In this article, we’ll focus on using sex toys, emphasizing the different available models. Everything from wand vibrators to dildos and anal toys, you’ll undoubtedly leave with a few pointers on how to use them for maximum pleasure. We’ll also brush over other helpful tips to ensure you make the best of the experience. So, read on!
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1. Female Sex Toys
Bullet Vibrators
You probably started with a bullet vibrator, didn’t you? Their small, easy-to-use design makes them beginner-friendly and considerably more affordable than other sex toys, making them an excellent place to start.
- Best For: Bullet vibrators are intended for external clitoral stimulation. Their small size makes it easy to target a specific area to deliver precise stimulation. Frequent travelers can also enjoy the convenience of sliding the bullet into their bag and moving around easily.
- Not Good For: Bullets are unsuitable for penetration because of their small size.
- How to Use: Try different sex positions and angles for the best results. Don’t just use the tip – try circling your clit, holding the vibe horizontally, or pressing it down against your vagina opening or lower clit. If you’re busy, position it comfortably in your underwear and enjoy exciting yet effortless rumbles!
Note: Don’t use the bullet vibe for butt play. Its small and sleek design makes it very easy to get lost in your anus. Trust me. You don’t want to be in the ER explaining how it got inside your ass.
You can read more about how to use a vibrating bullet and how to use egg vibrators here.
Wand Vibrators
Wand vibrators might be intimidating, especially if you only have used a bullet vibe before. They’re larger, and the well-defined head and flexible neck are designed to take your external clitoral stimulation to the next level. Like every other pleasure toy on the market, there are tons to choose from, and the best wand vibrators have waterproof and USB-rechargeable capabilities.
- Best For: External clitoral stimulation. The large head, flexible neck, and convenient handle make it easy to massage the outer layer of your clitoris wholeheartedly.
- Not Good For: Couple Play. Unlike the bullet vibe, which you can easily hold during sex positions like the doggy style as your partner is pounding from behind, the wand is too bulky to use with intercourse.
- How to Use: If you prefer direct, intense rumbles, hold the wand over your clitoris and use a circle motion until you find the best position. If you have a sensitive clitoris, use it over your underwear for mellow yet pleasurable vibrations. Lastly, you can use wand vibrator attachments to enhance pleasure. Numerous silicone attachments like anal beads, G-spot massagers, and massage cups easily fit over the wand’s head.
Note: Ensure the wand attachment has medical-grade silicone.
More on how to use a vibrator wand here.
Clitoral Vibrators
Clitoral vibrators focus on your clitoris and inspire maximum pleasure. Instead of buzzing, they feature a mouth-like opening on one end to lock onto your clit and create a suction sensation. The resulting sensonic waves travel from the clitoris’ tip to the deepest nerve endings for a unique and satisfying experience. It simulates the feeling of oral sex, like someone is sucking your clit.
- Best For: Clitoral vibrators are ideal for people with difficulty orgasming or getting aroused from regular models. The intense nature of the suction and reverberating effect makes them great for top-tier adventure seekers.
- Not Good For: These devices are not great for partnered sex.
- How to Use: Ensure you splash a dash of water-based lube on your clit to enhance suction and avoid ‘dry sucking,’ which might be uncomfortable. Also, spread the labia well so the opening can have a good grip. Finally, move the clit vibe around your clitoris until you find the ‘best’ pressure spot.
More on how to use clit vibrators here.
Rabbit Vibrators
Rabbit vibrators provide unique blended stimulation by simultaneously massaging your clitoris and G-spot. While most people associate these vibes with solo players, they’re also a great addition to the bedroom routine for couples.
For example, during foreplay, you can bring your partner to orgasm by stimulating her clit with the rabbit ears and G-spot with the shaft. Once your partner orgasms before intercourse, it becomes easier to orgasm a second time.
- Best For: Blended orgasm. Rabbit vibrators combine external stimulation and G-spot massage impeccably.
- Not Good For: Penetrative couple sex. As you’d expect, the vibe is too bulky to use during penetrative partner sex.
- How to Use: Most rabbit products have two motors, allowing for independent vibration control. So, if you have such a vibe, try firing both motors for a start and then turning off either when you’re all fired up. Try alternating the rumbles between the ears and the shaft before using both when you’re about to climax. Some rabbit vibes also have a come-hither motion function, which simulates fingering.
I recommend our guide on how to use a vibrating rabbit for more information.
