Did you know over a third of Americans aren’t happy with their sex life? [1] According to previous studies, around 34% of people in relationships don’t rate them as sexually satisfying. While the primary culprits were insufficient foreplay, poor communication, and finishing too quickly, there’s another thing you should worry about: a lack of novelty. To help you out, our clinical sexologist Rachel Sommer, Ph.D., has listed 8 new sex positions to try with your partner that can help bring passion back to the bedroom.
In addition, all the new sexual positions come with pictures and illustrations, so it’s easy to try them yourself in the bedroom.
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How Can I Get My Partner To Try New Sex Positions?
- If you want to try anything new, you have to discuss it with your partner first. Make sure the time and place are right, and then flesh the idea out. Avoid asking them while you’re in the middle of having sex since they might feel pressured to comply with your request even if they don’t want to.
- Let your partner know it’s something you’ve wanted to try, and also reassure them it’s okay if they don’t like the idea. Don’t be afraid to admit your sex life has been a bit boring, and explain how trying a new position might make things more exciting.
- Be prepared to wait for an answer. There are many reasons someone might not want to try a new position, such as feeling self-conscious about their body or worrying about pain. Your partner might need time to consider if it’s something they want to give a go. Be patient. And always receive clear consent.
1. Corkscrew
The corkscrew position has nothing to do with wine, but it doesn’t make it any less fun. Plus, nothing is stopping you from having a little celebratory drink at the end since this position isn’t the easiest on the list. But once you’ve got the hang of it, you can enjoy heightened sensations thanks to the direct G-spot stimulation.
It might not be the most intimate of the new sex positions either, but you can keep eye contact the whole time and let your partner know you care about them with little acts of affection such as massaging his legs or words of affirmation.
Pro Tip: Your partner can play with your breasts and rub your clitoris. You can also strengthen your connection by synchronizing the hip movement – a recipe for powerful thrusting!
How To Do It
- Lie on your back with hips turned to the side.
- The penis owner kneels in front of you with legs apart and positions himself so their pelvis is in between your legs.
- Wrap the top leg around their waist and rotate your head to look at them directly.
2. Cowboy
Cowboy is one of the top new sex positions to spice it up, and unlike what the name suggests, it doesn’t require a costume (although dressing up is always erotic).
Since cowboy is a male version of a cowgirl position, some people might be uncomfortable as they’re so used to following the typical sexual scripts. If you’re one of these couples, I advise you to try it without overthinking. Your beliefs about how sex should be might hold you back and prevent you from taking your sex life to the next level.
If you don’t like this new sex position, you can adjust it and get into the missionary position. But if you do like it, prepare to have your mind blown with new sensations!
How To Do It
- The vagina owner lies on their back, keeping their legs straight and close together.
- The penetrating partner straddles you and slides their penis (or strap-on) inside.
3. Snow Angel
As December is approaching, it’s time to get festive. Nothing brings more joy than a satisfying sex position, and the snow angel does the trick.
Even though it requires the penetrating partner to engage his abs, the hip movement should make it easier to keep the position longer than in a standard plank. Even if you aren’t the most athletic couple, a little exercise won’t hurt. On the contrary, it can make you feel less guilty about binge eating during Christmas.
The snow angel is one of the best new sex positions on the list as you get to see your partner from a different angle. You can view all his back bits and witness how he slides in and out of you, which is pretty hot.
In addition, you can encourage him by stroking his balls or fingering his butt if he’s into that. The angle also allows you to stimulate your clitoris, so this position is a win-win.
How To Do It
- Lie flat on your back.
- Have your partner get into a plank position facing the opposite direction with legs on each side of your hips.
- As he slides into the position, place your legs on his back.
4. Betty Rocker
In layman’s eyes, betty rocker might seem very similar to the classic cowgirl position. But when sex is done right, even a slight change in positioning can make a huge difference.
As you lean forward and put the weight on your arms, the angle allows you to experience deeper penetration that works exceptionally well if you’re into cervix stimulation. And if your partner isn’t well-endowed, betty rocker still allows him to reach deep inside you, a significant confidence boost.
Even though you’re facing away from your partner, it’s still one of the hottest new sex positions to surprise your husband with; having your partner watch you while you spread your hips wide is highly arousing.
To spice things up a little more, give him a little show and wiggle your butt. Oh, and don’t forget to enjoy yourself and stimulate your clitoris at the same time – witnessing your back arch as you reach orgasm will be enough to make him crazy.
