after an exciting feeling of fullness.

Features:

• Material: Silicone
• Circumference: 7″
• Insertable Length: 8″

Pros:

• Multiple vibration combinations.
• Easy-to-use remote controller.
• Adjustable fit accommodates 28″ – 48″ waist sizes.
• The stretchy harness feels great on bare skin.

Cons:

• The Doc Johnson Kit is pricey – $149.99.
• It’s better suited for experienced folks after girth play.

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6. Lovehoney Deluxe Harness Kit: For Size Queens!

Why we love Lovehoney Deluxe Strap-on Harness Kit:

In a world full of options, the Lovehoney Deluxe Strap-on Harness Kit is the ideal pick for lesbians seeking depth play. The biggest of the two dildos has an 8″ usable length, meaning you won’t struggle to hit the right spots. With a chunky shaft, bulging veins, and a tapered head, the deluxe piece from Lovehoney is well-equipped for the job.

The smaller dildo measures 5.6″ (insertable length) and 3.4″ (circumference), making it the perfect kit for lesbian couples. Whether you prefer warming up to the big one with the smaller dildo or your partner who’s not as advanced in the sex toy hierarchy likes the small one, it’s a resourceful kit.

The 8″ dildo’s massive size is ideal for extreme pussy stretching. In addition, it has a slight upward curve toward the tip, facilitating G-spot targeting. And with the characteristic chunky shaft, Lovehoney Deluxe strikes a balance as an ideal G-spot stimulator and the most filling pussy stretcher.

The harness was uncomfortable when I tightened the straps too much. However, light underwear helps diffuse the discomfort.

Note: the harness quality was good for a $49.99 strap-on harness kit. And considering it comes with two silicone dildos and multiple O-rings, it’s a bargain.

I also loved how easy it was to adjust the harness straps. More importantly, thigh and waist straps make it stable for penetration.

The strap-on kit features three differently-sized O-rings to use with multiple dildos. As long as it has a flared base, you can use most standard dildos with the harness. The silicone rings feel sturdy, and most models we tested, bar the massive fantasy dildos, held on well without slouching.

Minor issues we found during testing:

Like the other models under $50, the harness was cheaply made with stiff straps, and you must wear underwear to avoid chafing.

The silicone rings slouch when you use the harness with a more enormous, heavier dildo like the fantasy dildo series.

Why Lovehoney Deluxe is the best big strap-on:

• Size. While the kit’s two-dildo design makes it perfect for gradual vagina stretching, the sheer size stood out. The advanced model’s 8″ insertable length and 6″ circumference make it ideal for depth play. It’s not slim either, so folks after an all-rounded feeling of fullness will find the Lovehoney Deluxe Kit resourceful.
• Versatility: The panel gave the kit a 96% versatility score. Combining two different size dildos for gradual vagina stretching and three O-rings makes it one of the most versatile lesbian strap-on kits. Plus, it’ll only cost you $49.99.

Features:

• Material: Silicone
• Circumference: 3.5″ & 6″
• Insertable Length: 5.6″ & 8″

Pros:

• Versatile design with two dildos and three O-rings.
• Adjustable harness.
• Well-designed silicone dildos.
• Easy to use and clean.

Cons:

• The straps are firm – you’ll need to wear something underneath.

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7. Fetish Fantasy Elite: Double-Ended Model!

Why we love Fetish Fantasy Elite:

Fetish Fantasy Elite is a good addition to your sex toy collection if you admire the hands-free nature of strapless products but aren’t there yet with the Kegel exercises. The double strap-on has a thick pony for the wearer and waist and thigh straps for added stability.

The harness is made from stretchy silicone. Unlike the PVC straps, they’re much easier to get a custom fit, and you won’t have to worry about chafing. Of course, a tight fit might be uncomfortable after extended play, but it’s nowhere near the firm neoprene material discomfort.

Fetish Fantasy Elite’s external shaft has a rounded head to simplify insertion and a ridged shaft to enhance internal stimulation. The smooth silicone finish made the stiff dildo more friendly for the receiving partner – Jessica, and I use it for extended sessions without feelings of soreness.

The wearable pony is understandably shorter, but its stocky build, spiral lines, and defined curve serve as a hook, allowing for better retention. With stretchy silicone straps, the double dildo won’t bulge even under pressure.

Like other silicone dildos, they warm to match the ambient temperature for a realistic experience. It gets a bit cold sometimes, and submerging it in water for 5 – 10 minutes gets the dildo ready for the action.