G-Spot Vibrators
G-spot vibrators feature a unique curved shaft and pointed head to massage the G-spot zone. The vibrating motor is usually placed directly in the tip for pinpoint stimulation.
They are usually made from flexible materials like silicone to allow easy meandering during use. This way, you can change the angles and entry positions until you hit the right spot.
- Best For: G-spot stimulation. These vibrators are designed to hit your G-spot with a curved shaft, sharp tip, and flexible body.
- Not Good For: Coupled penetrative sex. Once you initiate intercourse, there’s little left to do with the vibe.
- How to Use: Like sex, start teasing your labia and vulva. Circle around your clitoris before slathering your vaginal walls. Once you’re ready, gradually insert the G-spot vibrator so that it feels like you’re reaching for your belly button. Use sufficient water-based lube and try different angles until you hit your ‘right’ spot.
You can read more on how to use G-spot vibrators here.
Finger Vibrators
These devices have rubbery tethers and rings that attach to your fingers or hand, allowing for realistic come-hither action. Like bullet vibes, finger vibrators are all about external clit stimulation.
You can use the toy on your hips, inner thighs, nipples, backside, and other pleasure zones. The rubber-like material adds the much-needed grip in the heat of the moment, especially when you’re using lube.
- Best For: Coupled penetrative sex. You can easily use them during sex without the bulky aspect familiar with most adult toys. This way, you can easily pleasure yourself as your partner performs oral sex or sexual intercourse.
- Not Good For: Solo clitoral stimulations only. Don’t get me wrong; finger vibrators are great at clit massages. However, they’re best suited for couple play because of their improved grip, flexibility, and overall control.
- How to Use: There are two primary tips for using your finger vibrator. You can play with your clitoris during intercourse, especially in missionary or doggy-style positions. Both positions provide greater access to your clitoris without disrupting your partner’s rhythm. Likewise, you can slide the finger vibe in your vagina during sex, especially when you’re on top and in control, to add a series of rumbles to the thrusting.
Panty Vibrators
Most panty vibrators provide clitoral stimulation, but a few models have an insertable part that rests inside you. The pulsing panties feature a small pouch on the frontal side to hold the bullet vibe in position.
- Best For: Outdoor play and teasing. You can wear vibe panties when going for coffee or shopping and have your partner control the rumbles. They’re also great for partner teasing and sexting.
- Not Good For: Coupled penetrative sex. While you can have intercourse while wearing them, they feel bulky, and you won’t feel the vibrations with the panties shoved to the side.
- How to Use: Depending on the specific panty vibrator you have, you’ll either have a remote control or a mobile app to regulate the rumbles. So, give your partner the remote control and let them control your pleasure. If you’re in a long-distance relationship, guide your partner through downloading and connecting the vibe to the app. This way, your partner can control the vibrations as you enjoy being hands-free.
You can read more about using vibrators here.
Dildos
The guide wouldn’t have been complete without talking about dildos. These phallic sex toys offer improved control because you can easily control the intensity of the experience by hand.
While dildos don’t vibrate, the extended shape and straightforward design make them effective. You can also purchase a realistic-looking dildo with veins, wrinkled balls, and a well-defined head if you enjoy using a penis-looking dildo. Some are even made of glass or metal.
- Best For: Solo Masturbation and vaginal stimulation. In addition, couples can also use a dildo for pegging.
- Not Good For: Couple sex. Dildos are too bulky to use during sex.
- How to Use: Pour a generous amount of lube over the dildo and on your vagina’s entrance. Play with the vulva in a teasing motion before sliding the shaft inside yourself. You can try different penetration angles to spice up the experience and find the right spot. If yours has a suction cup base, attach it to any smooth, hard surface for hands-free play. Everything from the bathroom walls to the floor, or furniture, the world is your playground.
You can read more details about using a dildo in this guide.
Thrusting Dildos
Also known as pulsators, thrusting dildos retract and expand back and forth with the press of a button. Unlike regular dildos, you don’t need much to have a good time – just hold onto the dildo at your preferred angle and let the mechanism do the job. The latest models are USB-rechargeable, and you don’t have to worry about buying batteries.
- Best For: Hands-free vaginal stimulation. People with limited motor skills can also enjoy the thrill without using much effort with their hands.
- Not Good For: Couple sex. There’s too much going on to include a thrusting dildo during intercourse.
