If you love using butt plugs and are obsessed with the idea of wearing a sparkly little secret in your tush, wearing one in public might have piqued your interest. For those folks, we put together the following guide containing all the info you need to bring your fantasy to life. Let’s start with a summary for those who don’t have time to read the whole article:
- Before wearing something in public, please discuss boundaries with your partner. Then wash it, use plenty of lube, relax your anus muscles, take a deep breath, and gently insert the plug.
- We also recommend use it at home first and practice sitting down. And please start with no longer than 30-minute sessions.
- If during your home use you find your plug slipping out often, you can experiment with different underwear styles, or even a harness, to see if that helps.
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What Makes A Butt Plug Safe For Public Use?
A wearable butt plug looks like a regular model but may have features like a t-shaped flared base that helps prevent chafing, a flexible neck for better mobility, or a boxy design to lessen your fear of it slipping out during use. While you can use any butt plug for public use we recommend buying one specifically made for this purpose.
Thanks to the design features listed above, you can wear them with every clothing style – even a pair of tight-fitted pants, as the bulk of the toy rests inside of you, with the base sitting comfortably between your cheeks. Keep in mind that when you wear butt plugs for extended periods (including outside of the house) you’ll need to remove them to re-apply lube every 1-2 hours. Learn more about leaving your butt plug for longer periods right here.
Why Wear Them In Public?
The idea of wearing a butt plug in the grocery store or while on a date might seem strange. But the truth is, rocking your sexy secret butt plug can put a pep in your step in much the same way that wearing matching bras and panties, or a fresh pair of sneakers, can. Wearing one in public with your partner can be appealing for several different reasons too. First and foremost, it’s a great way to either add a unique spice to your sex life or invite the sexual energy usually reserved for the bedroom out into the world.
Ladies wanting to ready themselves for a night of anal fun with their well-endowed partners will also appreciate the opportunity to prepare their booties for bigger sizes long before making their way into the bedroom.
Can You Wear A Butt Plug In Public?
Of course, you can wear a butt plug in public! In fact, butt plugs remain among the best sex toys for public play (along with panty vibrators of course).
The benefits when compared to other sex toy possibilities are that they stay inserted into your tush and don’t have to vibrate to be pleasurable, adding to their hide-ability. They can also feel more inconspicuous than other options because they’re easily hidden beneath your clothes.
Is It Safe To Use Them In Public?
Wearing a butt plug in public is as safe as using one in the bedroom, as long as you take certain precautions. Ideally, you wouldn’t want the first time you use a butt plug – or experiment with bigger sizes than you’re used to, to be out in public.
It’s also a good idea to keep your public wearing limited to a shorter bout of time the first time, such as running a quick errand or popping over to the grocery store (with a backup plastic bag in case you change your mind). That way, you can see how it feels before committing yourself to an entire night out.
Who Can Use Them?
The beauty of butt plugs is that, whether you’re a guy or a girl, you have an a-hole! That means that everyone can wear this style of sex toy, including out in public if that’s what you decide. Wearing a butt plug not only stimulates the many nerve endings located in your anus but also plays an important role in enhancing sensation and pleasure elsewhere in the genitals. [1]
During anal stimulation, most women notice heightened sensation through their clitoris which can make it a heck of a lot easier to reach orgasm. Men also have the bonus of being able to stimulate their prostate (also known as the male g-spot) with the right anal plug, which can help them achieve extra deep and intense orgasms.
How To Prevent A Public Butt Plug From Slipping Out?
Understandably, a big concern for most people considering a butt plug for some out-of-the-house play is the thought of it sliding out. Don’t fret! Here are some pro tips for preventing slippage during public play:
- Use less of a less-slippery lube: Consider using a lighter water-based lube and applying less of it more often to keep you well-lubricated but not too slick.
- Try a pair of Spanx: Wearing tight spandex shorts or thicker cheeky underwear can help hold the base in place.
- Wear a harness: Regardless of whether you’re into chastity play or not, wearing a harness might be your golden ticket. Certain harnesses are designed to be fitted with a dildo that is naturally held in place via the leather straps – they can be a fun addition to your favorite summer dress.
- Look for a longer stem: Purchasing a model with a longer stem/neck can be useful in preventing slippage by allowing the plug to rest without tension inside your rectum, even while seated.
You can find more information in our guide on how to wear a butt plug.
How To Choose Your Public Butt Plug?
Now comes the hard part, actually choosing a public plug. Below, we’ll give you a better idea of some of the factors that should weigh into your decision.
Type
You might be surprised by the variety of plugs available to be used for public play! Some of the most popular include:
- Classic: Simple in design with either a teardrop or cone shape and flared base.
- Remote/app-controlled: Ideal for public play, you can change the settings on toys like the Lovense Hush 2 through just the click of a button (app-controlled toys have the bonus of being a lot less conspicuous than their counterparts).
