Vibrators are one of the most versatile sex toys out there and you can find a myriad of choices to cater to your every need. So please don’t get stuck using them solo; they are even better when you share the experience with others. So let’s get physical and teach you how to use them with your partner(s)!
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Choosing The Right Vibrator For You
When selecting a product, the most crucial thing to remember is it should feel ideal for both partners. But with so many options out there, it can be pretty overwhelming. How do you choose the perfect sex toy?
First, let’s think about the type that will fit your needs. The first kind is external or clitoral vibrators, sex toys promoting clitoral stimulation.
- Many women don’t orgasm with penetration, and if you are one of them, then the clitoral vibrator will be ideal for you. One example of an external model is the bullet vibrator. Bullets are small and pack a lot of pleasure in discreet packaging. These sex toys are perfect for first-times by focusing on clitoral stimulation. You can read more about them here.
- The other type is the internal vibrator. These sex toys do as the name suggests; they simulate penetration. The most common internal model is the G-spot vibrator. This type has a slight curve to achieve G-spot stimulation quickly.
- If you’re feeling adventurous, you could go for the combo vibrator, which offers internal and external stimulation (AKA rabbit vibes). Blended orgasms for the win!
- Anal vibrators like the vibrating butt plug are perfect for both prostate and vulva owners. You can wear them while going out and your partner can remote-control them. Anal vibrators have flared bases so they don’t get lost or stuck; this is why we don’t advise using vaginal models for anal penetration or anal play.
- For penis owners, there are also penis-focused vibrators and prostate massagers. An example of a penis product is the cock ring. This sex toy increases blood flow to the penis and testicles. It also stimulates the partner’s inner thighs, and during sex, it can trigger an orgasm.
Some even have more than one component and can stimulate the penis and the vagina simultaneously during penetrative sex.
The kind of vibrator you choose to use with your partner depends on what you like and what they want. For example, what kind of sensations do you like when masturbating?
You probably want to feel those same sensations during mutual masturbation or sex. If you’re unsure what you like and have a clitoris, we suggest starting with a clitoral vibrator. This model often has various settings and speeds that you can play around with to achieve your ideal sensation.
How To Use A Vibrator With A Partner?
1, Ask For Consent
The number one thing to do before using a vibrator with your partner is to ask for consent. Your partner’s body belongs to your partner, who might like the same things you do.
That means that your partner might not want to experiment with sex toys or specific types of vibrators, and that’s perfectly normal. For example, not everyone like anal toys, but they might be willing to try a wand vibration massager.
Communication is vital for this reason. If you do have consent, you can move on from there.
2. Clean Them Before Use
Before and after using it, make sure you clean it with warm water and mild soap! The genitals are sensitive organs, and sex toys can introduce bacteria resulting in infection. Therefore, it’s essential to ensure your vibrator is always clean before starting the fun.
3. Create The Right Mood
Once you’re ready, try to make things romantic. A quickie in the kitchen might be fun, but it can be much more exciting by adding some mood to the mix.
You can create a sexy environment by dressing up and dimming the lights. Add your favorite sensual music and incense to the mix, and the whole atmosphere will get even better.
4. Start Slow
Next, have your partner lie down and think about the spot you want to start on. Do you want to stimulate a larger area, or do you want targeted stimulation right from the beginning?
Pro Tip: If you’re unsure, I recommend starting over your partner’s underwear first. This strategy works especially well if they are new to vibes and not sure they will like it on their bare skin.
Please note some toys have powerful motors that can speed up the pleasure when you’re getting closer to a climax. But at the beginning, you should start on the lowest setting and work your way up from there.
Pro Tip: If you like building anticipation, try using the remote control to experiment with the right speed for both partners. Adding a sensual tease will heighten the experience even further.
5. Use It On The Pubic Bone
The pubic bone is another place where you can start your journey to orgasm paradise. Building up sexual excitement like this can make things even more fun.
6. Give Over Control To Your Partner
Many people also like giving over control to their partner. When you are playing together, you don’t always have to be in charge of your stimulation. Hand over the remote or smartphone app to your partner and relax your body to feel all the sensations.
7. Using A vibrator During Sex
They make some good products for use during sex. This can enhance the feeling for you and your partner, taking things to the next level.
8. Try Some Advanced Techniques
You might even want to try something more advanced if you’re ready.
- Double penetration creates some very unique sensations. This act is when one partner simultaneously enters one orifice (i.e., anal) while using an internal vibrator on another (i.e., vagina). Or you can use a vibrator to enhance oral sex by creating extra stimulation on the clitoris or inside the vagina.
- This sex toy is also excellent for male erogenous zones. And you can achieve an orgasm by stimulating the perineum or frenulum. They also work on the nipples!
- A vibrating cock ring can also be helpful during oral sex by adding more sensations than the usual in-and-out.
- Since many of them are waterproof, you can use them for shower sex. Or, if you’re a bit more adventurous, they can even be used in a private pool or hot tub.
- For people who want to be super-creative, you can use many couples’ sex toys for remote sex or over a long distance. These include remotely controlled devices and panty vibes.
There are so many different options to explore, and it’s so much fun to do with a partner. The only thing that can restrict you is your imagination.
Other Things You Should Consider When Using One
Shop Together
Because there are so many types of vibrators and sex toys, it is always a good idea to shop for them with your partner. When you both know what you like and what you want, it can make the selection a lot easier.
On top of that, the shopping experience can be enjoyable if you do it together. It can become a part of what makes your sex life a little spicier.
Hygiene And Safety
It’s also essential to practice good hygiene and safety. Most products are made from medical-grade silicone and are body-safe, but it’s always a good idea to make sure.
Do a background check on suppliers if you’re buying online. Check their reputation and reviews, and make sure their products will be safe to use.
Cleanliness is next to godliness. This is even more true in your sexual life. Always clean yourself and your sex toys before using them to avoid infections.
Don’t Forget The Lube
Remember, lube is something that can be very useful, too. It can reduce friction and make the whole experience much more pleasurable. The most effective choice is water-based lube since it won’t damage silicone toys.
Make Sure It’s Fully Charged
Lastly, make sure that your vibrator has a full charge to avoid sudden disappointment. Nobody wants a flat experience, especially not your partner. I also recommend to always have a spare set of batteries at hand if they are battery-operated.
Wrapping Up
Using a vibrator with one (or multiple) partners can be an intensely fun experience. There are many options to explore and many ways to make it exciting. The most important things to remember are consent, communication, and thinking about what you and your partner will like.
If you’ve been following this guide, you know the best way to use a vibrator with your partner. If you are creative and considerate, the sky is the limit when exploring vibrations together.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
How to first introduce them to my partner?
Start slow and work your way up. Talk to each other and figure out which toy each partner likes and doesn’t like. If you lack confidence, consider bringing your own toy, it always makes things more comfortable.
What positions are best for using a vibrator during penetrative sex?
The most accessible positions to start with are cowgirl and missionary. These allow for easy movement of both your body and the toy. You can try more creative poses when you’re more familiar with vibrators.
What type is recommended for couples?
There are many kinds that couples can use, but combo vibrators are probably the most fun during sex. These can fit on both the penis and vagina at the same time. This way, both partners can enjoy intense stimulation simultaneously.
Thanks for reading my guide on how to use a vibrator during sex!
Rachel
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