How To Do It
- One partner lies on his back.
- Face away from him and get yourself in a straddling position.
- Slide his penis inside you and then lean forward so that most of your weight is on your forearms.
- He can put his hands on your hips to help you move up and down.
5. The Python
As the days are getting shorter and shorter and lack of sun might affect your mood, you have to make sure you’re taking care of your wellbeing. The first step is having good sex, which this position can help with.
The Python looks a bit funny, so expect a few laughs here and there, and experience the rush of feel-good hormones. However, the real benefit is a combination of deep penetration and stimulation of multiple erogenous zones. As you move your hips on top of your partner, your clitoris rubs against his pubic bone and your breasts against his chest, making intercourse extremely pleasurable.
The Python is the whole package; the skin-to-skin contact makes it more intimate, and you can even lean forward to take a break for a quick kissing session. Think of how pythons wrap themselves tightly around their prey – aim for this kind of closeness minus the killing part, and you’ll have fantastic sex.
How To Do It
- Your partner lies on his back.
- Climb on top face-to-face and start lowering yourself down once he’s inside you.
- Stretch your legs to rest on top of your partner’s legs.
- Get into a cobra position: extend your arms and arch your back slightly.
6. Simple Scissors
Contrary to what you might think, scissoring isn’t reserved just for lesbian women. No matter what your sexual orientation is, you’re welcome to give it a go and enjoy its versatility. The best thing is you don’t have to be naked to reap the benefits, so if you’re looking for creative foreplay, dry humping can be one way to make yourself aroused.
Once your clothes are off, the real action starts; this position allows for deep penetration and direct clitoral stimulation as you grind back and forth against your partner. It’s not a very intimate sex position, so make sure you try other options from this list.
How To Do It
- The bottom partner lies on her back and rotates her hips to the side.
- The top partner places one leg under her bottom leg and his top leg between her thighs.
- He then leans slightly to the opposite side.
7. Amazon
Have you ever wondered what it would be to have sex if you were a man? While you’ll never have a definite answer, now you can get a taste of that scenario with the amazon position. Resembling missionary style, it allows the receiving partner to be on top and guide the movement with her hips while the penetrating partner brings his knees to his chest.
As the name suggests, this position allows the woman to appeal to her inner warrior as she takes on a dominant role. In Greek mythology, Amazon women embodied strength and courage, which this position is all about. You can find more female dominant sex positions here.
Once you’ve gotten over the awkwardness of trying it for the first time, you can focus on being in control and finding the right angle. Give it a go and see if your riding skills are deserving of the Amazonian title.
You can read more about the Amazon position in this extensive guide.
How To Do It
- Your partner lies on his back and brings his knees to his chest.
- Position yourself between his knees and sit on his thighs.
- Keep your hands on his shins and have him grab onto your legs for better balance and more synchronized movement.
- If the vulva owner struggles to balance, the penis haver can lie on the edge of the bed and take on a standing position.
8. Sideways 69
If you’re one of those people easily affected by the weather but still want something new, sideways 69 should be your top choice. Now you can combine a cuddling session with a bit of sexual exploration; this variation of 69 requires less strength as both partners can rest on their sides.
It makes the job for your tongues much easier and allows you to focus entirely on the task at hand. It’s an excellent option for new couples who are just beginning to learn about each other’s bodies. You can find the most pleasurable ways to stimulate each other before moving on to vaginal penetration. It will make the experience more rewarding and help you bond.
To make it feel amazing, you can try incorporating sex toys into the play; think vibrators, dildos, and butt plugs for anal play. There’s no shame in needing extra help. You can also add hip movement as you get more comfortable with oral sex.
How To Do It
- Partners lie on their sides, facing each other’s genitals.
- Make sure you’re close enough, then get down to business.
The Takeaway
I hope you enjoyed this list of the best new sex positions to surprise your woman with. Even if you’re already familiar with some of them, you can always play with the dominant/submissive dynamic to give them a slightly different flavor. More on submissive sex positions here.
Novelty isn’t just about trying a new position every time you have sex but about exploring easy new sensations. Try these new sex moves, and if they aren’t up to your taste, there’s nothing wrong with going back to the positions you know best.
Rachel
References:
[1] https://nypost.com/2017/09/22/more-than-a-third-of-americans-in-relationships-are-sexually-unsatisfied/
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