Something else that stood out during the review was the rumbly motor that injects a wave of pulsation patterns into lesbian sex. While we’ve used models with more powerful vibrations, Fetish Fantasy Elite’s 7 intensity levels were impressive. In addition, it was easy to track the change in power as you crank the volume, a rather odd but satisfying feature.

Lastly, fetish Fantasy Elite has a wired controller, allowing you to regulate the pulsation level without halting the action. I’d have loved a wireless control better, but the wired option is much better than built-in buttons.

Minor issues we found during testing:

Even with the straps to enhance the user experience, getting used to the feeling of a ‘mini dildo’ inside your vagina while simultaneously thrusting takes time. In addition, Kegel exercises are necessary to control it with utmost stability.

The rumbly motor could be more powerful. And while the range of 7 intensity levels was exciting, there are numerous models with more impactful vibrations.

Why Fetish Fantasy Elite is a great double strap-on:

• Design. Fetish Fantasy Elite got an exemplary average score from the review panel, with special shout-outs for the double-head design and the strapless/strapped inspiration. The straps improve the dildo’s stability so you can have a hands-free thrusting experience.
• Special Features: Everything from the wired remote control to the trackable pulsation settings made the double dildo a top pick.
• Settings: The dildo’s seven vibration modes amplify the sensations. The wearer and receiver enjoy the rumbly patterns for exciting dual stimulation.

Features:

• Material: Silicone
• Width: 1.5″
• Insertable Length: 4.8″ & 5″

Pros:

• A well-thought-out strap-on dildo for lesbian couples.
• Handy remote control.
• An excellent range of vibrations.
• The curved shaft promotes precise G-spot stimulation.
• High-quality silicone material.
• The stretchy harness has a 43″ maximum waist size.

Cons:

• It takes time to get used to the dual dildo.

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8. Lovehoney Double Delight: Adjustable Design

Why we love Lovehoney Double Delight:

Among the lesbian strap-ons we reviewed, Lovehoney Delight was the easiest to adjust. The sleek 6″ double dildo has a flexible pony, and regulating the penetration angle was cake.

Unlike other models, the adjustable neck locks in place once you get the right fit and won’t budge even under extreme pressure from the thrusting action. The knot has a subtle but firm locking feature that lesbian couples will appreciate.

The pony’s contoured body enhances internal stimulation and retention, while the angled, tapered tip simplifies penetration and promotes precise G-spot targeting. On the other hand, the penetrative shaft is long and contoured in the middle. Jessica and I found penetration straightforward, and thrusting was much fun with the contoured body.

I also loved the single-speed bullet vibrator that slots beneath the dildo’s base. And while it wasn’t as punchy as some of the bullet vibes I’ve reviewed before, it spreads the rumble on both shafts, adding a unique blend of shared pleasure.

Notably, the double Delight was among the cheapest strapless dildos we tested. For $44.99, the well-made and versatile vibrating couple’s sex toy is a bargain.

Minor issues we found during testing:

The single-speed bullet vibrator is not the most potent vibe out there. In addition, it uses disposable batteries.

Why Lovehoney Double Delight is the highest-rated adjustable strap-on:

• Design: Lovehoney Double Delight’s double-dildo design stood out from the competition in the price range. More importantly, the review panel loved how the joint between both shafts simplified the user experience. It locked in place with minimal adjustment and didn’t budge even after extended use.
• Price & Value: It only costs $49.99, a massive bargain for such a quality product. Everything from outstanding design to the vibrating bullet and contoured body makes the price comparatively low.

Features:

• Material: Silicone
• Circumference: 4.25″
• Insertable Length: 6″

Pros:

• The most adjustable model on this list.
• Comparatively cheap – $49.99.
• Flexible pony locks in place.
• A contoured shaft enhances internal stimulation.
• The bullet vibrator slots in the base.

Cons:

• The vibrations circle the base and won’t get to the tip of either shaft.

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9. Vixen Johnny: Strap-on Dildo for Lesbians

Why we love Vixen Johnny:

Vixen Johnny stood out from all the lesbian strap-on dildos we reviewed. Everything about the standalone dildo ticked the boxes. The team loved Vixen Johnny’s dual-density design, describing it as a ‘game changer.’ Using multiple densities for the dildo gave it a natural look. The inner core has a firm consistency while the smooth outer cover slides over, like a human penis.