- Jeweled: Perfect for beginners, these plugs come adorned with a beautiful jeweled base that adds bling to your booty. Personally, I’m obsessed with the Lovehoney Jeweled Heart!
- Vibrating: Built with a motor that helps enhance sensation through its rumbly vibrations.
- Prostate massager: Products like the Lovense Edge 2 are designed with the perfect proportions for prostate stimulation.
- Tail: Bring all your furry fantasies to life with a plug that comes decorated with a bunny, puppy, fox, or horsetail (just to name a few).
Material
Although there is technically no best material when it comes to butt plugs, you must shop for something high-quality and body-safe (jelly rubber toys are a big no-no). The three most popular materials include:
1. Silicone– a non-porous plastic that is the most lightweight and flexible material option (something that many people appreciate during long-term wear). Most vibrating models are made from silicone because they don’t dampen too much of the buzz. A downside of plugs made from plastic is that they can hold onto smells.
2. Metal– toys made from things like stainless steel are generally heavier and more rigid, which adds a definite presence that many users appreciate but can be too much for first-time users. But if you don’t get scared easily, make sure to check the best metal butt plugs we reviewed.
3. Glass– glass toys are by far the most beautiful option (the Chryalino Expert could be a Christmas tree ornament) and function similarly to metal in that they are heavier and more rigid than silicone. Two benefits of glass and metal toys are how easy they are to clean and the option to use them for temperature play. You can find some of the best glass butt plugs in this article.
Design
If you’re not sure what to look for design-wise, check out the b-Vibe Snug Plug 2 (image below). It has every feature you could want in a public model, like an extra-long and flexible stem and t-shaped base for added comfort. The boxy design and additional weight also help to reduce slippage while you walk.
Size
Folks new to anal sex will want to shop for a butt plug with a diameter of 1.25” or less with the option to size up as you feel ready.
Settings
You’d be surprised by the variety of settings available for vibrating butt plugs! Not only do they deliver a delightful buzzing sensation, but some – like the b-Vibe Rimming Plug, do a pretty spot-on job of recreating a rim job.
Price
For first-timers, it’s recommended that you set a relatively low budget (the Roll Play Small is a super budget-friendly option at only $17). This will ensure that you don’t blow your load on a toy that you only use once or twice.
Read reviews
Think you’ve found your perfect plug? Online reviews on Amazon, YouTube, or popular sex toy sites are a great place to find out more info about your toy and ensure that it delivers on both sensation and quality.
You can read more about butt plugs in this article.
How To Wear A Butt Plug In Public?
Before embarking on your public play journey, it’s important to lay down a few ground rules! Maybe your partner cranking up the vibrations while you’re mid-conversation with the barista at your favorite coffee shop is a no-no, but maybe it’s not. The boundaries you and your partner decide to enforce (or not) are completely personal and ultimately dependent on your comfort.
- Take a quick look through your new toy’s instruction manual to ensure you know how to use it properly.
- You might be using plugs to prepare yourself for your partner’s huge dick, even so, you must start small and slowly size up.
- Even if it’s fresh out of the box, give your toy a good wash before using it.
- Lather a generous amount of lube (water-based for silicone toys) onto your anal plug before using it, and don’t forget to reapply every 1-2 hours.
- With the pointy end first, relax your ass muscles and begin gently inserting the toy, stopping to take a few deep breaths if you experience any discomfort.
- It’s a good idea to use yours inside the house before taking it out in public! During this time practice walking around and using it while you pee.
- Though you may eventually be able to work up to hours of extended use, at first it’s a good idea to start with 30 minutes of wear and slowly work your way up.
- If you plan to wear it to work or dinner, it’s a good idea to practice sitting with it so you can get used to how it feels and find the most comfortable sitting position.
- If during your home use you find your plug slipping out often, you can experiment with different underwear styles, or even a harness, to see if that helps.
- Now the fun begins! Once you feel comfortable wearing it for extended periods and have nailed walking while wearing it, you’re ready to brave the world. Some butt-plug-friendly venues include movies, restaurants and coffee shops, bars and nightclubs.
Pro tip: If you’re ready to spice up your public play, consider trying a vibrating model (bonus points for handing your toy’s remote control to your significant other).
Remember that inviting toys into your sex life is supposed to be a pleasurable experience for both parties! If you don’t feel comfortable, either because of the toy itself or your readiness to try it, you owe it to yourself to stop and wait for a time when you feel more willing.
Aftercare and Maintenance
To both maximize the longevity of your toy and keep yourself safe from possible bacterial infections, you must practice good sex toy hygiene, this includes:
- Wash your toy thoroughly both pre and post-use with mild soap and warm water.
- Either allow your plug to air dry completely or use a clean towel to wipe away any excess water.
- Storing it somewhere safe – like your bedside table or in your closet, in a bag or box that’s separate from your other toys.
For more information, you can read our guide on how to clean your butt plugs and the best practices on how to store them.
Thanks for reading my guide on how to wear a butt plug in public!
Rachel
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