- How to Use: Gently rub the dildo against your labia and vulva to get yourself up to the task. Also, start slow before cranking it to top speeds. Add a dash of lube as well, and enjoy effortless orgasms with this incredible invention.
You can read more about how to use thrusting dildos in this guide.
2. Male Sex Toys
Cock Rings
You use cock rings to make an erection harder and last longer by limiting blood flow. Some penis rings come with a motor that transfers vibrations to your partner’s clit during intercourse. Most have flexible silicone materials, so you can easily stretch them over an erect penis.
- Best For: Partnered penetrative sex. The cock ring makes erections harder and longer for more satisfying sex. Vibrating models also stimulate your partner’s clit during sex.
- Not Good For: Standalone clitoral stimulation. There are a million and one adult toys that’ll do a better job vibrating your clit than a penis ring.
- How to Use: With the penis already erect, slide the cock rings to the base of the shaft. You can also try stretching so it can accommodate the balls as well. If it has vibrating capabilities, favor a girl-on-top sex position so you can reap the benefits of clitoral stimulation.
Masturbation Sleeves
Masturbation sleeves wrap your penis warmly with different internal textures. They’re a massive upgrade from the masturbation-by-hand technique as they create a uniquely warm and wet feel. Masturbation sleeves also have a subtle and discreet design to enhance your privacy.
- Best For: Hand job and blow job aids.
- Not Good For: Partnered penetrative sex and clitoral stimulation. The sleeve is too bulky to be used during sex, and your clit won’t get any attention.
- How to Use: Slide the sleeve over your shaft and move it back and forth in a sustained rhythm. Move it to the base and use your mouth or hand to stimulate the head for an even better experience. Remember to add a dash of lube to make the experience more realistic.
Prostate Massagers
These anal toys massage your prostate for a truly unique experience. The pointed tip simplifies insertion while the shaft is slightly curved to enhance p-spot stimulation. They also have a flared base for simplified handling and prevent the sex toy from fully submerging into your anus. In addition, the latest models come with a remote control so you can easily regulate the rumbles without removing the massager.
- Best For: Solo prostate massage. You can also use the prostate massager for anal training as you build up to larger anal dildos.
- Not Good For: Penetrative anal sex. You either have one or the other – never both.
- How to Use: If you’re new to anal play, start sliding a finger or two to make way for the prostate massager. Also, go for small adult toys and work your way to the top. Most importantly, use lots of lube to complement your anus’ inability to self-lubricate. Insert the massager from different angled with the tip facing the base of your penis until you hit your P-spot.
You can read this guide for more information on how to use prostate massagers.
Cock Sleeves
Cock sleeves increase your penis’ girth and length for more satisfying sex. In addition, men with erectile dysfunction can wear the penis sleeve to engage in penetration. On the other hand, those suffering from premature ejaculation can lessen the sensations of intercourse with the extra layer of ‘cover,’ allowing them to last longer.
- Best For: People with smaller penises or sexual performance issues like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.
- Not Good For: Standalone penetrative or clitoral stimulation. While the sleeves increase the girth and length of your penis, you can’t feel the effect without a ‘supporting penis.’
- How to Use: Wear the sleeve when your penis is half erect and let it be fully erect while inside. Sprinkle water-based lube on the penis, the inside, and the outside of the sleeve. If you have erectile dysfunction, buy a sleeve with a ball loop around the testicles.
Note: Before buying the cock sleeve from a local store, measure your erect penis and compare it to the dimensions. Make sure it doesn’t feel loose or tight while inside.
You can read more on how to use penis sleeves in this comprehensive guide.
3. Anal Sex Toys
Butt Plugs
Like every other sex toy, butt plugs are available in different sizes and materials to meet your anal stimulation needs. I recommend smaller sizes for beginners and larger ones for experienced anal players.
Many butt plugs are also weighted to enhance realism, and you can choose between a non-vibrating and a vibrating butt plug. Most importantly, make sure you go for a plug with a flared base for easy handling and to prevent it from getting sucked inside your anus.
- Best For: Anal training. Butt plugs are the gateway to anal play. You can also wear one during vaginal penetration for a dual-filling experience.
- Not Good For: Penetrative anal sex. You can’t use a butt plug during partnered anal sex.
- How to Use: As stressed, get a small-sized butt plug if you’re new to anal play and slowly work your way up the ladder. Use lots of lube and always try it yourself before using it with your partner. You can also experiment with clitoral or G-spot stimulation while you have the butt plug inserted.