If you’ve used dual-density dildos, RealCock 2 is the only dildo that can be likened to Vixen Johnny. However, it’s expensive, meaning the latter takes the crown for the price range.

Besides the difference in inner and outer core density, Vixen Johnny’s lifelike shaft with subtle veins, a defined corona, and a tapered tip gives a natural dick look (image above). It even has wrinkled balls to amplify the realistic look, as seen in the image below.

Note: While realistic balls make handling more complicated for people manually thrusting by hand, we believe the bulge will be a positive for most consumers. We discovered it made the dildo more stable.

The standalone dildo is compatible with most standard strap-ons, including all with a 1.75″ diameter opening. I used it with several harnesses in my collection, but Spareparts Joque was my absolute favorite. It was the most stable, and combining the realistic balls and a reinforced O-ring proved a cheat code.

Manipulating the dildo during use to target your partner’s sweet spots is straightforward, and the soft head means even those with a sensitive G-spot won’t have a problem with Vixen Johnny. Jessica found the coronal ridge more ‘impactful,’, and so did I and the other reviewers. Like the head, the veins and ridges are soft, and neither of us felt them. You can see the product inside the packaging in the image below.

Minor issues we found during testing:

As stressed before, realistic balls get in the way when the dildo is used as a standalone sex toy, and handling gets complicated without the harness.

Like other dual-density dildos, Vixen Johnny has a significant ‘drawback effect’ from the retracting outer silicone, and you’ll need more lube to avoid chafing.

Why Vixen Johnny is the best strap-on dildo:

• Design: Vixen Johnny’s dual-density body, firm inner core, and squishy outer material make it the highest-rated lesbian strap-on dildo. The review team gave it a positive score. With the lifelike head and wrinkled balls, there’s no better dildo for lesbian couples who appreciate raw realism.
• Size: The dildo’s 7″ insertable length and 5.75″ circumference make it perfect for ambitious intermediates and seasoned strap-on users. While I was skeptical initially, the balls lock into the harness O-ring for a stable connection, letting you enjoy hands-free lesbian penetrative sex.

If you want to see what Vixskin Johnny looks like and how to use it, please watch our unboxing and demonstration video below:

You can read our Johnny Vixskin review here. You can also find other strap-on dildos in this article.

Features:

• Material: Silicone
• Circumference:75″
• Insertable Length: 7″

Pros:

• Outstanding dual-density design.
• The incredibly lifelike body looks like an erect dick.
• Compatibility with standard harnesses.
• The angled shaft enhances G-spot stimulation.

Cons:

• You must use generous amounts of lube with the dual-density dildo.
• The colossal size locks out beginners from the fun.

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Other Good Alternatives

Happy Rabbit has rabbit ears that target both the bottom’s G-spot and clitoris for pleasurable dual stimulation. The harness feels comfortable and is easy to adjust, with multiple O-rings letting you experiment with different strap-on dildos.

Spareparts Joque is our favorite dildo harness we found. Its flexible and easy-to-adjust design extends between 20 and 50 inches, while the padded finish ensures the wearer’s utmost comfort regardless of the duration of use. And while most reviewers have labeled the harness expensive, it provides excellent value for money and will last a lifetime with the proper maintenance. You can read more about strap-on harnesses in this article.

 

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What Is A Lesbian Strap-On?

A lesbian strap-on consists of a phallic-shaped penetrator attached to a harness or a pony head [1]. Vagina owners wear them to allow for penetrative intercourse in same sex-relationships. Most models come with a harness that holds the dildo in place during sexual activity. Other products are strapless meaning both partners enjoy the experience equally.

 

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What Types Can I Buy?

Harness Models

Harness strap-ons have two parts; the dildo and the harness. The harness goes around the wearer’s waist or hips so the dildo rests at the same height as a penis. The dildo goes through an O-ring that holds it in position during play.

Most harness kits feature an O-ring system that allows you to change ring sizes and experiment with different dildos.

Strapless Models

Strapless Strap-ons feature an elongated shaft – like a regular dildo and a pony on the rear end. The penetrating partner slides the pony to their vagina, holding it with the vaginal muscles.

As you’d expect, the pony, though not as long, massages the wearer’s vaginal nerve configurations.

Note: A strapless model is a little more tricky than the harness option and will take a bit of practice and patience. I recommend strapless dildos for experienced players. If it’s your first time using Strap-ons, consider starting with the harness type.

