8 Best Sex Positions For Small Penis Sizes

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Maybe you read this headline and wondered if it applied to you. A study of sexually active men concluded that the average penis size is about 5.6”. We note that these measurements were self-reported, and we strongly suspect that the true average is likely smaller than that.

However, what’s even more important is that another study showed that 84% of women are “very satisfied” with their partners’ penis size. The researchers did not ask about actual penis size, but since statistically most people are average, the only reasonable conclusion is that most women are happy with average penises, and a significant percentage are happy with smaller-than-average penises.

It’s also important to keep in mind that while penises can be an important part of heterosexual sex, they are rarely the most important part. No matter what you are or are not packing, connection and communication are what make sex truly great — and those are not measured in inches.

Keep reading to find out what sex positions make the most of what you have to offer!

1. Cowgirl (With Grinding)

There are a lot of reasons to love cowgirl and other woman-on-top positions, and one of them is that the receiving partner gets to control the angle, depth, and pace of penetration. This is especially good for penises that are smaller (or larger) than average, because the receiving partner can make sure that every inch is put to good use.

Also, with a smaller penis in play, the receiving partner can take it all and still bear down to grind their clitoris against the penetrating partner’s pubic bone — which is much more difficult to do when riding a larger penis. Note that reverse cowgirl, with the receiving partner facing away, also works well.

What We’re Doing

The penetrating partner lies on their back on the bed.
The receiving partner straddles, kneels, or squats over the penetrating partner’s pelvis.
The receiving partner arches their hips, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

2. Classic Missionary

Missionary is an intimate and connected position, and studies have shown that increased intimacy leads to increased levels of desire and sexual satisfaction (regardless of penis size).

Placing a firm pillow or sex wedge under the receiving partner’s hips changes the angle of penetration so that even a small penis can hit all the right spots. It really makes a difference!

What We’re Doing

The receiving partner lies on their back on the bed with legs spread and bent. They can place a small, firm cushion under their hips.
The penetrating partner lies on top of the receiving partner, face-to-face.
The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

3. Missionary (Feet to Chest)

We like missionary so much that we’re including another variation! It really is a good position for people with smaller penises. This particular variation encourages such deep penetration that it’s sometimes difficult when the penetrating partner has a longer-than-average penis — some people even compare knocking the cervix to getting hit in the testicles (although nobody has both, so an exact comparison is difficult).

It also leaves the clitoral area accessible and at least some hands available, so clit stimulation with fingers or a small vibrator may be welcome.

What We’re Doing

The receiving partner lies on the bed with legs spread and knees bent. The receiving partner then brings their knees to their chest.
The penetrating partner lies on top of the receiving partner, face-to-face.
The receiving partner lifts their legs and braces their feet against the penetrating partner’s chest.
The receiving partner lifts their hips, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

4. Lying Doggy

Doggy-style is another favorite position! This rear-entry position is generally comfortable for both partners, and while it doesn’t have to be rough, it does work very well when that dynamic is desired.

In the lying doggy position, the receiving partner can keep their legs together. This, combined with the penetrating partner’s body weight, makes everything feel tighter, which is very stimulating for a penetrating partner with a smaller penis as well as for a receiving partner who likes to feel full.

What We’re Doing

The receiving partner lies face-down on the bed with legs slightly spread. They can place a small, firm cushion under their hips to adjust the angle.
The penetrating partner lies on top of the receiving partner, between their legs.
The receiving partner arches their back, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

5. Pile Driver

This crazy position has some of the same advantages as missionary with knees to chest, but it’s a lot more like yoga sex. It requires strength, balance, and stamina from both partners. In return, you get extra-deep penetration, a sense of accomplishment, and major bragging rights.

Like many of the positions in this article, it actually works better with a smaller penis than a larger one, since the less space between your bodies, the better.

What We’re Doing

The receiving partner lies on their back and gets into a plow pose with their legs straight. We recommend putting a blanket or folded towel down to cushion their head, neck, and shoulders.
The penetrating partner stands behind the receiving partner and grasps the receiving partner’s hips/thighs for support.
The penetrating partner squats down so that pelvises are aligned, and uses their hand to guide their penis in.

6. Tabletop

The tabletop position is great because it helps you get out of the rut of sex in bed when you’re both tired (there’s nothing wrong with comfortable and familiar sex, of course, but variety is the spice of life and spicy relationships last longer). It also lends itself very well to all sorts of role-play scenarios for even more spice.

Physically, this standing position actually has a lot in common with the classic missionary position, and it can also benefit from a sex wedge to adjust the angle and facilitate deeper penetration. Make sure that the table or counter is sturdy, stable, and an appropriate height.

What We’re Doing

The receiving partner lies on a table or counter with their legs spread and bent.
The penetrating partner stands in front of the receiving partner, between their legs.
The receiving partner brings their knees to their chest and then lifts their legs over the penetrating partner’s shoulders.
The receiving partner lifts their hips, and the penetrating partner uses their hand to guide their penis in.

7. Sex With Dame Eva

Dame Eva is a lovely little clitoral vibrator that you can use during intercourse (and other ways too, of course). It fits between your bodies and delivers clitoral stimulation to the receiving partner; as a bonus, the penetrating partner can usually feel the vibrations as well.

What does this have to do with penis size? The most literal answer is that it does not. It works with pretty much any set of bodies. But lots of people with penises are worried about their size. They really don’t have to be, as we talked about above, but society has sent powerful messages.

Bringing Dame Eva to bed makes an orgasm much more likely for the receiving partner, so the penetrating partner can relax and not be saddled with performance anxiety. To put this into perspective, recent studies show that people with vulvas orgasm 21%-30% of the time with penetrative sex alone and 51%-60% of the time with penetration plus clitoral stimulation.

What We’re Doing

Pick your favorite sex position. We find that Dame Eva works especially well with cowgirl, but you’ll have fun figuring out what you like best.
Position Dame Eva with the flexible wings under the labia, and enjoy!

8. Sex With a Penis Extender

This is an alternative for those times when the receiving partner is craving a feeling of fullness. A penis extender is primarily for the benefit of the receiving partner, since it sharply reduces sensation for the penetrating partner.

This doesn’t mean that you should never use it; in a healthy sexual relationship, it’s fine to focus on one partner’s pleasure on occasion (as long as you both agree and as long as you take turns). Be sure to use an extender that fits the penetrating partner well to minimize discomfort.

What We’re Doing

The penetrating partner achieves an erection and puts the penis extender on.
Partners have sex in whatever position works best for them.

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Maggie Hart

Maggie Hart has written about sexual well-being and sexuality in society for quite a few years now. She is active in communities that celebrate sex for older adults.