Anal Beads
As the name suggests, anal beads are tiny balls attached to a silicone string or slim shaft. Some feature same-sized beads, while others graduate in size, with the smallest at the tip and the largest at the end. Popping the beads in and out one at a time or pulling them together heightens the pleasure.
- Best For: Blended vaginal penetrative sex. Solo players can also enjoy clitoral and vaginal masturbation with the beads in.
- Not Good For: Penetrative anal sex.
- How to Use: Once you’ve lubed the beads and yourself well, take your time to pop one bead at a time. Take as many beads as you’re comfortable with, and enjoy the thrill of inserting and removing them. When satisfied, try removing the whole string during the climax and enjoy the excitement.
For more information on how to insert anal beads, please check out that guide.
We also have a more extensive guide on how to use anal sex toys.
4. Couples Sex Toys
Strap-Ons
Strap-ons are the perfect couple/same-sex toys, and they come as either strapped or strapless models. For the strapped, they feature a harness that holds your toy, mainly a dildo, in position. The harnesses typically come with different O-rings so that you can use different sizes of dildos.
The strapless strap-ons have an elongated tip beyond the dildo’s shaft that sticks into your vagina for hands-free control. Unlike the former, you don’t need a harness as you slide the strap-on into your vagina.
- Best For: Pegging and vaginal penetration.
- Not Good For: Coupled penetrative sex.
- How to Use: Slide the strap-on into your vagina if you’re using a strapless model and ensure it feels comfortable. Make sure to sprinkle water-based lube to enhance your comfort. For strapped strap-ons, position the dildo using the O-ring and make sure the harness feels comfortable.
Couples Vibrators
Couple vibrators are worn during intercourse to complement the experience. Their slim and flexible design makes it easy to carry on with sex while enjoying the extra bells and whistles of internal and external vibrations. Most couples’ sex toys also come with a remote control or dedicated mobile app to simplify controls and allow public play.
- Best For: Partnered penetrative sex. These high-tech sexcessories allow you to remain connected and close to your partner while enjoying mellow rumbles together. You can also use some for public play and remotely in long-distance relationships.
- Not Good For: While you can use them for solo play, the toys are primarily designed to complement partnered sex.
- How to Use: Wear the device appropriately before intercourse to get the most out of the experience. Make sure it’s well-positioned to enjoy the vibrations.
You can read more on how to use couple vibrators in this guide.
Double-Ended Dildos
Double-ended dildos might be intimidating at first, but there’s more to them than meets the eye. They come in different sizes, materials, and shapes to meet your specific needs, and you can use one yourself during masturbation or with a partner during foreplay.
- Best For: Solo and coupled masturbation.
- Not Good For: Partnered vaginal or anal penetration.
- How to Use: If you’re playing solo, lie on your back, lube up, and slowly guide one end to your vagina and the other to your anus for a double penetration experience. Add a pillow under your hips to the proper elevation and spread your legs apart. For partnered play, sit facing each other with your legs intertwined and slowly insert the double-ended dildo between you. Thrust back and forth in a coordinated rhythm to enjoy the experience.
Other PRO TIPS:
- Ensure Consent before shopping online for sex toys. Talk to your partner before bringing a sex toy into the bedroom. Explain why you think it’s the right thing to do and the benefits it’ll have on your sex life. Please don’t be pushy; give your partner time to think about it. Consent is a must!
- I recommend body-safe, non-porous materials and ensuring you clean your toy after use.
- Set the mood.
- Use plenty of lube.
- Read the sex toy’s instructions manual.
- Use them all over the body. You can use sex toys like bullet vibes and wand vibrators on other areas of your body. So, make the most of the experience by using sex toys on erogenous zones like inner thighs, nipples, and hips.
- Try edging. Edging involves starving yourself of orgasms while maintaining a high level of arousal. It intensifies sexual activity by building up excitement before letting go. Edging also enhances longevity by training yourself to withstand arousal so you can last longer in bed.
- Sensory play. To further spice up your sex lives, try sensory play, including using blindfolds, nipple clamps, and temperature play. Blindfolding, for instance, induces anticipation during coupled sex, while temperature play adds a new dimension of kink to the experience.
- Mutual masturbation. Mutual masturbation is a great way to show your partner what you like while breaking away from the routine. It also makes you more comfortable discussing sex as a couple, thus strengthening the connection.
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