Strap On Kits

If you’re in the market for a full-on strap-on dildo for women, you’re in the right place. Strap-on kits come with the dildo and harness pre-attached.

While most people like picking the harness and dildo separately, these harness kits simplify your work while allowing you to express yourself freely during sex without worrying about dildo-harness incompatibility issues.

There are numerous kits to choose from. Whether you want underwear or harness-style strap-on, there’s something for everyone.

Hollow Strap Ons

While hollow Strap-ons are synonymous with men, vulva owners can also use these bad boys. Like the kits, they come with a harness that goes around the wearer’s body to hold the dildo in place. Depending on the size and firmness, you can use the hollow models as it is. You can read more about hollow strap-ons in this article.

 

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How Can Lesbian Couples Have Sex With Strap-Ons?

Are you new to the wonderful world of strap-on sex? No sweat! We have compiled the best strapon tips for lesbians in this chapter [2]!

Practice Alone First

Wear the harness a couple of times while on your own to learn how to adjust the fit. Solo play lets you build your confidence while finding out how you want the dildo to rest on your body. Do you like it higher or lower? Now is the ideal time to figure everything out.

Use a Good Position.

One rule of thumb is prioritizing positions that are easy to execute, like doggy style and spooning, before moving on to intensive ones. Some of my favorite sex positions include:

• 69
• Doggystyle
• Missionary
• Spooning
• Cowgirl

You can find more positions in our lesbian sex position guide.

Use A Sili Saddle To Protect Your Vulva

Sili Saddle is a sex pleasure aid designed for people with delicate pubic tissues. The 100% silicone non-vibrating pleasure pad offers a much-needed resort to ensure lesbian sex doesn’t leave you bruised. Most importantly, you can place it where you feel most comfortable.

Use A Lot Of Lubes

A high-quality water-based lube is essential during sex, especially with a dildo and during anal play. Lubing up makes penetration easier and sex more enjoyable. So, ensure you have plenty within your arm’s reach and reapply regularly.

Foreplay

Foreplay helps to get both partners to speed both physically and emotionally. It also initiates arousal, getting the juices flowing, so sex is more natural and enjoyable. Start with oral sex or mutual masturbation before kicking off the penetration.

Let the hands do more of the talking.

Good Communication

Communication starts before sex and carries on during and after. Convey what you’d like your partner to do, your limits, and your expectations. Excellent communication ensures that both partners enjoy the experience without causing harm or discomfort to each other.

Start Small

If you’re new to same-sex penetration, I recommend starting small, gradually increasing the dildo size, and improving the intensity as you get used to the experience. Use the dildo size you’re comfortable with before moving on to the large options.

This way, you can safely enjoy the pleasure of lesbian penetrative sex.

Practice, Practice!

Practice makes perfect, and lesbian strap-on sex is no exception. For strapless models, wear and walk around with it in the house before using it on your partner. Please also note that the experience benefits significantly from doing Kegel exercises. So I recommend regularly training and strengthening the Pelvic muscle so you can hold the dildo inside more comfortably.

 

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How To Clean A Lesbian Strap-On?

Cleaning your lesbian strapons will depend on the material in question.

I recommend taking the dildo off the harness and washing them individually. Warm water and a sex toy cleaner will do in most cases.

Make sure you don’t submerge the leather in water, use a clean, damp cloth to wipe any visible dirt marks. The last thing you want is a moldy harness.

Read more about cleaning different sex toy materials here!

 

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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

Are strap-ons safe?

Yes. Strapons are completely safe [1][3]. But please keep in mind the quality of the straps will affect the experience. If your harness has firm straps, consider wearing something underneath to avoid chafing. In addition, take breaks between sessions and use lots of lube, especially with dual-density dildos.

What lube should I use?

Only use water-based lube. Unlike silicone and oil-based lubricants, you won’t have to worry about material degradation, and cleaning after use is straightforward.

Can I make my own lesbian strapon?

We don’t recommend making your own strapon due to the risks. It’s always better to buy a branded product from a trusted manufacturer. You can read more on how to make a homemade strap-on in this guide.

 

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Primary Sources

1. Lotney, K. The Ultimate Guide To Strap-On Sex: A Complete Resource For Women And Men. (2000).

2. Cage, D. Lesbian Sex Bible: The Complete Guide to Sexual Love for Same-Sex Couples. (2014).

3. Findlay, S. Sophie Cachia Answers All the Questions You’ve Been Too Afraid to Ask About Sex Toys. (2023, March 3).

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